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When it comes to your wedding what are your non-negotiables if any?
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Pandora, I loved your dress and especially the veil! Can you post a link for others to see?Date: 3/26/2009 2:34:17 PM
Author: Pandora II
1) The venue - I wanted somewhere historic that wasn''t a hotel and as atheists, we wanted a ceremony site that looked like a church but wasn''t one. I''d had my eye on my venue for at least 10 years so I didn''t even go to look round before it was booked.
2) Invitations - hand-engraved and very traditional (my major splurge that meant a huge amount to me but probably wouldn''t to most people)
3) My dress and accessories - didn''t actually cost that much but a lot of time and effort went into them and everything was either custom to my design or antique. My veil was expensive (£250) but as it is handmade lace from 1880 it was actually very cheap since it is in perfect condition and I hope that my daughter and possible grand-daughters will wear it one day.
4) DH''s outfit and what guests wore - I wanted as many of our male guests as possible to wear morning suit and the women to wear hats, which almost everyone did. It wasn''t something I could control, but it was important to me. DH was happy to wear whatever I wanted him to and actually loves his suit which should last him a lifetime (my father wore the same morning suit that both he and his father had worn for their own weddings which meant a lot to me)
Cake, favours, flowers etc were all DIY so I knew I''d get what I wanted.
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Thank you - here''s the link...
I''ve never posted any of the pro-pics I''m afraid - I''ve been involved in a huge and ongoing legal battle with my employer that totally ruined our honeymoon and DH and I haven''t wanted to even look at them till things are less depressing. I don''t want to have any negative thoughts associated with my wedding, so as yet we haven''t even looked at the proofs...
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Unfortunately, my "non-negotiable" of staying in my budget went out the window as I discovered all the other non-negotiables like interesting venue and great photographer.
I do not regret the decisions I've made as I think it will be a really beautiful and memorable day, but I think that if five months ago someone had given me two pieces of paper:
A - the wedding I will end up with and the TOTAL cost of the day including planning trips and other incidentals
B - the cost of a small wedding in a pastor's office with our parents and siblings and the option of starting a travel fund with all this money.
I might have chosen paper B. We could have gone on four or five FANTASTIC vacations for the price of this wedding, and I really love to travel! I think I may have chosen to have the event at a country club as well, which would have been a lot cheaper and less of a headache.
I do not regret the decisions I've made as I think it will be a really beautiful and memorable day, but I think that if five months ago someone had given me two pieces of paper:
A - the wedding I will end up with and the TOTAL cost of the day including planning trips and other incidentals
B - the cost of a small wedding in a pastor's office with our parents and siblings and the option of starting a travel fund with all this money.
I might have chosen paper B. We could have gone on four or five FANTASTIC vacations for the price of this wedding, and I really love to travel! I think I may have chosen to have the event at a country club as well, which would have been a lot cheaper and less of a headache.
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This is a great thread! (and i''ve missed it for days)
I would have to say i am not stuck really on ANYTHING, except that my friends and family can be there.
I suppose this is because have a really really small budget, and that just means that I am going to have to get super creative with whatever i pick. I thought when we started this process that not getting exactly what i dreamed of might upset me, but honestly, it hasn''t bothered me a bit!!!
A couple of things i thought i would be strict about and have gone exactly the opposite way:
1. The Venue: I have always wanted to be married in early fall, outside on the beach (no church). Nope. I''ll be getting married inside in December in a church!!! The venue is a restaurant owned by friends and will be closed for a break, and therefore...free for us to use! (can''t beat that).
2. My dress: i thought i would wear a lacy romantic gown, and i tried on some lovely ones, but found a fabulous satin gown (way more glam than romantic) that was unbelievably priced, so i bought it. I am so very happy with my choice, and i never had a "this is the one" moment in dress shopping - i don''t think i ever would have.
So...mostly everything else is TBD, but i am pretty sure that whatever fits into the budget will be what we have, and that''s ok with us. I am just happy we are going to be able to have anything at all for friends and family to attend in such a rough economic time (both in the world, and for us specifically as well). I have a friend making my cake as a gift and another friend doing the flowers, and it''s been really fun just seeing what we can all come up with to make the day happen - it''s been a great bonding time for me with the people in my life.
Oh, and FI and I both work (me 2nd job, him full time) in the food and beverage industry, so I have never doubted that part will be exceptional!!
I suppose this is because have a really really small budget, and that just means that I am going to have to get super creative with whatever i pick. I thought when we started this process that not getting exactly what i dreamed of might upset me, but honestly, it hasn''t bothered me a bit!!!
A couple of things i thought i would be strict about and have gone exactly the opposite way:
1. The Venue: I have always wanted to be married in early fall, outside on the beach (no church). Nope. I''ll be getting married inside in December in a church!!! The venue is a restaurant owned by friends and will be closed for a break, and therefore...free for us to use! (can''t beat that).
2. My dress: i thought i would wear a lacy romantic gown, and i tried on some lovely ones, but found a fabulous satin gown (way more glam than romantic) that was unbelievably priced, so i bought it. I am so very happy with my choice, and i never had a "this is the one" moment in dress shopping - i don''t think i ever would have.
So...mostly everything else is TBD, but i am pretty sure that whatever fits into the budget will be what we have, and that''s ok with us. I am just happy we are going to be able to have anything at all for friends and family to attend in such a rough economic time (both in the world, and for us specifically as well). I have a friend making my cake as a gift and another friend doing the flowers, and it''s been really fun just seeing what we can all come up with to make the day happen - it''s been a great bonding time for me with the people in my life.
Oh, and FI and I both work (me 2nd job, him full time) in the food and beverage industry, so I have never doubted that part will be exceptional!!
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