Which men are most attracted to you?

[iLander]

I'm not sure, how are you supposed to tell?

As the client side of our company for 30 years, I am very comfortable talking to men, and find them more interesting and less judgemental than women. DH says the men think I'm a terrible flirt, but I've never perceived myself as doing that. I say I'm just friendly. But if any of them were attracted to me, they didn't make it very clear.

As for previous boyfriends they were too varied to be any kind of type. I always felt that if someone asked me out, it would be mean to say no, so I always said yes, for at least one date. Ages, types, builds, too much variation to answer that.

So, yeah, I really don't know.

 

[PintoBean]

Apparently I was born with RBF bc my mom was always telling me I should smile or else I look so "mean"!

I attract guys who majored in electrical engineering, computer engineering, or computer science that are between 5'9" and 6' who played in what my mom has dubbed "rocky roll" bands hahahhaa!

At least blue eyed or blonde and blue eyed.

 

[monarch64]

I can tell you which are not--septuagenarians with billions.

 

[missy]

I can tell you which are not--septuagenarians with billions.

LOL.

Monnie, I know you are joking but even septuagenarians with billions were attracted to you is not worth the price you would have to pay. I could almost guarantee it. I never did get the marrying for money bit. Doesn't make sense. To be married to someone you don't love is not worth all the money (or bling) in the world. For me it seems it would be a living hell. But I digress. And I LOL'd at your post so thanks for the laugh.

 

[partgypsy]

When I was young, bass guitarists, or maybe it was the other way around? It became a running joke with my friends. For a period of time whenever flirting with a guy or getting involved in them, almost invariably finding out they played bass guitar.

However my husband plays drums (and also regular guitar); he broke the mold a couple different ways. So maybe, musicians?

 

[jordyonbass]

When I was young, bass guitarists, or maybe it was the other way around? It became a running joke with my friends. For a period of time whenever flirting with a guy or getting involved in them, almost invariably finding out they played bass guitar.

However my husband plays drums (and also regular guitar); he broke the mold a couple different ways. So maybe, musicians?

Bass guitarists............have we met before?? Hahahahaha

 

[partgypsy]

When I was young, bass guitarists, or maybe it was the other way around? It became a running joke with my friends. For a period of time whenever flirting with a guy or getting involved in them, almost invariably finding out they played bass guitar.

However my husband plays drums (and also regular guitar); he broke the mold a couple different ways. So maybe, musicians?

Bass guitarists............have we met before?? Hahahahaha

Do you think bass guitarists have a certain type of personality? Because except for my first boyfriend (bass guitarist in my brother's band) I wouldn't find out until later. Maybe they give off the vibe of being competent but not needing to be the center of attention or something.

 

[arkieb1]

No idea. I honestly don't. I've never had anyone try to chat me up because I avoid people/crowded places like the plague unless I have no choice. My face at rest looks so cold and standoffish that it helps keep men away.

I think we could be twins. I've obviously perfected the same look in my old age too When I was younger/at university it used to be the nerdy type guys probably because I have a limited threshold for stupid people.

 

[kenny]

... However my husband plays drums ...

I hear drummers do it with better rhythm.

 

[partgypsy]

... However my husband plays drums ...

I hear drummers do it with better rhythm.

No comment

 

[jordyonbass]

When I was young, bass guitarists, or maybe it was the other way around? It became a running joke with my friends. For a period of time whenever flirting with a guy or getting involved in them, almost invariably finding out they played bass guitar.

However my husband plays drums (and also regular guitar); he broke the mold a couple different ways. So maybe, musicians?

Bass guitarists............have we met before?? Hahahahaha

Do you think bass guitarists have a certain type of personality? Because except for my first boyfriend (bass guitarist in my brother's band) I wouldn't find out until later. Maybe they give off the vibe of being competent but not needing to be the center of attention or something.

I'd agree with that. For some bassist's in bands there is a tendency to be a mediating party, so they are usually the level-headed person who can help make a yes/no decision when other band members can't agree, or at least that's my experience and that of some bassist mates of mine. And while playing on a stage does require self confidence to be able to get up in front of a crowd, our instrument is more of a backing instrument that makes the party atmosphere of a live band (ever heard a band without a bassist?). So we aren't so much of the whole spotlight-hoggin', 20 minute guitar solo egotistical type

 

[jordyonbass]

... However my husband plays drums ...

I hear drummers do it with better rhythm.

I hear that drummer is an ancient word meaning 'one who hangs out with musicians'

 

[Tekate]

Back in the day - true this - men who liked big boobs and green eyes. Today, guys in wheelchairs mostly

 

[partgypsy]

Back in the day - true this - men who liked big boobs and green eyes. Today, guys in wheelchairs mostly

lol! Honesty is refreshing!

 

[december-fire]

... However my husband plays drums ...

I hear drummers do it with better rhythm.

I hear that drummer is an ancient word meaning 'one who hangs out with musicians'

You're awful!

 

[december-fire]

Gosh, I can't remember. Too long ago.

 

[kenny]

... However my husband plays drums ...

I hear drummers do it with better rhythm.

I hear that drummer is an ancient word meaning 'one who hangs out with musicians'

You're awful!

-1

 

[arkieb1]

... However my husband plays drums ...

I hear drummers do it with better rhythm.

When I was much younger I dated two professional drummers at different life stages - it's a myth.

 

[LLJsmom]

The artistic men who love to cook and create. IDK why but there you have it. Maybe they somehow just knew I needed someone to cook and care for me but LOL it was so funny how it so often worked out that way when I was dating.

Looks wise usually tall dark and handsome were the men who gravitated to me. But I ended up with my dh a blonde and green eyed man so there you go. Oh and of course he is quite the cook. And he bakes too. At least that part is consistent.

You've got a catch Missy. You guys are perfect for each other.

 

[LLJsmom]

My RBF is a result of four decades of perfecting until it was just right. There is no part of it that is accidental.

I am the "get the hell away from me" woman.

As a result, it is always clueless men that approach me. It can be funny clueless, arrogant clueless, plain clueless...but when someone is putting off my vibe, you have to be clueless to approach me.


I have never been approachable. I don't care for being picked up in public places. It's too vulnerable, too many freaky variables.

Being committed/married most of my adult life also adds to why I don't particularly want male company.

I had no idea how to answer this question until I saw House Cat's answer. Most of the guys that have expressed an interest in me have been my DH's old friends, while we were dating. I've been married many years and even with DH with many years prior to that. So can't really answer. But I have had to tell guys, and I'm quoting, "You're an a$$hole. I can't stand you. Don't ever call me." They had ignored all hints prior to this, and these were DH's real friends, well, at least he thought they were. I'm friendly and outgoing, but more in a guy's way, not girly or flirty. I am not afraid of disagreeing or calling guys on stuff. I figure that should be enough to turn them off. I guess sometimes not.