The Official TTC Thread!

[sunkist]

Amber, thanks!! I have to make a treat to take to an activity tomorrow, I'm going to make yours

Hey Peony, thank you for the compliments! My setting is from Lockes in NY. It's their signature solitaire that I had them place our own stone in. I do love the look of my setting. If I were to do it again, I'd think of having someone else make it for me though. Perhaps someone that is more reputable here on PS. I just wasn't super impressed with their quality and service. You can search on here for my and other's experiences with them. Demelza described a lot of her experience. I can't help but think that there is someone here on PS that had a similar ring made by a PS vendor. I'm trying to find or remember who it was!! I'm thinking it was at Wink's?? I'm not sure. But now that I'm searching I just found a recent thread. Look at this similar design by Irina! https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/irinas-design.75355/ It looks like you could contact Wink about it, or get one from Vatche.

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Last time I was at the Dr, I had a total blood work up done because I was just staying so cold all the time. They tested for anemia and I want to say thyroid was tested, too. They said no issues there, I''m just a cold natured person.

Hmm.

Peony,

What is the process in getting these tests? Is it blood work? Do they tell you if you have PCOS? I''ve heard some of the women on here talking about the test on CD 3, but it sounded like it was something they ordered off the internet.

I don''t have a Dr. here in GA yet (used to live in NC), I wonder if I should call now and see about if I can come in on CD 3, whenever that gets here.

I was so excited to see that I ovulated and I''d hate to think that just one "wonky" cycle could mean I don''t, or that I need to be diagnosed with something.

Quite sad. Potentially, anyway.

***
Today''s temp was up, so I''m still hoping for those dang crosshairs to appear. Life is nothing if you lose optimism, no?

****
InLuv,

Came looking for results of a pee stick, my friend. Hoping godo things for you today!! And to Blushing as well, even thought she said she''d be waiting til Wednesday, maybe she''ll go ahead and do it early.

We''re on a streak here ladies, and that''s always a good thing!!

****
DD,

Thanks for the link to that PCOS thread. According to that questionnaire, I''m a 4. I have more than 8 a year (I''m a 9er it seems, unless this cycle goes til January!!), and I don''t have fertility issues yet (hopefully NEVER), so that made me feel a little better to have a lower number.

Congrats on reaching third trimester status, my friend!!

Can''t wait to meet your baby!!!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Oh, plug for Wink. He made and set my setting with a diamond from WhiteFlash. Both rocked and I absolutely love the outcome.

 

[blushingbride]

Hi Girls - well I''m out - again!

AFF showed up last night - of course, right on time. Honestly, this whole thing is really getting frustrating and it''s really hard to stay positive. This next cycle will be #6 for me. I really don''t know what it is we are doing wrong. We know when I''m ovulating, we are using preseed and a monitor - what''s the problem? I have an appt. next Tues. with my gyno for my anual and I''m definitely bringing my charts and having a talk with her.

I bought DH the fertell test, but he has yet to take it. Maybe he will this week, but I don''t want to force the issue and would like him to take it when he''s ready to. I''m also wonder if maybe I have hypothyroidism which could be affecting things - my basal body temps are usually in the mid-high 96''s before ovulation and in the low-mid 97''s after ovulation. I''m going to speak to my doctor about that as well because I feel like it''s too low.

I just wish this wasn''t so hard for us. Sorry for being a Debbie Downer.

 

[InLuv101]

Hey Everybody...

Didn''t mean to get all of your hopes up, I meant to say I was waiting until Wed. to test if AFF doesn''t show up. Sorry for the typo.

I have to say though that I''m pretty sure I''m out too.

I haven''t been temping since I confirmed ovulation (to preserve some of my sanity) and I temped today just to see where it would be and it was just a hair above my coverline, so it''s declining. I totally agree with you Blushing...this is getting so frustrating! I feel like such a failure

. I just cried & cried this morning because it''s just getting so hard. I wish I could refrain from getting so hopeful each month, but I just can''t help it. I know this is only cycle 3 for me and some of you ladies have been TTC longer than I have so I shouldn''t complain.

