People''s Reaction to My Small Diamond Enagement Ring

[junebridetobe]

I just got recently engaged. My fiance bought me a platinum diamond ring with a .31 carat D VVS2 diamond. I absolutely love the diamond ring to death and wouldn't trade it for the world. It's a beautiful diamond and sparkles like crazy.

I've been getting alot of comments like, "Oh that's such a "cute" ring" or "Your gonna upgrade,right?"

What made me more furious is that my fiance's aunt said, "Oh I had a small diamond and I still wear it all the time."

Another incident is where one of our friend's girlfriend flashed her huge 1 ct diamond ring, diamond earrings, and necklace in my face when I first saw her after we had gotten engaged. I felt she wanted me to feel bad.

All of these comments make me feel like my ring is not good enough for these people. I love my fiance and know that he worked very hard to get this ring. How can people be so rude?

 

[AllThatSparkles]

Those ignorant b*astards!!! hehe..

These people sound like they just want to put you down to feel better about themselves. If you love your ring, that is all that really matters and it sounds like you are very happy with your man, something some other people might not be (and have to make those rude comments to you). Your stone must be a real sparkler with those specs...can you post any pics?

 

[Jennifer5973]

First of all, congratulations on your engagement.... Your ring sounds gorgeous and it's obvious your fiance went through a lot of trouble--that is a very high-quality stone, and not the quality typically seen in stores either. More importantly, you and your fiance sound like you love and appreciate each other, which is far more important than any diamond.

I am very saddened to hear about your friends & family's reactions. It's their problem, not yours. Everyone should be happy and excited for you, not judging your ring. Oh, BTW, the average eRing size in the US is .25 ct...Just heard it on TV in some Valentine's Day show.

We live in a superficial, appearance-obsessed society, and it's a shame. I love dimaonds and yeah, big ones are really cool, but I know nothing I have would mean anyting if I didn't have the man who gave it to me and the love and commitment we share.

My 10 yr anniversary is in 2.5 years and my dream is a new diamond...my original diamond, while very sentimental, is not my "dream ring" and for 10 yrs, I'd like a fancy shape ring, maybe a princess. Anyway, we just lost a friend in a very tragic car accident, 33 yrs old, 2 kids and one on the way.... I thought just the other day about how I can take nothing for granted...What if something happens to my husband and he isn't here for our 10 yr...? I tell you one thing, I could care less about the stupid diamond...it's the fact that it is for my 10 yrs with this awesome man that excites me.... Whether diamonds are a symbol of your love with someone else, or a symbol of your success--many women treat themselves to jewelry once they reach a professional or personal achievement...it's no one's business but your own and anyone who behaves as you've described is an ass****.

I say %$#@! all of them.

be happy, enjoy your gorgeous ring...Post pics here in a NEW thread that has a title like 'My new super-sparkly eRing' and be happy that in this world of lonely miserable people, you've found a wonderful partner to share your life with.

PS sorry for long post--your story really ticked me off!

 

[valeria101]

This is ridiculous! Maybe you could just answer each of those, something along the line of: "Oh dear! did you ever see a D-IF up close? come here! You know, it takes a basketfull of large diamonds to find just one small piece THIS PERFECT!"

I would have never imagined that wearing jewelry could be such an uphill battle... Shouldn't it be fun?

 

[Shappy]

Dear June Bride
You will find throughout your marriage people will say and do rude things, most often because they are jealous. My engagement ring cost $75 (30 yrs ago) and I was so thrilled because it symbolized I was going to get to marry my true love. People today are more materialistic because everybody's living on credit. Large diamonds really don't mean anything anyway, it's your relationships with others that will bring you happiness.
My "perfect diamonds" given to me in my marriage are my four beautiful children.
Congrats on your engagement and enjoy this wonderful time in your life.

 

[Pearl]

June Bride,

CONGRADULATIONS ON YOUR ENGAGEMENT!!!!!

Your engagement ring sounds absolutely wonderful. Don't worry about what other people think. This ring symbolizes your finance's hard work and love. I am sure that diamond sparkles like crazy!!! Please post a picture. I would love to see it.

 

[pqcollectibles]

Hi JB!

And Welcome to Price Scope!!

Congrats on your Engagement and Best Wishes in your upcoming Marriage!!

Val had a good response for you! And don't worry about what others think. What's right for them isn't always right for you and visa versa.

Your ring sounds lovely!! We hope you'll post pics for us. We all love eye candy here!!

