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Best wishes for a speedy recovery.

I loved this post. Thank you.
 
Anyone have a spare tissue??

This is one of my favorite posts ever.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts about your personal journey. Hope your husband has a speedy recovery.
 
Gypsy, what a truly touching post. I felt tears spring to my eyes as I read the last sentence.

Happy anniversary to you and J! Sending lots of healing dust your way!
 
Thank you for sharing this with us, Gypsy. So much healing and love to J AND to you. I'm just learning how to be a wife, and this was so good for me to read. Happy anniversary to you both. xoxoxo
 
Gypsy:

Thanks for reminding us of the little things that make a marriage endearing.

My husband still introduces me as his "beautiful bride" even after 14 years of married life. I love hearing those words!

What a wonderful experience you had, thank you for sharing it with all of us.

Wishing your hubby a speedy recovery!
 
A Journey. How accurately you all describe this. I've heard the phrase "it's not the destination but the journey" and I guess I never gave it much thought. Life is a journey, and I'm happy with where I am at the moment, and it is fascinating to read about how I got here in old posts. We'll see where I go next. And I'll be watching your journey's as well.

Thank you all for your wonderful posts. I don't wax poetic too often but occassionally things do get me thinking . As for sharing those thoughts. This place is a type of home for me. And you all are family. Sometimes it's lightness and laughter, sometimes it's shadows and dark, at time's life is dappled with a litle bit of both... but no matter what I know you will listen, give me your counsel and lead with your heart or your head as your personalities dictate. I can only hope that I do the same for you.

Cehra, thank you sharing your experience, you too NEL, and Blue and Gemgirl. I love reading about other's thoughts and experiences on their journey.

I especially appreciate the well wishes especially as John's been running a fever for the last 16 or so hours, off and on. Now on. I know your good thoughts, well wishes, prayers and dust will help us through this. So again, many hugs to everyone.
 
Oh Gypsy, this post is so beautiful. It is so true, it's during times of hardship that you really realize these things even more than usual. I wish John a speedy recovery, and happy anniversary to you both!!!! HUGS!!!
 
Thinking of you. I wish your husband a speedy recovery.

What a lovely post. Love it.
 
Prayers that John recovers soon. Happy anniversary to you both. I remember when your mother was in the hospital and everything John did then and how people here were saying that you had to marry that guy. Hard to believe that it has been years now.

Life is a journey. I have to remind myself that it isn't about getting to the finish as quickly as possible. Hence, my tag line here.

Cheers! :wavey:
 
Wishing your husband a quick recovery Gypsy.


I just got married on the 5th. I can't help but smile hugely every time DH refers to me as his wife.. who knew, indeed, that one word could carry so much meaning and feeling? Thank you for posting this, how beautifully you've expressed it :))
 
Sending as much love and healing to you and your husband as you shared with us in your post.
 
Aw Gypsy. You just made me tear up. And I totally know what you mean. I'm glad your hubby is doing well - I'll keep sending thoughts your way.
 
Hope your hubby is up and about soon and completely healed. Loved your post Gypsy. 30 years later, I still love to be called his
wife, and am still thrilled to be with my man. I am sure you will be too, 28 years from now. God bless!
 
Ah, so very sweet, Gypsy! I hope John is improving...let us know!
 
Gypsy said:
And well... this morning he had a weird infection/swelling and heat in his arm and a fever and we didn't know if they'd be able to operate to finish the surgery it was a little worse, then walking into his room after the surgery and talking to the surgeon who said the surgery went well, it was better.

My mother almost died and was in the hospital for months from a very similar surgery a few years ago, so this past week I've been a basket-case.
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Hi, Gypsy-

I've been trying to piece together where you and John are, now, in your life. Of course I well remember your terrible ordeal with your mother. I do not know the nature of John's original medical problem, though, or if you posted about it somewhere on Pricescope. Was the infection secondary to the problem for which he needed the surgery or the reason he needed the surgery? (Please do not answer my tedious questions if you need to spend your energies elsewhere!!!)

I wanted to let you know that I was, once again, tuned in to your frequency. My own life has had me quite self-absorbed for some time!

I send prayers and love,
Deb
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diamondseeker2006 said:
Ah, so very sweet, Gypsy! I hope John is improving...let us know!
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(...and I just wanted to let you know that I have missed you, diamondseeker. You are a spiritual presence here. Deb)
 
I've missed so many posters who have taken the time to post here! Thank you guys for checking in and posting your thoughts, encouragement and wisdom. Sorry yesterday was hectic and I didn't really stop by... or did I? The day is a blur... a long one.

John had a spinal fusion. He had three herniated discs and they were also degenerating from arthritis. So he had one surgery where they went in from the front, removed his intestines (!!!!) and put spacers into his spine (then put everything back) on Monday. Then on Tuesday they went in and did the fusion with rods and bolts and wires, plus they did something that sounded like putting some of his bone in a blender with some kind of protein to aid the fusion then putting it back into his spine (!!!!). I was under strict orders to NOT google anything as I was already (frankly) in a tizzy because my mom had a huge saga with 5 consecutive surgeries to fuse her spine a few years ago and when John's surgeon explained what they would be doing it brought back the blind panic and helplessness of my mom's surgery so badly. So I'm not sure of the exact names of his surgeries as John hid them from me to discourage snooping on the net (which always causes me to panic as it lists all the worst case senarios). I wouldn't have been such a basket case if it wasn't spinal fusion... I'm usually pretty good with this stuff, but spinal maladies have a really bad reference for me.

