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Viz

I don''t know much about reflux so I can''t help there but Sophia started doing the raising her legs and slamming it down on the crib around 2.5/3 months as well. A lot of the moms over on another site also experienced the same thing during that age (I asked about it when Sophia was doing it).

When he is grunting, is he awake? If he''s just grunting, I wouldn''t pick him up. Instead, let him go through the grunting/kicking legs until he''s crying and then go in to soothe. It''ll teach him to start putting himself back to sleep and at his age, unless he''s crying or you know that he''s grunting because he''s hungry, you don''t need to run in there.
 
Claire does the same thing in her sleep (and has the same little bald spot!). I read that it''s normal for babies to have active periods during their sleep. I would wait for the crying too.

Claire and I are going to the grocery store now because I''m not going to make it through the day without major quantities of ice tea . . .
 
PG, the only valid reason I can see that your DH would need to take the entire afternoon off for you to exercise is if he''s assuming that it if takes him 4 hrs, then it must take you 4 hrs. You should be able to have some "you" time without him needing tons of notice, especially given the amount of "him" time that he''s getting. I''m sorry. About leaving him detailed instructions, I think that it may help to get on the same page and I wouldn''t view it as treating him like the babysitter. When we dropped G off at daycare, we had to tell them the last time that he had napped, the last time that he ate, the last time he had a diaper change, and any special stuff (medicine, if he was crankier than normal, whatever). They did the same thing when we picked him up. So at both exchanges, everyone was on board with whether he needed a nap soon, whether he may be hungry or need a diaper change, etc. I think it''s more of a change in caregiver thing than a babysitter thing. It got me in the habit of saying, "He''s fed and diapered but is probably due for a nap" or whatever if I''m leaving the house on my own for a little while.

Viz - I''m sorry.

Mandarine - that''s great about 11.5 hours!!!
 
Hi ladies - this thread has simultaneously been amusing and frightening me
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I''ve come over for some advice on diapers. I know that pampers swaddlers are almost wholeheartedly recommended. But, I''m looking for some info on disposable options.

Has anyone used gdiapers or something similar? What have you found.

How about cloth?

One issue is that our LO will be going to daycare and most centers are disposable only . . .

Thanks so much for your help
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lulu-Blen can help you with the cloth diapers! A friend of mine used Gdiapers and loved them. Don''t have any recs on either.

PG-I''m sorry. I agree with you in that you don''t need to give that much warning to go have some alone time, especially just 45 minutes! I think more time with Claire alone will really help him to a) figure things out for himself and b) appreciate what you do every day. It took FI a while but I can now say I''m running to the mall and leave Sophia behind without him saying anything. And he takes care of her for 3 hours after work by himself and watches her on his days off (instead of taking to MIL''s house). The ladies here will confirm that it was *not* like that with him before at all.
 
lulu - any particular questions about cloth diapers? I LOVE them. Our daycare was fine with using the pocket or all-in-one types but disposables were included in their fees, and so we usually just went with the disposables when he was in daycare.
 
Blen - as for particulars: what type has worked best for george? how about blowouts? how often are you doing laundry? etc?

what attracts me to the gdiaper concept is it seems a bit more flexible than cloth, but better than disposable.

I may have to push my daycare center to see if some compromises can be made when the time comes...
 
Vizla- O did the leg slamming thing and I think it was him trying to roll over. We kept him swaddled and in a moses basket though at the time, so he couldn''t actually turn over. Once we deswaddled and put him in the crib, this is what he does right before he turns over. Babies often "practice" new tricks in their sleep and is also one of the reasons why they sometimes wake up more often during times when they are about to do something new. How old is Charlie? He may be getting ready to roll over. OR it''s a stomach/gas thing. If so, for O, we just had to pick him up and let him work through the gas. I know it''s a no no, but putting him on his stomach can help with the gas too. Try to pump his legs a bit as well. Sleep deprivation it absolute torture. I really really feel for you. But it will not last forever, if that helps. Which never made me feel better, but it''s true.