 

[luvmysparklies]

People are so rude and ignorant! I bet that that girl who was flashing all her jewelry doesn't have one third the quality in all of her jewelry that you have in your one stone. And .32 is not microscopic! Enjoy your beautiful ring and your life together. And BTW, your ring doesn't have to be "good enough for these people" or us on PS for that matter. It is perfect for you and that's all that really counts. We just happen to be a group that really appreciates quality and you are welcome to show off to us!

Congratulations again!
Luv

 

[sluke]

JuneBrideToBe,

Your diamond sounds beautiful! You don't see too many D color diamonds out there, they're the best! Quality over quantity. Others are probably jealous.

Congratulations!

 

[Bagpuss]

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On 2/16/2004 11:57:02 AM valeria101 wrote:


This is ridiculous! Maybe you could just answer each of those, something along the line of: 'Oh dear! did you ever see a D-IF up close? come here! You know, it takes a basketfull of large diamonds to find just one small piece THIS PERFECT!'

I would have never imagined that wearing jewelry could be such an uphill battle... Shouldn't it be fun?
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Everything she said - I second and third and fourth..........

Congratulations on your engagement to someone who sounds like a lovely rare man who got you a lovely rare diamond. Love them both and forget the rest.

 

[rodentman]

Looie says tell the wise guys who criticize your diamond to stick their collective thumb in their collective ear and go bowling.




My wife would love to have a diamond that splendid, and I'd be proud for her to have it.

 

[glitterata]

Your ring sound beautiful! I want to see a picture!

I think everyone said what they did because they have no idea how rare a diamond you're wearing. You can either inform them, or smile knowingly to yourself and let it go.

 

[Mara]

I think people tend to sometimes react to something without thinking...I know I can do it often without even noticing.

My fiance tells me later 'you shouldn't have said that' and I think 'what did I say?!'.




All that matters is you love your stone! That's the important part. Plus I think it's not necessarily unheard of to get a small stone when you get engaged, esp if you have other priorities as many people do. Two of my coworkers have very small stones, something like .15c and they still wear them....along with a bunch of anniversary diamonds and the like. It's interesting to see their smaller stones that they wear years later, esp as the others noted..in a very materialistic and selfish society that we have now....I sometimes wonder what it was like in the 'old days'.




Anyway, I venture to say that maybe people don't realize what they are saying or doing, and/or maybe one person's original bad reaction has made you more sensitive to the others who may come along afterwards and speak before they think.




Lastly....I just had to laugh when you said that your friend flashed her 'huge 1c ring' in your face....I consider 1c to be small!! But hey! Differences are what makes everything fun! There is ALWAYS going to be someone who has bigger, better etc. You just smile and know that you are happy with your choice.

Congrats...would love to see pictures of your ring!

 

[winyan]

It sounds like a perfect stone...just like your love.

That's all that counts, not other people's opinions.

*hgus*

win

 

[doxiemom]

I know exactly how you feel!!! My husband bought me a .33 ct rb with a small sapphire baguette on each side, we got engaged 4 years ago and the first thing out of my FBIL's mouth was it is soooo small!

Not congrats....nothing!!!!!! Well 4 years later DH and I are happily married going on three years and he is still single, doesn't even have a girlfriend. Hmmmmm.........(he is older BTW) and I'm sure when he buys his FW a ring (if it ever happens

) it will be a honker, and if he makes me feel bad again I know exactly where to tell him to shove it!

 

[doxiemom]

I almost forgot! Congratulations on your engagement!!! You have a great attitude and I wish you and your future husband many years of happiness.

 

[pinkangel]

Your diamond sounds beautiful. People who say things like that have problems! They need to tear other people down to try to bring themselves up. Don't listen to a word they say!

Congratulations on your engagement!

 

[Obsessed]

Sorry to hear such a terrible story. Honestly, them as*wipes must deal with their insecurities before uttering another word. From my experience, anyone who tries to burst your bubbles are unhappy with their love lives when it comes to the things that really matter. I think your ring sounds lovely. I'd like to see pics. I agree 100% with your fiancee's implied taste and value... quality over quantity. I made the same choice a week ago and am completely happy with it. Obviously your fiancee sees your relationship as the most beautiful seed of love. You know... not the biggest damn thing, but jam packed with life! I bet your diamond(of exceptional QUALITY) shines like nothing else in your heart and in your eyes. That is all that matters.

Congratulations on your engagement!

 

[Patty]

Congrats on your engagement!

Your new ring sounds beautiful. A D color and VVS clarity? WOW! Wear it proudly and ignore people who are rude. Their comments say a LOT more about them than they do about the size of your stone.

