Would you be offended if . . . ???

[diamondfan]

I would not love it but would not let it get to me too much. If I wanted the information I would likely call the mother of the bride and ask where they were registered. To me, while I get why someone would enclose it in the invite, it would seem too blatant and obvious. Most people do come with gifts, most people realize a couple has likely registered someplace or multiple places, so I would just think that a call to the mother of the bride would get me what I needed, and I would not mind doing that.

 

[TravelingGal]

I wouldn''t care if it was included in the invite. I wouldn''t think it was tacky either. But I wouldn''t think it''s the norm either.

The stamp thing cracked me up. I admit it...I had 2 cent stamps! I ran out of postage and I hate wedding planning so on just a handful of invites (to my brother and a couple close cousins) I used the two centers. Hehehe. I knew it was bad though, but I pretty much knew my brother and cousins would forgive me.

As for cash bar...never went to a wedding that had one. I have been to several dry weddings though (acquaintances, not friends). As for my circle of friends...fun= drinks and dancing and I was happy to throw a party I knew my friends would enjoy. That meant a complete hosted open bar.

It just all depends on the what''s common in your circle of friends and if you want to cater to that or not.

 

[Gypsy]

Date: 5/2/2007 7:39:43 PM
Author: widget
Well, I'm old fashioned (and OLD!) so I don't know what my opinion is worth...


If I could afford it, I'd have an open bar; if I couldn't, I'd have beer/wine/soda/champagne. If I couldn't afford that, I'd have a brunch reception and serve coffee/tea and juice, and champagne with the cake. I would NOT want my guests to pay for anything other than what it costs them to get there!


I've NEVER had any trouble finding out where a B&G are registered. I think including that info with an invitation is...well...tacky.


I don't think all this is so much a matter of 'rules of etiquette'...but simple hospitality and graciousness.


Old Granny Widget

Yeah, I've got to go with Widget too. And I'm 31. But I was raised in a very proper family that entertains a lot. I think both are inhospitable. Maybe I'm judgemental and narrow minded, that's not my intention. Nor am I going to gossip.

I would not think poorly of a B&G who had a limited bar, just wine and beer and a champagne toast, or even a dry reception. I think I might even be okay with a cash bar where you pay only for premium drinks. I mean if I want a Grey Goose Martini and they are serving Stoli... okay, I can understand that.

We aren't going to be spending much on alcohol at my wedding. We are doing a brunch with beer, wine and champagne. As well as bloody mary's and marias and screw drivers and mimosas. (IF I can't convince DF to run away to Mexico with me... how funny is it that I want to elope, and HE wants a real wedding!).

As for putting my information in the invite. I would never do that. One of my cousin's just did though.

And yes, I thought poorly of her. Wouldn't say to anyone IRL though. Just mention it here cause it's on point.