The *real* wait is about to begin...

[FireGoddess]

Lots of sparkly vibes!!! BTW, when you run in the house to see if the box is there, pick it up and make sure he didn''t cut a hole out of the back and get the ring out.

 

[bee*]

thats true firegoddess! He might leave the box there but take the ring!
I hope that it happens for you this weekend Sk8rjen!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

So, how was that cruise? Tons of fun? Great early happy birthday celebrations, I hope!

Ring or no ring, I hope it was a blast of a good time, girl!

 

[IrishAngel7982]

Date: 6/23/2006 5:16:33 PM
Author: FireGoddess
Lots of sparkly vibes!!! BTW, when you run in the house to see if the box is there, pick it up and make sure he didn''t cut a hole out of the back and get the ring out.

LOL FireGoddess that is GREAT! I hope the riverboat was lots of fun Jen, hopefully that sparkly is on your hand as we speak!

 

[sk8rjen]

Hey all, thanks for all the great happy vibes! I DID go back in the house, as planned, and the ring was still there, but then HE went back in after I did. Naturally I couldn''t go back in AGAIN, so I just had to hope that''s what he went for. We had a great first 2 days of our trip, gambling (and losing!) and riding the riverboat. Our room was gorgeous with a beautiful lake view (which we even went out and walked around -- very romantic). 2 great days is better than nothing, right? Yesterday wasn''t so hot, mainly b/c Aunt Flo came to town and by then I knew it wasn''t happening. I couldn''t help but be sad. He took it as pissy. Alas, no sparkly on my finger, and I''m not a fiancee.

It gets worse. Apparently the ring didn''t turn out quite right. Without getting into boring detail, the underside of the head was not done the way we''d talked about getting it done. So now we have to send it back. I''m feeling let down b/c we paid for certain work that wasn''t done, but I''m sure that it can be resolved. If not, THEN I''ll have reason to be disappointed.

But none of that was the reason he didn''t do it. He''s got something else in mind -- he said he didn''t take the ring b/c he thought if he did he would have used it! I have no idea about his current timeframe. FWIW, I really did enjoy most of our mini-vacation. We never get away w/o my kids and I just feel like an opportunity was lost and I *AM* feeling more than a little upset with him for not taking advantage of something special. I''m depressed and wallowing in my own self-induced self-pity right now, and I highly recommend that none of you try this

Hope you are all having a wonderful Monday -- I''m so glad to have my online friends to cry/vent with!

jen

 

[bee*]

I was waiting for your "Im engaged" thread yesterday or today! Im really upset for you that it didnt happen this weekend-what is it with men that they just won''t do it!

 

[sk8rjen]

Thankds, bee. I was trying not to get my hopes up last week, but the closer it got, the weirder he got! He put off those vibes and acted really really affectionate toward me, plus said stuff out of the norm for him. I felt by Friday that I would be at least one of the ones here typing that "I''m engaged" thread. Well, sooner or later I guess we all will, right?
jen

 

[Evie75]

wow I think i would die if i had the ring in the same house as me..........lol

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Argh! I was hoping it up for you this weekend, girl! Well, you know it has to come at some point, right? The ring''s there and waiting. Surely he won''t wait much longer.

Have you seen it? Who looked to notice it wasn''t quite right? I just know if I had my ring within my reach, I''d be playing with that bad boy and dreaming and wishing like crazy mad. Good of you to just leave it be. That wouldn''t be me!

I hope your mood lifts up soon. Love on those cute boys; do it til they groan and say, "Come on, Mom!" That''d be enough to make any mommy smile!!

 

[sk8rjen]

Well, tomorrow''s my actual birthday (lucky-?-33) and since I didn''t get the ring on our trip last weekend, I''m wishing I could take back everything I ever said about not wanting it on my birthday! As it is, though, he knows I didn''t want it on my birthday because I wanted it *before* then and I also didn''t want it to be like "here, happy'' birthday" (handing me ring). Not my wish for a proposal. But I DO know he''s gotten me an actual present that''s not the ring for my birthday, so *IF* he did it, it wouldn''t be my "present." Make sense? Yeah, clear as mud, I''m sure.

Anyway, fisher I just now realized I hadn''t answered your questions -- NO I haven''t seen the ring, I just know how it is because he described it in great detail. He noticed right away too. I think he''s a bit bummed that it''s not right b/c if we do send it back, he''s going to feel that it wasn''t good enough. I just told him that we need to get what we paid to have done, and everyone agrees. Not wishing to get into detail b/c I have loved working with Mark and do not in any way wish for this to make him look bad in any way -- it shouldn''t. M let me know that the ring as it is absolutely beautiful and i believe that. It''s only missing just a little "personal touch" so to speak.

