What details are important to you (or not) for your future wedding?

[ladypirate]

The thread about FFs helping to plan the wedding got me thinking--what aspects of the wedding are important to you? What don't you care about at all? What about your FF?

For me, I don't care about the flowers. We'll probably end up doing small potted plants and a bouquet of wildflowers from Trader Joe's.

I do care about the food/wine/cake and the photography. Actually, the splurge I want to make for the wedding is to have a photobooth because I think it would be really really awesome. I also care about having good music.

Most important to FF is probably food/wine, followed by a great venue and then music. Since our musical taste can differ, we'll see how that works out!

 

[lala2332]

the dress and the band/open bar and photos!!!

I want a great party for the reception!

I want to look amazing!

And I want lots of photos!

 

[fieryred33143]

Well obviously the most important aspect of the wedding is the groom

The rest depends on what we have.

If we go traditional (

) then my most important things are good alcohol, and a really, really good DJ. Flowers I don't care too much for.

If we do DW which is what I am shooting for, then location, location, location LOL.

To FF: Plenty of Long Island Iced Teas and a dress that shows off as he calls it my great "assets"

That's it.

 

[Deelight]

The dress, venue, church, food photography, atmosphere, people to celebrate with

I think that covers most of it I probably could think of more but thats all I have now

 

[sunnyd]

Most important to me is the feeling. I found 2 venues in budget that give it, or the framework for it, so I''m really happy about that!

For some reason I''m obsessing over centerpieces and the dress. The rest is way less important to me. FF wants the people he cares about to witness this huge event. Could care less about anything else. Which will hopefully keep me in perspective!

 

[GoingCrazy29]

I really care about the venue, food, and bar. We go to so many weddings that sometimes the only thing we can remember is where it was and if the food was really good! Obviously my dress is also a big one for me.

I could care less about the cake, in fact the only reason I even want one is for the cutting and pictures! I want to do a cardboard cake covered in icing (but well done so no one can tell) except for the bottom tier so that we can still cut that and then distribute cheap sheet cake from the back to save money (I have a friend that did this and I had no idea the big cake was cardboard until she told me after the wedding). I have NO sweet tooth and my FF doesn't care about it either!

I care about my bouquet and bridesmaids flowers, but not too much about the flowers anywhere else. I feel like if the venue is amazing, it won't need too many expensive flowers to jazz it up

 

[Lauren8211]

Don''t Care About: Flowers, Videography (we will NOT have that), how expensive the venue "looks", the cost of my dress ( I hope to spend as little as humanly possible)

Care About: Food and Booze (Top Shelf Booze and Great Food are a must for me), Photography, a Unique Vibe that represents "us"(I dont want a cookie-cutter wedding)

 

[Bia]

My dream wedding will have:
* Kick a$$ salsa/crossover band...I mean KICK A$$!

* Really good food/desserts/alcohol/alcohol/alcohol

* Wonderful photographer

* Amazing dress (not necessarily $$)/make-up/hair...the works!

* Under 20K (this won''t happen in NY, I don''t think)

* Drama-free...please, oh please, ohhh plleeeeeeaase!

And of course, all my most important people there with me...

 

[lala2332]

I need to ammend ....WEATHER!!!!

No one wants rain/lots of wind. Even if everything is inside! yuck! Not that we can control that, but don''t worry I will try to! hehe

 

[jcarlylew]

everything is important

the signing the marriage cert and saying i do.

cost (we''re broke and i''m not borrowing money or using a CC to pay it off)

food (BBQ) and controlled booze

MOB not controlling everything

FIL glad i came abord.

PHOTOS by family and friends - but that photo both sounds AMAZING!!!

dont care about

hair - mine falls flat anyways. as long as its clean
makeup - i dont wear more than a little conceler and lip balm anyways!
shoes - I''ll wind up barefoot
venue that is up to bellevue (read: snotty rich) standards

 

[Erin]

My dress (which I''ve had for years) and our vows. I don''t care what we do, where it is, how it tastes, smells, looks. I just wanna wear my dress and a smile all day looking back at a big smile, too.

