Setting Choice Feedback

[tberube]

It is most certainly not everyone''s style. And a basic solitaire isn''t everyone''s style either. Then again, neither is my ring - but I still love-love-love it. Not everyone dares to be different like us!

It''s your ring, you''ll be wearing it for a very long time - you better like it, right? And you say you do love it - so what else matters? On the other hand, if you need opinions about the ring because you''re doubtful yourself, then that''s a different story. Bottom line, finding the right setting (the most important part for me) is similar to finding the right man, or the right wedding dress - it takes your breath away and you know right away.

Enjoy your ring, and be confident with your choice. It''s yours.

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/2/2007 1:18:15 PM
Author: tberube
It is most certainly not everyone''s style. And a basic solitaire isn''t everyone''s style either. Then again, neither is my ring - but I still love-love-love it. Not everyone dares to be different like us!

It''s your ring, you''ll be wearing it for a very long time - you better like it, right? And you say you do love it - so what else matters? On the other hand, if you need opinions about the ring because you''re doubtful yourself, then that''s a different story. Bottom line, finding the right setting (the most important part for me) is similar to finding the right man, or the right wedding dress - it takes your breath away and you know right away.

Enjoy your ring, and be confident with your choice. It''s yours.

Thanks taking the time to share your thoughts and encouragement, tberube!

It''s the doubt that has been creeping in that is the killer. Once I actually have my ring and have a chance to assess it and admire it in real life, I will update everyone. If I didn''t have this niggling doubt likely brought about by separation anxiety

, someone else''s response/reaction to my ring would not stick with me like this.

I''m pulling up my boots and getting over it ... that is if I don''t drive myself insane waiting to actually see it. I''ll have to channel my energy into something more useful. I should also probably lay off the PS addiction, cause it''s probably not helping seeing everyone else''s beauteous bling and not being able to play ... Who am I kidding? Not seeing all these baubles would probably do me in.

 

[BigDiamonds]

Date: 12/1/2007 8:30:38 PM
Author: Sparkalicious
The store I was dealing with ordered the ring in for me to take a look and I actually cried when I saw it because it was so beautiful. The yellow gold filigree didn''t look so ''weird'' ... The visceral response to it made us decide to go with it b/c there was just too many ''possibles'' to choose from ...

Sparky, that says it all. It''s obviously meant to be yours!

It''s not my taste exactly, but if I saw it on someone else''s finger I would immediately notice that it''s unmistakably designer and very high quality. It just looks classy! I often find that putting a ring on someone''s finger changes my perception of the setting because now I look at it in the context of that person and their personality.

I''m sure it will be absolutely gorgeous and your coworkers will be stunned! (Into silence, hopefully

)

 

[milton333]

Spark, don''t doubt yourself now, if you saw it in person and loved it, that''s what matters. Personally, I really love the look of Verragio settings. Lots of my friends/family think the pictures of Verragios are way over the top ("gaudy monstrosity" was something I heard). In person, though, they look very delicate and feminine, intricate and classy. Same for, say, Tacori, which a lot of people think have just too much going on. It''s a matter of personal taste, and a 10" version of it on your computer screen is nothing like a real-size version on your finger. Also, all of those diamonds will sparkle fiercely in real life, which adds another dimension to the setting which cannot be captured in a picture.

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/2/2007 3:20:05 PM
Author: BigDiamonds
It''s not my taste exactly, but if I saw it on someone else''s finger I would immediately notice that it''s unmistakably designer and very high quality. It just looks classy! I often find that putting a ring on someone''s finger changes my perception of the setting because now I look at it in the context of that person and their personality.

I''m sure it will be absolutely gorgeous and your coworkers will be stunned! (Into silence, hopefully

)

BD - You are fantastic! Thanks.

It''s true. Seeing a ring on a well-suited finger completely changes perspective. Thanks for your encouragement, honesty, kind words and for taking the time to respond!

I hope it will be gorgeous too ... I just can''t wait to see it, especially with my deliciously lovely diamond sitting pretty in it.

As to my coworkers, I will not be saying anything to them. Whenever I get it, if they notice it and would like to comment, great. If not, it will be my little, lovely, divalicious secret.

