When thinking of you dream proposal

[TravelingGal]

I think that some ladies just need to be honest with themselves about who they are with. If they are with a "production" person (someone who is more theatrical, loves planning, and is more of a big bag kinda guy), it''s probably more realistic to dream of a showstopper proposal than a gal with a man who can barely find matching socks in the morning.

My brother is the type of guy who is into moviemaking (directing and acting), photography, cinematography, and anything artistic related. He''s also a planner. He did TWO proposals (to two different women...the first didn''t work out, thank god) and both were some serious production numbers. He didn''t do it because he was showy, but because he LOVES that kind of stuff and wanted to give his 110% to the woman he loved. For his current wife, he did an amazing scrapbook with an australia theme (his wife always wanted to go there). Each page took hours to make was in the shape of Oz, laminated, hand painted etc. In the morning he started off with a hilarious video that took weeks to film and produce. Then they went to several different sites for special outtings all over LA where he had each page of this australia book planted, often with the help of the venue (he had to ask permission).

But wait, there is more....

My SIL is an artist, so he took her to an art gallery in LA. He talked to the owners and persuaded them to hang a piece he took months to make called "hearts" or something like that. It was a funky 3D/sculptural piece and he had some kind of message on the list the information card next to the art. Finally, a trip down to the beach for a sunset swim/surf (they''re both surfers), where his friends had set up a video camera and he proposed to her with the tape rolling. He had the exact timing of the sunset figured out, planted the video camera EXACTLY where he wanted it, and video he captured looked like a bloody commercial with two silhouettes against the sunset. The only advice I gave him about his proposal is "Don''t take the ring into the water, you''re going to be so bloody nervous, you''re going to f*cking lose the ring." Helpful eh?

Oh yeah...and it was her birthday (he did it on her birthday to throw her off, as it would have been obvious with all the outtings otherwise that it was going to be a proposal.) He managed to catch her offguard even after all that sh*t that he did . They came back to a surprise birthday party at his house and the entire place was decorated in an Australia theme with people dressing up "Australian", whatever that is.

One girl even came as a crocodile, complete with a mascot style head. The proposal took him MONTHS to plan. He and my SIL are the happiest married couple I know.

Me, on other other hand...well, I just wanted a quiet "will you marry me?" preferrably on the beach because I love it there. What I got was me in my home office in my PJ''s hollering to TGuy while looking at the computer, "Hey, here''s a list of songs we can check out for our wedding!" I spun around on my office chair to come face to face with a kneeling TGuy with the ring on the end of a CRICKET BAT (the dude loves his sports!) and he simply asked me "will you marry me."

My SIL''s proposal was 100% my brother and my proposal was 100% my TGuy...and neither of us would have it any other way.

 

[bee*]

I was with D for 8 and a half years when he proposed and I didn''t care how he did it so long as it was just us. If he had done it in front of the tv I would have been as happy as the way that he actually did do it. I just couldn''t wait to be his fiance. I think that the whole fact that he said those words to me mean more than how he actually carried out the proposal.

 

[chocolatefudge]

Don''t want to rock the boat here but it just seems that all of the posters saying that the proposal isn''t a big deal are the ones who had the "infront of the tv" proposal. Of course you feel this way as you were happy with your proposals BUT if it had been done in a "larger" (can''t think of better word sorry!) way, would you have been coming on and writing that the proposal was too much and had been too well thought out? Probably not!
I agree that the words at the proposal are the most important part and I cannot wait to hear how my bf proposes, however if we were in a romantic setting I would not be objecting!

I disagree that imagining a well thought out proposal means I need to make a "show" of it! I just want it to be a special time that we can look back on and always remember how special it was. I''m sure that many of you will now argue that you can do that with your own proposals and I''m not disagreeing with you!! I''m just saying how I feel, everyone is different!!

 

[Deelight]

Date: 1/13/2008 4:01:34 PM
Author: Smurfysmiles
off topic question- what is dunny paper? lol is that like toilet paper?

