The June LIW Small Talk Thread

[Bia]

Dream, I didn't read the entire thread, but based on what you said here, I'll bet it's some of the same stuff you've dealt with in the past. I really like you Dream, I think you're a really sweet person. BUT, as far as PS goes, I think at some point you have to realize that because you're dealing with so many different people, different personalities, perspectives and priorities, you're going to have disagreeing viewpoints. You shouldn't internalize this sort of stuff girl. It's a diamond forum for goodness sake...meaning, it's not THAT SERIOUS!

If you feel like people are ganging up on you, don't let them. If you like shopping at Tiffany's then good for you! If someone doesn't like it, oh well, oh well. You shouldn't care. HOWEVER, if you're asking for opinions, then be prepared to get them. And lashing out because you're getting what you asked for, is not the wisest thing to do...especially with people who don't know you very well.

Keep your chin up hon...and move on. My advice? Stop regurgitating the same theme over and over--it's boring. I think you're a valuable member of this community, especially LIW, so stick around and have fun!

 

[princesss]

I detest painting right now. I''m covered in it. I went all control freaky and mean on BF. I have to touch up all the bloody mistakes. But it will make my sister happy, so I did it.

I''m going to bed. Night, all!

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 6/22/2009 11:43:06 PM
Author: princesss
I detest painting right now. I''m covered in it. I went all control freaky and mean on BF. I have to touch up all the bloody mistakes. But it will make my sister happy, so I did it.

I''m going to bed. Night, all!

Hahaha. Story of my life!

Morning y''all!

 

[princesss]

Date: 6/23/2009 8:44:38 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 6/22/2009 11:43:06 PM
Author: princesss
I detest painting right now. I''m covered in it. I went all control freaky and mean on BF. I have to touch up all the bloody mistakes. But it will make my sister happy, so I did it.

I''m going to bed. Night, all!

Hahaha. Story of my life!

Morning y''all!

Yeah, I feel awful about it. He was trying to help and I snapped at him. I freaked out because he wasn''t doing something just right, and if it were just me and my apartment I wouldn''t care. But this is my dad''s house and he''s a perfectionist and I''m the one that''s going to have to deal with him if it''s not juuuuuust right. So I freaked. I really need to work on this.

Have you ever felt like it''s a miracle your SO loves you? I think it is a miracle, because I was definitely unloveable last night, and he forgave me and loves me anyways.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 6/23/2009 9:31:47 AM
Author: princesss

Date: 6/23/2009 8:44:38 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 6/22/2009 11:43:06 PM
Author: princesss
I detest painting right now. I''m covered in it. I went all control freaky and mean on BF. I have to touch up all the bloody mistakes. But it will make my sister happy, so I did it.

I''m going to bed. Night, all!

Hahaha. Story of my life!

Morning y''all!

Yeah, I feel awful about it. He was trying to help and I snapped at him. I freaked out because he wasn''t doing something just right, and if it were just me and my apartment I wouldn''t care. But this is my dad''s house and he''s a perfectionist and I''m the one that''s going to have to deal with him if it''s not juuuuuust right. So I freaked. I really need to work on this.

Have you ever felt like it''s a miracle your SO loves you? I think it is a miracle, because I was definitely unloveable last night, and he forgave me and loves me anyways.

Yeah... I''m the same way. I expect thing to be done a certain way, if they''re not, I can get snippy. I have to leave the room when I''ve delegated something to FI, because otherwise I nitpick how he does things. I need to stop.

Which leads me to my next point.. yes... it is a miracle he loves me. I can be crazy sometimes... ok... a lot of times. I have some serious self-esteem issues that drive him absolutely insane, but he loves me and helps me through them. I''m lucky.

 

[elation]

Hello

I''ve never been in the small talk thread before.

But just what you were saying princesss - about a miracle that your SO loves you so much. It made me think about something I was debating with my friends the other day. Do you think in every relationship there is always one person who loves the other person more?

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 6/23/2009 9:37:34 AM
Author: elation
Hello

I''ve never been in the small talk thread before.

But just what you were saying princesss - about a miracle that your SO loves you so much. It made me think about something I was debating with my friends the other day. Do you think in every relationship there is always one person who loves the other person more?

Welcome, elation!

