What is your wedding pet peeve?

[LAJennifer]

Ok, so my fiance and I are totally addicted to all those wedding shows on TV. We must have watched at least 20 of them over the weekend. From watching those weddings and looking at an endless number of wedding photos on personal bios at the knot, I was reminded of my biggest wedding pet peeve. It drives me CRAZY to see brides holding their bouquets as if they were a microphone! I guess holding it that way is what feels most natural - elbow at the waist, forearm angled upward. However, doing this totally covers the beautiful bodice of their gowns. It makes me want to reach into the television screen and push the flowers down to their waists! My sister-in-law did this during her wedding and she feels like it ruined her wedding pictures.

Ok - so what is your wedding pet peeve?

 

[selflove]

LOL! I''m glad I''m not the only one addicted to the wedding shows on TV, especially this month on Style!

Spending like $50K+ on a wedding is my pet peeve. It''s one freaking day! Have some control! Okay, maybe I''m just jealous.

 

[AmberWaves]

I also am super addicted to those wedding shows. LAJennifer, your fiance watches WITH you? Lucky! I have to DVR them, and watch them later (including the My Fair Brady shows). My pet peeve is wedding couples who are so focused on themselves that their whole wedding is thrust onto others, i.e. a wedding I went to had an outdoor reception, freezing, on top of a hill with no heaters, but they did have a porta potty! It started to rain, but again, no tent. The food was cold and ran out, but they had plenty of booze! They ended up ordering pizza, even though most guests had left. They focused so little on this huge party they threw (with the help of others), that they really had people angry with them!

 

[E B]

Ooh, we're going to get in trouble for this thread!

Wedding shows on TV? Please, tell me when these air and on what channel! The only one I know of is A Wedding Story on TLC.

 

[E B]

I deleted my first one (didn't want to hurt feelings) so I'll agree with Selflove. $50,000 is a down payment on a house, easy!

Mine will be anywhere from $12-14k and though we're not paying for most of it, I feel awful because it's so much money! I hate that weddings cost so much these days, even with DIY projects, which I'm taking on for practically everything. It's the venue, photographer, and food costs that really add up.

 

[Kaylyn]

My pet peeve, without wanting to offend anyone, is that it seems like every bride I see on these shows has the front of her hair done like this:

Deep part on the side and slicked over.

While I find this looks pretty good on some women, I am tired of seeing it on everyone!

In fact, I just watched one of those shows where the bride had all of her BMs hair done *exactly* that way, whether it complimented their face shape or not. Even the girls who had short bangs were hairsprayed and slicked until their hair stayed that way.

 

[DonaBella]

I like to watch the wedding shows too, but not because I am getting married. They are just fun to watch. I do get irked when on tv and in real life the happy couple fail to take into consideration that their wedding is only a small part of the celebration. Their needs or wants are not all that needs to be considered. I honestly feel so many of the weddings I have either seen on tv or in real life spend little or no time preparing for the marriage. Not only are they insensitive to their guests feelings, but they have forgotten to ready themselves for what happens after the wedding day and honeymoon...that little thing called life.

It''s very sad to see...

Those bridezillas are horrid! My sweet DH said I was in no way, shape or form a bridezilla. I pity the potential grooms!

 

[LizzieC]

Date: 6/14/2006 2:31:01 PM
Author:LAJennifer
It drives me CRAZY to see brides holding their bouquets as if they were a microphone! I guess holding it that way is what feels most natural - elbow at the waist, forearm angled upward. However, doing this totally covers the beautiful bodice of their gowns. It makes me want to reach into the television screen and push the flowers down to their waists! My sister-in-law did this during her wedding and she feels like it ruined her wedding pictures.

Ok - so what is your wedding pet peeve?

I totally held my bouquet that way! I didn''t realize/notice until I saw the pics... and then I thought WHY was I doing that! I guess it is just the comfortable level! Must warn future brides!!!

 

[LAJennifer]

Date: 6/14/2006 2:46:06 PM
Author: AmberWaves
I also am super addicted to those wedding shows. LAJennifer, your fiance watches WITH you? Lucky! I have to DVR them, and watch them later (including the My Fair Brady shows).

