Linda W
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Date: 8/12/2008 5:01:29 PM
Author: TravelingGal
Date: 8/12/2008 4:28:45 PM
Author: decodelighted
Date: 8/12/2008 4:17:55 PM
Author: CrookedRock
I would prefer to have something that I know he worked hard for and wanted to give me, than something I had to buy myself to make the appearance of the engagement more real. Even if that meant a chip from a mall store, or whatever it may be, at least I know he gave it to me to represent the bigger picture: the promise...
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Phooey. Who in the world said anything about THAT sentiment?? An engagement appearing ''more real'' with a bigger ring?? WHAT?? And ''had'' to buy for oneself if quite different than CHOOSING to buy or contribute. Ugh. Old fashioned isn''t the term I''d use for these attitudes.![]()
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To the OP -- personally, I''d be comfortable with up to 50% contribution. And I understand wanting a ring in line with *both* of your means rather than his alone (as he''s still in school). Good luck with your decision & upcoming engagement! Exciting!!
Agree.
I see engagement as two people mutually deciding to marry one another. The ring was not important to me and I didn''t care to get it as a ''gift''. However, it was important to my husband that he propose with a ring. Then to which I replied...OK, if you *have* to get me a ring, then I would like it to be one that I would actually wear every day. We talked about what that would be, and he told me his budget, and then I asked if could put in x amount and get the ring I wanted.
So I have no problem with paying for part of it. For TGuy and me, it was a good, rational discussion...a tool you''ll find will take you far in marriage.![]()
Double Ditto TGal: Although my DH proposed without a ring, he just said "We are getting married and that''s it", he wanted me to have a ring I really wanted. I contributed to it also. I also didn''t care to get it as a "gift", I do not believe in that, in fact I think it is silly. If both want to contribute to it, then do it. A ring is a ring, it is the marriage and love that is most important.