winelover23
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As long as they both provide loving safe environments for her she will fair just fine. I think Mini will be more well adjusted after going through all the changes she''s gone through in the last 2-1/2 years. I''m the product of 3 divorces plus my own and feel pretty normalDate: 2/9/2010 4:12:43 PM
Author: ladypirate
Date: 2/9/2010 4:07:29 PM
Author: elledizzy5
Date: 2/9/2010 4:05:08 PM
Author: ladypirate
Date: 2/9/2010 4:00:20 PM
Author: elledizzy5
Date: 2/9/2010 3:54:36 PM
Author: ladypirate
We just found out today that some friends of ours are getting divorced.He''s supposed to be a groomsman for the wedding and their daughter is our flower girl. I''m so sad for them right now and especially for their daughter. We knew they were having problems but we didn''t expect it to come to this.
Oh, LP! That is awful news!
How long have they been married?
I never like to hear that people are divorcing. It''s just too sad.
They''ve been married for 6 years and were together for an additional 3 or 4 years before that. He is especially broken up about it because she was the one initiating and serving the papers. I understand it from her point of view as well but it is really hard to see him so heartbroken. He was a stay at home dad and so he has now moved back in with his parents and started looking for work.
Ouch. What a blow to the ego. Was there any sort of drama, or did it just not work out? ''Run it''s course'' sort of thing?
They''ve been having trouble for a while. He had some bad habits in the past (playing video games all the time, smoking pot, eating too much, not exercising enough) and had gained a considerable amount of weight which was a source of contention (she''s a nurse and was really concerned about their daughter being brought up around unhealthy habits). She had gotten really into nutrition and exercise (she''s done several triathalons over the last year or so). He gave up the pot smoking and cut back on his video game playing (to around 10 hours a week down from much more) but it still bothered her. I guess recently as a last ditch effort he gave up video games all together and started dieting and exercising but it was too little too late. She apparently told him she was no longer in love with him and didn''t think she could be again. We saw them in October and there was some tension between them but we didn''t know it was that bad. I just feel so bad for their daughter.
No matter what though it''s hard. It''s a dark place and I can promise you the Mom is feeling more guilt than you can even imagine. Making the decision to take your child away from their home and their Dad is absolutely the hardest thing you can imagine.
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