Wedding "Night" Photos

[TravelingGal]

Date: 6/30/2009 12:39:45 PM
Author: BizouMom

Date: 6/30/2009 12:38:39 PM
Author: TravelingGal

Date: 6/30/2009 12:34:00 PM
Author: decodelighted
Its a gorgeous suite, no doubt. To each, his own. Ya gotta do what ya gotta do. Sometimes its more about the experience of having done something than the finished product. For as little as I look at my wedding pictures 3 yrs later -- I can''t imagine that I''d be framing bedroom shots, or even glancing at them in an album years later without wincing. But, like I said, I really think different generations have different perspectives on things. Or maybe its not generations but personality types??


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Deco, I think it''s personality types. It''s probably unfair to label an entire generation, especially since it appears on this thread that even within a generation (younger), many believe this is just OTT and TMI.

Maybe it is simply about dignity and class?

Depends on the definition...it seems to be changing all the time.

 

[decodelighted]

Date: 6/30/2009 12:37:20 PM
Author: TravelingGal
When the passion and intimacy starts to fade, photos like this will do nothing to remind people not to forget it. Work and effort is what cultivates a marriage, not photos that capture ''intimate'' STAGED moments.

Sing it GREAT-Grammy! I feel like people can''t even tell the difference anymore between AUTHENTICALLY *intimate moments* and photo-ops. And they''re fetishizing and cherishing the WRONG ONES!!!!

 

[Rock_of_Love]

Date: 6/30/2009 12:37:20 PM
Author: TravelingGal

Date: 6/30/2009 12:32:52 PM
Author: Rock_of_Love

Date: 6/30/2009 12:16:30 PM
Author: decodelighted

Date: 6/30/2009 12:10:58 PM
Author: Rock_of_Love
We are planning to take lots of pics throughout the property...so why not take a couple in the bedroom!?!?

I don''t know, maybe because life is not a porno flick? I just do not GET this generation? When did everyone start thinking they are living in a movie? Must be all the ''reality'' tv ... with Jane Q Public dolled up like a hoochie and spread out on bedspreads covered with rose petals. Newsflash: your weddings are not going to be in US Weekly no matter how hard you try to recreate that ''celeb life'' feeling.

Seriously? SERIOUSLY????

And, just for the record, I don''t think it has anything to do with trying to recreate ''celeb life,'' living in a move, or reality tv. I think it has to do with capturing a couple''s moments...if a couple wants to capture some more intimate moments, then why not? I can imagine these pics would be a nice reminder down the road to not forget about the passion and intimacy of the relationship. Seriously.

When the passion and intimacy starts to fade, photos like this will do nothing to remind people not to forget it. Work and effort is what cultivates a marriage, not photos that capture ''intimate'' STAGED moments.

I definitely agree that a marriage, or any significantly long-term relationship, takes work and effort to keep it "alive" so to speak. But, for me, I still get nostalgic when I look at old photos of us...its like, remember when...awww, how young we were...remember that night...remember how tough it was to get my dress off, and I was wearing spanx, not sexy lingerie...ha ha!!!

So, *for me,* I think these pics, even STAGED, would be beautiful reminders...

But, who knows, we definitely don''t look like Josh & Fergie...so we might just look silly!! Who knows?? Maybe it will just crack us up to try!! Ha ha!!

 

[Rock_of_Love]

Date: 6/30/2009 12:38:39 PM
Author: TravelingGal

Date: 6/30/2009 12:34:00 PM
Author: decodelighted
Its a gorgeous suite, no doubt. To each, his own. Ya gotta do what ya gotta do. Sometimes its more about the experience of having done something than the finished product. For as little as I look at my wedding pictures 3 yrs later -- I can''t imagine that I''d be framing bedroom shots, or even glancing at them in an album years later without wincing. But, like I said, I really think different generations have different perspectives on things. Or maybe its not generations but personality types??


GRAMMY signing Out!

Deco, I think it''s personality types. It''s probably unfair to label an entire generation, especially since it appears on this thread that even within a generation (younger), many believe this is just OTT and TMI.