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/2/2007 3:37:29 PM
Author: milton333
Spark, don''t doubt yourself now, if you saw it in person and loved it, that''s what matters. Personally, I really love the look of Verragio settings. Lots of my friends/family think the pictures of Verragios are way over the top (''gaudy monstrosity'' was something I heard). In person, though, they look very delicate and feminine, intricate and classy. Same for, say, Tacori, which a lot of people think have just too much going on. It''s a matter of personal taste, and a 10'' version of it on your computer screen is nothing like a real-size version on your finger. Also, all of those diamonds will sparkle fiercely in real life, which adds another dimension to the setting which cannot be captured in a picture.

Milton! AAAH hahahahah. I cannot stop laughing. You are too funny.

Thanks for making me laugh!! I know exactly what you mean.

If it helps any coming from me, the prospective owner of an apparently "gaudy monstrosity" ... I love Verragio and Tacori settings. I have seen many of them in real life, some I prefer more than others, however, I concur with you. They can be exquisite - delicate, feminine, intricate, classy & with just enough bling to make a girl drool.

Why be boring?!

Embrace your newly discovered

"garishness"

, my efriend, and get your honey something you will both love. I have no doubt that if it is a Verragio or Tacori creation, that those who so unabashedly shared their unconstructive feedback will eat their words -- better yet, they''ll likely be scrambling to get on the internet and asking for your advice on finding an ering to compete with the masterpiece you made your own!

Have you decided on anything further yet?

 

[Deelight]

Glad I could make you laugh

On the computer screen everything is so much bugger and chunkier then IRL take the legacy for example on screen I was like MEH

saw it IRL and I was like awww pitter patter completely different ring

and as for the cheapo nasty flea market looking one don''t even bother comparing it it is exactly that a cheapo flea market looking repo.

Just keep thinking on how you felt when you first realised that was the ring for you and hold onto that thought the ring is gorgeous you have nothing to worry about.

 

[Skippy123]

I thought the Harry Winston Halo cushion was going to be clunky and then in real life it was sooooo delicate.

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/3/2007 12:13:37 AM
Author: Skippy123
I thought the Harry Winston Halo cushion was going to be clunky and then in real life it was sooooo delicate.

Thanks Skippy! You''re a doll

.. I appreciate the reassurance.

 

[Sharon101]

Date: 12/2/2007 1:14:16 PM
Author: Sparkalicious

Date: 12/2/2007 3:54:21 AM
Author: Sharon101
I must admit its not my style for myself but I do enjoy seeing variety in rings on others. The way I see it, if you love it, and it has meaning and beauty to you, then you will wear it well and get lots of pleasure from it.

The other thing is, you can always change the setting down the track `if` your tastes change with age and time! You could even get the gold bits rhodeum plated if the gold bothered you down the track.

Sharon, thanks for taking the time to respond and share your opinion! I appreciate it!

Since I''ve been working myself up about this setting, even though I saw it for a long time before we decided to get it and loved it

, my bf and I have come to your conclusion. We can absolutely make the choice to change it if it is not what we dreamed about. This feels much more empowering than feeling as though I will be stuck with something that doesn''t exactly manifest itself the way it was initially displayed. I will be disappointed, actually very disappointed, if this is the case, however, it will just be back to square one and some more

to better establish what my ''forever'' ring will be. Sounds kind of flippant but it is something that will weigh heavy on my heart.

Thanks for your suggestions and thoughts!!

Spark, your attitude is great, and you are in a good place. With your co workers, I think your ring probably doesnt look as good in photos as it would irl. i think irl it would look more delicate and sparkly. But the photo doesnt do it justice. This is the same with a lot of jewellery.

Also, `you` will be part of the package of how your ring looks. You with all your unique attributes will color how people see your ring and its ultimate beauty.

FWIW, my look would not work with that ring, so this colors my perseption of it as a choice for me eg (I have a lot going on with curly hair etc, so try to avoid curly accessories!!!!). But someone with much different looks could carry it off to a tee!!!!

And dont forget you will have your beautiful kick ass diamond in there just daring anybody to not like the whole deal!!!!

I think its good not to always have the same as others, not to play it safe....its more fun, hey!!!!

And finally, I understand how what you subsequently saw has made you doubt yourself and forget the original quality and beauty of what you chose. Your mind is playing tricks with you. I say relax, your designer does great work, that is for sure. And he does specialise in your look, which Im guessing is beautiful irl, or he would not be in business for so long in such a cut throat industry!!!!

