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This weekend...
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Hey - I''ve also been following and I am SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!
Congratulations.
Also, please ignore your mother - it sounds like you have things totally under control (and a size 10 is DEFINITELY NOT plus-size, just FYI) - you are doing what you want and love and you have someone in your life who loves you for it.
All my wishes for a swift proposal, a happy engagement and a wonderful marriage
Congratulations.
Also, please ignore your mother - it sounds like you have things totally under control (and a size 10 is DEFINITELY NOT plus-size, just FYI) - you are doing what you want and love and you have someone in your life who loves you for it.
All my wishes for a swift proposal, a happy engagement and a wonderful marriage
LAJennifer
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ello
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I just wanted to say how happy your post made me. It''s so lovely to read your story - your message is glowing with love and admiration for your boyfriend. I am so happy for you. Congratulations also on the bling - I hope it''s even more beautiful once it''s on your hand. Please keep in touch - would like to see many hand shots!
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moon river
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I learned along time ago to live my life for myself, NOT my mother. Sometimes parents do more harm than good while raising their children. I did a 180 on the parenting thing with my kids, letting them become their own person, being open minded and not pushing them into anything, just supporting them in what they choose. I''m proud of how my kids turned out and hope they do the same with their children. Several of my childrens friends have parents who have disowned them for several things(being gay, dating outside their race, becoming pregnant while not married just to name a few) and we have had quite a few kids staying with us through the years. My kids know I will never pressure them to be something their not and there is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING that would make me turn away from them. Maybe your mother will one day reallize how wrong she is and how proud of you she should be. My 14 year old daughter recently had to come up with her ''philosophy of life''. After alot of thought she narrowed it down to this: I would rather be hated for who I really am than to be loved for who you think I should be. From the mouths of babes!!Date: 1/23/2006 3:33:06 PM
Author: nytemist
deco- no kidding about 0-60! It''s almost like he has become the girl rushing to the altar. Hey, it''s cool with me!
My mom is just one of those people that liek to have everything their way- including her children. She relaly isn''t happy with any of us, since none of became little, quiet, speak when spoken to secrataries or something. My oldest sister is a nurse, middle a retail mamager and me data entry crossing to massage therapy. But our clashes have been notorious over the years since my teens. She wanted her youngest be a sucessful doctor or lawyer. Nope! She now has me- a proud size 10, independent, sometimes flamboyant, aspiring healer/therapist Wiccan! But I''m healthy, I work out, love my velvet wardrobe and have a man who loves women with real curves. Boy, she can''t STAND that!
Hee hee... wait until she, ahem, notices the ring. CAN''T WAIT!
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Thank you everyone again for all the happy words! I really think I would have lost my mind the past year if I hadn''t found this haven.
Moon river- Unfortunately, mom has alienated the three of us to the point of the bridge being burned. It''s bad to say about your own mom, the person you should love and respect and that should love you unconditionally, but the motherly love just isn''t there. I applaud you and parents like you (likes BF''s parents, they are so great) who don''t try to force their kids into a mold or live their own dreams through the kids. We''re past the point of rebuilding, in a weird way that''s why I don''t want to tell her about last weekend; it will trun into a long rant about how it''s a mistake, I don''t know what I''m doing, he can''t possibly be that serious, I''m dumb to think he really loves me, wait until he leaves you and so on (she''s done it before) I just want her to SEE the ring. Knowing her, she would acknowledge it with a sneer or a forced "how nice" because then she will really know she was wrong.
On a lighter note, I''ve only told my oldest sister and two of my friends (and my friends here) about the shopping experience and already I''m getting gifts. One friend stopped by my work today to give me this. Kind of freaky because it''s the same thing BF''s sister used. Now it definately is real!!!!!
