thank yous

[jcrow]

so we had our first couple''s shower this weekend and received a few gifts pre-wedding.
now that thank you cards come into play, i have a few questions.

do you send shower gift thank you cards pre-wedding? or do you wait till after the wedding?

i did read somewhere that the cash gifts should get a thank you note pre-wedding so they know it was received.


and if you send a pre-wedding thank you card, do you also send a post-wedding thank you card if the same person gives you a wedding gift too?

for instance, if you have 2 showers and get 2 shower gifts & a wedding gift from the same person, do you send 3 thank you cards or lump them into one after the wedding?

 

[Scintillating]

Send thank yous for your shower gifts immediately, within 2 weeks.
You're really supposed to send out thank yous as you receive gifts, it tends to be easier. (Make a spreadsheet to keep track!)
You should send a thank you for the gifts you receive at each event, shower, wedding, etc.

What did you guys get?

Tell us about your shower.

Scintillating...

 

[decodelighted]

I sent thank yous for shower gifts right afterwards ... within the week. We DIDN''T, however, send thank you notes for the few pre-wedding checks we received (though I guess we should have ... EEK). For those folks, who mostly weren''t able to attend the wedding, we were hoping to send our "printed" thank you cards (that matched our invites) ALONG with a "Thank Y''all" picture our wedding photographer took on the Big Day. Not sure when we''re getting those pix back ... so not sure if we can wait long enough ... but I hope so!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I sent shower thank yous right away. I think shower gifts are different than wedding so they each deserve their own.

 

[jcrow]

can they be the same card design as the wedding thank yous?

 

[jcrow]

oh, and for the thank yous, are the envelopes addresses as formally as the invites were? if we used mr. and mrs. john smith for the invites, would we do the same for thank yous, or are those more personal?

 

[decodelighted]

Date: 10/17/2006 3:37:06 PM
Author: jcrow
can they be the same card design as the wedding thank yous?

I used much more casual "thank yous" for shower gifts ... kind of girly & kitchy rather than "formal". Just bought them from Target, ya know!

It's no fun to get the same thank you card TWICE (IMHO) ... so, why not mix it up! I really don't think anyone will wonder why your shower thank yous don't "match"

What did the Shower INVITES look like??

 

[jcrow]

Date: 10/17/2006 2:21:04 PM
Author: Scintillating
Send thank yous for your shower gifts immediately, within 2 weeks.
You''re really supposed to send out thank yous as you receive gifts, it tends to be easier. (Make a spreadsheet to keep track!)
You should send a thank you for the gifts you receive at each event, shower, wedding, etc.

What did you guys get?

Tell us about your shower.

Scintillating...

well we got lots of china/flatware/drinkware from our registries, and we also got a couple of SURPRISES!

here’s one gift we received. The note said “Wishing you a rosy future.” It may be hard to tell in the pics, but it’s two roses made out of money- hand made by the sender (also known as cousin of the bride and wedding thrower).

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I bought mine at Target too Deco! I think they are more casual (for a shower). I addressed them, First, Last name also only to the females. Those money roses are so cute!

 

[jcrow]

Frick, i didn''t think i''d need 2 thank you cards......................... i''ve already sent 4 out. hum... need to go to target asap.

 

[jcrow]

the shower was saturday, but FI''s family came in friday afternoon. after work friday, i came home to this flat screened baby sittin'' pretty in the living room!! it''s from FI''s brother & SIL. WOW! again, not on registry.

 

[jcrow]

and the best part- besides that we''re mounting it on the wall?? SPLIT screen for all those crappy games he sometimes plays!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Some people actually got three (if they went to both of my showers and my wedding) PLUS we gave thank yous to the wedding party and our parents at the RD so I bought quite a few different designs. My MIL''s friends threw my Ohio one so I hand painted their thank you cards (and gave it to them at the shower along with a small gift) and sent the Target one for the present they gave me after the shower. Luckily they are cheap and cute at Target. Stock up on stamps too

 

[jcrow]

shower invites were cute. i''ll have to post them when i get home. my MOH is a graphic designer- which is how we met- so she did some fab. invites! they had a pocket to hold the registry cards.

 

[jcrow]

ok- i''ll go to target after work and pray there are some cute ones there. i''ll have 1 shower and together we have 2. so i guess one pattern for all 3 showers will be fine and my wedding thank yous that match the invites for the actual wedding gifts.

is it ok to send out thank yous for the wedding gifts we''re receiving prior to the wedding?

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I am sure it is. Unless they sent the wedding gift VERY far in advance I just waited so they could get the more formal thank you (with our wedding picture). For the very early gift givers I just sent a target one so I wouldn''t forget.

 

[ChargerGrrl]

We didn't have a couples shower, but this is what we did:

- sent shower invites that were more "bride-y" for gifts from my shower (and the one my work threw for me). I got the cards thru ebay, and it featured a hand-drawn pic of a bridal gown with the words THANK YOU underneath.
- sent pre-wedding present Thank You cards as those gifts came in. There were only a handful (no cash gifts). We used our "formal" Thank You cards, which featured our monogram on ivory notecards. I had a friend of a friend print those out for me.
- i'm currently working on sending out thank yous for the gifts we recieved at the wedding. We're using the cards I described above and not waiting for pics.

Hope this helps!

BTW- cool TV. You guys must be stoked!

 

[Clarygrace]

I agree, informal fun, pretty thank you''s are the way to go for the shower!

Love the TV, your FI''s bro and SIL are very generous! Guess he knows is brother well (boys will be boys....)

Enjoy!

 

[jcrow]

thanks everyone, i just got some cute shower ones at target. yeaaa!!!

i''ll send early wedding gift givers the wedding thank you cards. the shower gift givers will receive the cute target cards.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Sounds like a good plan! I was impressed with Target''s cards/stationary/gift bags....they have some really great designs.

 

[appletini]

I sent thank you''s for gifts as received, plus this is also lets the sender know that you did receive the gift if it was shipped. I had some cute stationary with both our names that I used for couples shower. And I had some stationary with my maiden name that I used for girls only showers and any wedding gifts received before the wedding. I had some stationary made with my married monogram that I used for gifts received after the wedding. The most important thing is that you write thank you''s in a timely manner. Also since we didnt leave for the honeymoon until a few days later, I wrote thank yous on the plane for any gifts that were brought to the wedding. You might want to make a habit of writing thank you''s once a week for gifts received so they don''t pile up.