Ring update!

[anchor31]

Thanks Ebree and Princessv! I wish I''d gotten it already...

That''s what happened for me too, kalispera! Maybe we''ll be ring twins!

Amber - I''ve been on the list since October, and it hasn''t been so bad, especially since he gave me his timeframe a month later. But now that I''ve found the ring, I have to wait two weeks (well, 11 days as of today) to know if he can buy the ring soon... It''s killing me. And it doesn''t even mean he will actually buy it in two weeks if he still has a job, because when we went shopping on the 25th he said he''d have 1000$ saved up with his next paycheck (which is today, I think). I''m hoping (if he still has a job then, of course) that he can get the extra 725$ with his next paycheck, which I am assuming will be in two weeks from today, and that he''ll buy it ASAP then, but... we''ll see.

So I definitely can relate. The six months of waiting I did before were a piece of cake compared to this. I''m just so anxious because I don''t want him to lose his job again, and I wouldn''t want my diamond to get sold by the time he''s ready to buy it, whenever that is. I just wish he could buy it right now, you know?

I can''t imagine what it''ll be like to wait once he actually has the ring!!

 

[GGLW]

It''s funny that everyone else is saying they thought you got your ring already based on your new avatar...me too! I was reading Amber''s thread about her stone and was wondering who the new person was and then realized it was you with a new avatar!

Anyway, at least it sounds like you are making good progress in terms of figuring out what you actually like after trying some things on. I found that I was the same way in terms of changing my mind about things once I tried them on.

Good luck with the waiting! I''m keeping my fingers crossed for you that you will end up with the stone you love from WF!

 

[AmberWaves]

Anchor, this is so hard! It''s funny because we''re waiting for two paychecks, he''s putting in another 7, and I''m going to try to put in 5.. So that''d put us in at 2800, but I want to budget for the setting fee, appraisal.. Disneyland.. shipping if we end up not liking some of them.. Ugh. This is the hardest, waiting a week.

 

[Rhapsody]

Date: 3/9/2006 11:59:17 AM
Author: anchor31
Thanks Ebree and Princessv! I wish I''d gotten it already...

That''s what happened for me too, kalispera! Maybe we''ll be ring twins!

Amber - I''ve been on the list since October, and it hasn''t been so bad, especially since he gave me his timeframe a month later. But now that I''ve found the ring, I have to wait two weeks (well, 11 days as of today) to know if he can buy the ring soon... It''s killing me. And it doesn''t even mean he will actually buy it in two weeks if he still has a job, because when we went shopping on the 25th he said he''d have 1000$ saved up with his next paycheck (which is today, I think). I''m hoping (if he still has a job then, of course) that he can get the extra 725$ with his next paycheck, which I am assuming will be in two weeks from today, and that he''ll buy it ASAP then, but... we''ll see.


So I definitely can relate. The six months of waiting I did before were a piece of cake compared to this. I''m just so anxious because I don''t want him to lose his job again, and I wouldn''t want my diamond to get sold by the time he''s ready to buy it, whenever that is. I just wish he could buy it right now, you know?


I can''t imagine what it''ll be like to wait once he actually has the ring!!

My ring has been sitting on the bookshelf next to the TV for 5 weeks now, and let me tell you it is MUCH harder to wait knowing it''s sitting right there! I have no idea what hes waiting for. All I can say is if he just hands me the box after making me wait this long there''s gonna be hell to pay!

My boyfriend did contract work only for about a year, so I know how stressful it is to not be sure if theres going to be any money coming in after you finish one project. My first "dream stone" sold before we could get the money together and I still pine away for that one a little bit, although the one we ended up getting is gorgeous too.

I''m glad your journey to find a beautiful ring in your budget has come to a happy ending! I''ll keep my fingers crossed for you that your stone is still available when you''re ready to buy.

 

[anchor31]

Thanks GGLW!! Trust me, I wish I had it already...

I hear you, Amber... At least we have someone to talk to who''s going through the exact same torture. Hang on in there, you''re almost there!

Thanks for sharing your story, Rhapsody. I also appreciate the support and good wishes; it really helps. BTW, I like you name... I played Gershwin''s Rhapsody in blue two years ago with my home city''s band, and it was a wonderful experience, very challenging and rewarding!

 

[anchor31]

It hasn''t been a week, but my boyfriend just told me his department will not be touched by the contract loss, so YAY!!!!!!

He said he needs to finish paying off his credit card, then he''ll buy the ring. Hopefully that will be soon!!!

And I didn''t think I''d be strong enough to do it, but I gave him Bob''s email, told him I want the stone to be set as low as possible and I want a size 4.75, and told him to take over, but if he needs help with the English or whatever, I''d be happy to help him out.

So, basically, it''s now out of my hands. It''s a big leap of faith for me, the control freak that I am!

 

[Shawna13]

Best of luck with everything girl! I''m glad things are starting to happen for you in the engagement area, and hopefully everything works out fine with your boyfriend''s job situation.