Sorry for being Debbie Downer x2.

 

[Dreamer_D]

Blushing and InLuv I''m so sorry! I cried and cried too when I had cycles that didn''t take. It will happen for sure, I know it, both of you are still one the low end of average for getting KTFU! And Blushing, I think talking to the doc about thyriod is a good idea if your temps are lowish, why not look under every stone, right?

 

[blushingbride]

Thanks DD - you know I wasn''t too concerned about it since Sabine''s temps were as low as mine and she got KTFU, but I really can''t understand what the problem is.

InLuv - I''m so sorry to hear your temps dropped - I feel your pain!!!

 

[mela lu]

Oh dear. I''m so sorry Blushing and InLuv. I want to cry for you too. There is nothing I can say to make you feel better...hopefully in a few days the disappointment will wear off and the excitement to try again will come. Thinking of you two.

xox

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 12/2/2008 7:58:03 AM
Author: fisherofmengirly
DD,

Thanks for the link to that PCOS thread. According to that questionnaire, I''m a 4. I have more than 8 a year (I''m a 9er it seems, unless this cycle goes til January!!), and I don''t have fertility issues yet (hopefully NEVER), so that made me feel a little better to have a lower number.

Congrats on reaching third trimester status, my friend!!

Can''t wait to meet your baby!!!

Thanks Fisher! It is surreal. I posted a belly shot in case you are interested, I know you love them! haha... and good news about PCOS score, though it isn''t a diagnosis tool really.

 

[Sha]

Date: 12/1/2008 10:21:32 PM
Author: peonygirl

Hey Sha! I went off the pill on June 1st. I had three ovulatory cycles (31, 36, and 35 days), 1 44-day cycle with a possible but unclear ovulation pattern, and now I''m on day 38 of my fifth cycle with no signs of ovulation. I think that it sounds like you''ve only had one iffy cycle, so I wouldn''t be too worried yet. I was hoping that my super-long cycle was going to be isolated, but now it doesn''t seem to be.

Both Sha and Fisher, it might be worth it just for piece of mind to get tested for some things on CD3 of your next cycle (if you don''t get a BFP this one) so you could rule out any hormonal/thyroid issues. I''m getting FSH, estradiol, lutenizing hormone, prolactin, and TSH tested, if I ever get my period.

You probably wouldn''t even have a make an appt, just call your ob/gyn and ask. It''s perfectly reasonable to do these things if you''ve only been trying for a few months.

DD, I guess my PCOS answer was somewhat simplistic because I know that a few other things need to be ruled out in order to make a diagnosis, such as thyroid issues. But basically it is a hormone imbalance, generally of elevated androgens (male hormones) with a varied pathogenesis. I think the heterogeneity of it makes it difficult to diagnose (and like most things that without a known infectious or physical trauma-based etiology isn''t that well understood). I don''t know the exact percentage of cycles in which ovulation is absent which would suggest PCOS, but if one is having 8 or fewer cycles a year it would seem that there would definitely be several anovulatory ones at least. I do think that if someone had long cycles (even very long ones) but consistently ovulated a PCOS diagnosis would not be indicated.

Hi Peony,
If you came off the pill in June, it''s possible you may still be regulating.... I think they say it can take, on average, 6 months for cycles tor regulate after coming off the pill. Fisher, perhaps that was the case wtih you as well? Hopefully... I think I''ve also read it can take up to a year for cycles to be straightened out. Maybe that''s the case with all of us?

Anyway, for more info, here''s a link to the former PCOS thread - it also includes the quiz: https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/pcos.84400/

I scored a 1. Hmmm.... I think I''ll have to do that bloodwork to figure out what''s really going on. Peony, yes, I''m hoping since this is my first real wonky cycle, that I don''t have to be too worried, but we''ll see..... (sigh!)