Yuppers also known as bog roll, loo paper, dunny roll and some others I can''t think of now

 

[bee*]

Date: 1/14/2008 5:46:14 AM
Author: chocolatefudge
Don''t want to rock the boat here but it just seems that all of the posters saying that the proposal isn''t a big deal are the ones who had the ''infront of the tv'' proposal. Of course you feel this way as you were happy with your proposals BUT if it had been done in a ''larger'' (can''t think of better word sorry!) way, would you have been coming on and writing that the proposal was too much and had been too well thought out? Probably not!

No D proposed to me in a cable car over Barcelona. I adore the way that he proposed but I would have been just as happy with a proposal in front of the tv. No matter where they do it, they have put thought into it. It''s a huge deal for a man to do it and some men will think that they''ve found the perfect proposal by doing it at home with just the two of you. I think that if you''re going to be disappointed by that type of proposal it''s important to let you ff know.

 

[CrookedRock]

Date: 1/14/2008 5:46:14 AM
Author: chocolatefudge
Don''t want to rock the boat here but it just seems that all of the posters saying that the proposal isn''t a big deal are the ones who had the ''infront of the tv'' proposal. Of course you feel this way as you were happy with your proposals BUT if it had been done in a ''larger'' (can''t think of better word sorry!) way, would you have been coming on and writing that the proposal was too much and had been too well thought out? Probably not!
I agree that the words at the proposal are the most important part and I cannot wait to hear how my bf proposes, however if we were in a romantic setting I would not be objecting!

I disagree that imagining a well thought out proposal means I need to make a ''show'' of it! I just want it to be a special time that we can look back on and always remember how special it was. I''m sure that many of you will now argue that you can do that with your own proposals and I''m not disagreeing with you!! I''m just saying how I feel, everyone is different!!

Perfectly said! I totally agree with everyone that said that they couldn''t wait to hear what he said during the proposal. I think about that a lot, and that part really excites me, bc after almost 8 years, I can''t imagine what he could say that he hasn''t said before!

For most women their proposal was perfect for THEM, and probably bc they somewhat expressed how they envisioned it beforehand. I think all of these sound perfect bc they make you all happy.

After 8 years, my BF knows ME! He knows what I want, and it makes him happy to give it to me. No matter what he does, he will have put tons of thought into it. That doesn''t mean he had to rent out a stadium to propose, but it means that he truly thought about what would be "US" as far as a proposal goes. He''s perfect, so I know the proposal will be too! (If it ever happens! LOL)

 

[chocolatefudge]

I''m not worried about my proposal, FF knows what I like and how much it means to me. I know he wouldn''t go for proposing in our living room one night after work. Just to emphasise again- not saying that''s not the right way to do it BUT know it''s not how we will.

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

It does not matter to me. Not one bit. I know it matters very much to my SO but I once told him that he could come home from work, toss a ring box at me and say, "so, are we going to do this?" and I would still be excited to say "yes" to him!

I know that it will be a private occasion. It may happen at a public place but I am sure he will try to seclude us from any other people.

I just want it to happen soon!!!

 

[surfgirl]

Date: 1/14/2008 5:46:14 AM
Author: chocolatefudge
Don't want to rock the boat here but it just seems that all of the posters saying that the proposal isn't a big deal are the ones who had the 'infront of the tv' proposal. Of course you feel this way as you were happy with your proposals BUT if it had been done in a 'larger' (can't think of better word sorry!) way, would you have been coming on and writing that the proposal was too much and had been too well thought out? Probably not!

I agree that the words at the proposal are the most important part and I cannot wait to hear how my bf proposes, however if we were in a romantic setting I would not be objecting!


I disagree that imagining a well thought out proposal means I need to make a 'show' of it! I just want it to be a special time that we can look back on and always remember how special it was. I'm sure that many of you will now argue that you can do that with your own proposals and I'm not disagreeing with you!! I'm just saying how I feel, everyone is different!!

Choc, what you're not hearing here is that it's not about dreaming about what a proposal might be like, it's about being OKAY with WHATEVER it ends up being and not getting so far up in your own head that you post how disappointed you were with your proposal.

