Selfish friends?

[MishB]

Oh yes, and my sister is one of these people, she is incredibly self=absorbed. However we are very close so I can say to her 'I need this conversation to be about me and I need you to listen'. Most of the time though, I am happy to let her go as her life is much more dramatic and interesting than mine.

 

[Tuckins1]

I have a friend at work... We are very close-

we eat lunch together every day

, we hang out outside of work, etc... Every year I remember her birthday (get her a card, bring her cupcakes,etc..) but she never does anything for me. She doesn't even say happy birthday until someone else reminds her that it's my birthday. She complains about people being selfish and not helping others out, yet she exhibits the same behavior. I have come to realize that she is actually quite a selfish person, even though she portrays herself as otherwise. She acts hypocritically in many situations, and will act differently when around various different people. Do any of you have friends like this? How do you handle it? Do you mention something? Point out their hypocrisy? Ignore it? Stop hanging out with them? Let me hear your stories...

BTW- the birthday example is just one of many- it's just on my mind because my b-day is coming up...

yeah,i have one of those friends.a group of 4 of us go out for lunch everyday and this guy never pick the lunch tab. if i had his money i'll burn mine.today he had at least $15K in cash (yes,$15,000) in his pocket,but still wouldn't pick up a $20 lunch tab.

Speaking of lunch- when we have conferences, professional development, or any other day where we have a group lunch, I ALWAYS am the one to order the food and go out and pick it up. I put it all on my card (if people don't have cash) and they all pay me back- she has owed me $12 for a month! She has cash, but just forgets to give it to me. This is another example of not thinking of others... When I borrow a dollar for the vending machine, I pay it back ASAP! It does not slip my mind!!