InLUV - I''m sorry you feel that AF may be coming. I HATE that dreaded temp drop!

I also sympathize with the feeling of failure when AF comes. DH and I haven''t really been ''trying'' for long, we''re actually more like Not Trying Not PReventing, but still.... you can''t help but feel really down when AF comes each month. Especially when you have to see pregnant women all around you every day.....

It''s just a constant reminder of your lack of success in conceiving...

I hope we all get pregnant soon!

 

[lovelylulu]

blushing and inluv - i''m so sorry that this isn''t the cycle

I was really hoping to hear some good news, especially since I''ve started spotting which is a dead giveaway that I''m out as well

feh.

I just went back through FF and this was our 6th attempt. My first cycle, I just monitored CM. After that, I have been relying on the CBEFM. Every cycle I''ve gotten some highs followed by two peak readings which indicates an LH surge - and ovulation. However, this last cycle I finally started temping addition to the monitor. while the monitor indicated my usual high and peaks - according to the temps i didn''t ovulate (see chart). i''m now wondering if it''s possible for the monitor to falsely indicate ovulation for all five cycles...

While temping wasn''t difficult, I did find that I woke up at various times e.g. 5 am one morning, 4:20 the next, 6:15 the following . . .

I''m not sure what is next. obviously we''ll keep on keeping on, but like blushing said it''s getting more than just discouraging.

thanks for the support ladies.

lulu (negative nancy 3)

 

[blushingbride]

Date: 12/2/2008 10:33:56 AM
Author: mela lu
Oh dear. I'm so sorry Blushing and InLuv. I want to cry for you too. There is nothing I can say to make you feel better...hopefully in a few days the disappointment will wear off and the excitement to try again will come. Thinking of you two.

xox

Thanks Mela - you're such a sweetheart. You always come here to root us on and we truly appreciate it.

ETA - I also forgot to mention how much we appreciate DD and all her advice - thanks for bringing us positive energy!

 

[blushingbride]

Ugh...Lulu...I''m so sorry! This thread has taken a frustrating turn today. I know that we will keep our heads-up and carry on - maybe we''ll all have wonderful news to share around the holidays. Fingers crossed... I''m really anxious for my doctor''s appt. and perhaps get some understanding to what the heck is going on down there!

 

[Festy]

Blushing and InLuv, having gone what you are going through a few days ago, I really feel for you and wish I could make the frustration and hurt go away. I had my annual appointment with the ob/gyn today and I''m hoping that what I took away from it will give you some comfort.

I told her I''ve been off the pill for 5 cycles and that my cycles are (thankfully) regular. I also told her that I knew we''d missed a couple of windows, and that I wasn''t sure whether I should be concerned. Basically she said not to worry. At all. Since I''m 35 I''m eligible for tests after we''ve been trying for 6 months, and she said that''s totally my call, but that she sees no reason to worry. SHE SEES NO REASON TO WORRY. I have to repeat that to myself over and over. Even though DH is about to turn 46 and is an avid cyclist. I told her I am inclined to wait a few more months, as I am super reluctant to make DH go through SA if it''s not necessary. I know it would make him very anxious and we are already having issues with me making this not a fun process. (Our issues involve the fact that for the 3rd cycle in a row he has to travel around O time. This time, I''ll be going with him to SF - his suggestion. But we still won''t be able to cover ALL our bases.)

I digress. One thing she did say is that stress can effect sperm count and egg viability. So now I need to figure out how to do this without making DH stress. Any suggestions would be welcome!

Oh, Sunkist, this morning was my first try with the BD thermometer. I like everything about it, although it only goes to one decimal place and I''d gotten used to two. I feel pretty confident that it doesn''t matter, but there''s a part of my brain that wants that hundredth of a degree back! But I do like the functionality. It''s much more idiot proof.

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 12/2/2008 12:22:33 PM
Author: lovelylulu

blushing and inluv - i''m so sorry that this isn''t the cycle

I was really hoping to hear some good news, especially since I''ve started spotting which is a dead giveaway that I''m out as well

feh.