Yeah, I definitley think it is more about personality types. I''ve always been a bit more "racy" than my friends. Some of my friends would *never* consider this. Then again, some of my friends would not even do the bridal shower with lingerie...it would be the more traditional "pots and pans" way. So, I think it really goes back to the personality type.

One of my friends who got married about 6 years ago or so, even had us incorporate "costumes" into the bridal shower lingerie (cheerleader, french maid, etc.) then she modeled them and we all voted on which she should wear on the wedding night. And, I do believe her FMIL was there!!! Even as "racy" as I may be, I''m not *that* racy!! I think she definitely would''ve done these pics...maybe she did?!?!

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 6/30/2009 12:45:20 PM
Author: decodelighted

Date: 6/30/2009 12:37:20 PM
Author: TravelingGal
When the passion and intimacy starts to fade, photos like this will do nothing to remind people not to forget it. Work and effort is what cultivates a marriage, not photos that capture ''intimate'' STAGED moments.

Sing it GREAT-Grammy! I feel like people can''t even tell the difference anymore between AUTHENTICALLY *intimate moments* and photo-ops. And they''re fetishizing and cherishing the WRONG ONES!!!!

No kidding. I hate staged photographs. Even though they look great, it is VERY rare they capture real intimacy.

Staged:

REAL:

We obviously weren''t thinking about the camera in the above shot. How could you forget a photographer in the bedroom? How could you connect as two people, completely and wholly when there is someone else sharing your space?

Am I crazy to think that?

 

[Rock_of_Love]

Date: 6/30/2009 12:58:11 PM
Author: TravelingGal

Date: 6/30/2009 12:45:20 PM
Author: decodelighted

Date: 6/30/2009 12:37:20 PM
Author: TravelingGal
When the passion and intimacy starts to fade, photos like this will do nothing to remind people not to forget it. Work and effort is what cultivates a marriage, not photos that capture ''intimate'' STAGED moments.

Sing it GREAT-Grammy! I feel like people can''t even tell the difference anymore between AUTHENTICALLY *intimate moments* and photo-ops. And they''re fetishizing and cherishing the WRONG ONES!!!!

No kidding. I hate staged photographs. Even though they look great, it is VERY rare they capture real intimacy.

Staged:

REAL:

We obviously weren''t thinking about the camera in the above shot. How could you forget a photographer in the bedroom? How could you connect as two people, completely and wholly when there is someone else sharing your space?

Am I crazy to think that?

No, not at all!! I definitely see what you mean. That is a great example. Those are both great pics, but for sure the one on the bottom is a keeper. Love it! You guys look great.

 

[Lilac]

I understand wanting to have some pictures for memories of the night, but I don''t really see why a photographer or anyone else needs to be there for that.

On our wedding night when we got to the hotel my husband and I had our own camera and took some cute shots of ourselves with a self-timer. Some shots of him trying to help me get my dress off, some shots with us drinking champagne, shots of the rose petals and pictures he had set up throughout the room - and I LOVE looking at those pictures to remind me of how amazing that night was. But I would never feel comfortable letting anyone else in on those private moments from that night - those pictures are for our eyes, and ONLY our eyes, and even just having a photographer in the room would make me feel VERY uncomfortable and would have taken away from the intimacy of the night.

 

[wannaBMrsH]

I LOVE photographs! I love to take pictures and I love to have my picture taken.

We have photos of the night we got engaged, and then we did engagement photos, and then we did family photos (FI has kids)...so anything with photos, I am all over it.

We are bringing our photographers to our DW and we are having a TTD session the day after.

I shot my b-pics about a week ago as FI''s wedding present...I love photos.

That said, I would not do "Wedding Night" photos. We are going to be in a hotel, after hours of hanging out with people, sweaty and tired and it will also probably be the first time we are alone all day...I think we can manage our wedding night on our own without photographers.

