PS Mommies Thread!

[jas]

All these pictures and updates are glorious! I only have a moment to say HI and hope that I can get a little more regular on here again...the boys are still not quite on the same schedule nap-wise, and they are still getting up once or twice at night. Jackson still likes to party at 4:30 am, do the delight of his mama.

I hope everyone is able to enjoy their babies for a few moments every day this holiday season!

Here''s Jackson investigating his own feeties:

 

[jas]

And my boys continuing to plot their world domination. (And for those of you worried, DH and I were right there out of frame holding on...and we put the bumbos on the floor IMMEDIATELY after taking these. Thank you.

)

 

[vespergirl]

Date: 12/23/2008 2:33:02 PM
Author: jas
And my boys continuing to plot their world domination. (And for those of you worried, DH and I were right there out of frame holding on...and we put the bumbos on the floor IMMEDIATELY after taking these. Thank you.

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So cute I can''t stand it!

 

[jas]

Date: 12/23/2008 2:35:40 PM
Author: vespergirl

Date: 12/23/2008 2:33:02 PM
Author: jas
And my boys continuing to plot their world domination. (And for those of you worried, DH and I were right there out of frame holding on...and we put the bumbos on the floor IMMEDIATELY after taking these. Thank you.

)

So cute I can''t stand it!

Thank you, vespergirl. I think so, too, but it''s not as cool if I say it.

 

[Skippy123]

Date: 12/23/2008 2:41:08 PM
Author: jas

Date: 12/23/2008 2:35:40 PM
Author: vespergirl

Date: 12/23/2008 2:33:02 PM
Author: jas
And my boys continuing to plot their world domination. (And for those of you worried, DH and I were right there out of frame holding on...and we put the bumbos on the floor IMMEDIATELY after taking these. Thank you.

)

So cute I can''t stand it!

Thank you, vespergirl. I think so, too, but it''s not as cool if I say it.

Jackie, give them extra kisses for me; they are too cute for words!!!

 

[snlee]

Date: 12/23/2008 1:35:39 PM
Author: Kaleigh

Date: 12/23/2008 1:28:27 PM

Author: Skippy123

Date: 12/23/2008 1:11:10 PM

Author: Linda W

Good Grief Tacori. I am so sorry you are going through this with your MIL. You have to stand your ground, put your foot down and make her understand what you say IS THE WORD!!!!! Especially being they are moving where you are, you don''t want a constant battle with her, so she has to learn and NOW.

I hope your DH also puts his foot down with her.

Linda

I agree, good grief. You hubby should say ''what Tacori says goes and is not to be disrespected,period'', geez, that is awful!

Absolutely. Stand your ground be firm!!!!!

I agree. I''m sorry you have to go through that.

 

[snlee]

Date: 12/23/2008 2:33:02 PM
Author: jas
And my boys continuing to plot their world domination. (And for those of you worried, DH and I were right there out of frame holding on...and we put the bumbos on the floor IMMEDIATELY after taking these. Thank you.

)

jackie, that's one of the cutest twin pictures I've ever seen! They are adorable! Their facial expressions are too funny!

 

[Jas12]

Tacori--urgg, your MIL needs a good talking to . Once the juice thing gets cleared up she''ll surely move onto something else--the woman wants to control something, anything. I agree, hold your ground and get DH on your side. Keep us posted

Jackie--wow look at the boys in their bumbos, looking so big. I really see a difference in their appearance now-they have more distinct (and might i add, very handsome) looks. Hope your holidays are going well!

 

[sasa]

Hi Mommies, sorry I''ve been MIA. My world is hectic right now, my co-worker was just diagnose with breast cancer so she will be out for surgery and radiation therapy.(Please send some PS dust for my co-worker)she is only 39 years old.

So just me alone in the office during the busiest time for us. Plus we''re house hunting because we''re currently renting from my sister and she is set to move back so we are schedule to be out by Feb.