I just went back through FF and this was our 6th attempt. My first cycle, I just monitored CM. After that, I have been relying on the CBEFM. Every cycle I''ve gotten some highs followed by two peak readings which indicates an LH surge - and ovulation. However, this last cycle I finally started temping addition to the monitor. while the monitor indicated my usual high and peaks - according to the temps i didn''t ovulate (see chart). i''m now wondering if it''s possible for the monitor to falsely indicate ovulation for all five cycles...

While temping wasn''t difficult, I did find that I woke up at various times e.g. 5 am one morning, 4:20 the next, 6:15 the following . . .

I''m not sure what is next. obviously we''ll keep on keeping on, but like blushing said it''s getting more than just discouraging.

thanks for the support ladies.

lulu (negative nancy 3)

Lulu I am not convinced you did not ovulate, that chart look bi-phasic to me but your irregular waking pattern is probably confusing things post-O . I think that you should post your chart on the www.ovusoft.com messageboardsand see what the expert there say, they can give you answers and suggest solutions. They are like the diamond experts of ovulation charts!

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 12/2/2008 12:55:12 PM
Author: Festy

I digress. One thing she did say is that stress can effect sperm count and egg viability. So now I need to figure out how to do this without making DH stress. Any suggestions would be welcome!

I think worrying about stress is stressful, so don''t worry about it

Stress cannot play a huge role for most people... women in abusive relationships and people in famine-ridden countries get preggo all the time so it cannot totally wipe us out! And that''s good you will travel with him! Good solution!

 

[Dreamer_D]

I have a general comment about TTC, not directed at any one person but just something that I have noticed in general over the months (Festy, your post just sparked the thought, this isn''t about you personally)...

I read on here all the time about how concerned we all are about our DHs'' feelings during this process. They don''t want to feel pressured to have sex, they don''t want to feel stressed, they don''t like to know all the details etc etc. Although I totally agree that we shouldn''t be attacking them and making them mental--that''s never good!!--I worry sometimes that this care for their feelings means that we women become the burder-carriers in the TTC realm! Why is it all our responsibility to plan and chart and get "in the mood" when, for most of us, we don''t want to BD everyday either!

I just hope that we are all venting about them here and that in real life we expect more, and demand more, from them. Surely they can see the pain in our faces when it isn''t happening. They should respond to that and not worry so much about the "pressure". Easier said than done, I guess, but I really hope that they are stepping up. For many is sounds like they are, but sometimes it sounds like they aren''t.

Okay, vent done

. I just feel for everyone trying and wish hubby''s would take more responsibility sometimes. But maybe that''s always the case, from housework to TTC, a woman''s work is never done!

 

[Festy]

LuLu - I forget to mention that I also think you O''d.

DD - thank for the encouragement!

I''m noticing that y''all tend to recommend the Ovusoft board when it comes to chart questions. I recently posted a question on the FF board and was underwhelmed by the response, which was to basically quote from their website info that I''d already read. It had to do with traveling...when I go to SF for two days I know my body clock will not adjust so I was wondering how to enter the time I temp into my chart. I''ve decided I''m going to lie to FF and enter the time as though I''m still home on the East Coast. It''s only two days and I''ll be there right around O time, so the temps will matter.

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 12/2/2008 1:24:55 PM
Author: Festy
LuLu - I forget to mention that I also think you O''d.

DD - thank for the encouragement!

I''m noticing that y''all tend to recommend the Ovusoft board when it comes to chart questions. I recently posted a question on the FF board and was underwhelmed by the response, which was to basically quote from their website info that I''d already read. It had to do with traveling...when I go to SF for two days I know my body clock will not adjust so I was wondering how to enter the time I temp into my chart. I''ve decided I''m going to lie to FF and enter the time as though I''m still home on the East Coast. It''s only two days and I''ll be there right around O time, so the temps will matter.

