A few more address questions for invitations

[zoebartlett]

I''ve put my FI in charge of printing the envelopes for the invitations this weekend. Here''s a few questions I just thought of:

What do you do when there''s a rumor that someone you know and are planning on inviting to the wedding might be leaving his/her partner and moving out of state? They have a baby (who would most likely be invited) as well. What do you write on the invitation? This is not someone I keep in touch with at all but this person will be invited (but probably won''t attend).

A) Joe Smith and Family

B) Joe Smith, Katie Jones, and Family

C) Joe Smith and Guest


Also, for people who have boyfriends and girlfriends, do you write both names on the invitations or just write the person you know well and "and Guest" for his/her girlfriend/boyfriend?

Thanks in advance!

 

[laine]

Ok, my responses are not based on Ms Manners, but more on my gut responses to your questions:

Assuming they are still together when invitations are sent, I would invite "Joe Smith, Katie Jones, and Family" and if they split up, its up to them to decide who goes. If you do hear of their split actually happening, you could follow the invite with a phone call, inviting Joe to bring a guest if Katie won''t be attending, or assuring Katie you still want her to come also, or whatever the situation is. If I were Katie, I''d be a little irked if I was dropped off the invite before we actually split--maybe they''re trying to reconcile.

For significant others, I believe the official word is people not living together each get their own invite, couples living together get both full names on the outer and both names on the inner.
Personally, as the guest on a lot of my boyfriend''s invites, I appreciate it when people take the time to add my name, even if it''s just my first name on the inner envelope. I don''t need my own invite, I don''t even need my name on the outer, but add me to the inner instead of "and guest" and I''m a happy camper. I''d only use "and guest" if there is no steady boy/girlfriend and you are inviting them to bring a date, or if there is really no way to find out the boy/girlfriends name.

 

[zoebartlett]

Thanks Laine! I think I''ll write Joe Smith, Katie Jones, and Family.