Yep, he sure does! Actually I think he is more addicted than I am. He loves to watch the chaos of the tv wedding couples, and brag about how ours is going to be "much better". He is really into the whole planning and everything! I''m actually very surprised that the wedding is turning out to be very important to him.

 

[codex57]

Hahaha, we did that too. Said "Screw it" to everyone. Parents were pissed, relatives were pissed, their friends were prolly pissed. Oh well. I still don''t feel bad. If they want to be pissed, shoulda helped pay for the wedding then (especially when they promised to do so).

 

[decodelighted]

I noticed the bouquet thing last night whilst clearing BRIDEZILLAS off the Tivo ... I think these gals insist on LONG STEMMED bouquets instead of nosegays -- so they''re super hard to carry. If you carry from the bottom it ends up at your chin level. The girl last night looked like she had a white HAND TOWEL wrapped around the bottom -- hello? Not classy.

Me? One Sunflower. Mark my words. (Unless I change my mind -- in which case, forget I ever said it.

)

 

[fountainfairfax]

Ugghhhh, that damn bouquet position- I was yelling at the tv when bridezilla was on "Lower your flowers, dumbass...you''re not making a toast!"

My major pet-peeve is physically beautiful brides with very ugly insides, no one should be that nasty!

 

[blueroses]

LAJen and others, this bouquet thing is ALSO my pet peeve! I am actually a bit of a "bridesmaidzilla" b/c I''ve been in too many darn weddings to let other girls make those mistakes, so I always lecture about that! The rule of "thumb" (literally!!) is that when you''re holding it in front of you that your thumbs should be level with your belly button. It feels less natural but you don''t block your dress or your chest and it looks much better!!

 

[chickflick]

My wedding pet peeve is brides who forget that it''s not about the wedding, it''s about the marriage. And there''s two people getting married on that day so share a little spotlight with your groom, why doncha?

Ok, that or ice sculptures. Take your pick.

 

[snow_happy]

getting dragged up for the bouquet toss! (and for my FI the garter toss) the last couple of weddings we''ve been too both have hit the floor because everyone moved out of the way

 

[flopkins]

the bouquet thing I never noticed/thought of until my photog kinda ''briefed'' all the girls the morning on the wedding, to tell us all to make sure and try to keep the flowers lower, and how it looks way more flattering but the tendency is to hold them higher. .. I noticed it made a huge difference in the photos. they look more relaxed that way.

anyway... my pet peeve? inconsiderate guests. ones that RSVP more than they were invited... ones that don''t RSVP at all... ones that RSVP yes and then don''t show... any and all of the above!

 

[RoseAngel04]

I recently went to a wedding this past Memorial Day weekend (which BTW why would you have a wedding this weekend when MOST people are out of town?!?) and one of the bridesmaid had their bouquet covering her top section. I think she was self-conscious though...

anyways..my wedding pet peeve (along with my bf''s) is people other than the professional photographer taking pictures!! I know that some people may think I''m wrong, but (again at the wedding on Memorial Day) just about everyone was taking pictures. One lady had the nerve to go through all of the pictures that she has previously taken (and not all of them were of the wedding) through at least half of the ceremony!! It was so annoying to hear the "beep beep" as she went through her pictures!! It was very rude and inconsiderate of this guest to make all this noise. When it is time for me to plan my marriage I PRAY that people other than the prof. photographer doesn''t take pics b/c I despise it. How would you address this issue with your guests w/o being rude?!

 

[diamondfan]

My peeve is two sides of the same coin...

I cannot stand girls who think the EARTH must stop rotating in order to please them. That NO ONE else has ever been through this or had to deal with x y or z...YES, it is a special day, and YES it means a lot to you and your loved ones, BUT YOU ARE NOT ROYALTY. BE NICE to people during the planning and the wedding itself, Bridezilla anger (people being upset at you for being a huge be-yotch) lasts A LONG TIME.

Flip side, is people who act like your wedding IS NOT A BIG DEAL and act like rubes and inconsiderate people...expecting YOU to personally take care of stuff for them (Hello, how do they function in real life?) and put burdens on you while you are sort of otherwise occupied...RUDE.