I was unsure about the b-pics because I''ve never been fully comfortable with my body, but I did the photos as a present to FI. One of my obsessions is shoes and he bought me the blue Manolo''s for a wedding present, I wanted them to be meaninful to him as well and I didn''t do any full nude photos, but there were some that definitely alluded to the possibility of nekkidness...besides, I figured that this is how he proposed to me and I wanted to have something that commemorates how beautiful he thinks I am.

 

[Lanie]

I have to say that I would do boudoir over these hands down. I had my boudoir photos done just a few weeks ago and I''m so glad I did. You feel sexy, you look great, it''s all about YOU. Pre baby, pre body changing, etc.

These pictures are just too intimate. I think this is more of a girl thing. I can''t see a guy saying, "Have a photographer come out and do posed shots of us pretending to start to do the deed, and we have to wait even longer to be able to have some alone time? SCORE!" No way. My fiance would laugh in my face if I suggested these. He would much rather see naughty pics of me and hopefully hide them in a really secret location so no one else finds them.

 

[katamari]

I honestly do not understand the purpose of boudoir photos in any inclination, though I would never judge someone for doing them, just not my bag. I would find it creepy if my FI would rather look at risque pics of me instead of just doing something risque with me.

My big problem with this "trend" and all other wedding "trends" is the further commodification of weddings. Wedding photography is already out of control, in terms of the proportion of a wedding budget the couple is expected to spend. I am much more interested in trends that support the symbolic celebration of relationships above creating tangible non-necessities expected to serve as substitutes for this.

 

[katamari]

Date: 6/30/2009 12:45:20 PM
Author: decodelighted

Date: 6/30/2009 12:37:20 PM

Author: TravelingGal

When the passion and intimacy starts to fade, photos like this will do nothing to remind people not to forget it. Work and effort is what cultivates a marriage, not photos that capture ''intimate'' STAGED moments.

Sing it GREAT-Grammy! I feel like people can''t even tell the difference anymore between AUTHENTICALLY *intimate moments* and photo-ops. And they''re fetishizing and cherishing the WRONG ONES!!!!

I taught a media course this past year, and there is actually a lot of research that attests to the power of visual media having the ability to create emotions. And, in younger individuals, a visual image is able to evoke more memories and emotion, while in older individuals (in this study it was over 27) audio, followed by text, was most able to evoke memories and emotion. Maybe it is a generational thing, afterall, Deco. In which case, add me to the granny club.

 

[Lanie]

Oh I think boudoir photos are great!!! It''s not that he would rather look at pictures of me...it''s that those pictures remind him of the hot and sexy wife (or gf) that he is with. I think the photos are someting you will pull out from time to time, and they will look really cool in 50 years or so. I purposely did mine so that there was no nudity whatsoever. You don''t see anything of me that you wouldn''t see at a pool.

And I hear you on the wedding commodity thing. Slap "wedding" on anything and you can upcharge it. People invent excuses to spend more money. "You HAVE to have this for your wedding". A lot of things, you don''t! It''s the same with quinceaneras (Hispanic 15th b''day party for girls) down here. They spend so much on those things...pretty much like having a pre-wedding. But the girls are willing to spend, so the vendors are there with their pockets ready.

 

[HollyS]

Date: 6/30/2009 12:16:30 PM
Author: decodelighted

Date: 6/30/2009 12:10:58 PM
Author: Rock_of_Love
We are planning to take lots of pics throughout the property...so why not take a couple in the bedroom!?!?

I don''t know, maybe because life is not a porno flick? I just do not GET this generation? When did everyone start thinking they are living in a movie? Must be all the ''reality'' tv ... with Jane Q Public dolled up like a hoochie and spread out on bedspreads covered with rose petals. Newsflash: your weddings are not going to be in US Weekly no matter how hard you try to recreate that ''celeb life'' feeling.

Seriously? SERIOUSLY????

LOL!

I confess, I don''t understand the NEED to have a phony photo shoot, or God forbid, a REAL one . . . in the bedroom.

The desire for this leaves me rather aghast. And thinking exactly what deco has so eloquently expressed!