Ovusoft is very different from FF, there are charting GURUs on there who will respond quickly. Not as fast as Rocky Talky, but much better than FF. As for temping, keep temping as if you are in your OWN timezone. So if there is a 3 hour time difference and you usually temp at 7am, then unfortunately that means you should wake at 4am to temp and enter the temp as if it is your usualy time. You can always rely on your CF to tell you when you have O''d if your temps are a little off.

 

[Festy]

Date: 12/2/2008 1:20:18 PM
Author: dreamer_dachsie
I have a general comment about TTC, not directed at any one person but just something that I have noticed in general over the months (Festy, your post just sparked the thought, this isn''t about you personally)...

I read on here all the time about how concerned we all are about our DHs'' feelings during this process. They don''t want to feel pressured to have sex, they don''t want to feel stressed, they don''t like to know all the details etc etc. Although I totally agree that we shouldn''t be attacking them and making them mental--that''s never good!!--I worry sometimes that this care for their feelings means that we women become the burder-carriers in the TTC realm! Why is it all our responsibility to plan and chart and get ''in the mood'' when, for most of us, we don''t want to BD everyday either!

I just hope that we are all venting about them here and that in real life we expect more, and demand more, from them. Surely they can see the pain in our faces when it isn''t happening. They should respond to that and not worry so much about the ''pressure''. Easier said than done, I guess, but I really hope that they are stepping up. For many is sounds like they are, but sometimes it sounds like they aren''t.

Okay, vent done

. I just feel for everyone trying and wish hubby''s would take more responsibility sometimes. But maybe that''s always the case, from housework to TTC, a woman''s work is never done!

Oh DD, just when I thought I was done typing! You are sweet to mention it and you have hit on a couple of discussions DH and I have had. After he came home from his first trip during O time I told him exactly what you said - that I can''t do this alone and that I needed for him to feel as invested in it as I am. Since then he''s been great. And just last night when he was feeling hurt and stressed I pointed out to him that it''s stressful for me too and that it can''t be my job to protect him from life stress. If he thinks it''s bad now, wait til we have kids!

I am lucky to have a DH who does the lion''s share of the work around the house and is super sensitive to boot. But along with that sensitivity comes a little bit of hyper-sensitivity. Anyway, I just wanted to clarify since I generally leave out a lot of detail for the sake of brevity. So much for that!

 

[drk]

Lulu - no time to write much more since we''re heading out to dinner, but I did want to tell you that I also agree your chart looks biphasic. Not the prettiest ovulatory chart I''ve ever seen, but I definitely see a temperature shift. I bet it''s just the rocky temps and many open circles from irregular temping times that''s keeping it from giving you a coverline.

Kate

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 12/2/2008 1:34:14 PM
Author: Festy

Oh DD, just when I thought I was done typing! You are sweet to mention it and you have hit on a couple of discussions DH and I have had. After he came home from his first trip during O time I told him exactly what you said - that I can''t do this alone and that I needed for him to feel as invested in it as I am. Since then he''s been great. And just last night when he was feeling hurt and stressed I pointed out to him that it''s stressful for me too and that it can''t be my job to protect him from life stress. If he thinks it''s bad now, wait til we have kids!

I am lucky to have a DH who does the lion''s share of the work around the house and is super sensitive to boot. But along with that sensitivity comes a little bit of hyper-sensitivity. Anyway, I just wanted to clarify since I generally leave out a lot of detail for the sake of brevity. So much for that!

I have a sensitive hubby too, which is great in many ways, but funny sometimes. His feelings get hurt easily so I have to be gentle with him sometimes

 

[AmberWaves]

Date: 12/2/2008 1:34:14 PM
Author: Festy

Date: 12/2/2008 1:20:18 PM

Author: dreamer_dachsie

I have a general comment about TTC, not directed at any one person but just something that I have noticed in general over the months (Festy, your post just sparked the thought, this isn't about you personally)...