Secondly, being patient with the ring in my bedroom sucks. I don''t have a clue how Rhapsody got through it for 15 weeks! It''s been almost 2 for me and I am losing what''s left of my mind. I''m trying really REALLY hard to not post every time I just want to reach up and get it!

The good news is, M moved the ring -- first to a higher shelf, then out of sight all together (it''s on the higher shelf hidden behind a snowglobe -- what, you thought I wouldn''t try to find it??

) So at least it is not going to be obvious when he decides to use it. I think I like it better this way!

So, after long-winded ramble, I guess maybe a finger-crossing or two wouldn''t hurt tomorrow! Either way, I know this is going to be a fantastic weekend for everyone -- have a happy and safe 4th to the U.S. LIW''s!!
jen

 

[sk8rjen]

ps Firegoddess-- now that the ring box is out of the big FedEx box, that trick of yours would work, but if M took that ring out of the box, I''d be in quite a state of panic that he''d lose it -- I hope he never thought about taking it out of the box!

jen

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Hi Sk8rJen!

HAPPY HAPPY pre-birthday.

I''m sure your boy has wonderful things planned for you. I''m also sure you''ll have lots of love from your little men, too!

Good thoughts, and happy happy 4th of July to you, too!!

Any plans? You may have posted, but I''ve missed it if you have! Sorry.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!

 

[Rhapsody]

Hey sweetie! I hope you''ve been doing well.

Your gorgeous pear had me about to get a pear pendant for my birthday but instead I got a stupidly expensive cell phone. I feel like such a traitor, turning down diamonds for electronics. Evil purple razr.

I hope your boyfriend got you something amazing and that he doesn''t hold onto that ring much longer.

And I know what you mean about not wanting the engagement to be tied to other holidays, my boy managed to use that diamond/ring as a college graduation present and two anniversary gifts. He says he''s started an asscher savings account to make it up to me though

15 weeks of the ring on that shelf was pretty insane. But I knew he wanted to do something special since there was no element of surprise with the ring since I picked it out. Although there were times when I was waiting that I thought I wouldnt care how he proposed I just wanted it NOW I''m really glad he got to do what he wanted and his beautiful proposal made everything worth the wait. Although I had gone pretty crazy at the end and I kept playing with the box and i think at one point i opened it up and showed the cat my ring, which he tried to eat

So I think you''re still more with it than I was lol

I''ll have my fingers crossed for you this weekend! Have a wonderful birthday!

 

[sk8rjen]

Thanks for the birthday wishes fisher! We''re going to dinner (wherever he picks) and then to see "A Chorus Line" which has been here for a month and this is the final show, so it should get a little crazy (and one of my old students is in it, too -- added bonus)

And, Rhap, while I can''t BELIEVE you didn''t go with a pear pendant (!!!!) I just gotta know -- PURPLE RAZR??? I HAVE to have one. Everything in my life is purple -- like some weird flashback to teenage years I never experienced or something

They have a purple razr for real? hmmm.... I like the idea of the asscher savings account, btw.

I cracked up when I read your post -- cats DO like sparklies -- that could have turned out bad, I suppose (digging through litter box anyone??)

. At least you got to look at the ring...

Thanks for the well-wishes (ps my bf just came in here and said "hmmm, 15 weeks, we can beat that..." and then just laughed in a very evil way). Men.

jen

 

[Rhapsody]

Date: 7/1/2006 10:17:20 PM
Author: sk8rjen
Thanks for the birthday wishes fisher! We''re going to dinner (wherever he picks) and then to see ''A Chorus Line'' which has been here for a month and this is the final show, so it should get a little crazy (and one of my old students is in it, too -- added bonus)


And, Rhap, while I can''t BELIEVE you didn''t go with a pear pendant (!!!!) I just gotta know -- PURPLE RAZR??? I HAVE to have one. Everything in my life is purple -- like some weird flashback to teenage years I never experienced or something

They have a purple razr for real? hmmm.... I like the idea of the asscher savings account, btw.

I cracked up when I read your post -- cats DO like sparklies -- that could have turned out bad, I suppose (digging through litter box anyone??)

. At least you got to look at the ring...

Thanks for the well-wishes (ps my bf just came in here and said ''hmmm, 15 weeks, we can beat that...'' and then just laughed in a very evil way). Men.

jen

We used to go see a show every year for my birthday (we both LOVE musicals) but theres nothing interesting here now. Although we did buy tickets to see the lion king in a few months. So excited!