John's surgeries went well, but since Tuesday he's had a fever of 101 or more for no reason that they can find. They've done two blood cultures (clean), ultra sounds of his body for clots, chest Xrays... etc. So they have no idea what's causing the fever and obviously they can't release him until they've figured it out. I'm worried that it's the procedure from the first day that had something leak or something that's causing this so... I've asked them to look into that possibility. We'll see if they listen tomorrow.

I just started a new job two weeks ago (was laid off in May) so I unfortunately have to go to a mandatory three day training in VA (we live in CA) Sunday through Wednesday day night... but his mom is here, so is Neatfreak (thank God!), and my mom. But it's really not sitting well to leave when he's in the hospital. He was supposed to come home tomorrow, but until they can eliminate the fever... he's in the hospital.

Anyway, I'm rambling now. Thanks so much everyone for your posts. I'm glad you enjoyed the post. I'm not generally sappy but the husband means the world to me, as you probably know. Love and kisses from me to you all.

PLEASE FEEL FREE TO JUST POST WHAT IS GOING ON WITH YOU GUYS... I MISS YOU ALL. I know Snlee has a new (gorgeous) baby, but Dani, DS, AGBF, Blue, Jas.... I'm not going to list everyone, cause THEN I'll miss someone and feel bad, but... how is everyone doing? I'm so happy to see you all. Fill me in! I've missed you!
 
Gypsy, Layla...everything will be alright!

That is all. I wanted to just offer you my "this too shall pass." Much love. John will come out of this a better man physically, and you will also be fine. Love you both.
 
monarch64 said:
Gypsy, Layla...everything will be alright!

That is all. I wanted to just offer you my "this too shall pass." Much love. John will come out of this a better man physically, and you will also be fine. Love you both.
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Thank you very much sweatheart. (HUGS and Love) to you too.
 
Wishing your husband a speedy recovery Gypsy, I must say I love this post (but hate the fact that your huband's in the hospital of course)
 
Wow-wow-wow! Gypsy, when you get handed surgery, you don't get small surgery! All I can say is that I love the calm with which Monnie told you everything will be all right. Thank God for the presence of calm, soothing people among us. And for the presence of helpful ones. I am so glad that you have Neatfreak there to help when you must go to Virginia. It is wonderful that John has you as his wife now. He will do beautifully.

Love and prayers,
Deb/AGBF
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Gypsy- I always said you have a wonderful way with words, and that post was no exception. What a beautiful post and wonderful reflection on your marriage and your husband. Actually made me tear up ::)

I wish you and your husband the best and a very speedy recovery. (And Happy Anniversary!)
 
That is quite an ordeal you are going through... I find it absolutely admirable that you are able to see this silver lining in all of this. Very inspiring! I will be praying for your husband's speedy recovery, not knowing what's wrong is so unnerving.
 
What a sweet post! I'm so glad that your husband is doing well and wish him a fast and easy recovery!
 
It's funny, the word ordeal reminds me of my mom's 2 year medical drama or my grandfather's death, in comparison (so far and Thank you GOD) this is manageable. Just worrying because the doctors don't know what's wrong AND released him yesterday (against hospital policy) even with a fever.

On the one hand, of course I'm happy to have him home (even though I'm in VA in mandatory training), on the other I'm (more than a bit) ticked off that they just sent him home without solving the problem-- or even identifying it. He had a fever yesterday. I don't know about today (stupid training)... but he's not up yet.

Better or worse. Richer or poor. In sickness and in health. :wavey:
 
Gypsy, I'm so worried now... They don't know what's wrong with him and they sent him home??? :errrr: Please tell us how he is soon!
 
I'm worried too honey. If his fevers don't abate by the time I'm home (Wednesday) I'm probably going to drag him to Stanford Hospital emergency and get him evaluated there, even if I have to knock him out and drag him there myself. People just don't have high fevers for 7 days straight for no reason. It breaks every two days for a few hours then starts right back up. Weirdest thing. And he's not on antibiotics because (and frankly I think this is idiotic) they don't know what the bug is so they don't know what to give him-- but aren't there just super broad spectrum antibiotics??? Things that kill 99% of what's out there? He's not allergic to anything so... I don't get why they can't just try knocking it out. They fully admit that it could be something nicked or tiny in his abdomen and that it wouldn't necessarily show up on the blood panels. Argh... sorry now I'm just vomitting all my fears. I'm frankly furious. And scared.

Will update when I know something. He had a lot of pain today so was on full pain meds and sleepy all day. And if he has anything unusual happen between now and when I get home I know that I can count on either my mom, neatfreak (or her wonderful hubby) or even his mom (who is phobic about driving in CA) to haul him to the ER. That's what's stopping me from having a full out panic attack. But I gotta tell ya, everytime I call and ask about fever and chills, I get angrier.
 
Happy to report that as of an hour ago his temperature is at 98. :bigsmile:

He looks good FWIW...much better than last week!!!

Go enjoy your trip!!!!
 
If he gets another fever, take him back to hospital gypsy.

Wound infections can be serious, especially around bone. I don't mean to alarm you, so as long as he is getting better, he should be ok at home.

Good luck to him!
 
Thank you for the update Neatfreak. ((HUGS) many many hugs for the post and for being there.

Rosetta , I definitely will, thank you honey.
 
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