Last peeve...I do not care how much one has to spend (and I do think it is a waste to be very extravagant but more power to ya if you can afford it)...but I HATE CHINTZY. Do the best within your budget...make it lovely with what you have to work with and you will not go wrong...

 

[diamondfan]

Present company excluded, your highness!!!

 

[anchor31]

I apologize if anyone here has done this, but my biggest wedding pet peeves is non-religious people getting married in a church because "it's pretty". My FF and I went to a wedding together three years ago and at the time my brother was dating the bride's sister. He asked her why her sister and her FH, who are baptised and confirmed but don't believe in God and never go to church, were getting married in a church. She said "It's romantic!!". Erm, no. Getting married in a church is first and foremost religious, not romantic. That's what my FF, my brother and I think, anyway.

FF and I do believe in God, but we don't go to church much because we have issues with the Catholic church (again, I'm not saying this to offend anyone) and we are both great nature lovers, so we've decided to have an outdoor garden wedding. My mom is pretty disappointed and said "But [getting married in a church] is so beautiful!". Sorry mom, but to our eyes a small garden wedding is going to be even more beautiful. My FF's parents do go to church regurlarly and so does my grandmother, so they might be upset, but I don't think we should get married in a church just because our families want us to.

 

[Selkie]

My wedding pet peeve is how they make the nosy relatives feel like they have carte blanche to ask prying questions of any and every single person, unmarried couple, or childless couple attending the wedding: "Why aren't you engaged yet?" "So, when are YOU two getting married?" "So, how long before you have kids?"

Grrr.

 

[E B]

Date: 6/14/2006 11:03:02 PM
Author: diamondfan
My peeve is two sides of the same coin...

I cannot stand girls who think the EARTH must stop rotating in order to please them. That NO ONE else has ever been through this or had to deal with x y or z...YES, it is a special day, and YES it means a lot to you and your loved ones, BUT YOU ARE NOT ROYALTY. BE NICE to people during the planning and the wedding itself, Bridezilla anger (people being upset at you for being a huge be-yotch) lasts A LONG TIME.

Diamondfan, I am in complete agreement. I am constantly in awe over girls who whine, b*tch and cry over the smallest things because everything has to be perfect, having no consideration for the people paying for/helping with the wedding! Ugh. I created a thread on bridezillas a while back after seeing too much both on the knot and on this board. I honestly can't see why girls feel that their every whim should be catered to because they're getting married. Where does this attitude come from? My friends/family wouldn't let me get away with that for a second, not that I'd ever try.

 

[nytemist]

My biggest peeve so far has been a MOH who doens''t realize it''s a wedding and not about everyone noticing she''s still single!!

Other than that, I''ve been getting read the riot act from my mom and others about what I HAVE TO do for the wedding. Hello? Who is getting married? As long as we''re declared legally married, all bets are off for everything else.

From watching Bridezilla- forgetting about the GROOM.

 

[Tybee]

I have GOT to start watching Bridezilla!

When is it on anyhow? I''m such a t.v. idiot. It''s strange because FI works for [a television network] and his whole life is t.v. (you should see the size of our set, it''s offensive.) I guess I make up for it by never watching!

I am so so so glad that I read about the holding the flower thing. Now I will be extra careful!

I have always hated the bouquet toss thing. I have always hidden or avoided it.

 

[JCJD]

Overly matchy-matchy weddings. All the bridesmaids, the flowers, the groomsmen''s vests & ties, the tablecloths, the shoes, the garter, the napkins, the guestbook, the cake, the favors, the invitations, etc, all in the exact same shade. It''s so boring it''s annoying! Come on people - there are more purples than lilac out there!

 

[swingirl]

My pet peeve is when the bride and groom do not invite children/teens (infants, babies and toddlers should be left home) because they think their wedding is an adults-only party, and children might disturb it plus they don''t want to pay for their dinner. A wedding reception was never meant to be a party just for the couple, it was a gathering of two families who are now supposed to support the couple throughout thier life together. Families meeting families all to honor the couple and to show their support and good wishes.