I read on here all the time about how concerned we all are about our DHs' feelings during this process. They don't want to feel pressured to have sex, they don't want to feel stressed, they don't like to know all the details etc etc. Although I totally agree that we shouldn't be attacking them and making them mental--that's never good!!--I worry sometimes that this care for their feelings means that we women become the burder-carriers in the TTC realm! Why is it all our responsibility to plan and chart and get 'in the mood' when, for most of us, we don't want to BD everyday either!

I just hope that we are all venting about them here and that in real life we expect more, and demand more, from them. Surely they can see the pain in our faces when it isn't happening. They should respond to that and not worry so much about the 'pressure'. Easier said than done, I guess, but I really hope that they are stepping up. For many is sounds like they are, but sometimes it sounds like they aren't.


Okay, vent done

. I just feel for everyone trying and wish hubby's would take more responsibility sometimes. But maybe that's always the case, from housework to TTC, a woman's work is never done!

Oh DD, just when I thought I was done typing! You are sweet to mention it and you have hit on a couple of discussions DH and I have had. After he came home from his first trip during O time I told him exactly what you said - that I can't do this alone and that I needed for him to feel as invested in it as I am. Since then he's been great. And just last night when he was feeling hurt and stressed I pointed out to him that it's stressful for me too and that it can't be my job to protect him from life stress. If he thinks it's bad now, wait til we have kids!

I am lucky to have a DH who does the lion's share of the work around the house and is super sensitive to boot. But along with that sensitivity comes a little bit of hyper-sensitivity.Anyway, I just wanted to clarify since I generally leave out a lot of detail for the sake of brevity. So much for that!

Festy, I totally agree this because that's EXACTLY what is going on with Paul. He's the most sensitive person that it brings him to tears when he knows we're not pg, and when we find others who are. And this whole thing, this "error" in reproducing is his fault, according to him. This blame and this sadness makes it hard for him (ha, no pun intended) to focus on what we're doing, what we NEED to do because he just thinks he'll fail me again. So I can NOT get on him a little bit more, I can't have him take one for the team- I can't FORCE him because he's already forcing himself. Thus the solution: I'm not even talking about it anymore. I'm not getting sad, I'm not moping. I'm letting him be okay with how things are- at least for the moment. While definitely helping our marriage, it's helping me be not as focused. I'm still charting and temping and planning and plotting, but at this point, I feel like it'll happen at some point. Being this obsessed on my tubes and baby-holders isn't helping me one bit. That's why I come and go here, because it's not helping me anymore. The camaraderie is fantastic, and this sense of having somewhere I belong is warming, but sometimes I just need to pull away from the internet world I cushioned myself in, and let myself reside in the real world with my real husband who loves me and hurts just as much as I do.

Yikes. Was that a vent?

ETA: I meant "not helping" as in , not helping me emotionally. You guys are very helpful and I adore all of you, but sometimes my heart hurts too much, and I hate what I've become.

 

[Sabine]

Date: 12/2/2008 10:21:35 AM
Author: blushingbride
Thanks DD - you know I wasn't too concerned about it since Sabine's temps were as low as mine and she got KTFU, but I really can't understand what the problem is.


InLuv - I'm so sorry to hear your temps dropped - I feel your pain!!!

Blushing...just saw this and wanted to respond ASAP. I do have hypothyroidism! I had hyPER, had my thyroid removed, and am now on replacement hormones. I would think that since I'm on the hormones that I wouldn't have residual hypo symptoms, but maybe my temps were still low because of that. I would get your doctor to check you ASAP! I'm so sorry if my low temps made it seem like yours were normal, I just hadn't thought that my thyroid would be a factor since I'm SUPPOSED to be thyroid neutral on my meds. At least the good news is that if you do have a thyroid problem, it can be treated pretty easily and you can still get pregnant!

 

[blushingbride]

Date: 12/2/2008 2:04:22 PM
Author: Sabine

Date: 12/2/2008 10:21:35 AM
Author: blushingbride
Thanks DD - you know I wasn't too concerned about it since Sabine's temps were as low as mine and she got KTFU, but I really can't understand what the problem is.