PhxGirl- We have all had those man doofus moments. I am trying not to be "mean" about it to DH, but I feel like saying, "Well they don''t do things that MAKE me be mean to you!"

Mandy- Awesome for Lucas!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
Diapers - We''re using the BumGenius 3.0 diapers and I love them. I have 25 of them and I wash them when I''m about to run out (every 3 days). I put flushable inserts in them to help cleaning out the poop.

Fights with DH - I think some dads have no idea what it''s like to spend the whole day caring for baby by yourself. They get breaks during their work day, why shouldn''t we get breaks?

Mandarine - Yay for Lucas sleeping 11.5 hours straight!

So, maybe it wasn''t a fluke, or maybe now it''s a double fluke? Jacob STTN again. He was impossible to put to bed until midnight, but then he slept straight through to 6AM. I''m stunned.

Time for the little man''s lunch!
 
anchor - thanks. do you put in a flushable insert in addition to the reusable one? is there a particular kind of flushable that works best (i.e. no clogging)
 
Lulu -
We mostly use prefolds with snappis and a Thirsties cover, which is the combo that we''ve used since birth. We''ve tried some other things but keep coming back to this. We also have some pockets (mostly FuzziBunz, Blueberries, and Rocky Mountains) that we use when he''s all over the place during diaper changes, when we''re having do a diaper change in the car or in another similarly awkward spot, or when we leave him with a babysitter. We are able to do a diaper change with him actively standing or crawling with the pockets, but not with the prefolds. Prefolds are cheap, absorbant, and are real work horses.

I think that the Flip diapers are an interesting concept and would probably have given them a shot if they were on the market when we were buying stuff. They come with reusable inserts but you can buy disposable ones from them, and so they''re kind of a hybrid between a cloth diaper and a G-diaper type thing if you want the extra flexibility. They''re also one size, so you can theoretically use them from birth (assuming you have a 7+ lb newborn). I found that sized diapers worked best until about 15 lbs or so though.

There are two main times when we''ve had issues with leaks and blowouts - when he''s ready to move up a size in diaper, or when he''s in Happy Heiny pocket diapers. The Happy Heinies are made more for babies with chubby thighs and his are pretty thin, so it''s basically a fit issue with them. The fitted diapers that we tried were not absorbant enough for hiim - he''s a pretty heavy wetter.

We''re usually doing diaper laundry every two days, although we can go three. Honestly though, it''s much less of a deal than I thought it would be. Everything gets put back in the same place and there is very little to do in the way of folding, etc, which is why I don''t like regular laundry. You can just toss them in the wash, poo and all, until you start on solids or formula. At that point you need to scrape, spray, or otherwise remove poo. The disposable liners are paper-type things that you place between the diaper and the baby, and then you throw the whole thing in the toilet. They''re not absorbant. The inserts that come with the diapers are what absorbs all the pee, so you need to use those still.

I prefer snaps to velcro, by the way. It''s less fussy in the wash and George is not able to remove snap diapers.
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I think they''re also more durable.
 
Viz~**HUGS**As you know T had horrible reflux too so I''ve been where you are. Is his crib inclined in any way? We used gripe water. Not sure it made a huge different but it put my mind a little at ease knowing I was trying something natural. I agree with fiery that if he''s not awake and/or crying I would just let him work through it himself and not pick him up. T had huge issues pooping b/c of her intolerance so many times the grunting and kicking and thrashing was her trying to work out the tummy troubles but if she didn''t cry I didn''t go to her. Does he sleep in your room? The other thing we did was move her to her own room so I didn''t hear everything she did. Made a HUGE difference in the amount of sleep I got! Overall, do you think his reflux is getting better?
 
lulu - Like Blen said, the flushable inserts are just for the poop. You need the washable ones, but with the BumGenius diapers, every diaper comes with two of them.
 
Question: Now that Claire is 3 months old, do I need to switch out the Avent Slow Flow nipples (1m+) with the Medium Flow nipples (3m+)?