You inferred that because some married women here do not agree with you, we are actually secretly jealous or perhaps would have preferred a more elaborate or as you said, "romantic" proposal..You couldn't be farther from the truth and I dont think you're hearing what we're saying. To clarify, for me, my proposal was perfect. I wouldn't have wanted it any other way. We're very private people, and my proposal came at a time when there were not other daily things on my mind. It was the perfect time...for us. And no, I wouldn't have wanted it in a more "commercially romantic" way because that would have been really cliche for us. And no, I never discussed what my "vision" was for a proposal with him beforehand. No hints, no nothing. Because I didn't obsess about HOW it would happen, I just knew at that point that I WANTED it to happen. I didn't think about "well, if he doesn't do this or that I'm going to be pissed." If I thought like that, I'd say I'm probably not ready for marriage in the first place.

It's all about expectations. When someone says "Yes, I would be pissed off if he didn't do something just the way I want him to" (ie: make a show of it), to me that just sounds immature and totally unrealistic. And it makes me think that such people aren't even ready for something as difficult as marriage if that's how they think about the proposal, which really is the beginning of building your lives together. Again, it's not about thinking about your proposal being like this or that, it's about not getting so hung up on what it HAS to be or you will be pissed off or disappointed. It has everything to do with being just happy that you were asked by the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Does that make sense?

 

[MissErin]

Date: 1/14/2008 8:22:58 AM
Author: bee*


No D proposed to me in a cable car over Barcelona. I adore the way that he proposed but I would have been just as happy with a proposal in front of the tv. No matter where they do it, they have put thought into it. It''s a huge deal for a man to do it and some men will think that they''ve found the perfect proposal by doing it at home with just the two of you. I think that if you''re going to be disappointed by that type of proposal it''s important to let you ff know.

Sorry - I just wanted to comment back to Bee - This proposal sounds ADORABLE!! I feel like I can see it play out and it just seems so sweet!!

 

[musey]

Date: 1/14/2008 8:49:40 AM
Author: CrookedRock

Date: 1/14/2008 5:46:14 AM
Author: chocolatefudge

Don't want to rock the boat here but it just seems that all of the posters saying that the proposal isn't a big deal are the ones who had the 'infront of the tv' proposal.

Perfectly said!

Hmm, well, no. I did not have an "in front of the TV" proposal, but even if I had, I would not have been disappointed. I find it just a little bit offensive that you would insinuate our arguments are only in defense of our "lesser" proposals.

I don't think a single one of us is belittling the value of thoroughly orchestrated and spectacularly "showy" proposals. They are just fine and dandy. What we're saying is that they have absolutely no more value than simple, private proposals. My FI has given me fantastically orchestrated celebrations (the kind that you guys are alluding to) for birthdays, and those were great. But they don't hold a candle to his simple, private proposal.

 

[musey]

After 8 years, my BF knows ME! He knows what I want, and it makes him happy to give it to me. No matter what he does, he will have put tons of thought into it. That doesn't mean he had to rent out a stadium to propose, but it means that he truly thought about what would be "US" as far as a proposal goes. He's perfect, so I know the proposal will be too! (If it ever happens! LOL)

If this is true (that the big productions are HIM, as well) then that is FINE.

The thing is that I feel like I'm seeing your stories from the guy's point of view right now.

My poor brother is in the midst of freaking out over this proposal business. He's been with his girlfriend for just a year or so, but she wants to get married in March of 2009 so the pressure is on for him to propose ASAP. However, she ALSO has a ton of "requirements" for his proposal, which she communicated to her sister hoping that my brother would ask.

And I don't mean as specific as "it has to be in the Plaza hotel with champagne and a string quartet." Her requirements are that it must be SPECTACULAR, memorable, a "production" (in short, the same things I'm seeing posted in this thread, not more).

He'd like to propose to this girl, but he's currently so stressed out about meeting all of those requirements that he's not enjoying it one bit. He's not looking forward to it at all, because he's not doing it in a way that feels natural and "right" to him and for their relationship. It feels "put on" and fake to him. He's afraid he'll mess something up and disappoint her. I told him that no girl will be disappointed in being proposed to, even with the only just the tiniest amount of effort put in.

Was I wrong?