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/booksearch/isbnInquiry.asp?userid=lB1S7GxCcV&isbn=0760742316&itm=4
Moon river- Unfortunately, mom has alienated the three of us to the point of the bridge being burned. It''s bad to say about your own mom, the person you should love and respect and that should love you unconditionally, but the motherly love just isn''t there. I applaud you and parents like you (likes BF''s parents, they are so great) who don''t try to force their kids into a mold or live their own dreams through the kids. We''re past the point of rebuilding, in a weird way that''s why I don''t want to tell her about last weekend; it will trun into a long rant about how it''s a mistake, I don''t know what I''m doing, he can''t possibly be that serious, I''m dumb to think he really loves me, wait until he leaves you and so on (she''s done it before) I just want her to SEE the ring. Knowing her, she would acknowledge it with a sneer or a forced "how nice" because then she will really know she was wrong.
On a lighter note, I''ve only told my oldest sister and two of my friends (and my friends here) about the shopping experience and already I''m getting gifts. One friend stopped by my work today to give me this. Kind of freaky because it''s the same thing BF''s sister used. Now it definately is real!!!!!
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/booksearch/isbnInquiry.asp?userid=lB1S7GxCcV&isbn=0760742316&itm=4
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I''m getting a very simple setting. Soft knife-edge shank, 4-prongs, low head, 18 karat yellow gold. Very basic which is what I wanted. I can be pretty destructive with jewelry, and even though I really love styles with side stones and the half-eternity bands, I don''t want to worry about knocking the stones out. I have managed to damage my class ring, so I don''t want to potentially ruin a diamond setting. It''s being done locally, BF isn''t really into doing something like this online. We went a very simple route this time, even BF said in the near future we can upgrade. Right now he just the world to know that he''s happy to be with me. How sweet is that?
moon river
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Don''t let anyone ruin this time for you. You know what is right for you so if you feel staying away is best for now then that would benefit you and your fiance. You don''t need the stress of your Mothers comments taking away from your joy. Perhaps a relative can mention your ring or you could send an engagement anouncement her way. Be the better person. All you can fix is your own part. Good luck and keep us posted. If you ever need a shoulder, I''ve got 2 of them
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Well well. Let me tell you this thread made my day!! I am so excited for you NY, CONGRATULATIONS!!!
ETA: And let me provide another voice to the chorus that a size 10 is a perfectly normal, average and slender size to be! Please, I wish I were a 10
Wait, I am a size 10...in my ring size
ha, got you beat on that "large hands" thing.
ETA: And let me provide another voice to the chorus that a size 10 is a perfectly normal, average and slender size to be! Please, I wish I were a 10
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In this instance, I do wish my hands were smaller... I think I will suffer from shrinkage syndrome kind of quick. I''ll try to be a good girl.
Well, almost the end of the first week of the ring being worked on. The anticipation is really getting to me! It''s so weird, I never though I would get like this. I''m now looking at the left hands of women passing by and always taking a long look at the bridal mags on the rack in a store. It''s like a switch has been turned on in a different part of my brain. I saw him last night for dinner and after I had to go to Walgreens. We passed by the mags and I asked was it safe to look at a bridal one for a moment to get some ideas. He was actually cool with browsing it with me. Afterwards I mentioned that I was curious and looked up the month of Oct in my planner, informing him that there were 5 Sundays in Oct and one is my b-day.(assuming that it would be a weekend wedding and Sunday is usually cheaper than Saturday) He looks at me and says "no, I was thinking more a night wedding on Halloween. That would be a more spiritual thing for us since you''re a witch." My jaw fell open. Middle of the sidewalk I stopped to give him a tightest hug and fought off tears. Didn''t care who saw my blatant PDA. I was so floored by him wanting to do something so special for me. I can''t believe his behavior the past three weeks. He''s become the guy in the fairytale story. My cynic side is going crazy but I keep telling it to shut up- this is real. I got the nerve to ask why the sudden change and he said since we talked he knows there are no more doubts or questions and we know what the other is thinking. Also, guys are literal, they want to do something, they do it. He seems more excited about the idea of planning a wedding than I though he would be. He certainly wouldn''t be a "just tell me where to show up in my tux" type. I''m still kind of reeling.
After a very bad 2005, maybe things are finally looking up. My mother definately can''t knock me. She came comtinue to be miserable in her little world.
