rhbgirl24
Ideal_Rock
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Thanks for the dust everyone. I''m not really sure what is going to happen if we do not get this house. More than likely we will give up the hunt for now.
vent now.....
This, for some reason, is causing quite a lot of tension between DH and I. I believe he has an unrealistic view of what houses cost and therefore doesn''t think anything is worth the money. I''ve been in the business 11+ years and KNOW that houses are severely under priced right now - which means they are worth MORE. He just doesn''t see that. It causes a lot of fights, a lot of broken dreams, and many sleepless nights. I really can''t believe what all the stress of this is doing to us. Anyone been there?
The house we put an offer on is grossly under priced, its a foreclosure and its like 80K under what it would sell if an owner were selling it, even in this market. We''re also in a fairly expensive market - price and tax wise. This is the ONLY house out of 30+ that we''ve seen that DH even thinks is worth the money. I think this is because this house is only 5 years old, and needs no work. He is very good with his hands, can do pretty much anything needed in a house, but as soon as he sees even the littlest bit of work he thinks it isn''t worth it. I, on the other hand, really don''t care if we have to remodel a bathroom for example. I see a house as an investment. He sees it as something to be perfect when you move in (besides paint colors and whatnot), or he won''t go for it if it isn''t.
I''m not saying I don''t see what he is saying, I''m just saying that for our price point, even in this market, that really isn''t going to happen. I wish it was the way he hopes, but that just isn''t the way it is. I think maybe I just need to come to terms that right now, if this house doesn''t come through, that maybe it isn''t the time for us to buy a home.....
Sorry for the vent everyone. I''m just lost at this moment and working on less than 2 hours sleep. DH and I dont fight like this often, and in this he is just shutting down, really doesn''t listen to what I''m saying. And even after 13 years together, I guess I dont know how to handle that. But thank you for listening.... and if anyone has been there, please please chime in.
vent now.....
This, for some reason, is causing quite a lot of tension between DH and I. I believe he has an unrealistic view of what houses cost and therefore doesn''t think anything is worth the money. I''ve been in the business 11+ years and KNOW that houses are severely under priced right now - which means they are worth MORE. He just doesn''t see that. It causes a lot of fights, a lot of broken dreams, and many sleepless nights. I really can''t believe what all the stress of this is doing to us. Anyone been there?
The house we put an offer on is grossly under priced, its a foreclosure and its like 80K under what it would sell if an owner were selling it, even in this market. We''re also in a fairly expensive market - price and tax wise. This is the ONLY house out of 30+ that we''ve seen that DH even thinks is worth the money. I think this is because this house is only 5 years old, and needs no work. He is very good with his hands, can do pretty much anything needed in a house, but as soon as he sees even the littlest bit of work he thinks it isn''t worth it. I, on the other hand, really don''t care if we have to remodel a bathroom for example. I see a house as an investment. He sees it as something to be perfect when you move in (besides paint colors and whatnot), or he won''t go for it if it isn''t.
I''m not saying I don''t see what he is saying, I''m just saying that for our price point, even in this market, that really isn''t going to happen. I wish it was the way he hopes, but that just isn''t the way it is. I think maybe I just need to come to terms that right now, if this house doesn''t come through, that maybe it isn''t the time for us to buy a home.....
Sorry for the vent everyone. I''m just lost at this moment and working on less than 2 hours sleep. DH and I dont fight like this often, and in this he is just shutting down, really doesn''t listen to what I''m saying. And even after 13 years together, I guess I dont know how to handle that. But thank you for listening.... and if anyone has been there, please please chime in.