 

[Squirrly]

mornin! i fell asleep in my work clothes with my hair still up. i''m all sorts of hot messes right now. this will be the new hairstyle, i''m telling you

as far as the one person loving another person more, M and i always end our calls/ims with an "i love you more, nope i love you the mostest" type of "argument" completely cheesy but it''s fun.

i''m sure there are relationships where one person loves the other person more, and i''ve been in a few of those, but those relationships at least in my experience don''t work out cause the other person isn''t fully into it. the ones that seem to work the best is where they both love each other more than anyone else, and more than anyone else loves the other person. it''s why i love that cheesy little argument so much. M loves me more than anyone else does and i love him more than anyone else does

 

[Bia]

morning everyone


Elle, I forgot to tell you, I ordered SIMS3 and should be getting it in the next day or two! Are ya with me or what?! Could be fun

Freke, I might need you to teach me the ropes

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 6/23/2009 10:01:47 AM
Author: Bia
morning everyone


Elle, I forgot to tell you, I ordered SIMS3 and should be getting it in the next day or two! Are ya with me or what?! Could be fun

Freke, I might need you to teach me the ropes

OH jeez... maybe....

 

[Bia]

Date: 6/23/2009 10:08:41 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 6/23/2009 10:01:47 AM
Author: Bia
morning everyone


Elle, I forgot to tell you, I ordered SIMS3 and should be getting it in the next day or two! Are ya with me or what?! Could be fun

Freke, I might need you to teach me the ropes

OH jeez... maybe....

you know you want to

hehehehe
(no pressure...ok a little bit...just kidding...tiny bit...

)

 

[Squirrly]

i wonder if you can make the haunted house in the new sims

 

[purselover]

Date: 6/23/2009 9:37:34 AM
Author: elation
Hello

I''ve never been in the small talk thread before.

But just what you were saying princesss - about a miracle that your SO loves you so much. It made me think about something I was debating with my friends the other day. Do you think in every relationship there is always one person who loves the other person more?

I do think that in relationships one person loves "more" and I think it goes back and forth sometimes one person loves more and sometimes it''s the other. If you ever read Mercy by Jodi Picioult this topic is a major part of the book.

 

[princesss]

Date: 6/23/2009 9:37:34 AM
Author: elation
Hello

I''ve never been in the small talk thread before.

But just what you were saying princesss - about a miracle that your SO loves you so much. It made me think about something I was debating with my friends the other day. Do you think in every relationship there is always one person who loves the other person more?

I think it changes over time. Sometimes I love him more, sometimes he loves me more. With everything in a relationship there''s an ebb and flow. I think I''m most aware of it when one of my flaws comes to the surface, and I''m so incredibly grateful that he''s willing to see past them. He recognizes they''re there, but he still wants to be with me. Amazing.

 

[CurlySue]

Good morning, small talkers.

Princesss, I think painting just makes people grumpy. BF and I primed the kitchen and all the wood we need for the door frames and baseboards... and I turned into a bit of a witch, and BF was driving me kind of batty. I don''t think it helped that we didn''t start until after 9 and it was about a zillion freaking degrees in the kitchen. We have to finish all the painting tonight. Here''s to hoping we both don''t end up in our cranky-pants again.

So... I don''t really know much about some of these games you all talk about... the Sims is like a virtual reality kind of thing, right? I can imagine that would get kind of addictive. So do you "play" with all sorts of different people all over the world? (I know - I''m totally clueless - I stick to simple things, like Guitar Hero.)

Re: the whole one-person-loving-the-other-person-more thing... I am not sure. I like to think things are balanced, but I guess it''s normal for things to fluctuate over time. I''d like to think that purselover''s take on it is accurate - that the balance shifts back and forth over the long haul and that there are longer periods of time where things are equal. Definitely an interesting topic to think about!

 

[Squirrly]

Date: 6/23/2009 10:35:17 AM
Author: CurlySue
Good morning, small talkers.

you know if you skim really quickly that comes out to be "good morning stalkers"

i will now giggle my way to some breakfast

 

[elation]

Date: 6/23/2009 9:39:30 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Welcome, elation!

Thanks

Anyway... I agree with this love balance thing, but I think I''m in one of those relationships where one person loves the other person more. And I''m not that person.
My parents don''t have the happiest marriage and I think I subconsciously learned that if you''re the one doing more loving, then you''re the one who''s going to get hurt.

Well, I''m not sure how to get out of that mindset. He''s been unwaveringly patient, but I don''t like that I feel like I''m holding me back.

Hey so purselover, what was Jodi Picioult''s conclusion?

Hmm.. Sims. Do all of you play with your SO/FIs?

 

[purselover]

Date: 6/23/2009 11:45:13 AM
Author: elation

Date: 6/23/2009 9:39:30 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Welcome, elation!

Thanks

Anyway... I agree with this love balance thing, but I think I''m in one of those relationships where one person loves the other person more. And I''m not that person.
My parents don''t have the happiest marriage and I think I subconsciously learned that if you''re the one doing more loving, then you''re the one who''s going to get hurt.