 

[ladypirate]

Date: 7/23/2008 2:30:42 PM
Author: elledizzy5
Don''t Care About: Flowers, Videography (we will NOT have that), how expensive the venue ''looks'', the cost of my dress ( I hope to spend as little as humanly possible)


Care About: Food and Booze (Top Shelf Booze and Great Food are a must for me), Photography, a Unique Vibe that represents ''us''(I dont want a cookie-cutter wedding)

I am with you on the videography thing! The only reason I could see wanting to do that would be if someone really important to us couldn''t be there and I wanted them to be able to see it.

 

[ash313]

I care about:

feeling his love for me in the depths of my soul when his blue eyes meet mine as we finally say our vows.

having all of the people we love and who love us there to share and witness this moment.

I don''t care about:

everything else

 

[misscuppycake]

I care about:

Location (in a church)
Colours
Bridesmaids Dresses
How to serve food (buffet as oppose to sit-down serve)
Number of guests
Dancing
Throwing Bouquet/Tossing Garter
Flower girls/ring bearers

Things I don''t really care about:
Cake
Flowers
Speeches
What we eat
Centerpieces and decor

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 7/23/2008 2:56:59 PM
Author: jcarlylew
everything is important

the signing the marriage cert and saying i do.

cost (we're broke and i'm not borrowing money or using a CC to pay it off)

food (BBQ) and controlled booze

MOB not controlling everything

FIL glad i came abord.

PHOTOS by family and friends - but that photo both sounds AMAZING!!!

dont care about

hair - mine falls flat anyways. as long as its clean
makeup - i dont wear more than a little conceler and lip balm anyways!
shoes - I'll wind up barefoot
venue that is up to bellevue (read: snotty rich) standards

Ha! LOL!!! AMEN to that...though my venue I think is considered Bellevue. Damn.

PS LP - another pac nw-ster, our GTG could be in the near future...

 

[aliciagirl]

Care about:
- Meeting him at the end of the aisle and having our friends and family there
- The vibe - cozy, elegant, intimate, "us"
- The food
- The photographer
- The invitations - I loooove nice paper
- The dress, of course
- Cupcakes

SO cares about:
- the venue
- Not having a sit-down dinner - he thinks it will make our blue collar, lower middle class families feel uncomfortable. And he''s probably right.
- Live music - we finally agreed to find someone who sounds David Grey-ish
- Not having on a mic
- Colors
- A sasquatch groom''s cake - yes, it''s so very true

Neither of us care about or want:
- Speeches
- Bouquet/garter tossing
- Videographer

 

[ladypirate]

Date: 7/23/2008 4:30:29 PM
Author: sunnyd

Date: 7/23/2008 2:56:59 PM

Author: jcarlylew

everything is important

the signing the marriage cert and saying i do.


cost (we''re broke and i''m not borrowing money or using a CC to pay it off)


food (BBQ) and controlled booze


MOB not controlling everything


FIL glad i came abord.


PHOTOS by family and friends - but that photo both sounds AMAZING!!!


dont care about


hair - mine falls flat anyways. as long as its clean

makeup - i dont wear more than a little conceler and lip balm anyways!

shoes - I''ll wind up barefoot

venue that is up to bellevue (read: snotty rich) standards

Ha! LOL!!! AMEN to that...though my venue I think is considered Bellevue. Damn.

PS LP - another pac nw-ster, our GTG could be in the near future...

Woo! Yay for a PacNW GTG! We will probably be up in Seattle at some point in the next couple of months--I''ll let you know when we figure it out!

 

[bee*]

I care about the dress, the venue, the food and the music. Anything else, meh.

