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Ebree- I am SO glad you''re NOT coming to my wedding.
We are having a religious ceremony. FI and I are Christian. We go to church every Sunday. We spent a lot of time making our ceremony special to us, and the religious aspect of is is perhaps the most important aspect of the ENTIRE day.
We are having a cocktail hour, with open bar. I hope everyone drinks up because we are paying thru the nose for it!!
We are having a reception with tri tip and mushroom ravioli - I''m not sure what constitutes ''wedding food'' but we selected the food we love - FI loves steak and I love mushrooms.
BM and MOH are giving speeches.
We are having a garter toss (not bc I want one, but bc FI really wants one...)
We are having a bouquet toss (although it''s going to be a ''fortune toss'' for all the women instead of just the singles, I''m giving my real bouquet to my mom)
My BM are wearing pink. I love pink. It''s my favorite color. (A few bm don''t like pink, but they are wearing it bc they know I love pink... what great friends I have!) And my bouquet will be pink.
And you know what? I think my wedding will be fun and personal and special. To me, it''s not all the ''traditions'' or trappings in themselves that are so important, but the people who are celebrating, and whether the bride and groom are enjoying themselves.
Like deco said, yes, it''s a play that is play millions of times over. To me, what makes a happy, fun, special wedding is whether the ''actors'' in that play are really enjoying themselves in their ''roles''... not whether I''ve seen the same play over and over.
There are some aspects of weddings that are traditional/repetitive - yes, but why do you think they are traditions? Because when you attend someone''s wedding and hear them recite the vows, you are reminded of your own vows. Or of your future vows. And it reminds you of the commitment these people are making and that you have/will/might make. And that brings meaning to it.
I''ve been to lots of weddings, most w/all "the same" stuff - but some felt really fun and special, and others felt flat. The ones that felt fun and special weren''t fun and special because they did or didn''t have X, Y, or Z, but because the couple was excited about sharing their special moment with their family and friends and made the day their very own by enjoying themselves thoroughly. The weddings I''ve been that didn''t feel as special and fun were the ones where the couple had let their parents/family/friends take over the event and sidelined themselves.
Everyone wants their wedding to be unique and special. And if you want to be unique and don''t care for certain things *for your own wedding*, that''s fine, I don''t care, I''m not offended in the least. It''s when you apply your own opinions to judge others'' weddings, then it begins to sound harsh. To be honest, I don''t give a dam* what anyone else thinks, but I just want to post this so others out there who might be afraid to voice their opinion can see both sides of the issue.
ANYWAY. to get back to the point of this thread - some things we''re doing differently:
-no wedding cake. we''re having an ice cream bar from our local ice cream joint- home made ice cream in 4 of our favorite flavors...
-no favors. donating to UNICEF instead
-no string trio for the ceremony - we hired a spanish guitarist.
-FI and I are salsa dancing to a Los Lonely Boys song for the first dance
-fortune toss for ALL the ladies instead of the regular bouquet toss (I''ll be giving my bouquet to my mom)
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