Interesting enough, within a few years most of these couples have children and then they get it. It is valuable for children to participate in family events so they understand their place in the family and how much support will be their for them when they marry. But that whole family support thing seems to be less important these days and its become all about a big expensive party for me, me, me.

But, hey, that''s just my opinion.

 

[chickflick]

Date: 6/15/2006 8:52:47 AM
Author: anchor31
I apologize if anyone here has done this, but my biggest wedding pet peeves is non-religious people getting married in a church because ''it''s pretty''. My FF and I went to a wedding together three years ago and at the time my brother was dating the bride''s sister. He asked her why her sister and her FH, who are baptised and confirmed but don''t believe in God and never go to church, were getting married in a church. She said ''It''s romantic!!''. Erm, no. Getting married in a church is first and foremost religious, not romantic. That''s what my FF, my brother and I think, anyway.

I totally agree with you on this one. It peeves me that if I wanted to get married in the church I have been a member of for ten years, most of the dates are taken a year in advance by people who have probably never attended a service there just because we have a lovely chapel. There are plenty of other places to have your ceremony if you aren''t terribly religious.

We ended up planning a cruise ship wedding, anyway.

It was a better choice for us because my fiancee'' had some issues with religion growing up, so like you, getting married in a church would have felt false to him. So we are honoring God by getting married on the sea, one of His greatest creations!

 

[indecisive]

Date: 6/14/2006 10:54:02 PM
Author: RoseAngel04
I recently went to a wedding this past Memorial Day weekend (which BTW why would you have a wedding this weekend when MOST people are out of town?!?)

Because a lot of people have big families spread out across the country or fighting in the war and it is easier for people who work and have kids to travel on a 3 day weekend...

 

[flopkins]

Date: 6/14/2006 10:54:02 PM
Author: RoseAngel04

anyways..my wedding pet peeve (along with my bf''s) is people other than the professional photographer taking pictures!! How would you address this issue with your guests w/o being rude?!

OMG RoseAngel - that is also a HUGE HUGE HUGE pet peeve of mine. In fact, it was SUCH a huge pet peeve of both me and DH that we specifically had the pastor announce at the beginning of the ceremony (after the processional) that we hired a professional photographer, and we request that there be no pictures taken during the ceremony... We also made a small note in the program.

I had never really thought about this before, in fact, I used to take tons of pics at friends'' weddings, UNTIL I attended a friends'' wedding, and the ENTIRE time (like, 30-45 minutes!!) , the lady in the row in front of me had her digital camera held up, completely blocking my view of the couple... it was SO IRRITATING!!!! (Plus the beeping!!)

After than DH and I were like, no pictures at our ceremony!! Ugh! We wanted people to enjoy the ceremony, not be preoccupied with taking pictures.

ALthough, we did have a couple pics from ppl who sneaked them anyway! haha...

 

[Scintillating]

Date: 6/15/2006 2:46:25 PM
Author: flopkins

Date: 6/14/2006 10:54:02 PM

Author: RoseAngel04


anyways..my wedding pet peeve (along with my bf''s) is people other than the professional photographer taking pictures!! How would you address this issue with your guests w/o being rude?!

OMG RoseAngel - that is also a HUGE HUGE HUGE pet peeve of mine. In fact, it was SUCH a huge pet peeve of both me and DH that we specifically had the pastor announce at the beginning of the ceremony (after the processional) that we hired a professional photographer, and we request that there be no pictures taken during the ceremony... We also made a small note in the program.


I had never really thought about this before, in fact, I used to take tons of pics at friends'' weddings, UNTIL I attended a friends'' wedding, and the ENTIRE time (like, 30-45 minutes!!) , the lady in the row in front of me had her digital camera held up, completely blocking my view of the couple... it was SO IRRITATING!!!! (Plus the beeping!!)

After than DH and I were like, no pictures at our ceremony!! Ugh! We wanted people to enjoy the ceremony, not be preoccupied with taking pictures.


ALthough, we did have a couple pics from ppl who sneaked them anyway! haha...

Um... yea.. what they said.
MY FI''s family is obnoxious about this! Jocking to be in the front row at every kodak moment - often blocking the professional photog. They have no idea how selfish - and distracting - and just plan rude it is!

Scintillating...