Anyway, this is not to say that your boyfriends are having the same concerns, but understand that my posts come from the perspective of dealing with his weekly freak-out calls. He's absolutely miserably stressed out right now. That is NOT how a guy should feel right before proposing to the love of his life... right? (Some guys, like TGal's brother, WOULD feel happy and comfortable with this, but it is NOT in my brother's nature.)

Listening to him freak out makes me feel so lucky with the relationship that my FI and I have. There was no pressure to "perform" or "out-do," and he got to do it without fear of not living up to some standard I had set. On the flip side, I got to enjoy it without thinking "if only he'd done this, or said that, or done it there." It was unforced and natural, and the only thoughts crossing either of our minds were of pure happiness and contentment.


Lesser?

 

[TravelingGal]

Haha....

Trust me...if TGuy had proposed to me with fireworks going off in the background, marching band playing, girls running around us sprinkling rose petals , and a limosine ready to wisk us away to a 5 star restaurant, the words out of my mouth would not have been "Yes."

They would have been, "Who the f*ck are you and what''d you do with my boyfriend?"

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 1/14/2008 1:35:49 PM
Author: musey

Date: 1/14/2008 8:49:40 AM
Author: CrookedRock

Date: 1/14/2008 5:46:14 AM
Author: chocolatefudge

Don''t want to rock the boat here but it just seems that all of the posters saying that the proposal isn''t a big deal are the ones who had the ''infront of the tv'' proposal.

Perfectly said!

Hmm, well, no. I did not have an ''in front of the TV'' proposal, but even if I had, I would not have been disappointed. I find it just a little bit offensive that you would insinuate our arguments are only in defense of our ''lesser'' proposals.

Musey, was it you whose FI was walking the dog in the morning and decided that he just HAD to do it as soon as he returned? That is the cutest thing ever, and if you ask me, much more romantic than lighting fireworks off a building that spell out ''will you marry me'' (as an example).

If you''re ready to spend your life with someone, you don''t need a song and dance or some extravagent thing that will always remind you of it. Hopefully you''d just remember the moment your life changed?

Maybe that''s just me?

 

[musey]

Date: 1/14/2008 1:48:05 PM
Author: sunnyd

Musey, was it you whose FI was walking the dog in the morning and decided that he just HAD to do it as soon as he returned? That is the cutest thing ever, and if you ask me, much more romantic than lighting fireworks off a building that spell out 'will you marry me' (as an example).

If you're ready to spend your life with someone, you don't need a song and dance or some extravagent thing that will always remind you of it. Hopefully you'd just remember the moment your life changed?

Maybe that's just me?

Yep, that was me

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 1/14/2008 1:46:22 PM
Author: TravelingGal

Haha....

Trust me...if TGuy had proposed to me with fireworks going off in the background, marching band playing, girls running around us sprinkling rose petals , and a limosine ready to wisk us away to a 5 star restaurant, the words out of my mouth would not have been ''Yes.''

They would have been, ''Who the f*ck are you and what''d you do with my boyfriend?''

Hahaha!!!

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 1/14/2008 1:49:29 PM
Author: musey

Date: 1/14/2008 1:48:05 PM
Author: sunnyd

Date: 1/14/2008 1:35:49 PM
Author: musey

Date: 1/14/2008 8:49:40 AM
Author: CrookedRock

Date: 1/14/2008 5:46:14 AM
Author: chocolatefudge

Don''t want to rock the boat here but it just seems that all of the posters saying that the proposal isn''t a big deal are the ones who had the ''infront of the tv'' proposal.

Perfectly said!

Hmm, well, no. I did not have an ''in front of the TV'' proposal, but even if I had, I would not have been disappointed. I find it just a little bit offensive that you would insinuate our arguments are only in defense of our ''lesser'' proposals.

Musey, was it you whose FI was walking the dog in the morning and decided that he just HAD to do it as soon as he returned? That is the cutest thing ever, and if you ask me, much more romantic than lighting fireworks off a building that spell out ''will you marry me'' (as an example).

If you''re ready to spend your life with someone, you don''t need a song and dance or some extravagent thing that will always remind you of it. Hopefully you''d just remember the moment your life changed?