So much to do to get ready for daycare!
 
Date: 1/27/2010 3:06:24 PM
Author: phoenixgirl
Question: Now that Claire is 3 months old, do I need to switch out the Avent Slow Flow nipples (1m+) with the Medium Flow nipples (3m+)?

So much to do to get ready for daycare!
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No rules. We never switched to level 3 nipples even though it says 6 months and up. Just switch when she''s ready. Try to give her level 2 and see how she takes it.
 
PG – I think it really depends on how Claire feeds with the size 1 nipple. We use Dr. Browns and switched to the next size nipple when LO was 2 months (even though they are 3m+) because he struggled to get the amount of formula he wanted and, as a result, became frustrated and would stop eating before finishing his bottle.
 
I still haven''t switched nipples and she''ll be 7 months next week. Oops
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Question regarding “mommy and baby” classes –



For those of you who have taken part in one of these classes, are they worth the time/money? I’m debating if I should get more involved with other moms, since none of my friends have kids (or at least babies the same age as our LO). Luckily, this thread has been sort of a mommy “class” for me – especially in the last few months as I’ve mostly lurked (through sleep-deprived eyes).



And the other reason I’m interested in possibly taking a class…and this is probably going to sound a bit crazy… I haven’t yet taken LO out in any public places. Ever.

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He hasn’t “stepped foot” into a store, restaurant, anywhere other than my family’s house.
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We live in New England and the weather stinks this time of year…and I’ve been worried about him getting exposed to the flu. I’m thinking it’s time to get him out and thought maybe a class would be a good start.

ETA: Let me me clarify - I have taken him to doc's visits!




 
Manderine - the guide for formula is 2-2.5 ounces per pound of baby per day. Kyle usually ate at the low end of that scale, but then my FF baby isn''t the norm, he''s 25% in weight (might be even lower now) and 75% in height.
 
thanks ladies! i was wondering if he was actually ''sleeping'' since it seems as if he''s awake, just really uncomfortable. he does eventually cry, and then i actually have to get out of bed and walk around to soothe him back to sleep. (he sleeps in a bassinet 2 feet from me) whereas, if i pick him up and bring him into bed with me and hold him, i can get another hour or so of sleep. it''s somewhat selfish, but i''m so tired.

china - c is 12.5 weeks old - and he''s never been a ''good'' sleeper, i just thought this was another one of the fun perks i lucked out with this guy. heaven forbid i got one of those ''angel'' babies or passive babies that sleeps in the car, or *anywhere* or STTN at 8 weeks or sleeps more than 2 hours at a time.

sabine - thanks for the advice - by sleep training do you mean CIO? i know our pedi doesn''t recommend it until 4 months - and this may just be the protective mother in me but i just don''t think he is going to be one of the babies who will respond to it... but i guess i won''t know until i try...... but i also don''t want to lose that trust with my son.

on a totally unrelated, but related note - for no apparent reason, the hole at the bottom of my boob where my drain was - began leaking milk/fluid for the last 24 hours! lovely..... as IF this entire mastitis, abscess surgery/hospital stay, drain wasn''t awful enough - now that the drain is out (and has been for a week!) my boob is leaking milk from the *bottom* of my boob. hello? they don''t make breast pads for the underside of your boob. the surgeon''s nurse said this was normal, but it''s so gross and i''m just sooooo over all of this mess i could just cry!

ok, sorry for the
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debbie downer post. off to put c down. send good juju for a long stretch tonight. i''m hoping he''s going to be one of those babies who just starts going for longer and longer stretches without having to CIO.

later skaters.
 
hmm, something weird must be in the air....Evan slept from 8:00 yesterday until 7:00 this morning (probably would have gone longer but we had to wake him to get him ready to go to the babysitter''s house). He did start grunting at around 3 a.m. though...I got up made a bottle and went to go get him and he was passed out again. So I just let him grunt it out the rest of the night....

