Q for LIW....if your bf propose to you with a beautiful 2.5 ct solitaire ring...

[Dancing Fire]

would you tell him to exchange for a smaller one b/c it is too big ?

 

[blondebunny]

well it would depend on how it looked on my finger. Although a 2.5 ct would be fabulous, id be kinda paranoid someone would try to rob me...but then again...I mean it depends on the spread or whatever, because maybe it doesnt look so big, I wear a 4.5 it would probably be a little too big for me

Although if the quality or if it wasnt eye clean Id prob ask for a smaller one.. hehe

 

[Linda W]

Oh are you ever a trouble maker!!! tee hee.


Linda

 

[Linda W]

blonde, my remark was meant for dancingfire, not you.

 

[FrekeChild]

Depends on the shape and if it''s a diamond or a gemstone. Because BF knows better than to present me with a diamond.

 

[trillionaire]

Is it just me, or would that seem rude and ungrateful?

I would be UNCOMFORTABLE with a 2.5 carat diamond, esp. because I want a Trillion, so that would face up ridiculously huge, but I'm not sure how you proceed if you feel something is over the top. Never anticipated THAT problem, lol.

Plus, I think it's embarrassing at best to ask someone who they robbed....

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 7/17/2008 1:43:13 AM
Author: FrekeChild
Depends on the shape and if it''s a diamond or a gemstone. Because BF knows better than to present me with a diamond.

Freke
how about a natural blue diamond?

 

[stryeyes102]

Like Freke said it would depend on the shape...

But,I would most likely ask for something smaller. Its just my personal preference though as I tend to like smaller stones.

 

[choro72]

Date: 7/17/2008 1:50:25 AM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 7/17/2008 1:43:13 AM

Author: FrekeChild

Depends on the shape and if it''s a diamond or a gemstone. Because BF knows better than to present me with a diamond.

Freke

how about a natural blue diamond?

I''ll take it before Freke does! Doesn''t even have to be natural

I wish there were green ones...

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 7/17/2008 1:50:25 AM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 7/17/2008 1:43:13 AM
Author: FrekeChild
Depends on the shape and if it''s a diamond or a gemstone. Because BF knows better than to present me with a diamond.

Freke

how about a natural blue diamond?

I''d ask him when he won the lottery, or if he turned into Bill Gates and why didn''t he tell me earlier.

And I''d probably INSIST on returning it, and use the money instead to travel and buy gemstones.

DF, I''ve got a 1.5 princess coming my way from my mom, and I think that is enormous.

However, if it was a 1 natural carat blue diamond, I would accept graciously. And then fall over from the idea of how much it cost. But he''s pretty level headed and conservative with his cash, so a few million wouldn''t leave his pockets for "just a rock" (his words, not mine!).

But DF-you hit me on a soft spot with a natural blue diamond. You''re naughty.

 

[Circe]

Date: 7/17/2008 1:58:43 AM
Author: choro72

how about a natural blue diamond?

I''ll take it before Freke does! Doesn''t even have to be natural

I wish there were green ones...[/quote]

Oh, there are! I believe they''re topped in rarity only by red diamonds, but if you want to see an example, try googling the Dresden Green - gorgeous!

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 7/17/2008 1:58:43 AM
Author: choro72

Date: 7/17/2008 1:50:25 AM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 7/17/2008 1:43:13 AM
Author: FrekeChild
Depends on the shape and if it''s a diamond or a gemstone. Because BF knows better than to present me with a diamond.

Freke

how about a natural blue diamond?

I''ll take it before Freke does! Doesn''t even have to be natural

I wish there were green ones...

OH CHORO, THERE ARE GREEN ONES!!!!

They are AMAZING.

 

[CalBearsFan]

I most definitely would not turn it down. Good thing that''s not a dilemma I''m really gonna find myself in.

But then again I''m a size 7.5 so I think 2.5ct would look just fabu. Maybe if I had smaller hands

.... probably still wouldn''t.

 

[FrekeChild]

Here''s some green ones!

link

link

Heck, I''ll just post the whole thing.

 

[choro72]

Oh MY

I didn''t know they existed! Clearly I still have lots to learn on PS. I would hate to imagine how much they cost. I''ll just stare at them without the worry

Thankuuuuu!!!

 

[LaraOnline]

Date: 7/17/2008 1:27:23 AM
Author:Dancing Fire
would you tell him to exchange for a smaller one b/c it is too big ?

You are cheeky! Unfortunately, because my ring size if 4.5 or less, that ring would probably look ridiculously HUGE on me. Oh well, it is a cross I would have to bear...!

 

[kittybean]

Exchange for a smaller one? Um, no. I would graciously accept it as is . My recently-accepted e-ring is 2.1 ct on my size 2.5 finger--finally the proper size after three tries at sizing the dang thing--but bigger wouldn''t bother me a bit

. Ditto LaraOnline: it would just be a cross I have to bear!

(Disclaimer: I guess I''m not a LIW anymore, but I can''t seem to stay away from this forum...)

 

[Deelight]

I would ask when did he win Lotto or did some really rich rellie die and he inherited a butt load of money?

Chances of that happening are slim to buckleys

 

[gwendolyn]

Since we''re doing this together with OUR finances, it won''t ever happen. We have many better things to do with that kind of money.

 

[Lauren8211]

Dancing Fire, you''re making the rest of us look bad!

I wouldn''t ask for a smaller diamond, just like I wouldn''t ask for a bigger one.

 

[fieryred33143]

I wouldn''t tell him to exchange a gift unless I absolutely hated it.