So with only 5 broken hours of sleep each day(little B still wakes up at least once each night) I don''t have time to catch up...but just want to wish everyone here a Merry Christmas!

Here is my little guy in his full Santa suit

 

[iluvcarats]

Date: 12/23/2008 12:16:06 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring
SUCH cute pictures!!!!


Okay, I have to vent a moment. This morning when MIL was feeding T I noticed she got a sippy of OJ out of the fridge and sheepishly looked at me. (Keep in kind she brought up giving her juices FIVE times already...yes, I was keeping count). I said ''No! That is not okay.'' She said ''oh well. I just don''t understand. Babies NEED juice but she didn''t like it when I gave her some yesterday anyways''

WHAT! I am not sure how many times I have explained to her that babies do NOT need just juice and furthermore her son and I do NOT want to give her juice. So uncool. I told DH (the sippy was still on the counter) so I told him to pretend like he just saw it. Not sure how the conversation went yet but I HAD to get this out of my system. It makes me so angry and she goes against our parenting wishes. Yes, she did a great job on her two children but Tessa is MY kid. MINE!!! Argggg!!!!! 6 more days!


iluv, I am at my ILS. My parents now live in WI.

Tacori, I am sorry you are having a rotten time!
The first things that spring to my mind are TRUST and BOUNDARIES. If she can''t honor and respect them, I would tell her that this will change the nature of her relationship with you and her grandchild. ( I wouldn''t feel comfortable leaving my kids with someone I didn''t trust, and I am sure you don''t either.) This is such classic passive-aggressive behavior.
I am sorry she is putting you in this position because no matter what you do, you will be the bad guy. But you are the Mom, and you make the rules regarding Tessa, and people who do not follow them should have limited access to her, especially if you feel they are treating her in a way you find unhealthy. Hang in there Sweet Tacori!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I love you mamas! I feel better just venting. We went to the mall and Tessa is in the stage where she is NOT good. She just fusses, cries, whines. She HATES her stroller. My friend said it is common around 13 months since she can walk and wants to explore and be independent. So I am hoping this is the case and she will grow out of it b/c it is not fun! Anyways, after lunch I mentioned that I have had to bribe her with part of a cookie before when I have gone shopping. MIL replies "I thought you said no sugar and no juice since it is all sugar and you give her a cookie?" I IGNORED it (which is pretty much my MO) and she knew I was pissed. She said "I was just kidding" I explained that we don''t want juice and she said she knew and DH spoke to her and she PROMISES not to give her any

I said well you knew this for months and you still GAVE it to her. She backtracked of course and promised she never will again. Who knows. I complained to DH (who NEVER gets it. I mean his mother is a saint didn''t you know). I guess it bothered him enough to tell SIL the situation who said "wow those are pretty passive aggressive comments"

At least SHE gets it. *sigh* I do not know why this is a battle and an issue she choses to fight. Is it control? Is it she truly believes in the benefit of juice? What is the deal? So we are up to 7 comments and I swear the next one I am going to be very direct and ask her "why are you making this an issue?" I am sure she will say she isn''t, she didn''t know, didn''t understand, blah blah. She really is NOT a bad MIL and stuff like this puts me in such a FOUL mood! I am seriously just steaming. DH did speak to her before the mall and she promised to respect us but I know he handled it with kid gloves and CLEARLY she needs a firmer hand. Sorry for my self-centered posts. I hope you all are having a great holiday week!

Lor, Linda, Skippy, Lisa, Jas (adorable boys...do they like older women?), Snlee, Jas12 and iluv...thanks SO much for your support. Sometimes DH makes me feel like I am being overly sensitive so it is always nice to heat I am NOT!