My fiance put the ring on his credit line. If he was waiting until he paid off his credit card first I probably would have gotten so impatient that I would have used Internet banking to make a payment to his credit card to pay it off!! Look sweetie... $0 balance! I don''t know what happened! Go buy the ring now!!!!!

 

[anchor31]

Thank you!

While I am looking forward to getting my ring, I have insisted that J did NOT put on his credit card, get financing or get into any kind of debt at all over it. I''m not patient, but I would rather wait and have him save up for it and pay cash. I''m not comfortable with the idea of him getting into debt for my engagement ring, and I''d probably feel guilty. The ring will cost 1500$US, which is 1750-ish CAN (he was willing to go up to 2000$), and I know he has 1000$ now. With a little luck, he''ll have the rest with the next paycheck in two weeks. I''m really hoping he''ll buy it within the next four weeks... But it''s now out of my hands.

*deep breath* I can do this.

 

[snuga]

Date: 3/11/2006 11:54:35 PM
Author: anchor31
Thank you!

While I am looking forward to getting my ring, I have insisted that J did NOT put on his credit card, get financing or get into any kind of debt at all over it. I''m not patient, but I would rather wait and have him save up for it and pay cash. I''m not comfortable with the idea of him getting into debt for my engagement ring, and I''d probably feel guilty. The ring will cost 1500$US, which is 1750-ish CAN (he was willing to go up to 2000$), and I know he has 1000$ now. With a little luck, he''ll have the rest with the next paycheck in two weeks. I''m really hoping he''ll buy it within the next four weeks... But it''s now out of my hands.

*deep breath* I can do this.

You can totally do this!! You''re so strong to be able to "relinquish control" of the situation, I bet it''s eating you alive, but hopefully you won''t be a LIW much longer!! You will definitely have me beat, so that''s something!

 

[anchor31]

Thanks kalispera!

This is really hard for me, but I was starting to wonder if J wouldn't feel at some point that I'm taking this away from him by doing everything myself. He's a very traditional guy, and I've already wrecked havoc in his plans for an unsuspected proposal and picked both the diamond and setting all by myself, so I figured I should step down now and let him do his thing. I think he appreciates that I did my research and that I could pick exactly what I want within his budget, but now there isn't much I can do, right?

Thanks for the support.

 

[snuga]

I definitely think that it''s important to let the guy take over at some point, especially if you want the proposal to be a surprise. But at least you can rest easy knowing that your ring will be perfect and it will be exactly what you want. In that sense I think it is a great idea to be involved in the ring purchase. Anyways, I hope that it is sooner than later for you!

 

[argh&stuff]

Hey again, Anch:

I just read this thread, too. And, the diamond is marked as sold. Does that mean your guy was able to get it for you? Do you know?

(This, by the way, is something I worry about with my girl; I want her to be surprised, but I have no doubt she checks up on all the diamonds we''ve looked at regularly.)

 

[anchor31]

Yes, I know. Is he the one who bought it? I don't think so. Unless he's being incredibly sneaky, which I doubt. He told me on Saturday that with his tax refund "I might get my ring sooner than I think", but he also said that "all that's left now is for me to make up my mind". Silly man... I've made up my mind ages ago!

I was really bummed when I saw it was gone, but I've found another, cheaper one. And I'm not sharing, because I don't want anyone to snatch it up!

Since he said he has the money now, or at least he'll have it soon, we'll probably have a talk about it next weekend when he'll come visit for Easter (thank goodness! I haven't seen him in six weeks!!). I'll show him the new diamond and ask him what he thinks.

Thanks for the support, Argh, and keep your fingers crossed for me!

 

[argh&stuff]

Well that''s good, Anch. I''d LOVE to be sneaky enough for my girl to NOT KNOW which I pick, too. (And, I also sort of wish I''d never posted the ones I like, but hey, other people found them for me!

) I''m sure it''ll work out where I get the best when the time comes, though.

Wow, six weeks apart. Geesh. That''s rough. I go into withdrawls after we have to skip a weekend.

By the way, I''m glad my posts have helped you with your guy; we''re not trying to be difficult, we just want to be "the man" and do this our way, for your total enjoyment. It''s all worth it when you see your girl smile and get all taken away with the wonder and excitement of it all.

Good luck, Anch... you''re a nice person! (And you''ve helped me a good bit, too!)

 

[anchor31]

Yeah, we''re 300 miles apart for 8 months a year since I left for college in January 2005. We see each other about every two months. I''ll be going to school in a local college next fall and he works in that city, so we should be able to see each other once or twice a week (finally!).

Thank you, your sweet. It really helps to see what''s going on on the other side of the fence, it''s so hard to see that especially since we''re long distance...

 

[nytemist]

Beautiful choices anchor!

The setting is almost like mine, only mine is slightly thinner in yellow gold. I love the look of solitaires.