 

[samii]

Sparky - I think if you love your ring that is all that matters. Sometimes we can get too caught up in what other people think, or whether our''s is better than their''s.

I personally went through just that this week. My future sister in law has a killer of a rock on her finger that is in a style that I loved, but I was so conscious that I couldn''t have something like it as she is the type to say I had copied her. I love the Simon G settings, and think yours is beautiful, the detail and the artwork on it is something you will admire forever.

In the end I went for something that when I put it on my finger, I loved and could imagine wearing for the rest of my life - and that is all I care about, not whether it is the best design, the blingiest or the most expensive.

People will always make comments on beautiful rings - some will be compliments, some will be out of jealousy and some will be because they just don''t appreciate a quality ring... enjoy yours and anyone that doesn''t say something positive ignore knowing that others here think it is amazing and will look fabulous.

 

[ringster]

i agree with the other posters sparky - if you love it that is all that matters. and if you cried when you saw it then dang it you must really really love it.

also, pictures look very different than when you actually see it in person and even when you see it in person it will look different on your finger than another person''s. even my ring looked totally different on me once it had been sized to fit me.

just pick something you love and remember how much you love it and prepare yourself with this love cause there will always be some people who won''t like it or will be non-plus

 

[Jenna51580gr]

Sparkalicious I really like the setting, it''s definately not typical. But you have to love

it and live it. If you really love

it than don''t worry about what your co-workers said. I lke that fact there is white gold and yellow gold in the ring. Now you can wear all your jewerly together.

 

[Efe]

I absolutely love Simon G. I have two rings, both are bands, and they are works of art. For some reason, pictures of Simon G rings never seem to do them justice. While they can look chunky in the picture, they are delicate and yet substantial in real life. I personally love your setting and I think you will be thrilled with it.

 

[Loves Vintage]

Hi Sparkalicious!! You''ve gotten some great advice already. Yet again, I am just like you!! I would feel exactly the same way. I know I have my own taste and that I will get what I want regardless of what others think, yet I would still be "thrown" by others lack of interest in my ring. You obviously love your ring and might be going through a little SA as you pointed out. Once you have your ring though, you will be less affected by others comments or lack thereof. If, it was a ring that you did not truly love, that you were getting, for example, to make someone else happy, then I bet you would be affected by your co-worker''s lack of interest in your ring, because you would have some level of self-doubt, that would be triggered by their lack of interest. It is your ring though. You love it. When you have it, you will love it even more, and comments or not from others will be totally irrelevant!!

 

[Gypsy]

I think it''s lovely. I really do.

Go for it hon. You have to love it. That''s ALL that''s important!

 

[joflier]

I really like it! Its got a chunky look that I like, (which I think makes the fingers look slimmer too) Its not everyone cup of tea, but that''s a good thing! Take pride in being different and having a ring unlike anyone else!

 

[risingsun]

I must say it bothers me when others say "it's not my style, but if you love it etc..." We each have our own style and don't need each other's approval. You have chosen a ring which speaks to you and I think that's wonderful!! Enjoy that beauty and remember to take lots of pics

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/3/2007 1:12:17 AM
Author: samii
Sparky - I think if you love your ring that is all that matters. Sometimes we can get too caught up in what other people think, or whether our''s is better than their''s.

I personally went through just that this week. My future sister in law has a killer of a rock on her finger that is in a style that I loved, but I was so conscious that I couldn''t have something like it as she is the type to say I had copied her. I love the Simon G settings, and think yours is beautiful, the detail and the artwork on it is something you will admire forever.

In the end I went for something that when I put it on my finger, I loved and could imagine wearing for the rest of my life - and that is all I care about, not whether it is the best design, the blingiest or the most expensive.

People will always make comments on beautiful rings - some will be compliments, some will be out of jealousy and some will be because they just don''t appreciate a quality ring... enjoy yours and anyone that doesn''t say something positive ignore knowing that others here think it is amazing and will look fabulous.

Samii, thanks for your response!

I''m sorry your sister in law behavior would make you feel that way but I am SO happy for you that you have found something that you love and that makes you happy and that is SO incredibly beautiful! I love your setting!

I bet your sister in law will eat her heart out when she sees that baby!