InLuv - I'm so sorry to hear your temps dropped - I feel your pain!!!

Blushing...just saw this and wanted to respond ASAP. I do have hypothyroidism! I had hyPER, had my thyroid removed, and am now on replacement hormones. I would think that since I'm on the hormones that I wouldn't have residual hypo symptoms, but maybe my temps were still low because of that. I would get your doctor to check you ASAP! I'm so sorry if my low temps made it seem like yours were normal, I just hadn't thought that my thyroid would be a factor since I'm SUPPOSED to be thyroid neutral on my meds. At least the good news is that if you do have a thyroid problem, it can be treated pretty easily and you can still get pregnant!

Thanks Sabine! Who can diagnose me and perscribe the hormones? Can my gyno do that or do I need to be checked out by my general doctor? Also, are there any other symptoms because besides seeing low temps on my charts, I don't think I have any other symptoms (I've never been diagnosed before).

I just made an appointment with my general doctor for a physical. So, I'll be seeing both docs in the next couple of weeks.

 

[AmberWaves]

Oh, Blushing, I forgot: I was tested for thyroid issues as well (nothing). My temps are usually in the 96s, sometimes jumping to the 97s, but aside from fevers, they are NEVER higher than 97.7. I wonder what that means?

 

[Sabine]

Blushing, my GP was the one who first noticed that I had symptoms, and he sent me for blood work (TSH and a few others I think), and once we got the results back, I was referred to a specialist (endocrynologist). I''m not sure of the symptoms for hypo since I originally had hyper, but I''m pretty sure the main issues are body temperature, heart rate, and trouble loosing or maintaining weight or other metabolism problems.

For hyper, I had an incredibly fast heart rate (over 100 resting), was eating a TON and not gaining weight, hot and sweaty all the time, and my eyes got kinda buggy (one more than other, ugh, so glad that FINALLY went away). I''m guessing if you are hypo, it would basically be the opposite.

 

[blushingbride]

Can they test you if I''m just getting a physical done or is this something I would need to alert them about before showing up?

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 12/2/2008 2:01:13 PM
Author: AmberWaves

Festy, I totally agree this because that''s EXACTLY what is going on with Paul. He''s the most sensitive person that it brings him to tears when he knows we''re not pg, and when we find others who are. And this whole thing, this ''error'' in reproducing is his fault, according to him. This blame and this sadness makes it hard for him (ha, no pun intended) to focus on what we''re doing, what we NEED to do because he just thinks he''ll fail me again. So I can NOT get on him a little bit more, I can''t have him take one for the team- I can''t FORCE him because he''s already forcing himself. Thus the solution: I''m not even talking about it anymore. I''m not getting sad, I''m not moping. I''m letting him be okay with how things are- at least for the moment. While definitely helping our marriage, it''s helping me be not as focused. I''m still charting and temping and planning and plotting, but at this point, I feel like it''ll happen at some point. Being this obsessed on my tubes and baby-holders isn''t helping me one bit. That''s why I come and go here, because it''s not helping me anymore. The camaraderie is fantastic, and this sense of having somewhere I belong is warming, but sometimes I just need to pull away from the internet world I cushioned myself in, and let myself reside in the real world with my real husband who loves me and hurts just as much as I do.

Amber I am really glad that you two have found a way to think about this process that works for you both... and thanks for adding those details. We only get "one side" sometimes and it is really god to know that your hubby is responsive to you. Though I hope he can go easier on himself!

 

[Sabine]

Date: 12/2/2008 2:21:23 PM
Author: blushingbride
Can they test you if I''m just getting a physical done or is this something I would need to alert them about before showing up?

I''m guessing they can order the test at any point, but I don''t know about actually getting it done that day. My doctor doesn''t do blood testing on site, so he wrote me a scrip that I took to the lab at the local hospital to have the blood drawn. You might want to call and let them know before your physical that you have concerns about your thyroid so they know to expect it.