Well, I''m not sure how to get out of that mindset. He''s been unwaveringly patient, but I don''t like that I feel like I''m holding me back.

Hey so purselover, what was Jodi Picioult''s conclusion?

Hmm.. Sims. Do all of you play with your SO/FIs?

The conclusion I think was pretty much that the balance needs to shift around during the course of the relationship, it''s not fair if a relationship has 1 person who 100% of the time loves you more. I think the whole idea is really interesting, after reading the book I brought it up with SO and at first he didn''t really think that''s how relationships work, but then I pointed out different shifts in our own relationship. I think a lot of people automatically think things need to be equal to work or be healthy, but I think an imbalance is only natural.

 

[ladypirate]

Dear. God.

I am so ready for our house to be DONE! Or at least done enough to move in. Warning: vent ahead.

We had the walls upstairs retextured because they really needed it. Two of the rooms upstairs had wallpaper that had been painted over. We said that we would strip said wallpaper nearly a month ago because we both REALLY hate the look of painted over wallpaper and wanted to make sure that you couldn't see it through the new texture. The wall guys said that we shouldn't take it off because we wouldn't be able to tell it was there anyway and the wallpaper would cover any cracks in the plaster walls.

In one of the rooms (the guest bedroom) we insisted because the wallpaper was coming off on its own. We did that in a couple of hours maybe 2 or 3 weeks ago. The other bedroom (the master) the guy said was on there really securely and we shouldn't do anything to it.

Fast forward to last Thursday evening.

We went over to look at the new texture that they finished that day. Everything looked great until we got to the master bedroom. The wallpaper was bubbling under the new texture. We were livid. We called our general contractor who got the wall guy over the next morning at which point he assured me that they would fix it. We came back Friday night and while it looked better, it was by no means right.

This meant that we had to spend all weekend stripping wallpaper and it was WAY harder than it would have been if we had just done it in the first place because it had mudding and the new texture over it. Seriously. We started Saturday morning, worked all day Saturday, and then started again Sunday morning and didn't finish until 4 AM Monday morning. Between us and the friend that helped on Saturday, we probably spent 40 hours on it. Oh and we were also supposed to paint this weekend. Think that got done? We got one coat of primer up in half the space we were supposed to do. Now we will have to paint after the new floors are finished and PRAY that we don't get any drips on the brand new hardwood.

Did I mention we're also supposed to be moving this week?

If I haven't been around much, that's why. Sorry for the pity party--I'm just wiped out. I guess it really is a good thing I lost my job when I did! On the plus side, the texture now looks ok in the master bedroom, so at least it's done and it's right this time.

 

[Dreamgirl]

FF has an interview this afternoon!!!!!!!

Other than that I'd just like to say...It's a small talk thread and guess who originally created this? ME. Yeah, that's right. I created this thread for anyone and it was intended to talk about anything. Now suddenly there are RULES. Suddenly I can't discuss how I feel about anything. That figures.

And Freke- I don't know what it is you have against me. I've always been nice to you but you always must cause more problems for me. You don't need to place 5 million

responses to me. It's just flat out rude and I don't appreciate it one bit. BTW, you said "We all can do as we please" well then I can do as I please too..

 

[Dreamgirl]

Date: 6/22/2009 7:53:48 PM
Author: Bia
Stop regurgitating the same theme over and over--it''s boring.

Which part is that then?

 

[Bia]

Date: 6/23/2009 12:59:00 PM
Author: Dreamgirl

Date: 6/22/2009 7:53:48 PM
Author: Bia
Stop regurgitating the same theme over and over--it''s boring.

Which part is that then?

The part about you not being appreciated here. It''s not true

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 6/23/2009 12:57:39 PM
Author: Dreamgirl
FF has an interview this afternoon!!!!!!!


Other than that I''d just like to say...It''s a small talk thread and guess who originally created this? ME. Yeah, that''s right. I created this thread for anyone and it was intended to talk about anything. Now suddenly there are RULES. Suddenly I can''t discuss how I feel about anything. That figures.


And Freke- I don''t know what it is you have against me. I''ve always been nice to you but you always must cause more problems for me. You don''t need to place 5 million

responses to me. It''s just flat out rude and I don''t appreciate it one bit. BTW, you said ''We all can do as we please'' well then I can do as I please too..

DG, I swear it feels like you just don''t want to get it.

Freke does not create more problems for you. YOU create more problems for you.

If you can''t see why people are reacting to you the way that they do, I don''t know what else anyone can say.

The part you keep repeating is the part about everyone bullying you and being mean and you "just don''t understand"

People on PS have said it many times, in many ways, nice and mean. Its there for you to figure out.