 

[Lorelei]

I don't believe it is about the benefits of juice Tac, it is a control issue, she is trying to take control where she has no right - over your child, and like Jas says unless you put her in her place, she will have a new obsession once the juice thing is over with. And after what you told us about her sneaking her neighbours kids stuff then told them ' not to tell their Mommy', you are dealing with someone who really needs to be put firmly in her place. ILC is right also, if she won't behave then she doesn't deserve to be able to help to care for T! Also that time she was making those comments when T was in the bath, that she said " I bet no one bathes you as well as I do!" or words to that effect so you could hear, I think she is trying to engage in a power struggle...If MIL doesn't know how to behave or how she should behave with your child, then you have every right to make it crystal clear!

I am so sorry, my blood BOILS for you!! A friend of mine has a similar tale when her daughter was a baby, dear Granny used to sneak the baby " a nice cup of tea with a bit of sugar in it..." in the bottle....

My friend was hopping mad as she was trying to bring her daughter up without sugar and sweets, juice etc. However the baby is now grown up and as I believe a result of her Mother's care in limiting these things, is healthy and trim with a daughter of her own and would rather eat fruit and raw veggies than candy etc.

Stick to your guns!!!

 

[TravelingGal]

Such cute new pics...thanks so much for posting them, as I log on everyday to check out the new photos of our PS darlings! They are always so good for a delighted giggle. Hee hee!

Tacori, I''ll jump on the bandwagon too. I agree this is a control, power thing. Some mothers hate that their sons go off and get married to women who might have some "power" over their son. So they battle for it. Ridiculous.

The ones who are truly just happy for their kids seem to be the ones who are much more understanding that they have GRANDCHILDREN, which means they are someone ELSE''S children.

Ugh, I am just SO annoyed for you! I would have gotten on a boat and rowed myself out of Oz if I had to deal with three weeks of that here!

 

[mia1181]

Tacori I''m just a lurker here (have to check out all the cute babies!). But I have to say THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH JUICE! It is most definitely a control issue. She is being competitive with you and every single decision you make as a parent (that is not the one she made) will be taken as a direct insult to her parenting. Like Tgal said, she senses you might have more control over her son (and therefor grandaughter) than she does so she is trying to reassert herself. My MIL is the same way, we don''t have children yet but I''ve seen it time and time again with DH''s SIL and her children. It is a constant undermining of authority and it started with putting a blanket on the babies (after their mother explained about SIDS risk) and now that the children are older it has become sneaking sweets behind their parents'' back after they said no. Unfortunately it''s not likely to get much better unless you or DH says something to her. You may have to tell her that until she can show you that she will abide by your rules she won''t be left alone with darling T. I know it will be hard to do, especially since they are moving closer, but hopefully she will get the message.

Another thing that just popped into my head is if you can think of something special that can be her "thing" with sweetie-pie T. Find something you do approve of (I would avoid food items although a healthy snack could be used) and praise her for doing it with T. Say "Oh T just loooooves it when you do that with her," "It''s her special grandma thing," "She only gets to do that with grandma!" Make a huge fuss out of it and let it be her thing. This way she is assured her place in T''s life but in a way you approve. The tricky part is finding what that thing might be because you obviously can''t tell her what to do you just have to catch her in the act.

 

[lover in athens]

hi!!! long time no "talk!" i have been following the thread diligently, but just haven''t found the time to post lately! i LOOOOVE seeing all the gorgeous photos. i can''t believe how big everyone''s kiddos are getting...and the holiday shots just totally crack me up.

i''m feeding coby as i write so i don''t have time to completely catch up, but wanted to sympathize with you tacori. your MIL would make me SOOOOO mad. it sounds like you are dealing with it really well...thank goodness your dh is at least semi-on-board... yesterday i had coby at the pool with my MIL and she was holding him and says to him, "oooh, i wish your mommy would bring a blanket along because you are just so cold." as if i wasn''t sitting right next to them (not to mention it was 70 degrees out and he had on a long-sleeve onesie, overalls, AND a thick sweater). in any case, i pointed out the blanket that i HAD brought along and invited her to use it if she thought necessary. definitely NOT equal to what you''re going through, but it was very irritating none-the-less. although i do have to say that she is GENERALLY very good at keeping out of stuff!!