Well, almost the end of the first week of the ring being worked on. The anticipation is really getting to me! It''s so weird, I never though I would get like this. I''m now looking at the left hands of women passing by and always taking a long look at the bridal mags on the rack in a store. It''s like a switch has been turned on in a different part of my brain. I saw him last night for dinner and after I had to go to Walgreens. We passed by the mags and I asked was it safe to look at a bridal one for a moment to get some ideas. He was actually cool with browsing it with me. Afterwards I mentioned that I was curious and looked up the month of Oct in my planner, informing him that there were 5 Sundays in Oct and one is my b-day.(assuming that it would be a weekend wedding and Sunday is usually cheaper than Saturday) He looks at me and says "no, I was thinking more a night wedding on Halloween. That would be a more spiritual thing for us since you''re a witch." My jaw fell open. Middle of the sidewalk I stopped to give him a tightest hug and fought off tears. Didn''t care who saw my blatant PDA. I was so floored by him wanting to do something so special for me. I can''t believe his behavior the past three weeks. He''s become the guy in the fairytale story. My cynic side is going crazy but I keep telling it to shut up- this is real. I got the nerve to ask why the sudden change and he said since we talked he knows there are no more doubts or questions and we know what the other is thinking. Also, guys are literal, they want to do something, they do it. He seems more excited about the idea of planning a wedding than I though he would be. He certainly wouldn''t be a "just tell me where to show up in my tux" type. I''m still kind of reeling.
After a very bad 2005, maybe things are finally looking up. My mother definately can''t knock me. She came comtinue to be miserable in her little world.
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Oh Temist, I'm so happy for you!
Do not let your mother or anyone else ruin this for you! That just makes me mad!!!
I'm sorry your mom is not being supportive. Sounds to me like she might be jealous....is she still married? I can't believe that she thinks a size 10 is too big...I'm between an 8 and 10!!!! It is not too big regardless of your height! Does she think being skinny makes ones life better!?!??!?!!
Do not let your mother or anyone else ruin this for you! That just makes me mad!!!
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Nytemist, this is so wonderful!! Your soon-to-be fiancé is so thoughtful!! 2006 definitely kicked his butt and I''m so happy for you! You definitely deserve all that is happening now!
Size 10 being fat is the stupidest thing I have ever heard. I''ve been a size 8 at 5''1" ever since I''ve finished growing when I was 14 (I may be a size 6 now as I''ve been losing weight in the last few months) and I''ve never been fat. I think 8-10 are the most average and common sizes, actually.
Size 10 being fat is the stupidest thing I have ever heard. I''ve been a size 8 at 5''1" ever since I''ve finished growing when I was 14 (I may be a size 6 now as I''ve been losing weight in the last few months) and I''ve never been fat. I think 8-10 are the most average and common sizes, actually.
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Albi- you think YOU"RE excited about all this?? I can''t sleep at night since my head wants to start planning!
Caribou- unfortunately my dad passed away early last summer. He lived for his girls so whatever behavior she doled out he did his best to ignore, but she made him unhappy since I was a teenager until the end. My sisters and I tried to convince him to leave in recent years, but he wouldn''t- he was determined to be dad, even though we were grown at that point. She more than likely thinks that being small is key. She is very petite naturally (5''1", about 110lbs) like her sisters and my sisters and I are built NOTHING like her. So, this has always been an issue with her. I was a dancer, swimmer and hockey player and I still have never been under 150lbs. Even when all muscle! I have no issues about it- the stress of losing my father drove me to comfort food and slacking off the gym, so I know I have a bit of pugde around the middle to get rid of, but fat? No way.
BF and I have dicussed maybe not even having her at the wedding. Especially now that he mentioned Halloween? She just write me off as nuts and not want to come. Better fun for the rest of us!!!
Caribou- unfortunately my dad passed away early last summer. He lived for his girls so whatever behavior she doled out he did his best to ignore, but she made him unhappy since I was a teenager until the end. My sisters and I tried to convince him to leave in recent years, but he wouldn''t- he was determined to be dad, even though we were grown at that point. She more than likely thinks that being small is key. She is very petite naturally (5''1", about 110lbs) like her sisters and my sisters and I are built NOTHING like her. So, this has always been an issue with her. I was a dancer, swimmer and hockey player and I still have never been under 150lbs. Even when all muscle! I have no issues about it- the stress of losing my father drove me to comfort food and slacking off the gym, so I know I have a bit of pugde around the middle to get rid of, but fat? No way.