Although knowing me...I would FLIP OUT if I found out he spent that much on a diamond especially when we are saving for a house AND he desperately needs a new car.

 

[HeadOverHeels4James]

If that is what he wanted to get me, I''m sure it would be perfect! I have man hands, so I don''t think it would be ridiculous on me.

 

[Pandora II]

Unless he had just won a major lottery win/inherited it/major bargain second-hand deal, if it was a diamond it would be going back.

A coloured stone probably not - excluding top kashmir sapphires/mogok rubies which can easily cost way more than a diamond.

I would be very uncomfortable with spending that kind of money (and paying the huge insurance premiums).

 

[janinegirly]

I wish I had these sorts of problems!

It''s the ring he chose for you so and therefore has a lot of symbolism, so I would not ask to exchange. You can always get a smaller one or just wear your wedding ring if you feel it is too flashy for day to day,etc.

Any pics? It sounds like quite a rock!

 

[gwendolyn]

Date: 7/17/2008 9:10:45 AM
Author: janinegirly
I wish I had these sorts of problems!


It''s the ring he chose for you so and therefore has a lot of symbolism, so I would not ask to exchange. You can always get a smaller one or just wear your wedding ring if you feel it is too flashy for day to day,etc.


Any pics? It sounds like quite a rock!

No, I think he was thinking most LIWs (or maybe even all?) want/expect 2+ carat rocks--he''s mentioned it in a few other threads. I''m guessing (although feel free to correct me if I''m wrong, DF) he wanted to put the question to us to see how many of us admitted wanting a rock that big.

I''d seriously be PISSED if J spent that kind of money. Considering how my college loans plague me and how I''d like to have a house and a car and not live in a dunghole apartment forever, I''d be so upset if that kind of money was spent on a ring. Yes, I love diamonds, but not if we have to sacrifice fiscal responsibility and live in squalor for the rest of our lives, which, in our case, it would. How selfish would that make me?! Ugh.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 7/17/2008 9:20:28 AM
Author: gwendolyn

Date: 7/17/2008 9:10:45 AM
Author: janinegirly
I wish I had these sorts of problems!


It''s the ring he chose for you so and therefore has a lot of symbolism, so I would not ask to exchange. You can always get a smaller one or just wear your wedding ring if you feel it is too flashy for day to day,etc.


Any pics? It sounds like quite a rock!

No, I think he was thinking most LIWs (or maybe even all?) want/expect 2+ carat rocks--he''s mentioned it in a few other threads. I''m guessing (although feel free to correct me if I''m wrong, DF) he wanted to put the question to us to see how many of us admitted wanting a rock that big.

I''d seriously be PISSED if J spent that kind of money. Considering how my college loans plague me and how I''d like to have a house and a car and not live in a dunghole apartment forever, I''d be so upset if that kind of money was spent on a ring. Yes, I love diamonds, but not if we have to sacrifice fiscal responsibility and live in squalor for the rest of our lives, which, in our case, it would. How selfish would that make me?! Ugh.

I would too, Gwen. I''m inheriting a 2.5, but if FF BOUGHT one??? I''d.... probably explode. I''d be so happy to be engaged, yet so sad to be wearing our future house''s downpayment on my finger....

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

No. Even if it was the worst diamond ever. Even if it was riddled with carbon spots and inclusions and wasn’t eye clean. Never. Whatever my man gets for me is what he has painstakingly chosen for me. If he’s sacrificed quality for size, that was his decision to make.

What a lovely problem to have! I seldom hear ladies say, “this stone is just too large for my taste.” I’ve grown far to used to hearing the opposite or even worse women who think that the size of the diamond correlates to the love their men have for them.

If he presented me with a near flawless 2+ ct. I’d have to ask what he’s been doing on the side to afford the stone

I’d never decline whatever ring he presents me with: small or large. In all seriousness I would be flattered if he was to scrimp and save to buy such an elaborate sized stone for me. Since we own a home together and I am aware of his monthly budget I will know immediately just how hard it was for him to save to afford such a luxury. Just knowing how much he will have to sacrifice for my ring (which probably will not even total 1 ct.) automatically quadruples the value of any stone in my book.

ETA - Keep in mind we already have the house, the new cars and a nice wedding budget in place. So my concerns differ financially from those who are trying to work towards the goals we have already obtained. If we did not have these securities in place, I would probably feel similar to those who say they would be upset at the cost involved.

 

[aliciagirl]

Yes, but I''d do so in a nice way. My FF also knows me well enough to know better. I''m not really a big jewelry sort of person and I bang my hands into everything.

Plus, depending on what field of pharmacy I go into I might have to wear gloves everyday and would likely have to take a ring off depending on its size. SO had to talk me into wanting a ring AT ALL, so maybe my opinion doesn''t really count.

Heck, I''ve never even seen a ring more than a carat on anyone I know in real life.

 

[KCCutie]

I would never tell him to take it back.

But if he didn''t win the lottery or stumble across a great find, we would have a serious talk about what spending that kind of money on the ring would mean to our future. I know he doesn''t have the money for something that large and I would never want him to go into debt for something like that especially when we are under contract on a house and the proposal will mean we are getting married in less than 6 months(b/c he absolutely wants a very short engagement). We have too much going on right now to spend money we don''t have, but if money were not the issue I''d love it, and no matter what he gives me I will love it no matter what the size.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 7/17/2008 1:35:53 AM
Author: Linda W
blonde, my remark was meant for dancingfire, not you.

see Linda.....that''s what you get for picking on me.