Maybe that''s just me?

Yep, that was me

I loved that!! Adorable.

 

[musey]

Date: 1/14/2008 1:46:22 PM
Author: TravelingGal
Haha....

Trust me...if TGuy had proposed to me with fireworks going off in the background, marching band playing, girls running around us sprinkling rose petals , and a limousine ready to wisk us away to a 5 star restaurant, the words out of my mouth would not have been ''Yes.''

They would have been, ''Who the f*ck are you and what''d you do with my boyfriend?''

LOL Tgal!

 

[musey]

So after all my rambling I think I thought of a much more concise way to put what I''m trying to say:

To me, how "romantic" the proposal is stems from the type of relationship you have and (more importantly) what the guy''s thought process would be behind each. For a thoroughly orchestrated proposal, the thought process is presumably something like "My lady deserves the best, I need to plan this thing to the last detail to show her how important she is to me." For the type of proposal I got, the thought process was more like "I can''t wait anymore, I have to be engaged to her RIGHT NOW."

For me, the latter is infinitely more romantic... because of the type of person I am, that he is, the type of relationship we have. We''re done with our honeymoon phase, it''s not about impressing each other... the romance in our life spontaneously hits us, it isn''t planned out anymore.

For some women, that first option is more romantic... what better than a man who wants to pull out all the stops for you?


It really is a matter of personal taste. But I think that some women (like my brother''s girlfriend) are not realistic about the kind of person they have chosen to be with.


So yeah, it''s totally fine (chocolatefudge, crookedrock, etc.) for you to want and NEED that orchestrated proposal, as long as that really is what your relationship is about. But please don''t suggest that that is the ONLY valuable way to propose.

 

[decodelighted]

Some of the biggest, showiest proposals around here (not naming names!) AND in Hollywood (ahem, I''m talking about you Bennifer 1.0.) have NOT led to a union OF ANY KIND.

My *personal* belief is that the people who are the most down-to-earth, keepin-it-real, managed-expectations-types have the most successful relationships (married or unmarried).

 

[orangemonster]

We all have such different perspectives, it''s great to hear them!

To clarify (not sure anyone is even paying attention to me as I''m not a regular!LOL):
I did not have an in front of the tv proposal - and when I said my proposal was not what I imagined but what I needed/wanted this is what I mean...

One night my hubby (then FI) took me out to dinner at a gorgeous, expensive restaurant in Boston. This place was ROMANCE personified... dark paneling, soft music, fresh flowers. We had a lovely dinner and evening.

Fast forward a couple of days - we again went downtown and walked around, finally deciding on a simple dinner at a fave Italian restaurant. After that we wandered some more and ended up in the Boston Public Gardens. We chose a bench to sit on and enjoy the day when FI decides he NEEDS to tie his shoe. He gets down on his knee and proposes! I was STUNNED! (I didn''t even notice he had boots on WITHOUT LACES!). A few people passing by saw us laughing and kissing and clapped while they shouted congratulations. Hubby told me he had had the ring in his pocket while we were at dinner the other night but it just didn''t ''feel right''. It was too ''what everyone else does'' and he wanted it to be more special for us. I was so happy and pleased this man wanted to marry me - and still am tickled that he did!

So I guess for me, I had the big romantic gesture but really preferred the proposal in the park that was more spontaneous and ''right'' for us. I LOVE remembering how sweet he was to be dragging that poor ring all over the place waiting for the ''right'' moment. I never told him ''how'' I would like to be proposed to - I just trusted he would do it in a way that would be memorable for both of us.

 

[musey]

Orangemonster, I love love love your story. How sweet your husband is!!

 

[orangemonster]

Thanks musey! I think I''ll keep him!

 

[MissErin]

Date: 1/14/2008 2:51:55 PM
Author: orangemonster
We all have such different perspectives, it's great to hear them!

To clarify (not sure anyone is even paying attention to me as I'm not a regular!LOL):
I did not have an in front of the tv proposal - and when I said my proposal was not what I imagined but what I needed/wanted this is what I mean...