anything, things are well with me...coby is doing GREAT. he''s 2 months old today...so hard for me to believe! where is the time going? he is a really good baby...already sleeping 6 hours/night and really only crying when he''s hungry. the breastfeeding is definitely getting better too (although still slightly painful at times). we had our 2 mo appt today and he weighs 9lb 7oz!!! up from 5lb 5oz 8 weeks ago. it was hard to watch all those shots! and i definitely don''t think he feels very well after them. do any of you remember your babies having upset tummies after getting the oral rotavirus vaccine???

ok, will definitely try to catch up SOOOOON!!! thank for letting me stop by.
here are some 2 month pics of my little guy....

 

[DivaDiamond007]

LIA - Awwww, such a little cutie pie!

Tacori - I agree with the others - stick to your guns with your MIL. Tessa is YOUR child not hers.

Snlee - James is teething too so I feel your pain. He does not want to go down for naps or go down for bed at night. He''s unusually fussy and drools like you would not believe. If you hold him so he''s facing you he''ll even chew on your shoulder. Poor little guy. My pedi reccommended Tylenol but James doesn''t like it and usually spits it back up so I''m not sure it''s helping him.

Such cute little ones on here - I love all of the new pictures. I can''t belive how fast our babies are growing up.

I need my super-hubby to resize a bunch of James - we''re finally back online on our own computer!

I should have some up this weekend - we''ll be busy this week due to Christmas and the whole bunch of family members we have in town.

 

[neatfreak]

Hey all! Just wanted to jump in here and say a huge thank you to everyone who came over to the preggo thread to wish us well! The boys and I are home finally, we stayed an extra night because both boys had lost just about 10% of their weight since birth, so I wanted to wait an extra night to make sure they were back to gaining again after a day of supplementing and then having my milk finally come in. Luckily they both were back on the upswing again, so we got to come home today.

Things are going well so far (knock on wood!) and I just wanted to say thank you for all the c-section tips, they were beyond helpful. My experience overall was really great, but all your tips about gas pain, anti-nausea meds, etc. were REALLY helpful. I'm pretty up and about already, so I think my recovery will go pretty well. And TGal I would have made you proud, I stole as many of those mesh undies as possible.

Anyway I will leave you with the picture of the day. This is their "no paparazzi please" shot. Max is on the left, Dexter on the right.

 

[DivaDiamond007]

Awwwww Neat, I just want to hug and kiss those little guys. Enjoy your first Christmas with them!

 

[Linda W]

Aw my gosh Neat, I didn''t know you had your baby boys!!!! OMG are they too cute or what!!!! Bless their little baby hearts

. They are adorable!!!! OH I want to kiss those little foreheads of theirs.

. Please do it for me ok???

Congratulations !!!!!!!


Linda

 

[TravelingGal]

Neat! Congratulations woman! Adorable beautiful babies!!! I have not been over to the preggo thread at all (my PS reading has been very limited since I have been in Oz) so I didn''t know you had them, although I figured you probably did. I will have to go over there and catch up a bit.

And yes, you made me proud girlfriend!!

 

[puffy]

neat glad you and the boys are doing well. they are adorable!!

bobo HI!!! little B is such a cute santa! i just can''t get over how cute he is.

jas your boys are too cute in their matching bumbos!

burk i was just thinking about you and T today. she''s turing 1 soon i believe. any birthday plans yet?

tacori i am so late on this, but ugh!!! i totally understand what you are going through, except my DH is not that gentle with MIL. he lets her know exactly what''s on his mind cause he knows if he doesn''t do it, i will. and i hold nothing back. only a few more days right? oh, and B is starting to be the exact same way when we are out. it is tough going out with him. i just let him walk now, i don''t even bother with the stroller. and he''s pretty good about holding my hand, or finger.

snlee how''s D doing?

wishing all the mommies and kiddies a very merry christmas!!