 

[iheartscience]

Date: 6/29/2009 6:19:05 PM
Author: decodelighted
Gross!!! Sorry ... visceral reaction. Also SOOOOO turned off by the camera wh*reness of the thing. YUCK. Like that classy classy Tori Spelling & her ''secret elopement'' with only the 10 person team from US Mag or whoever documenting every cheesy, moneymaking, staged moment.

**shudder**

Ha, ditto! I just dittoed you on the other nudie pic thread-apparently we share similar thoughts about naked pictures. Wait-does that mean we should take sexy pictures TOGETHER?!

 

[Dannielle]

Date: 6/30/2009 3:38:47 PM
Author: wannaBMrsH
I LOVE photographs! I love to take pictures and I love to have my picture taken.

We have photos of the night we got engaged, and then we did engagement photos, and then we did family photos (FI has kids)...so anything with photos, I am all over it.

We are bringing our photographers to our DW and we are having a TTD session the day after.

I shot my b-pics about a week ago as FI''s wedding present...I love photos.

That said, I would not do ''Wedding Night'' photos. We are going to be in a hotel, after hours of hanging out with people, sweaty and tired and it will also probably be the first time we are alone all day...I think we can manage our wedding night on our own without photographers.

I was unsure about the b-pics because I''ve never been fully comfortable with my body, but I did the photos as a present to FI. One of my obsessions is shoes and he bought me the blue Manolo''s for a wedding present, I wanted them to be meaninful to him as well and I didn''t do any full nude photos, but there were some that definitely alluded to the possibility of nekkidness...besides, I figured that this is how he proposed to me and I wanted to have something that commemorates how beautiful he thinks I am.

That is exactly how I feel.

When I get back the the hotel I just want to lie down with FI (well, then it will be DH

) and just relax, talk about the day and enjoy each others company ALONE.

 

[trillionaire]

Personally, I think that our society has such broad tastes and interests, that whatever floats your boat is your perogative. I would personally never invite a photog in the bedroom, that sounds like a threesome to me, but B* photo shoots, either solo or as couples strike me as harmless if it makes each partner happy. There are tons of new fab baby and mommy shots that have nekkid babies and mommies, and topless dads... which can be beautiful or weird, depending on how you feel about it.

It''s not pictures that are necessarily in poor taste, moreso discretion and what you do with them. If you have secret **** star aspirations, well, fantastic, but don''t make me uncomfortable by posting them prominently in your home or where your children will find them.

 

[anchor31]

Boudoir photos make me uncomfortable, so wedding night pics? No thanks. Eep!

 

[Cass]

Well, maybe I''m the only one, but I don''t see the big deal. It''s not like you have sex in front of the photographer. My goodness! Then again, I''m not shy by any means. I''d do it if I wasn''t trekking the 40 minutes home on my wedding night. By the time I get home I AM just going to want to crash.

 

[Rock_of_Love]

Date: 7/2/2009 2:24:20 AM
Author: Cass
Well, maybe I''m the only one, but I don''t see the big deal. It''s not like you have sex in front of the photographer. My goodness! Then again, I''m not shy by any means. I''d do it if I wasn''t trekking the 40 minutes home on my wedding night. By the time I get home I AM just going to want to crash.

Me neither!! But, apparently it leaves some people rather aghast...LOL!!

If a couple wants to take some pics like this, go for it! Who cares what anyone else thinks!?!

 

[SparklyLibra]

Date: 6/29/2009 6:15:09 PM
Author: decodelighted
Its funny that this is a trend that might be inspired by a Celeb couple who I am totally convinced are ''bearding'' each other. Guess these pictures are supposed to help people believe they''re sooooo in love etc. Not buyin'' it!

LMAO@ "bearding" I haven''t used or heard that term in a minute, lol!

 

[teapot]

I have done that for my friends. They weren''t Bpics, but it was pictures of them unwinding at the end of the night. Looking in the fridge for food. Having their hair dismantled, that kind of thing. They make for fun pictures. If I only thought about that the night of my wedding. Oh well.