 

[Dreamgirl]

I give up....I give up...

 

[Squirrly]

Date: 6/23/2009 12:52:52 PM
Author: ladypirate
Dear. God.


I am so ready for our house to be DONE! Or at least done enough to move in. Warning: vent ahead.


We had the walls upstairs retextured because they really needed it. Two of the rooms upstairs had wallpaper that had been painted over. We said that we would strip said wallpaper nearly a month ago because we both REALLY hate the look of painted over wallpaper and wanted to make sure that you couldn''t see it through the new texture. The wall guys said that we shouldn''t take it off because we wouldn''t be able to tell it was there anyway and the wallpaper would cover any cracks in the plaster walls.


In one of the rooms (the guest bedroom) we insisted because the wallpaper was coming off on its own. We did that in a couple of hours maybe 2 or 3 weeks ago. The other bedroom (the master) the guy said was on there really securely and we shouldn''t do anything to it.


Fast forward to last Thursday evening.

We went over to look at the new texture that they finished that day. Everything looked great until we got to the master bedroom. The wallpaper was bubbling under the new texture. We were livid. We called our general contractor who got the wall guy over the next morning at which point he assured me that they would fix it. We came back Friday night and while it looked better, it was by no means right.


This meant that we had to spend all weekend stripping wallpaper and it was WAY harder than it would have been if we had just done it in the first place because it had mudding and the new texture over it. Seriously. We started Saturday morning, worked all day Saturday, and then started again Sunday morning and didn''t finish until 4 AM Monday morning. Between us and the friend that helped on Saturday, we probably spent 40 hours on it. Oh and we were also supposed to paint this weekend. Think that got done? We got one coat of primer up in half the space we were supposed to do. Now we will have to paint after the new floors are finished and PRAY that we don''t get any drips on the brand new hardwood.

Did I mention we''re also supposed to be moving this week?


If I haven''t been around much, that''s why. Sorry for the pity party--I''m just wiped out. I guess it really is a good thing I lost my job when I did! On the plus side, the texture now looks ok in the master bedroom, so at least it''s done and it''s right this time.

that SUCKS. it seems that this is not a good week for walls and paint around here, but you really got the short end of the stick. glad they fixed it though, but i would''ve wanted them to peel off the cake-paper themselves!

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 6/23/2009 1:14:19 PM
Author: Dreamgirl
I give up....I give up...

Not everyone is out to get you. Im trying to help. Seriously. If you keep shutting people out when they say stuff you don''t want to hear, you won''t get it.

I wasn''t being mean, and still you don''t want to hear it. I don''t know what to say.

 

[Bia]

Dream, please consider what we're saying...you ought to know that we aren't trying to hurt you, we are trying to help.

 

[ladypirate]

Date: 6/23/2009 1:15:23 PM
Author: Squirrly

that SUCKS. it seems that this is not a good week for walls and paint around here, but you really got the short end of the stick. glad they fixed it though, but i would''ve wanted them to peel off the cake-paper themselves!

Yeah, that would have been nice, but we''re trying to keep costs somewhat reasonable.

I just keep repeating my mantra: "It will be beautiful when it''s done. It will be beautiful when it''s done..."

We did pick out all our paint colors, though, so I''m super excited about that.

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 6/23/2009 10:01:47 AM
Author: Bia
morning everyone

Elle, I forgot to tell you, I ordered SIMS3 and should be getting it in the next day or two! Are ya with me or what?! Could be fun

Freke, I might need you to teach me the ropes

Lol Bia. I don''t have it (yet) because we don''t have a computer that will run it at the moment. Mine comes close, but the processor isn''t fast enough. I still want it. Have you played it yet? What do you think?

 

[Squirrly]

Date: 6/23/2009 1:26:27 PM
Author: ladypirate

Date: 6/23/2009 1:15:23 PM

Author: Squirrly


that SUCKS. it seems that this is not a good week for walls and paint around here, but you really got the short end of the stick. glad they fixed it though, but i would''ve wanted them to peel off the cake-paper themselves!

Yeah, that would have been nice, but we''re trying to keep costs somewhat reasonable.


I just keep repeating my mantra: ''It will be beautiful when it''s done. It will be beautiful when it''s done...''


We did pick out all our paint colors, though, so I''m super excited about that.

it will be and you''ll have to post pics! what colors did you pick out? i really hope when M and i get a place it won''t be a hassle to paint, my room''s a lovely blue-green right now and my sister''s is red. our bathroom is a light blue-grey but the rest in the house is the traditional mid-western beige. although before the tornado the room L and i shared was the only painted color room, all the rest were white or still had the 70s wood paneling or wallpaper.