Our babysitter said he''s a great baby! Hehe, proud mommy over here....she said he''s so playful and fun and never cries.
 
PG, we use Avent and have just followed his cues. I think we went to their #2 nipple (which is still slow flow) around 2.5 months and then to level 3''s (medium flow) around 5 months. He''s doing well on the level 3''s now.

Viz, yes, I meant CIO. We did it right at 4 months. I really didn''t want to and never thought I would at that young of an age, but it was necessary because it got to the point where neither of us were sleeping and that wasn''t good for him. I was really nervous about doing it because Jacks was such a "high needs" baby and I had read some places that babies with colic may not be able to self-soothe as early as other babies, but it went surprisingly well. But it was tough on me, so I really hope it won''t come to that for you!

Anyone else have trouble letting their dh''s do certain things? Dh came home tonight right as I was about to give Jacks his bath, and he said he would give him his bath and put him to sleep. I thought it was great because they would spend some time together, etc. and I could cook dinner. But Jacks had been up since 2 and was super tired, and dh took FOREVER in doing everything because he''s not used to it, and Jacks was wailing by the end because he just wanted to be in bed. He never cries when I put him to bed. I could hear dh trying to sooth him, and I wanted sooo bad to go in and tell him that he''s crying because he wants to be in bed and to just put him down! Oh well, he was still asleep within 5 minutes of being put down...I just hated hearing those wails!
 
sabine- YES!! high needs!!! exactly why i don''t think it will work with charlie... but you give me a little bit of hope... i must go back and read your experience. did you post it in this thread?
 
MG Thank you!! I guess my boys would be on the lower end of that also!

VIz I'm sorry about the leaking! That sounds horrible
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. Do you swaddle Charlie?. I also hope my boys just sort of do their thing without CIO. I just don't even know how that works with two since they already do the sympathy crying (if one is crying for whatever reason, the other one starts with sad faces...just because something "must be wrong!"). So I really, really, really hope I don't have to go to CIO for sleep training
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I know you probably have your reasons, but I'm going to throw it out there and say him and you may sleep better if he starts sleeping in his own room. It made the world of difference when I moved them to their nursery (I did it at 4 weeks)...but when we went on our road trip, I barely slept because they were in our room and they are LOUD!.

Tao Go Evan!!!!! (::Lucas does a high five with Evan!
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. And look at that! Going to bed at 8pm! Good for you!!!. Mine started to push their bedtime to even earlier! by 7pm they are DONE...it's hard to even keep them up until that time!!!

Lizzard I'm going to every group/class I can find! Basically because I need to make some friends...lol. Obviously at this stage they are not playing with other babies...but I feel like I need to build a "mommy"network so that they do have friends to play with later on and that I actually enjoy the company of those ladies also!. I haven't gone to any classes yet, but plan to soon. I've gone on plenty "playdates" with moms from different groups (mommy groups for the area, local twins group, etc). We meet at the mall, go for coffee, go to the zoo, etc. It's nice to talk to other women that KNOW what you're going through!.

Speaking of, I went to two "mommy and me" things today. The first one was not a good fit since it was more geared toward toddlers, the second one was coffee for new moms and there were only three of us there, but I actually really liked them!. We're hoping to make it a weekly date @ Starbucks!

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I guess I should go get ready for bed.

I'm pulling for all the babies tonight, come on guys, let's show Lucas and Evan that we can all do it! (and those two better keep it up too!
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ETA:
Sabine Yes...I have a hard time too because the same thing happens...btu I have learned that I need him to do these things even if they take him longer, even if they cry and even if it drives me nuts!. He's only going to get better at it if he can practice!

PG On nipples sized, I just started to go to the level 2...they do ok, but looks like they need a few days to get used to the new flow. This is like day 3. They were just taking forever to eat with the slower ones and I think they were getting frustrated/tired.
 
Also, I want to second what Mandarine said earlier about being put to sleep in their own room.

