Psychotic mother and a questions about satin

[luckystar112]

Princess, that would be wonderful!!!

I could tell that Frederickburg was a beautiful town, but I really had only seen it at night when we drove around looking at christmas lights. We also ate a very cute/trendy type restaurant that was brand new. Errrr I wish I could remember the name of it. It was one word and started with an N or a Z. It was just a little place. Anyway, I wish I remembered because it would be a cool rehearsal dinner spot.

You don''t happen to know a good way to keep those flies away do you? lol



Thanks Cara---I think we''re going to stick with the satin and just suck it up. My bridesmaids seem to prefer it, and I actually do too. So, if they are willing to deal with the heat, then I''m willing to let them deal with the heat too.

 

[princesss]

Yay! I love doing photo tours.

I''ll be downtown Wednesday, so I''ll take a bunch of photos for you.

 

[luckystar112]

So, my grandmother had a heart attack today.

Apparently she will be fine. She''s at the hospital. We''re still waiting to find out more information. She lives in Florida with her husband, so we are waiting to hear back from him. This is her second heart attack.

On top of it all, my cousin had to call me and tell me, because apparently my mother "refused" to call me since we are fighting.

Just wanted to update you guys on her craziness.

 

[Kaleigh]

Date: 9/4/2007 5:19:31 PM
Author: luckystar112
So, my grandmother had a heart attack today.

Apparently she will be fine. She''s at the hospital. We''re still waiting to find out more information. She lives in Florida with her husband, so we are waiting to hear back from him. This is her second heart attack.

On top of it all, my cousin had to call me and tell me, because apparently my mother ''refused'' to call me since we are fighting.

Just wanted to update you guys on her craziness.

Sending prayers to your grandmother. Your Mother should have called you. But after reading this thread, can''t say I am surprised. So sorry luckstar

 

[Independent Gal]

Oh, how terrible. I wish your grandma a speedy recovery. Your mom really should have called you.

 

[princesss]

Lots of prayers for your grandmother and your family. I''m so sorry to hear this.

 

[luckystar112]

Well, my cousin didn''t seem at all upset when I talked to her on the phone (she even laughed about something, I forget what), so hopefully that''s a good sign. On the other hand, she isn''t the most emotional person, so that could mean nothing. I guess I just have to wait for her update! And I agree, my mom DEFINITELY should have called.

Err I have half a mind to just tell her where to put it.

Thank you for your well-wishes though! I''ll keep you guys updated.

 

[AmberGretchen]

I''m so sorry to hear about your grandmother - I''ll be wishing her a speedy and complete recovery!!

I haven''t responded to this thread earlier because it reminded me too much of some of my family issues, and it seems like you are getting some great advice. Suffice it to say that I am currently not speaking to my stepmother and barely in contact with my father, mostly as a result of issues that really came sharply to the forefront during the planning of my wedding and on the day of. I hope that you can find a resolution of some kind with your mother, but sometimes distancing yourself as much as possible and even ceasing contact is for the best. I''ll be thinking of you and wishing you strength in coping with this situation.

 

[door knob solitaire]

I searched for this thread to ask if a new day had shed any clearer light on your issue...I am so sorry to learn of your GM''s condition.

So sincerely sorry that you didn''t get a call from your mother.

DKS

 

[luckystar112]

Awww. Thank you guys.

My grandmother was released from the hospital last night, and she had to go get a bunch of tests done today. It must have been a minor one. Phew. Really puts things into perspective, because I''ve been telling myself for a while that I need to call her.

The update was also given to me by my MOTHER. So good thing she has her big girl pants on, finally. She just gave me the message, I replied with a thank you, and that''s been that.
However, FI''s mom finally replied to my mom''s email today. (She CC''ed me.) So that''s awkward. Apparently my mom never sent her a psycho email, and I obviously haven''t told FMIL what''s going on...so my poor FMIL thinks everything is fine. I don''t know what to do because I don''t want to deal with my psycho mom, but at the same time I just wish she was normal and we could do this together. I guess I better tell my FMIL what''s going on, but it just sucks.

Princess!!! How was your photo tour???

 

[princesss]

Okay, bad news on the photo tour.

It''s been delayed. I was just coming back from class and was grabbing the camera when my phone rang. Turns out my boss had forgotten to call me to tell me I needed to be there for training today! So I''m going tomorrow and I promise to post pictures tomorrow night.

 

[luckystar112]

Aw, don''t worry about it princess! You''ve been so nice to offer in the first place. Work comes first!

 

[princesss]

I''ve got a couple hours tomorrow free so I''ll get downtown and start snapping. I''m so excited to do this, it''s been forever since I''ve been downtown actually *looking* at it instead of just walking through.

 

[luckystar112]

I sent an email to FI''s mom today.
I guess if we get married in Fredericksburg that guests will have a couple of hours to kill before the reception. So I was looking at the official website, and found the "Hugh Mercer Apothecary Shop", which sounds so much fun! Have you been there before? It says to allow 45 minutes for your visit, and tickets are cheap. I was thinking we could put them in our out of town bags, and then they could choose to do that or go shopping or both between the ceremony and reception.

 

[princesss]

They're 3 bucks, I think. Definitely affordable by college standards!

It takes a while, and it's not for those with queasy stomachs. It's really interesting, though. Definitely worth doing. It's right at the end of the main shopping street downtown, too, so it's really accessible!

 

[diamondfan]

Lucky, strapless dress in satin is not going to cause someone to faint. Certainly the bridal shop can guide you a bit better about that, but honestly it does not seem likely!

Your mom has a lot of hostility and anger. I cannot imagine a mother speaking to her child like that without some big underlyiing issue. Jealousy, competitiveness, chemical issues, of course I do not know, but am sorry for your having to deal with it. And sounds like she did her best trying to raise you, but the way she speaks to you, over details of YOUR wedding, well, not nice at all and clearly the symptom of something else bigger. I would, as you have, just quit communicating with her. Yes, you were provoked and lashed out, and she will likely throw it in your face, BUT moved past that now. Focus on the good, the things you need to accomplish. If she cools down, which is possible, and she brings up the wedding, change the topic righ away. If pushed, say, Mom, this is so not a good topic for us. Let''s talk about something else so we do not get nasty, okay? This way, you are shouldering a bit of it, and letting her know you are NOT going to get sucked in again. This is simply too much drama and you do not need it, nor should you continue it. Without knowing her, of course, I can only say it seems she is very unhappy and I would just let it go. She is who she is. You are not going to change her. So just decide to let it go, as best as you can, so YOU are not the one upset. People like her enjoying stirring drama and leaving the scene. Do not let her.