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Well...marriage is likely ending

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lovedogs

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We've been married for 10 years and together for 12.5

I'm incredibly sad but also know it's my choice and feel relief. Things have been really hard for a while, and I decided that I'd rather be sad from missing him than sad from feeling not prioritized/loved in the way I need.

Not sure why I'm posting other than to try and be honest about a hard experience.
 
It helps that it is your choice and that it makes sense to you ... hugs to you during this difficult time
 
Oh. I’m so sorry :(sad Big ::HUGS:: lovedogs. ❤️
 
I am sorry, that must be heartbreaking. But it is good you have figured out(/know) what you want and you should hold on to that and just go forward as there will be light at the other side of the tunnel. Lots of hugs and dust.
 
If you feel relief, it's tells you it's the right thing for you. It isn't easy, but after a while, and getting used to it, you will be fine. Being unhappy is telling you something. It's good that you recognized it and have the courage to act. Just take care of yourself through this time and you will come out fine in the end.
 
Sending you big big hugs. Have you seen the studies about how lottery winners and people who have serious non-fatal accidents return to their baseline happiness in about three months? Whatever is head for you, I am sure you will be ok. I’ll be thinking of you <3
 
I was divorced a few years ago after 13 years. While everyone offered me tons of support, I had one friend say “congratulations“. Seemed like such an odd, unsympathetic response at the time but after some time passing, I understand it now and it was perhaps the most valuable, accurate response I got.

I’m alone and sometimes lonely, but loneliness when you‘re actually alone is more comforting in a way than feeling lonely when you’re with someone and that someone isn’t giving what you deserve. Being alone and lonely means when you’re ready, you get the opportunity to find the things that make you happy rather than being forced to macgyver a situation with someone else that isn’t working only to find little confetti bits of sort-of happiness.

It’s easy to question the decision at the time, particularly if it’s just a general feeling that it’s not right… but it is worth it. With all that said, I’ll say I’m so sorry right now and congratulations for your future that will come.
 
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I'm so sorry, lovedogs. Sending you hugs across the miles.
 
Been there. It’s hard. But it really does get better. 11 years on from the divorce, I am happier than I’ve ever been. This too will pass.
 
Im so sorry. I’ll echo what some others said already though, that if you’re feeling relieved, you are doing the right thing for yourself by ending the relationship no matter how hard it may be. Hoping and wishing for better things in your future!
 
oh dang @lovedogs
im sorry to hear this but releaved its your choice and if you feel releaf it must be the right thing for you to do for you
so sending you lots of kitty cat hugs (like dog hugs but more delicate and without drool ;)2 )

we might only know most of us over the internet, but we are freinds and we are here for you when you need us
 
So sorry you’re going through such a tough time. It will change you in ways you never expected but I’m positive in six months time you’ll be stronger and happier for it. Grit your teeth and take it day by day. The only way out is through.
 
It’s never easy to make such a decision so we trust that you have given it a thorough thought & believe that it will turn out well. Lots of hugs from us - from all over the world.
 
Been there, done that, got the T-shirt, and I feel for you!

My ex-hubby was a great gent, we were together for 10 years and married for 7 of them. However, he was not able to provide the fireworks in life that I sought.

We grew apart and were more like brother and sister rather than husband and wife.

I had already decided to part company with him when I met my late partner.

My 1.19ct EC diamond was a reminder of that decision, as I had a saving plan for 5 years with the intention to go on a grand holiday with him for my milestone birthday. By the time the saving plan matured, I could not bear the idea of going on holiday with him ever again after a painful trip to Italy when I nearly left him on the side of a road in Italy.

I hope you would be able to part with your OH amicably and could remain as friends. I appreciate relationships do not last forever, however, it upsets me when I hear two people who used to love each other being at war when they parted company. The film War Of The Roses starring Kathleen Turner and Michael Douglas is truly a bitter-sweet film that touches my heart in that respect.

Being a hopeless romantic deep down, I would like to believe in happy ever after. However, in reality, that had not worked for me.

At the time of my late partner's sudden death from an accident, I had started to feel being caged. What kept me going was his dog, as I loved that little dog. Hence I took him in as my own after my late partner's death; and I would like to believe he had a good life when he died of old age just a month short of his 14th birthday which is a good age for a Border Terrier. I miss him and my late partner every day to this day.

Nowadays I am on my own, as I believe it is much better to be on my own than with the wrong person.

I CBA to sacrifice my own needs and wants in order to fit into someone's life.

Hugs to you and you are in my thoughts.

DK :confused2:
 
Big hugs to you. It can & it will get better. Making the decision is always the hardest part, but now you HAVE made it, stick with it, see it through & hold your head up high.
 
I am sorry you have to make the decision, but it sounds like the correct one, I have been in a loveless marriage for years, its hard to leave I wished I had the courage that you have to leave years ago, everyone deserves to be happy.
 
I’m so sorry that you’re going through a difficult time. Sending virtual ((hugs)) and strength to get through this better and stronger than ever! ❤️
 
Sending you gentle hugs and all the best for a bright and happy future.
 
Sending you big hugs @lovedogs

I echo what everyone else is saying. It's hard to see it right now but you'll be happy and thankful that you did. We're always here to pick you up and take your mind off things. Lean on us my bling sister!
 
I really like @Django0413 's positive outlook and agree. Congratulations on going for what is right for you. Much support for your new life moving forward!
 
Oh, hugs to you @lovedogs! I am sorry to hear this but you know the truth about your situation better than any of us. If this feels like the right thing for you to do, then keep moving forward. Life is too short to live in an unhappy situation and there will be better days ahead for you. Take care and know that we are here for you.
 
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