Evan would grunt and flail about when he was in his bassinet in our room....we started putting him in his own room and in a crib and it stopped or we at least didn''t notice it as much. I believe he was about 8 or 9 weeks when he kicked him out of our room.

Also, Evan hated the swaddle for the first 9-10 weeks....but we finally got one and he loves it and we''ve been using it ever since and he sleeps pretty great.

Oh and also Mandarine---Evan totally went to to bed today at 7:30.....I''m so scared for how the night will go but fingers crossed it winds up okay.
 
Date: 1/27/2010 9:49:01 PM
Author: taovandel


Also, Evan hated the swaddle for the first 9-10 weeks....but we finally got one and he loves it and we''ve been using it ever since and he sleeps pretty great.
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Tao, what swaddle do you use??

We just got a Woombie. I should have gotten the big baby size, I think Wes would like it better, he likes to move around but not be startled. I guess I''ll get the bigger one and see how he likes it.

What I have been doing though that actually works great is lay him on top of a blanket, wrap the ends over his arms and tuck them in under his bum. It keeps his arms by his side and the weight of his bum keeps him from freeing them! Then I can use the sleep sack to keep his body warm.
 
We use a kiddopotamus swaddle....he could free himself from the swaddleme brand....both are at BRU.
 
Not a great night...but not terrible (my expectations have gone way down! haha)

Alex up at 1:40am and 6am and Lucas at 4:20am...Yes, that means starting at 1:40am I barely got any sleep...so mama is tired and enjoying a huge cup of coffee right now!

I''m trying the one arm swaddles for naps today. I figured I really should start breaking out the swaddling habit and nap time is probably a better place to start. They took a little longer to fall sleep for their morning nap, but are sleeping now!
 
is it selfish of me that one of the major reasons we haven''t moved him out of our room is b/c since he still gets up 2 or 3 times a night to eat and im too lazy to get up out of bed and go get him?
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and, i just LOVE our post feed cuddle in bed! makes being awake at 3am not so bad.

i do think, however, that its probably time to put him in his own room, i always find him scrunched up at one end of the bassinet.

although.... he did eat at 6:45, 10:45, 2:30 and then 5:30 last night!!!!! pretty good for c!! im encouraged...... and thanks to you all, i refused to pick him up until he cried... which was a great piece of advice because several times during his thrashing he put himself back to sleep.

yes, i still swaddle c. he has a *real* problem keeping his arms and legs still. they are always moving....... always!! so its almost impossible for him to fall asleep without his extremities in check. i have been increasing our ''wind down'' time and our pot feed time unswaddled.. but we still have a ways to go.

china-this totally made me lol - "but it will not last forever, if that helps. Which never made me feel better, but it''s true." so true, so true! im always torn.. i dont want to rush this time, but im so ready for him to grow out of some of his ''issues''.

burk - i do think its getting better! im tring to slowly take him off the zantac and previcid b/c i hate that he is getting all of that medicine. we have tried gripe water, which really does help w the hiccups! c is very uncomfortable when he has gas or has to poo too... i cant wait for his system to get a little stronger.

mandy - THIS totally made me lol - "my expectations have gone way down! haha" - again... so true so true :)
 
Viz-Definitely move him to his room when you feel ready to. In our experience, we had to move Sophia to her room around 2.5 months because she started doing the same thing (grunting a lot) and it would keep me awake. I always felt like something was wrong so I''d check on her and because she wasn''t in a deep sleep, she''d hear me snooping around and would wake up. Once we moved her, I heard a lot less and when I did hear her I still got up from bed but would check on her from far.

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So in Sophia news she is finally officially putting herself to sleep
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. For the past few nights we put her down in bed awake and after 5 to 10 minutes she''s asleep. It''s kind of funny. When I put her in bed, I give her a kiss and walk away. She lifts her head with a smile because she thinks I''m playing with her and I can hear her on the monitor squealing. I guess when she realizes we aren''t going to play, she gets bored and falls asleep
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She''ll be 7 months on MOnday
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