And the purple razr is not actually released here. I had to buy an unlocked one from England. Its more than I EVER thought i would spend on a phone, but like you I thought "I HAVE to have the purple razr". Plus it has an mp3 player and 1.3 megapixel camera so I could sorta justify the extra cost. If you have a razr it is possible to take them apart and put different face plates on them, but it doesnt look too easy to do. Plus budget would have only allowed for a 0.33 pear pendant, so i think i might start sucking up and angling to get the half carat one for Christmas

I was pretty excited to hear he had an asscher account. He knows I really want a royal asscher and how expensive they are, so when he finished paying off his car (my car loan is at the same bank and the money is taken from the same account) he just kept paying in the same amount as he was for both cars and made it an asscher account.

My cat is just insane about chewing on my jewelery. He''ll wake me up at night trying to shove his nose under my hand so he can get to my rings. He doesnt seem to try to carry it off, he just likes to taste it. Odd creature, but so darn cute! And I was actually good about not looking at the ring. During my cat escapades i didn''t actually see it, I kept the box tilted down. It was my choice after all, I was the one who decided not to look at the ring set. My boyfriend didn''t give a crap if I looked at it or not.

If you''re boyfriend thinks waiting 15 weeks is funny just tell him your expectations for the proposal go up exponentially each week. The longer he waits the more work he has to do

Heres to happy birthdays for both of us!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

It''s your birthday! Yay! Hope it was nothing short of wonderful! And I hope ALL your boys were very nice to you!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

I keep coming back to see if you''ve come to tell us how great your birthday dinner and show were. I guess if you''re anywhere other than the East Coast, you''re still in the midst of enjoying it.

Well, hope it was fabulous! You deserve it.

 

[sk8rjen]

No BIG news here, but dinner and show were both great. He took me to the restaurant we went to on our first dinner date, which was sweet. He brought me flowers and a cake when he got home from work. And the present he ordered me for my birthday had been returned (for mislabeled address) and should be here any day now, so I still have that to look forward to. When I went to pick up the boys after the show, they gave me their presents (their dad took them shopping for me), and they gave me some amethyst heart-shaped earrings and a package of fun silver and purple toe-rings -- all stuff they picked out themselves

So, yes, it was a good birthday.
jen

ps WHERE ARE ALL THE WEEKEND ENGAGEMENTS WE''RE EXPECTING???

 

[firebirdgold]

Happy (slightly belated) Birthday Sk8rjen!!

Glad to hear you had a good birthday despite the temporary lack of sparkles! I expect to see your "I''m engaged" thread anyday!

Maybe there weren''t any this weekend because the boys are waiting for the 4th?

 

[IrishAngel7982]

Happy Birthday Jen (yesterday!) I''m glad you had a nice time and your boys gave you a nice present. It sounds really nice. I second that...where are all the engagements? Maybe they are waiting for the fireworks tomorrow like Indie said, but what about our Canadian gals!

Anyway, I''m glad it was a great time and here''s more sparkly vibes for you!!!

 

[seattlebride]

I''ll be thinking of you! It''s so tough to be waiting. I was in the same situation until a couple of weeks ago, knowing that the ring was almost done, but not knowing when (as I was cut off). Frustrating. The bliss afterwards is worth it, though. Although, my FH had to leave to work on a fishing boat for the summer four days after our official engagement. He won''t be back until mid-September to early October. Oh well, I have a ring to sustain me.

Good luck with the wait!!!

 

[sk8rjen]

Indie, Happy Birthday tomorrow! I hope we *both* have that "I''m engaged" thread started REALLLLLLY soon

Irish, thanks for the added vibes!

Seattle, LOVED your engagement picture and rather unique

proposal! I''m sorry for you that your fiance had to leave so soon, but at least you have a lot to look forward to! (So I guess you are still a LIW, just a different type, right?)

Last night, M and I went to his mom''s for dinner and she had a cake for me too ... let me know that they were including me in the July birthdays (they get together --- aunts, uncles, cousins-- and celebrate family birthdays each month), which means one more birthday celebration to look forward to. I''d told M last week I didn''t want to go to another family gathering without "it." (they''re all expecting it now-- word''s out) The party''s on the 23rd. I love that they think of me as family now.

In other good news, we talked wedding dates the other day and agreed on April of next year. I like the 11th and he thought that sounded "fine." I was sort of disappointed that he seemed not to care about which day, though. Well, he then told me last night (yes, after I complained about it!) that the reason he "didn''t care" about a specific date was because all that''s important to him is that he''s marrying me and the actual date doesn''t make any difference to him. It was really sweet and out of character for him!