 

[mike04456]

Just my thoughts to add to the rest:




Anyone who would criticize a newly engaged woman's e-ring to her face is an insufferable boor. A woman who waves her diamonds in other people's faces isn't much better.




The world is full of rude people. You just have to deal with this the same way you deal with people who cut you off in traffic.




This is one of those "virtue is its own reward" situation. You love your ring and that's the only thing that matters.

 

[Nicrez]

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!




JuneBrideToBe I have to be nothing but impressed that you have a guy willing to sacrifice size and all that socially accepted junk to get you a QUALITY stone. I have an eye for color, and I would LOVE a D!!! A VVS2 is so clean and wonderful, it just shows that He gave you a colorless, clear beautiful diamond and he didn't have to spend the money, but he did so as a token, and for your pleasure.




What a wonderful guy and you are just as great to appreciate the hard work and effort he put in to find you a wonderful stone! May your marraige be as beautiful as your lovely diamond, and PLEASE post pictures!!!

 

[Bagpuss]

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On 2/16/2004 7:44:47 PM Mara wrote:


I think it's not necessarily unheard of to get a small stone when you get engaged, esp if you have other priorities as many people do. Two of my coworkers have very small stones, something like .15c and they still wear them....along with a bunch of anniversary diamonds and the like. It's interesting to see their smaller stones that they wear years later, esp as the others noted..in a very materialistic and selfish society that we have now....I sometimes wonder what it was like in the 'old days'. ----------------

I've been married 27 years, so I actually did get engaged in the 'old days', and my original e-ring had a tiny, totally unclassified diamond in it. No-one ever belittled it as everyone else had rings very simlar in size and I've worn it proudly for 27 years. Recently my dear, dear husband bought me a much bigger certificated solitaire diamond ring, but I don't really think of my new ring as an e-ring upgrade. It's a much loved ring that I sometimes wear on my left hand, but I still have my e-ring which I do wear and it will always be my e-ring. Nothing will really ever replace it in my mind, no matter how big nor how perfect a diamond I receive in the future.

 

[sumi]

The only thing that matters is that you love your ring. Bigger is not always better. QUALITY over quantity. Wear your beautiful ring with pride.

 

[tessa]

You know...
there is quantity..... and then there is QUALITY!!!

Those people haven't learned good maners and that, here as well as in many other areas

Size doesn't mattter.

Your stone sounds wonderful I wish I had a D color.
(Instead I have a D cup, but I'd rather have the D color!!!!)

Congrats and ingnore the ignorant!
You are a lucky lady with a ring and a finace you love.

 

[pulp_princess]

That's mean! Mine's a 0.32 and no one has ever said anything like that to me before. Perhaps to those people an engagement ring is just a status symbol, but I'm glad that it represents so much more to you. People have been quite right here, don't let them hurt your feelings. Look down at your immaculate D VVS2 and think about how much your fiance loves you! (And to all those people that think your ring isn't good enough: "tthhhhppppptttt!!!!!"!)

 

[Bagpuss]

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On 2/18/2004 12:23:33 PM tessa wrote:


Size doesn't mattter.

Your stone sounds wonderful I wish I had a D color.
(Instead I have a D cup, but I'd rather have the D color!!!!)


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I have a double D cup, does that mean that I get a double D diamond?

 

[jms]

Your fiance went a bit overboard on the color DEF are all considered colorless, but G and H are undetectable to the naked eye as far as color goes. Your fiance paid a huge premium for that D rated diamond. I am sure it is lovely, but I am just giving you some info to use later. Congrats.

 

[Patty]

tessa and Bagpuss, I'm surprised the guys haven't asked for pictures of your "Ds" yet.

 

[Nicrez]

JMS, I have to disagree with you, because I am so particular to color, I couldn't do with a G for anything. Then again I had a shaped stone, so I could tell the color much better than in a round stone.




Let's all agree that a diamond is symbolic. It is NOT:




1. A way to prove your wealth to others


2. A "good investment", because resale on a stone is 60% of wholeslae (AT BEST)


3. A way to make someone say yes and spend their lives with you out of sheer impression


4. A way to show "how much " you love someone




Just as love can't be quite defined, neither can a person's way of showing it. If your man showed you the symbolic perfection of color in your stone as how perfect your relationship could be, then GO HIM! Obviously he's not size-centric, and would rather quality. Me, I would rather quality than vanity...After all, why spend all that money on ONE diamond, when you get get a whole bunch!!!

And you guys with the D's...in your rings or your bras...GOD BLESS YOU GUYS!

 

[Mara]

I agree a diamond is symbolic.




Smybolic of my desire to have a big sparkly rock on my finger!!