What have you done to enjoy your *pre-engagement* today?

[anchor31]

Date: 4/7/2006 12:31:43 PM
Author: Mimikins24
Hope all the ladies have a wonderful pre-engagement day! Sometime when I think about it I am disappointed that they will end --- especially because my BF promised that we will be engaged by the time we return to school in the fall. Now that the end is in sight, I am getting nervous about the change!

I know why my BF says I can be hard to please --- I am always changing my mind! Can anyone else relate?

Oh, I can relate... A couple of months ago I had cold feet for a couple of days... Asking myself if that''s what I really wanted, if it was really him I wanted, wondering if my sister was right to think that maybe it wasn''t best to do this while I''m still at school, etc.

The worst of it is that I suddenly started to wonder if I''d pressured him into it! Last summer he asked me to move in with him this coming summer and I said no, partly because of money, partly because of school, and also because I don''t want to move in with a man I''m not at least engaged to. He balked at first, because he hadn''t been thinking about that then, but after I explained my point of view, he said he respected that. However, I certainly didn''t expect him to start talking engagement in September, I really thought it''s take him another year (and I was okay with that). So, all of a sudden I had these very anxious couple of days where I questionned everything... It was awful. I ended up calling him and asking him if it was what he really wanted. He said he wanted it more than anything. I asked him if he felt I''d pressured him into it, and he said no. He said he''d sat down one day after having a dream where he''d proposed to me and had woken up insanely happy until he realized he hadn''t done it, and asked himself what he wanted for us. He decided to propose in 2006, and that was it.

As for if it''s what I want and him being the one I want, I came on PS and started reading the things I''d written about him and it really helped. Just hearing his voice was wonderful too. I figured that doing this now and having a 2-3 year engagement is just going to give us more time to plan... I plan on being a DIY bride and J is a very laid back "take your time" kind of guy (no wonder we''ll have talked about getting engaged for almost a year and shopped for months before it happens...), so it suits us.

 

[sunkist]

Mimikims your BF is sooo sweet to have said that! You have an awesome man that repects your parents/grandparents and will take care of you- you're one lucky girl

Blenhiem, I'm so happy that you've found a school you love! I was accepted to two schools as well, but ended up ruling one out because of costs. So I never even visited it, but I wish I had!!! It was out at Cornell so it would have been gorgeous! But then I'm scared that I actually would have left SoCal , and I'm not sure if I could have handled that. Anyways, congrats!

And Anchor isn't it so wonderful when you reconfirm how much you love someone! The BF in particular! Sometimes I get nervous too. In fact I am nervous because even though we aren't engaged and won't be for 2 more months, we plan on being married in less than 6 months!!! Every holiday that goes by I think man, next time this comes around, we'll be married

--mixed emotions, but in the end I look at him and think of how wonderful he is to me and how well we get along, and think everything is going to be wonderful!

 

[anchor31]

sunkist - less than 6 months?? Erm... has your guy forget you need to plan?? Book a venue? Vendors?

bleinheim - Congrats for the school choice!!

Erm... Mandarine? About the Yahoo Avatar... how do I save it on my computer so I can use it?

 

[sunkist]

Anchor, Ya I know it''s going to be close! The vendors we''ll have to book are the photographer, maybe the cake, and get the dress. The photographer, we already know who we want (she''s done my sisters'' weddings) so hopefully she''ll be available for us, and the dress I''ll probably get off the rack and tailor it. All my other plans are pretty much decided, so I''m not worrying a whole lot! Wedding will be at a temple, reception will be at our home, food will be catered by my aunts, they''ll do the grooms cake too and maybe the wedding cake, flowers we''ll get in LA and make ourselves, invites I''ll do, oh and I have decorations in mind too. I want it to be simple, classy, but not overly done. Hopefully we can pull it off

I guess we''ll find out in the near future!

But for now, back to taking it easy and focusing on school...

 

[marriahlyn]

I had a quick courtship and a much quicker engagement. We knew each other 4 months before he proposed (even a little less). We got married in 8 weeks in a private ceremony with a huge reception. We didn''t care for all the hoopla and it turned out beautifully. If you have enough people to help you out, let them!!

 

[Mandarine]

Hi girls!

I just spent a wonderful weekend with my BF...and something is definitely up!....I don''t think he has the ring or a proposal plan just yet, but yesterday during lunch we started talking about rings (he wants the whole thing to be a surprise, so I''m not part of the shopping process).....Anyway, he started asking me what I thought was "too big, right size, etc"....then he started talking about specs...so he is doing homework!!! yayyy!

I was pretty good (I think) about letting the topic go when he was done...I was actually very proud of myself!

Anchor- I''m sure there is an easier way to do it...but I couldn''t figure it out...so I designed the avatar...then did a screen print, pasted the image in Paint to "crop" it...then saved it. I tried using Yahho''s export function, but it was too small and it looked distorted!...Hope this helps, if not let me know...

M~

 

[anchor31]

That''s so great Mandarine!! Good for him for doing him homework!!

Um... How do you do a screen print? I''m hopeless with this stuff!

Thanks!

 

[Mandarine]

In your keyboard (usually on the right upper side) there should be a "Prt Sc" key....do you see it?. This key just taked a snapshot of what your screen looks like and then you can cut off the image.

M~