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i''m 29 & got engaged last week, FI is 30 (first engagement for both).
 
We got engaged when I was just a couple months shy of 22 (he was 22 already), and will be getting married at 23/24.
 
I was 24 when we got engaged and my fiance was 23.We married a year and a half later so I was nearly 26 by then.

This was 26 years ago. However, a great many of my 24 year old son''s friends have married already and two or three already have their first child. It seems to depend. I was just going to say that his college friends mostly weren''t married yet--but that''s actually not true, now that I think about it. The most recent wedding we went to, the guy (who is his friend about 25) hasn''t been to college but the wife has been to grad school.

I wouldn''t say someone is too young if they''ve fnished college. They aren''t necessarily too young if they''re still in college, but it''s such a hard way to go to be studying and learning about being married at the same time. also people change a lot in that year right after college, so I would think it would be best to wait until that''s done. Maybe about 23. On the other hand, I know people who married younger who did just fine. My cousin (and long-time best friend) was married at 19, it''s over 30 years later and she and her husband are still very very happy.

I think it can sometimes be a more difficult transition into marriage if you wait until you''re over thirty and your career and everything are established--and you''ve got very set in your ways. But I''ve known people who have successful marriages who did that, too. One of the happiest couples I know got married when they were both over 40. I haven''t seen them in years, but they got along just great. They rushed and had a baby right away. The wife was about 42 so she was very lucky to immediately get pregnant and have no issues. The biggest issue with very late marriages for the woman is the fertility issues that come up IF you want to have your own child. But of course some people don''t want to, or are reconciled to it not happening or whatever.

It really depends on the person, I think. But no, early twenties is not too young--the danger signs I think would be if you had a lot of dreams that you were dropping because you decided had to marry a particular person--then you''d regret not following your dreams, once the glamor of romance wore out. Or the other thing that happens a lot, when someone--usually the woman--is marrying really young (like in teen years) because it''s the only way she sees to get of her parents house, which is dysfunctional in some way. Those two situations don''t work well. But you don''t sound as if you have either issue.
 
I was engaged at 21 (he was 25), but I was already done with college (I graduated at 20). Haha, there was talk about engagement for a long time before that even, but I wanted to buy a drink after I got engaged! We recently got married this month!

My husband is a great guy, and entirely supportive of my career ambitions. He actually moved so that we could be together while I attend medical school, and he''s ok with moving again to where ever The Match lands me (once you choose schools to apply to in the Match, whatever school you are matched with is legally binding, so you have to go.)
 
BF and I are both 24. Hopefully will be engaged any day now, and will be married when we are both 25.
 
Engaged when I was 26, husband was 29. Married a year later.
 
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I was 22 when I got engaged and will be 24 when we get married. He was 29 when we got engaged and will be 30 when we get married. We will have been together for 6 year by the time we get married and have currently lived together for 3.

It may sound young but things are a lil different here in Australia as our Aussie poster will agree to, some people are finished degree''s by 21 and working in professional jobs so it is sometimes a completely different circumstance to other countries. Also a lot of us don''t do masters / PhD so that also may affect age people settle down.

Also I come from a more regional area and I would estimate at least a half of my highschool class are engaged or married and of these probably at least half have one child.
 
it was a month ago
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I was 26, he was 27. A good age for me. Before 26 would have been waaaaaay too soon for me. I'll be 27 in 5 days!
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I was 22, and DH was 29. I had finished uni and we were both into our careers, and had just statred building our house. I was young, but there didn''t seem any need to keep waiting! We''d been together 5 years at that point, so too young wasn''t reason enough to keep waiting - regardless of a few sideways glances I received from those who thought I hadn''t aged enough yet
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We celebrate our 2nd wedding anniversary in 3 months, and have never been happier!
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I was 18 and FI was 23, I''ll be 21 when we are married and he will be 25
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I was 22 and he was 23 when we got engaged.

I will be 23 and he will be 24 when we get married.

Friends: 4 best friends married when they were 22-23. Another 2 best friends will be married around age 24-25.
 
I was 25 and DH was 24... I was 26 when we got married and he was 25.
 
both of us are 29 and got engaged about 3 months ago. we''ll both be 30 when we get married.
 
I always wanted to be married before i was 30. We got engaged when i was 29 and he is 36. I''ll be 30 by the time we marry.

I always used to say to him "but don''t you think getting married at 29 and 36 sounds soooooo much younger than at 30 and 37??"
ha ha, as i type and read it, it still looks alot younger too!! oh well, we will have been 30 and 37 for only a couple of months each by the time we marry so i guess it''s not that bad.
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M proposed when i 21 he was 23 and we just got married im 22 and hes 24
 
Feeling abit old here with you young-ing Ladies
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30 Engaged, 31 Married

He is 39.

First and last marriage for us both.
 
Wow, ladies! Thanks for all of your responses!! It seems that twenty-something is the most common age range to get engaged and then married.
 
Date: 8/24/2009 5:20:32 PM
Author: Pandora II
I was 34 and DH was 32 - first marriage for us both.