One night my hubby (then FI) took me out to dinner at a gorgeous, expensive restaurant in Boston. This place was ROMANCE personified... dark paneling, soft music, fresh flowers. We had a lovely dinner and evening.

Fast forward a couple of days - we again went downtown and walked around, finally deciding on a simple dinner at a fave Italian restaurant. After that we wandered some more and ended up in the Boston Public Gardens. We chose a bench to sit on and enjoy the day when FI decides he NEEDS to tie his shoe. He gets down on his knee and proposes! I was STUNNED! (I didn't even notice he had boots on WITHOUT LACES!). A few people passing by saw us laughing and kissing and clapped while they shouted congratulations. Hubby told me he had had the ring in his pocket while we were at dinner the other night but it just didn't 'feel right'. It was too 'what everyone else does' and he wanted it to be more special for us. I was so happy and pleased this man wanted to marry me - and still am tickled that he did!

So I guess for me, I had the big romantic gesture but really preferred the proposal in the park that was more spontaneous and 'right' for us. I LOVE remembering how sweet he was to be dragging that poor ring all over the place waiting for the 'right' moment. I never told him 'how' I would like to be proposed to - I just trusted he would do it in a way that would be memorable for both of us.

That sounds very romantic and sweet. I think if Eric did this I would be just as happy as if he did it at Disneyland.

Maybe I am wrong in assuming (it wouldn't be the first time on here) that this thread wasn't what everyone considered "romantic" or not, but more so, if you could have your proposal done in any way possible, what would you do. Some people are obviously going to want a small inimate proposal whereas others may like something a little more populated. It dosen't mean that one is less romantic or real then another, but simply a preference.

I think we can all agree for the most part that we will be elated to have the man will love ask to spend the rest of our lives together - so what should it matter what one girl likes proposal-wise over another?? As said earlier, I would love a Disneyland proposal - not because I want everyone to see, but because Disneyland has a TREMENDOUS amount of meaning for both Eric and I together. But just the same, if we were watching a Disney movie at home and he popped the question, I would still be VERY happy.

This thread was just created (as far as I know) for senario purpose. I think everyone has WONDERUL ideas about their proposal and I truly hope it occurs just as hoped or similar to it. Some proposals aren't what I would choose, but a Disneyland proposal is not what a lot of people would choose too. This was just a place to write about it.

I may get backlash from this but it's something I needed to put out there. Sorry in advance if it causes drama.

 

[musey]

MissErin, I can't speak for anyone else, but I was responding to (originally) CR's post that she'd be "pissed off" if her proposal was not a big production and (later) chocolatefudge's insinuation that other posters were being defensive of their "lesser" proposals (still not sure if she intended it to read that way, but it did to me--and I think to surfgirl, as well) and that a big "production" proposal was, in some way, superior.

So no, my post(s) were not aimed at the original purpose of this thread, they were aimed toward the direction the thread had taken. Threads evolve and change, and that's part of what a forum is about: uncovering new and unexpected topics of discussion.


ETA:

Maybe I am wrong in assuming (it wouldn't be the first time on here) that this thread wasn't what everyone considered "romantic" or not, but more so, if you could have your proposal done in any way possible, what would you do.

I do think that those ideas are one in the same, unless I'm not reading it the way you intended it. What we think is romantic (or not) most likely IS the definition of our "dream proposal" (or not).

 

[MissErin]

Date: 1/14/2008 3:47:48 PM
Author: musey
MissErin, I can''t speak for anyone else, but I was responding to (originally) CR''s post that she''d be ''pissed off'' if her proposal was not a big production and (later) chocolatefudge''s insinuation that other posters were being defensive of their ''lesser'' proposals (still not sure if she intended it to read that way, but it did to me--and I think to surfgirl, as well).

So no, I my post(s) were not aimed at the original purpose of this thread, they were aimed toward the direction the thread had taken. Threads evolve and change, and that''s part of what a forum is about: uncovering new and unexpected topics of discussion.

Thank you for the clarification. I missed that aspect of it, and I will take responsibility for that error. Musey - I appreciate you taking time out to let me know what you were speaking of.