BF and I have dicussed maybe not even having her at the wedding. Especially now that he mentioned Halloween? She just write me off as nuts and not want to come. Better fun for the rest of us!!!
SoonIHope
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Hehe, well I AM really excited.....but I suppose you still win!
And I''m sorry to hear about your father.... It sounds like you had a wonderful relationship with him.
Also, it''s good that you and your sisters know not to take your mother''s criticism too seriously! I say have a Halloween ceremony and try your best to scare her into not coming!
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Your dad must have been a very good, generous and loving man. I''m sorry he had to leave you and your sisters so soon.
A distant cousin of mine had a Halloween wedding. Our family was invited because it was an evening wedding without a dinner, but we couldn''t make the trip. Pity, I''ve always liked weddings!
I''m very excited for you Nytemist!!! Looks like you''re going to have your dream man, your dream ring and your dream wedding!!!
A distant cousin of mine had a Halloween wedding. Our family was invited because it was an evening wedding without a dinner, but we couldn''t make the trip. Pity, I''ve always liked weddings!
I''m very excited for you Nytemist!!! Looks like you''re going to have your dream man, your dream ring and your dream wedding!!!
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Thank you... somedays I still feel lost without him. I''m just like him, and I look like him. He was a worrier but in the past maybe 10 years or so had crossed over to more of the buddy stage (where he could tolerate some of my crazy teen/college stories) I just wish I had more time with the buddy phase. Not to mention he would have been the first person I told about last weekend. Also it really, really upset my BF when he passed away, because he never got the chance to say yes, I''m marrying your daughter. BF certainly won''t be having ''the talk'' with my mom! That''s one of the reasons he feels guilty for wasting time. He said something like if I knew how I felt 2 years ago, I should have sat down with your father then. I joke with my BF that I hadn''t had the kind of father I did, I would be such a screwed-up person now. Not that I don''t have my quirks.
ugh, the next roughly two weeks will be torture. He said not to worry, he''ll put together something nice when the time comes. When will that be?????!?!!?!?!?!?!!?!?!??
ugh, the next roughly two weeks will be torture. He said not to worry, he''ll put together something nice when the time comes. When will that be?????!?!!?!?!?!?!!?!?!??
Hi. I'm new in the forum but I want to say some things if I may:Date: 1/26/2006 7:23:53 PM
Author: nytemist
Also it really, really upset my BF when he passed away, because he never got the chance to say yes, I'm marrying your daughter. BF certainly won't be having 'the talk' with my mom! That's one of the reasons he feels guilty for wasting time. He said something like if I knew how I felt 2 years ago, I should have sat down with your father then. I joke with my BF that I hadn't had the kind of father I did, I would be such a screwed-up person now. Not that I don't have my quirks.
ugh, the next roughly two weeks will be torture. He said not to worry, he'll put together something nice when the time comes. When will that be?????!?!!?!?!?!?!!?!?!??
1) You're the luckiest girl in the whole wide world. Your soon-to-be-fiance sounds like an unbelibably amazing guy. How he gets you! Your're sooo lucky!
2) Please down-play your proposal story at least a bit, when it finally happens, please? I've been following your thread and I have no more Kleenex left in the whole darn house!! And I shop at Cosco!! Is SOOOOOOOOO SWEEEEEEEEEEEEETTT!!!
Goes without saying that the down-playing request was a joke. I was so touched by your incredibly romantic posts that when my hubby called me a while ago I couldn't stop crying! He freaked thinking something horrible had happened! When I finaly calmed down enough to explain to him that I was just so emotional from someone's love story I followed on a forum about diamonds, he took a very long pause and asked: "Honney,Are you OK?"
A chick-flick kinda guy he's not, that's for sure. *LOL*
OK, I found some paper towel rolls in the kitchen. Now I'm ready for your proposal story!
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