A lot of our friends have been getting engaged/married in the last year and all of them are in their 30s. It''s pretty rare in London to get engaged before late 20s/30s as we are all so penniless!
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Yeah, that''s the case with many big cities in America as well. Also, many young professionals are also establishing their careers and would thus want to postpone marriage until after they are financially/professionally stable.
 
Date: 8/24/2009 6:54:52 PM
Author: jaylex
I''m 19, he''s just shy of 21..

We''re getting engaged very soon (as in next month or so). I''ll be almost 22 when we get married, he''ll be 23.

We''ve been together about 4 years now and are so excited to take this next step in our relationship!

As bf''s dad told me ''when you know, you know. Don''t let anyone tell you you''re too young''


As far as my peers go:

I have a friend who is 19 and has been married 9 months

Another friend who is 19 and engaged

Another friend who is 23 and engaged

A step sister who is 23 and has been married for 8 months
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Yeah, I know of 2-3 couples who got engaged when they were in their late teens. And your bf''s dad is completely right!
 
Date: 8/24/2009 9:06:05 PM
Author: chiapet
First engagement: I was 18. Way too young! I was with the guy for 4 years and finally broke it off when I was 21.

Second engagement: 23.

Third engagement: 28. Married at 29 and divorced a year and a half later.


I don''t think there''s a appropriate age to get engaged. It depends on the person and culture. Most of my Asian friends are married by the time they''re 22 but most of my non-Asian friends are in their 30s and still single.
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Yeah, it depends on the family and particular culture. I myself am Asian (South Vietnamese, to be precise) and many of my parents'' Asian friends'' children did not get engaged until they were in their late twenties. They were all very professionally driven and did not want to marry until they were at a stable point in their careers.

On the other hand, my SO comes from a very traditional Anglo-Saxon family where it is common for people to be engaged in their early twenties.
 
Date: 8/24/2009 10:03:43 PM
Author: MakingTheGrade
I was engaged at 21 (he was 25), but I was already done with college (I graduated at 20). Haha, there was talk about engagement for a long time before that even, but I wanted to buy a drink after I got engaged! We recently got married this month!


My husband is a great guy, and entirely supportive of my career ambitions. He actually moved so that we could be together while I attend medical school, and he''s ok with moving again to where ever The Match lands me (once you choose schools to apply to in the Match, whatever school you are matched with is legally binding, so you have to go.)
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Congrats on your recent marriage! Your husbands sounds wonderful and reminds me a lot of my SO! He is also very supportive of my career aspirations. I am finishing a master''s and am applying to PhD programs in the fall and he would like to relocate so that we could still be together. He has also said that he would be more than willing to relocate again when I find a tenure-track position in academia, but I don''t want him to sacrifice his career for mine. Looks like we''ll have to face some tough decisions, but that''s marriage, right?
 
Congratulations to all of the ladies who are engaged or married to the man of their dreams! Others, feel free to continue to add to this thread. I''m curious!!
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I''m not engaged yet, but we''re talking about getting married in the summer of 2010 and he has all my ring preferences and is planning on getting me one (I just don''t know when!). Anyway, I turn 29 next month and he''ll turn 31 in 3 months, so that''s the ballpark timeframe of when we''ll get engaged. We''ll both be 29 and 31 when we marry.
 
Date: 8/25/2009 9:15:31 PM
Author: SparklyRing

Date: 8/24/2009 6:54:52 PM
Author: jaylex
I''m 19, he''s just shy of 21..

We''re getting engaged very soon (as in next month or so). I''ll be almost 22 when we get married, he''ll be 23.

We''ve been together about 4 years now and are so excited to take this next step in our relationship!

As bf''s dad told me ''when you know, you know. Don''t let anyone tell you you''re too young''


As far as my peers go:

I have a friend who is 19 and has been married 9 months

Another friend who is 19 and engaged

Another friend who is 23 and engaged

A step sister who is 23 and has been married for 8 months
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Yeah, I know of 2-3 couples who got engaged when they were in their late teens. And your bf''s dad is completely right!
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Glad you agree
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And I def agree with the stable career "thing". In our case, bf was home schooled and has been working full time since he was 15. He and his step dad own a heating and air conditioning business..
I''ve been in interior design for 3 years although only full time since I graduated last year.. Along with taking interior design classes...

Being financially stable is very important to us too.
 
We were both 21 when we got engaged (DH is 43 days older than me).. And we were 23 when we got married (3 months ago)
 
The first time I was engaged--ended after 1 year--I was 19 years old.

Second time I was engaged--to my husband---I was 23 and he was 26. It worked for us, and it''s been a great ride.
 
I was 25 and FI was 31. We''ll be 26 and 32 when we get married next year.
 
Round 1 - I was 24 when we got engaged. Married at 25. Ended at 31.

Round 2 - Met, engaged, and maybe married (if we can get it done before the end of November) at 32.
 
We were me: 29 him: 30 We''ve been engaged for a year getting married in 3 weeks. So, we are a year older now.
 
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