So I know he''s actually planning something, and I guess I have resigned myself to thinking weekends only, so I am going to remain hopeful for NEXT weekend. If it doesn''t happen soon, you guys can sign me up for the next available white padded rooom in the psycho ward...

jen

ps I am SOOOOOOOOOOO looking forward to tomorrow''s hopefully many-overjoyed-people''s posts!!!!

 

[SeattleSparkle]

Wow!! The 23rd ... that''s soooo sooon! It sounds like everything is going really well. Its probably your overjoyed posts we''ll be reading next!!! Best of luck sk8erjen!!! and happy belated Birthday!!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Hi Sk8rJen!!

Ooh, the 23rd is soon, girl! Yay! I''m happy for you.

If you *do* end up at the loony bin, look for me there, too! I''m on my way, I think!!

 

[Rhapsody]

I''m so glad you had a good birthday! Your kids sound so sweet. I love when they pick out presents on their own, instead of just signing their name to something someone picked out for them.

Isn''t the "he has a plan" stage wonderful and frustrating all at once?! You know something is coming soon and you cant help but wonder when and where but at the same time it''s comforting knowing that HE knows what he''s doing at least lol

And I would try not to worry too much about your FF not being concerned about the details of the wedding. I know mine barely gives two shakes about any of the details, he has asked we try and keep the same anniversary because its taken him 7 years to remember our current one and if I wish him to continue to remember the date it would be best to keep it the same

Not much longer!!! I can''t wait to see your happy "I''m engaged" post. I''ll be thinking of you this month!

 

[anchor31]

Sorry I''m late, but happy birthday!! Looks like there are going to be quite a few proposals soon... It''s so exciting!!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

What''s going on with you, fellow Jen? Eek. I''m so excited for so many of my friends here. It''s like I want updates all the time. Hahah.

Good luck! Happy weekend! Happy time with your boys! All of them!!

Hey! I just found new faces! How exciting! *Okay, I''m a slow one, I know.*

 

[sk8rjen]

Fishie, where''d you find new faces? I get tired of using the same old ones

Yesterday, we had dinner with Matt''s grandma, which was really nice. Then after we dropped her off, he started asking me what I wanted to do (kids were with their dad). No plan of any sort. I just felt crappy. Had a hard time having fun last night, even though I did try. Then he had the nerve to confirm to me this morning that he wishes he''d brought the ring to tunica 2 weekends ago, but once we were there, it was too late (duh). Made me feel worse. His reasoning for last night was that he knew I was expecting it, and I shouldn''t be the one planning my own proposal (duh two). With the Tunica trip, he''s told me he didn''t realize how much I was hoping for it to happen then. So which should it be? Me tell him I''m hoping or not?? Geez men are confusing and conflicting. The only reason I made it perfectly clear how much I was looking forward to *this* weekend was b/c I kept my mouth shut before Tunica. great big ARGH!

2 more weeks til our next weekend night out alone. But we have Mondays and Thrusdays too, it''s just that I have to be up at 4:45 the next morning both of those days (but I have a feeling I''d bounce out of bed at 3 AM if I needed to after it happened!)

Sorry to ramble. I''m getting used to being let down over this, now. It will be a surprise to me if it EVER happens at this point!

Hope the rest of you had a better weekend!

Oh, it just started rainging and thundering. Fits my mood about now. Someone hand me a prozac, please??

jen

 

[Fancy605]

I am so hooked on everyone''s stories! But, awe, you still have to wait. That''s okay--just think how exciting it will be when it finally happens! Then you can look back on all this waiting and smile at how anxious you were. But GEEZE I would be going crazy too if I knew he had it and was just holding onto it.

 

[fisherofmengirly]

I found new faces at the top of the screen when you reply to a post. It''s next to the "insert image" icon that looks like a mountain and sunshine. I''ve always used the options from the bottom of the screen. Anyway, new options. Fun fun. The toothy grin is still my favorite, though.

I''m sorry for your boy''s lack of planning or forethought. I''m starting to be close to feeling the same way. I really was hoping the beach would''ve been it, yesterday. No such luck. He did say he thought we were planning on going back, though. I have no clue what''s on his mind. Who can read a boy''s mind anyway?

The anticipation is fun though. I''ll never tell him that, but I''m really enjoying trying to figure things out, and having five little ones around poking for clues is a great help! He thinks it''s cute when they ask, and I don''t prompt them. Much.

Good luck, Jen. I know it''ll be soon. It has to be now.