I really appreciate your positive comments about my setting. I am really excited and looking forward to getting it. I think that how I am feeling is how someone might feel when they get "cold feet", dare I say it?

I think that I am just being silly but it was bothering me that I was so I wanted to share how I felt and the support, regardless of whether PSers like the ring or not, has been fantastic.

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/3/2007 2:39:23 AM
Author: ringster
i agree with the other posters sparky - if you love it that is all that matters. and if you cried when you saw it then dang it you must really really love it.

also, pictures look very different than when you actually see it in person and even when you see it in person it will look different on your finger than another person''s. even my ring looked totally different on me once it had been sized to fit me.

just pick something you love and remember how much you love it and prepare yourself with this love cause there will always be some people who won''t like it or will be non-plus

Ringster, that''s great advice. Thanks for taking the time to share!

You''re right ... As they say, you can''t please all the people all the time ... Besides, it''s not as much fun to please everyone all the time now, is it?

When I see it on my finger and love it, it won''t really be a concern if someone else isn''t as taken with it.

 

[Julianna]

Everyone probably said this already, but...I''m pretty sure you''re going to be the one wearing the ring. Just like we always lecture guys on choosing what their girlfriends said they''d prefer, not what they themselves like. The same goes for you: get what you love, swoon over it, and to heck with everyone else.

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/3/2007 12:49:43 AM
Author: Sharon101

Also, `you` will be part of the package of how your ring looks. You with all your unique attributes will color how people see your ring and its ultimate beauty.

FWIW, my look would not work with that ring, so this colors my perseption of it as a choice for me eg (I have a lot going on with curly hair etc, so try to avoid curly accessories!!!!). But someone with much different looks could carry it off to a tee!!!!

And dont forget you will have your beautiful kick ass diamond in there just daring anybody to not like the whole deal!!!!

I think its good not to always have the same as others, not to play it safe....its more fun, hey!!!!

And finally, I understand how what you subsequently saw has made you doubt yourself and forget the original quality and beauty of what you chose. Your mind is playing tricks with you. I say relax, your designer does great work, that is for sure. And he does specialise in your look, which Im guessing is beautiful irl, or he would not be in business for so long in such a cut throat industry!!!!

Thanks again, Sharon!

You know what''s funny? I have lots and lots of curly hair and a big personality to go with it too! I read your comment about you having curly hair and laughed b/c I know exactly what you are talking about but ... it works for me.

I think you''ve captured the essence of the setting dilemma. I''ve started to doubt myself because my mind is playing tricks on me ... who''s wouldn''t with all this *bleeping* bling around??! chuckle.

I appreciate your interest and kind words and can''t wait to show you pics, if I ever get it.

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/3/2007 7:59:25 AM
Author: Jenna51580gr
Sparkalicious I really like the setting, it''s definately not typical. But you have to love

it and live it. If you really love

it than don''t worry about what your co-workers said. I lke that fact there is white gold and yellow gold in the ring. Now you can wear all your jewerly together.

Jenna! Thanks! I am SO excited that you like it! It''s great, isn''t it? I just love the split shank with the princess cut channel underneath the diamond. When you look down on it, it is spectacular

I am a yellow gold girl! I love yellow gold and have bracelets, a gold peridot & diamond ring and earrings that I wear regularly in yellow gold, so initially I wanted a yellow gold ring, however, it just didn''t seem to be working out since everything nowadays seems to be in white gold or platinum and looks good that way. I thought that this ring was the perfect compromise so that I wouldn''t look totally tack when I am wearing my other jewelry.

Thanks a lot for reading and responding! I appreciate it!

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/3/2007 9:23:03 AM
Author: BizouMom
I absolutely love Simon G. I have two rings, both are bands, and they are works of art. For some reason, pictures of Simon G rings never seem to do them justice. While they can look chunky in the picture, they are delicate and yet substantial in real life. I personally love your setting and I think you will be thrilled with it.

Bizou Mom - I''m glad that you adore your rings and I''m sure that they are fabulous!

Thanks for the reassurance ... I love your description "delicate and substantial" ... That''s exactly what I was looking for ... I will definitely keep you updated! I can''t wait to be thrilled!!

Do you have any pics of your beauties?