 

[lili]

Goodness jackiejas!
That is about the funniest picture I''ve seen.
Love

the looks on their sweet little faces.
And from the look of them, I''d say they''ve got some plans brewing in their little heads indeed.
Tooo too cute.

They are getting so big and handsome!

 

[lili]

Jas12
Hehe, I can tell....but sometimes it is just so nice to wake up to a freshly snow covered yard -- make for some great pictures like the one you had of Co in the enbankment.
I don''t think I''ll post my family picture. I looked horrid. Didn''t even comb my hair and nothing in my closet fit me thanks to my milk jugs. I''ve been wearing nursing tanks all these times, so I hadn''t realized how much bigger my cup size went

snlee
Is D feeling better today?
Has his tooth surfaced yet?

QT
Did Meena''s second tooth came in?

Diva
Awwwee...poor James. His teeth are coming in too?
Wow, all these babies are just growing up so fast.

 

[lili]

Date: 12/23/2008 5:53:01 PM
Author: TravelingGal
Tacori, I''ll jump on the bandwagon too. I agree this is a control, power thing. Some mothers hate that their sons go off and get married to women who might have some ''power'' over their son. So they battle for it. Ridiculous.

The ones who are truly just happy for their kids seem to be the ones who are much more understanding that they have GRANDCHILDREN, which means they are someone ELSE''S children.

Couldn''t agree with you more TGal.
I feel for you Tacori and I''ll jump on the bandwagon as well.

 

[lili]

Bobo

Awweee....how cute is little santa B?
You know, he kinda looks like my nephew.
I''ve posted a picture of him in his santa getup a while back.

Sorry to hear about your co-worker.
Hope the surgery and radiation is a success. Lots of PS recovery dust to her.

And good luck on your house hunt!

 

[lili]

LIA
Ooo....Coby is just a cutie pie.
Look at all those hair and sweet little face

He''s a handsome little guy.
Yay for the fabulous weight gain.
Looks like he''s really thriving.
More pictures please.

Re: Oral Rota. Vaccine.
J didn''t have a stomach reaction to it first and second does.
She did have a slight flu and a nasty red bump from the injections on her second dose though.

 

[lili]

NF
Oh....your boys are so precious.
Look at Max''s sticking out his tongue -- too cute.

Glad to hear that you are recovering well.

 

[Lorelei]

NEAT!!!!

The young chappies are adorable! I miss you in RT, pop in when you can ok?

Glad to hear you are recovering well.

 

[bee*]

NF-awwww! Your baby boys are gorgeous!! Absolutely beautiful!

 

[sk8rjen]

Neat -- I''m such a crappy twin-friend -- I''m SO sorry I haven''t been reading lately, but CONGRATULATIONS!!! The boys are beautiful!!! I''m so glad you are recovering well!!!

LIA -- Coby is darling! I can''t believe our babies are 2 months already!

Jackie -- LOVE those pics!! I see more difference in the boys now too (and they just keep getting cuter

Bobo -- What a doll!!!

Burk -- oh you are right -- she looks so grown up!

Tgal -- your in-laws sound great (reading about that bath made me JEALOUS!! Oh to have the time...Enjoy oz!

Tacori -- I got so frustrated reading about your IL''s... hang in there!

Snlee -- 3 mos already? wow... if he *is* teeting i hope it goes fast!! (((hugs)) to you!

MrsS -- what a cutie!!!

lili -- yes, the big brothers are still loving every minute of baby time

So I find I am trusting the boys to do more with the girls now-- I suppose part of it is being desperate for help (while working on christmas stuff) and the age/size of the girls (not so delicate anymore!

) Adrian (8yo)held Marina for an hour yesterday while I worked on presents, and Gabe has learned how to help me get the girls on the twin-nurser, including picking them up (the first time he did it I was SO nervous!)... Donovan is still too little to do much, but he loves on them like crazy. My boys really melt my heart I am a lucky mom that they love their sisters like they do!

For those of you celebrating Christmas, I hope you have a WONDERFUL day!!!!
jen