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They don't lack a little saturation, they lack a lot of it. I can't even see much yellow in those gems, they look like a very light toned brown.Date: 6/13/2010 6:16:05 PM
Author: YSQueen
No need to apologize TL, I want the truth...
I actually thought these were a little better than what I've seen before and was thinking that they were just pale yellow, but I completely understand and agree that it does look like it lacks a little saturation. At least these don't look to have as many inclusions as the last stone.
Are you talking about the golden chrysoberyl on this page (second stone from the top)? It''s pretty much the color the OP is looking for. Nice golden chrysoberyl. If you haven''t noticed, I"m not keen on golden yellow, but it is more saturated than the sapphires she just posted. I''ve never ordered from Planetarygems, but some Pricescopers have, and have been satisfied with them.Date: 6/13/2010 6:31:18 PM
Author: iLander
I agree with TL. It''s better, but you''re only about half way there. Love the setting, though!
It seems like everybody is being a tough cookie about this, but in the long run, you''ll thank us. You don''t want to look back years from now and end up with stuff like this in your jewelry box: https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/hideous-learning-gems-your-eyes-have-been-warned.143876/ So, all of these lessons are learned the hard way, and you''re benefitting without having to go through it.
I have a few of those ''learners'' myself, BTW: amethyst you could read a book through, rubies that look like little opaque wads of used red bubblegum, etc.
Sidebar @ TL: have you ordered from planetary gems? Also, now that I''ve seen it, I really do like the neon chrysoberyl. Cool!
My deep concern, as I expressed earlier, is that if your jeweler is just getting gems, is he/she able to obtain a reputable lab cert to identify if they are free of diffusion (dying)? If the stone is diffused, it's pretty worthless. Online sellers not only offer a greater variety, but many can obtain reputable laboratory certificates. Sorry to keep harping on that, but I can't express how incredibly important it is. If you spend more than $20 on a diffused yellow sapphire, you're throwing money away. I know you trust your jeweler, but honestly, some of the biggest names in gems/jewelry have been deceived by their sources.Date: 6/13/2010 6:34:57 PM
Author: YSQueen
I'm definitely not opposed to looking for a stone online, but I'm trying to give the jeweler a chance. Also, I'm trying to let my BF control the situation more. I didn't choose the setting, my BF did, but he doesn't know that I know what it looks like because he never showed it to me. I just came across it.
I've looked at some gemstones online, and would love to get some of those, but if I did, it would seem more like I was taking control and I want him to feel that he did the majority of the work to get everything together. I'm thinking if she doesn't find something soon, I will ask my BF if he's willing to just buy the setting and then get a stone online.
Date: 6/13/2010 6:43:50 PM
Author: tourmaline_lover
Date: 6/13/2010 6:34:57 PM
Author: YSQueen
I''m definitely not opposed to looking for a stone online, but I''m trying to give the jeweler a chance. Also, I''m trying to let my BF control the situation more. I didn''t choose the setting, my BF did, but he doesn''t know that I know what it looks like because he never showed it to me. I just came across it.
I''ve looked at some gemstones online, and would love to get some of those, but if I did, it would seem more like I was taking control and I want him to feel that he did the majority of the work to get everything together. I''m thinking if she doesn''t find something soon, I will ask my BF if he''s willing to just buy the setting and then get a stone online.
My deep concern, as I expressed earlier, is that if your jeweler is just getting gems, is he/she able to obtain a reputable lab cert to identify if they are free of diffusion (dying)? If the stone is diffused, it''s pretty worthless. Online sellers not only offer a greater variety, but many can obtain reputable laboratory certificates. Sorry to keep harping on that, but I can''t express how incredibly important it is. If you spend more than $20 on a diffused yellow sapphire, you''re throwing money away. I know you trust your jeweler, but honestly, some of the biggest names in gems/jewelry have been deceived by their sources.
Date: 6/14/2010 12:05:52 PM
Author: Rockit
I'm late to the thread, however, I want to add a couple of thoughts. First, I agree with others here regarding the general quality of the stones your jeweler has shown you so far. I've not seen anything from this vendor that even comes close to what I hope that you would accept, especially for such an important ring.
Secondly, your search is more complicated by the fact that you need to consider the yellow stones in your already-chosen setting... in the end, to some degree, the colored halo stones in the setting must match the center stone. Will the jeweler be choosing matching yellow sapphires for the halo? Or, will the stones come already in the semi mount?
Next, you have said you would like a canary center stone, however, in the photo of the setting, the halo gems appear more golden than yellow. Understand which it is that you want (the two may not work well together).
I understand your preference for sapphire. That's fine, especially if it is going into a setting with OTHER (hopefully matching) sapphires. However, for what it is worth (and the NEXT project... hehe), like others here, I am a HUGE fan of chrysoberyl. I have many, many colored gems and the chrysoberyl is, without a doubt, the most dramatic and memorable of them all. I've no doubts as to its durability.
Lastly, do not worry about the vendor. You have given this person many, many opportunities to find a proper candidate for your ring. It hasn't happened. In fact, IMO, these have been very unremarkable stones. If it were me, I'd be encouraging my BF to politely move on... or, at least, to 'leave the door open' and investigate other options. You may return to have your stone set with the jeweler, or you may be surprised to find another setting from somewhere else that you like just as well, or even better (the choices for similarly styled settings are mind boggling). Why lock yourselves into something that, so far, has not been right for you?
I understand your concern regarding your BF's feelings and wanting him to 'drive the bus' so to speak. Many of us have been there. Perhaps, you can explain to him that because this project is extremely meaningful, important, and 'forever' for you, you feel you need to do exhaustive research in order to get it right – for BOTH of you. And, as you become more educated about colored stones and jewelry, you are refining your ideas and preferences. (Maybe this is the time to thank your guy for enabling this to happen and for his extraordinary patience... XXXOOO)! In the end, it is your happiness that counts (and I mean happiness for BOTH of you). If you feel something is not quite right, or you regret making a 'quick' decision, no one will be happy down the road. Take your time. Find the right stone. It IS out there for you. The day will come and you will look down at your gorgeous ring on your hand and you will think that it was sooooooooo worth the wait!