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 7/23/2008 4:39:24 PM
Author: ladypirate

Date: 7/23/2008 4:30:29 PM
Author: sunnyd

Date: 7/23/2008 2:56:59 PM

Author: jcarlylew

everything is important

the signing the marriage cert and saying i do.


cost (we''re broke and i''m not borrowing money or using a CC to pay it off)


food (BBQ) and controlled booze


MOB not controlling everything


FIL glad i came abord.


PHOTOS by family and friends - but that photo both sounds AMAZING!!!


dont care about


hair - mine falls flat anyways. as long as its clean

makeup - i dont wear more than a little conceler and lip balm anyways!

shoes - I''ll wind up barefoot

venue that is up to bellevue (read: snotty rich) standards

Ha! LOL!!! AMEN to that...though my venue I think is considered Bellevue. Damn.

PS LP - another pac nw-ster, our GTG could be in the near future...

Woo! Yay for a PacNW GTG! We will probably be up in Seattle at some point in the next couple of months--I''ll let you know when we figure it out!

Sweet!

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 7/23/2008 1:55:11 PM
Author: sunnyd
Most important to me is the feeling. I found 2 venues in budget that give it, or the framework for it, so I''m really happy about that!

For some reason I''m obsessing over centerpieces and the dress. The rest is way less important to me. FF wants the people he cares about to witness this huge event. Could care less about anything else. Which will hopefully keep me in perspective!

Forgot something! My uncle and godfather said he would play the flute at our wedding too. He''s a music major from Boston College and played at my parents'' wedding, so I have always wanted him to play at mine but would never have asked (not close at all...). Yay!

 

[Iowa Lizzy]

I just want things that are memorable (in a good way!)

We''ve all been to weddings where we said, "I want something similar to THAT." Or "wow, I hadn''t thought about that... what a cool idea."

I just want my guests to feel like they''re taken care of. Because we''ve all been to weddings where we''ve said "WHAT were they thinking?!?"

On that note, I like a sit down dinner vs a buffet. I always end up at the very last table to be excused to eat when I go to wedding. By the time the last tables get their food, the first tables are finished.

(At the same time, I went to a wedding once that had three different buffet stations, a chinese, italian, and mexican one. I thought that was pretty cool.)

 

[trillionaire]

#1 - NO DRAMA! ZERO!

#2 - GREAT photos!

#3 - Champagne!


What can I say, I''m a simple woman!

 

[Izzy03]

Care about:
-My dress
-Decor and flowers
-Food and beverage
-Photography

Don't care about:
-Cake
-Videographer
-Transportation!! (To each their own, but I can't imagine the idea of spending $$$ on a fancy limo, classic car, or helicopter to get to and from the venue. What a waste!)

 

[Haven]

I''m already married, but only for a few weeks, so can I play, please?

Besides finding the right guy, I cared most about:

- The officiant, specifically having my rabbi perform the ceremony. We actually contacted him before we were engaged to reserve the date--he was the only one who knew we were even thinking about getting engaged! I really wanted a special ceremony performed by someone with whom I have a real relationship. I''ve been to so many weddings where the ceremony felt cold because of a mediocre officiant.
- Finding beautiful engraved invitations
- The ketubah, which is a Jewish marriage contract. We commissioned an artist in Israel to create ours, so as of now it''s one of a few pieces of original artwork that we own. I love it.
- Feeling beautiful the day of
- Being in the moment the day of, and not worrying about small details.

I didn''t care at all about:
- The cake. Hubby picked it out while I was out of the country.
- The tiny details like favors and what the table numbers looked like (which my mom took care of and they were gorgeous)
- Flowers (I ordered ours from proflowers.com and they really were beautiful.)

This is a fun thread!

 

[ladypirate]

Date: 7/23/2008 11:44:44 PM
Author: Haven
I''m already married, but only for a few weeks, so can I play, please?


Besides finding the right guy, I cared most about:


- The officiant, specifically having my rabbi perform the ceremony. We actually contacted him before we were engaged to reserve the date--he was the only one who knew we were even thinking about getting engaged! I really wanted a special ceremony performed by someone with whom I have a real relationship. I''ve been to so many weddings where the ceremony felt cold because of a mediocre officiant.