 

[princesss]

Date: 1/14/2008 2:01:47 PM
Author: musey

To me, how ''romantic'' the proposal is stems from the type of relationship you have and (more importantly) what the guy''s thought process would be behind each. For a thoroughly orchestrated proposal, the thought process is presumably something like ''My lady deserves the best, I need to plan this thing to the last detail to show her how important she is to me.'' For the type of proposal I got, the thought process was more like ''I can''t wait anymore, I have to be engaged to her RIGHT NOW.''

It really is a matter of personal taste. But I think that some women (like my brother''s girlfriend) are not realistic about the kind of person they have chosen to be with.

Yes, yes, and yes! This is all I''ve been able to think about while reading this thread. Each proposal (and what''s perfect for it) depends on the relationship and the people in it. This whole idea of demanding things out of it, like your brother''s gf, strikes me as completely crazy. It''s like the girls that start planning their wedding with an "insert groom here" tag- it doesn''t represent the couple at all. It makes me really sad.

Each couple has a different personality, so to speak. Some are very private, some are very showy, and anywhere in between. So if the big, showy proposal suits your relationship and your SO, great. If not, there''s no sense in forcing anything just because the girl wants it to be "perfect".

As far as my "perfect proposal", there''s only one thing I really want: sincerity. Everything else is gravy.

 

[sputat]

My guy is the life-of-the-party kind... really big personality. I''m the opposite. He told me that he initially planned his proposal like this: Friday Night. SF Giants game. Jumbotron proposal. His co-workers + etc. are there since they have a box for that night. Totally him. But for my personality, I didn''t need all that. Any of that. LoL One of his married co-workers had instead suggested to make it private. Just us.

So two days before the Friday night game, on a hohum Wednesday date night, we were on our way to dinner when he made a detour to Golden Gate Bridge. We were days away from moving to Florida. He told me one last visit to the bridge... We were standing by the cliff overlooking the Bay and reminisced how much fun we had living in the City. There, without the infamous bended knee, he simply looked into my eyes and told me how much he loved me and how he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. There was hardly anybody there besides a few scattered joggers and a couple of tourists taking pictures. I was so touched! We lingered for a few more minutes and then made our way to this little French restaurant that I loved. We got a corner table for two and quietly celebrated our engagement. During dessert, he told me about his initial plan to pop the question via Jumbotron and I nearly choked.

Now with his personality, I would think that the romantic restaurant would be a more "ideal" place for him to propose since he nixed the Jumbotron. He said he did think about it but he knew that would still make me feel awkward. He admitted that by proposing at the Bridge, whenever we see Golden Gate in tv or the movies, we can always say that was where we got engaged. That that was the memory we''ll remember. I never really had a dream proposal but what he did still makes me swoon to this day. It fit me to a T.

When I did go to the game Friday night, since he is still him, he still surprised me with the Jumbotron but instead posted "Congratulations on your engagement P + E". I was still high about being engaged that I was able to laugh and enjoy it. There were two other "Will You Marry Me?" messages in between the innings. Congratulations to them but if he had done it this way, I would''ve turned beet red and die of embarrassment.

 

[bee*]

Date: 1/14/2008 12:24:48 PM
Author: MissErin

Date: 1/14/2008 8:22:58 AM

Author: bee*



No D proposed to me in a cable car over Barcelona. I adore the way that he proposed but I would have been just as happy with a proposal in front of the tv. No matter where they do it, they have put thought into it. It''s a huge deal for a man to do it and some men will think that they''ve found the perfect proposal by doing it at home with just the two of you. I think that if you''re going to be disappointed by that type of proposal it''s important to let you ff know.

Sorry - I just wanted to comment back to Bee - This proposal sounds ADORABLE!! I feel like I can see it play out and it just seems so sweet!!

Thanks Erin-it was great! Wouldn''t change it for the world.

 

[Skippy123]

I think it is fun to dream, why not?!?! We have dream rings, dream houses, dream careers, dream vacations, dream etc. I used to daydream about our proposal.

I would love to hear all about your dream proposals

I daydream about fun things all the time; it may not happen but it is still fun to dream, no