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/3/2007 12:11:12 PM
Author: Loves Vintage
Hi Sparkalicious!! You''ve gotten some great advice already. Yet again, I am just like you!! I would feel exactly the same way. I know I have my own taste and that I will get what I want regardless of what others think, yet I would still be ''thrown'' by others lack of interest in my ring. You obviously love your ring and might be going through a little SA as you pointed out. Once you have your ring though, you will be less affected by others comments or lack thereof. If, it was a ring that you did not truly love, that you were getting, for example, to make someone else happy, then I bet you would be affected by your co-worker''s lack of interest in your ring, because you would have some level of self-doubt, that would be triggered by their lack of interest. It is your ring though. You love it. When you have it, you will love it even more, and comments or not from others will be totally irrelevant!!

Hi Loves Vintage, my fellow split shank lover!!

It''s nice to hear from you! I''ve been dying for an update about how things have been going with your search.

Everyone has been so encouraging and I can''t help but start feeling really, really excited about it. This is just what I needed - some positive energy! I am going to see the jeweler this weekend and maybe, just maybe, it will be ready and she will let me sneak a peek

... fingers crossed anyways. I will let you know.

Thanks for reading and taking the time to respond. It has really helped lift my spirits!

When you have a chance, please send an update about your progress ... I''ve been waiting and wondering ... I hope all is well!

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/3/2007 12:39:32 PM
Author: Gypsy
I think it''s lovely. I really do.

Go for it hon. You have to love it. That''s ALL that''s important!

Yay Gypsy!

Thanks so much for the encouragement!!

I don''t think I can help but love it now ... All you gals are so great that I can barely contain my excitement!!!

I''ve been so all over the place lately with my new found boundless excitement my bf is going to be like

Poor guy. I''m sure he can''t wait until this is all over.

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/3/2007 12:43:42 PM
Author: joflier
I really like it! Its got a chunky look that I like, (which I think makes the fingers look slimmer too) Its not everyone cup of tea, but that''s a good thing! Take pride in being different and having a ring unlike anyone else!

Thanks a lot Joflier! I''m glad you like it and I appreciate you taking the time to let me know ...

I think that you are right ... my little paws, much to my chagrin, are not as dainty as many other PS ladies, therefore, this style will probably be much more complimentary to me than their selections would be and vice versa.

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/3/2007 1:26:28 PM
Author: risingsun
I must say it bothers me when others say ''it''s not my style, but if you love it etc...'' We each have our own style and don''t need each other''s approval. You have chosen a ring which speaks to you and I think that''s wonderful!! Enjoy that beauty and remember to take lots of pics

Rising sun - thanks for your support.

We do each have our own style that''s why I was a little bit hesitant about voicing my concerns b/c I didn''t want people to feel as though I was seeking approval. It doesn''t much make sense to me to seek approval from others when it comes to something that will, ultimately, have nothing to do with them. I was feeling emotional and unsure about this significant purchase and wanted to vent my apprehension. I am so happy that I did b/c I am even more excited now than I was before.

I''m glad that you didn''t take it that way and that you were so kind as to respond and offer encouragment.

I will be sure to take lots of pics ... and, post them, if I can ever figure the wretched system out.

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 12/3/2007 1:54:28 PM
Author: Julianna
Everyone probably said this already, but...I''m pretty sure you''re going to be the one wearing the ring. Just like we always lecture guys on choosing what their girlfriends said they''d prefer, not what they themselves like. The same goes for you: get what you love, swoon over it, and to heck with everyone else.

Julianna - what a sweet response ... Thank you!

I never thought about it that way, but its true. Guys must even have a harder time if they are doing it by themselves b/c they have to put their personal tastes aside and really focus in on the girls needs or else they may well be setting themselves us for disappointment.

I''m sure I will swoon about it and drool about it and all that good stuff. I think I just needed to work out a few kinks in order to get reinvigorated and refresh my excitement.

You ladies are terrific! Thanks so much for reading and responding!

 

[FireGoddess]

It really doesn''t matter whether or not anyone else likes the ring, because you will be the one wearing it. There will always be people that love it, and people that don''t...that''s why the variety exists, because different people have different tastes.

I sometimes find that the same people who think something is ''too much'' online...have a very different feeling when it''s sparkling in their face!!!

But even if not, in the end, it doesn''t really matter, does it?