- Finding beautiful engraved invitations

- The ketubah, which is a Jewish marriage contract. We commissioned an artist in Israel to create ours, so as of now it''s one of a few pieces of original artwork that we own. I love it.

- Feeling beautiful the day of

- Being in the moment the day of, and not worrying about small details.


I didn''t care at all about:

- The cake. Hubby picked it out while I was out of the country.

- The tiny details like favors and what the table numbers looked like (which my mom took care of and they were gorgeous)

- Flowers (I ordered ours from proflowers.com and they really were beautiful.)


This is a fun thread!

Do you have any pictures of your ketubah? I''m sure it''s gorgeous!

 

[claireabelle]

I care about the weather!!! My moods are so weather sensitive!

Then the food, alcohol, music, flowers, decorating, DRESS, hair, photography.... everything I guess.

Priority is that the guests have a ball - so food and bevvies are v. important as is the music.

 

[Haven]

You bet I have a picture of our ketubah! (Thanks for asking!) It''s tiny, so you can''t really see the gorgeous calligraphy, but the wild-looking calligraphy around the center text reads:

"Kol sasson v''kol simchah, kol chatan v''kol kallah and Ani l''dodi v''dodi li -

("The voice of gladness, the voice of joy, the voice of the groom, the voice of the bride", and
"I am my beloved''s and my beloved is mine."

I really love it. I took it in to a local frame shop to have a frame custom-made and they quoted me $670! That''s nearly what we spent on the ketubah itself, so it will remain unframed until I find a more reasonable shop.

Here it is:

 

[diamondfan]

I have to say I did care to some degree about each thing. I am fairly detail oriented and so even the less important facets were not something I could let go of totally.

Seating was less important to me. I wanted hubby to group people in a way that made sense, no divorced people at the same table if they did not get along, that sort of thing. Other than that I was not too concerned.

The menu was important but not hugely as I was getting married at a 5 star hotel and their food is excellent no matter what is chosen.

I wanted the flowers to be certain colors and look a certain way but I did trust the florist to respect my caveats and make something lovely.

My gown and make up and hair were very important and I compromised on what I did for my hubby and I hated it.

I wanted great photos, the photographer was so expensive but just okay in my book.

I wanted great music, the band seemed good that night but on the video they sounded bad to me.

Honeymoon destination was important, we went to the French and Italian Riveria and I loved it.

Bridesmaid''s dresses, I wanted black, cocktail length, something that looked good on everyone, wanted to get them from Saks or Neimans because I did not really like any of the bridal looking things I saw at the bridal stores I visited.

My gown was important but I did not try on thousands, I found one I liked and modified it and was happy.

 

[ladypirate]

Date: 7/24/2008 12:47:25 AM
Author: Haven
You bet I have a picture of our ketubah! (Thanks for asking!) It''s tiny, so you can''t really see the gorgeous calligraphy, but the wild-looking calligraphy around the center text reads:


''Kol sasson v''kol simchah, kol chatan v''kol kallah and Ani l''dodi v''dodi li -


(''The voice of gladness, the voice of joy, the voice of the groom, the voice of the bride'', and

''I am my beloved''s and my beloved is mine.''


I really love it. I took it in to a local frame shop to have a frame custom-made and they quoted me $670! That''s nearly what we spent on the ketubah itself, so it will remain unframed until I find a more reasonable shop.


Here it is:

Haven, that is absolutely lovely (both the ketubah itself and the sentiment expressed)! Framing can be ridiculously expensive--I hope you can find a better price on it.

 

[diamondfan]

Haven, framing is so costly. I have to take my son''s bar mitzvah cert in and it is maybe 8 by 11 and I know it will be expensive. Part of our vows was the anni li do di...I started to choke up when I said it! Hubby says that was the favorite part of his wedding!