Upgrade (downgrade) help...

[maddie80]

Has anyone upgraded to a three-stone and then missed their solitaire?

My first engagement ring (at New Year''s!) was a Vatche X-prong with approx. a 1.2 F SI1. Because we had trouble finding a wedding band to match and my FI (now DH!) originally loved three stone rings, we went ahead and reset my diamond into a three-stone ring. The ring is very pretty, but a little more modern and not comfort fit like my Vatche so it kind of digs into my finger.... Same with the matching band. Sometimes I feel like it''s a little "too" much ring for me as well. I know, that''s not the right thing to say here!

How horrible would it be to "downgrade" back to my original setting? I don''t want to hurt DH''s feelings just because I am indecisive. My Vatche was set with a CZ and I''ve been wearing it around the house today thinking about how comfy it is!

 

[belle]

i don''t think it would be horrible at all. just tell him that the solitaire is more comfortable to wear and you want to switch back. you could still wear the 3stone occasionally if you have the stone that''s in the solitiaire set in it instead.

best of luck!

 

[Diamond*Dana]

I did that with my ring...I have an emerald cut that was in a very nice cathedral solitaire setting, nice amount of metal and comfort fit. I reset it into a platinum setting with side trapezoids and melee...last week I sold that setting and reset my stone back in the solitaire. I think that I am more a solitaire girl that would rather bling up the wedding band.

 

[maddie80]

Thanks for the advice ladies!

I really don''t want to hurt DH''s feelings. Resetting the CZ into the three-stone and keeping that for special occasions, dressup and weekends would be great. But - that set is the set we were married with, and he says "his ring is the one he will wear until he dies." Then again, he''s not a woman!

 

[Cehrabehra]

or you could leave the rings as is and just wear whichever floats your boat for that day! If wearing the 3 stone with a cz center is your dress up ring.... why not just leave your ''nice'' ring for ''nice'' times and wear your engagement ring as it is?

 

[Diamond*Dana]

I am all about sentiment, really I am, but the set that Iwear is not the set that we were married with...my original ering diamond was reset into a RHR and the set that I wear as my wedded set was for our anniversary. Was the solitaire setting the one that he proposed with? Maybe that could be your words of wisdom on that topic.

 

[Beacon]

Gosh I am reading this thread with great interest as I am in the process of making a three stone (all RBs) and then I am thinking, hey, maybe a solitaire is better and just change the solitaire setting......

So I am making myself crazy and am pretty conflicted. Your thread sounds like what is going on in my mind. Worst, I was just in Macys and for fun tried on two of their three stone rings. Oh, they looked so bad on me! I tried to justify it on the fact that they were not good stones, the setting wasn''t nice and the ring was much to big for me. Still I have these images in my mind.

I guess if you go back to a solitaire you''ll hvae a nice pair of earrings out of it

. Good luck with your decision. Do you have any photos of your existing 3 sgtone to post? Would love to see.

 

[maddie80]

Dana, you''re too funny!

Yes, the solitaire is the ring he proposed with. I feel kind of like a spoiled brat, though - we went ahead and changed to the three-stone I wanted (he wanted it too), and now I want what I started with! I don''t have a wedding band to match the solitaire either... But I can wear the one that goes with the three-stone and eventually get an eternity band. We''re hoping to try to get pregnant next year anyway, so I would want to wait until after that to get an eternity band in case my fingers change size!

 

[maddie80]

Beacon - I don''t have any good photos of my three-stone, but here are photos of the same setting I have.

 

[maddie80]

Dana - may I ask where you sold the setting you didn''t keep? Did you sell it on ebay? I considered this too, but wasn''t sure where I could sell it!

 

[sistagrl2004]

Perhaps you can take your new rings to a jewler and have him "round out" the inside to make them more "comfort fit"

 

[diamondseeker2006]

madeleine, I wouldn''t put a CZ in the three stone ring with diamonds, I''d put something like a beautiful sapphire or other colored gemstone! Then you''d still have your e-ring and you''d have a really nice right hand ring!

 

[gailrmv]

Date: 10/25/2006 6:45:56 PM
Author: diamondseeker2006
madeleine, I wouldn''t put a CZ in the three stone ring with diamonds, I''d put something like a beautiful sapphire or other colored gemstone! Then you''d still have your e-ring and you''d have a really nice right hand ring!

This is EXACTLY what I was thinking. is your 3 stone Vatche too? I am surprised it is not more comfortable.

I sold a setting on ebay with disastrous results. It was damaged either in shipping or by the buyer. I accepted it back because of my return policy - I said I would accept a return. I now have a damaged setting sitting in the back of a drawer somewhere. Makes me ill. I did not go through the ebay dispute process b/c I didn''t think I would win and b/c it didn''t see worth all the hassle but I wonder if I should have anyway.

 

[aljdewey]

I went from solitaire RB to 3-stone rb. No regrets.

Sure, from time to time, I swoon for the simple and BIG look of a solitaire.....but when I had the solitaire, I wanted the bling of several stones.

If I had it to do again, I''d still go to the 3-stone. Love it.

 

[maddie80]

Thanks for the advice ladies!

Putting a sapphire in the three-stone is a definite option. My DH LOVES sapphires. I think the funds might not be available just yet (my jewelry budget was more than tapped out this year!), but maybe in a while!

Gail, my three-stone setting is not a vatche - it''s a Jeff Cooper. The edges are beveled, which looks fantastic, but creates a slightly sharp edge.

As for the solitaire - I am reluctant to wear it with the CZ. It''s a nice CZ, but not the same as my darling 1.2 F SI1! If I reset my diamond there, I would have to get another wedding band to match it as well... (The Vatche is all rounded, but my wedding band is gypsy set and has beveled edges.) Hmm.

 

[mrssalvo]

Date: 10/25/2006 1:48:25 PM
Author: madeleine
Dana - may I ask where you sold the setting you didn''t keep? Did you sell it on ebay? I considered this too, but wasn''t sure where I could sell it!

madeleine,

since it''s a designer setting, if you decide you want to sell it you might consider putting it on consignment with Pearlmans. they have a jeff cooper there now as a matter of fact. You agree on a price with Bill and he takes 15% once it sells. I''ve done it 2x with him and it''s been great and much easier than dealing with ebay. I do like the idea of putting a colored stone in the center if you decide to keep it. i think it would be beautiful.

 

[maddie80]

mrssalvo - Thanks, that''s a great idea! I was reluctant to try to sell it on ebay, esp. after Gail''s story!

I think I may keep it no matter what, and think about putting a sapphire in it when money''s less tight! (Then I would have 2 wedding sets! Would that be bad?)

 

[Diamond*Dana]

OOH! You could set the 3 stone with the birthstone of your future child!! Then you will have a sentimental attachment still! Sorry if that was already suggested, I just got so excited when you said that you and DH are going to start a family next year...

I sold my setting at a local jewelry store. I know that I did not get anywhere near what I paid for it, but I didn't want to deal with the hassle on ebay and people trying to nickel and dime me. I do sell on ebay, and I love it, just wanted the money asap, kwim? Plus, they threw in the resetting and rhodium dip for free, lol. Another good place to look into selling is the jewelry classifieds section at DiamondRing.com. There is no charge for listing.