A question for the LIW

[FrekeChild]

I was looking at the Ladies in Waiting List-and WHOA it''s moving fast for the moment. So all this movement on the list prompted me to ask...

Who here thinks there is a very strong possibility that they will be engaged before 2009? Like 75% or more sure? heck, even less... Any deadlines?

I know for a fact that I won''t be. And if I do get engaged before March 2009 (at the earliest)- I will be SHOCKED. Speechless shocked. And THAT is hard to do.

Like

times a hundred.

 

[Sparkalicious]

I do! I do!

Not exactly sure when ... He''s been pretty good about keeping his plans mum. He REALLY wants to surprise me. The ring has been finished since December.

I''m thinking maybe thinking maybe this weekend but don''t quote me on that.

We''re doing something fun and thought that it might be the perfect opportunity for him. Hmmpf! We''ll see.

Even if it happens later than sooner, the anticipation of being an LIW is kind of fun. We play with it so it keeps it interesting or at least entertaining.

You never know FrekeChild ... the way things are going, you may well be engaged before me. December! C''mon!

 

[star sparkle]

BF has said he will propose by the end of April.

He already knows which day he''ll do it, and I just have to wait! He tells me everyday how pretty and sparkly "his" ring is, since he says it''s not mine until he gives it to me.

 

[choro72]

I expect to be engaged in the next few weeks, and I've only joined this forum for a little over a month now. The reason for me is because I didn't find this site until we started talking about engagement rings, and I only joined when he was perfectly ready to buy.

I've looked at your past topics, and you seem like a VERY patient and understanding GF. I think it would have driven me crazy to be here on this board if we weren't ring searching. Of course I'm happy for all, but I have "issues" and I need to hold myself back once in a while.
I hope your BF well on your comps...And I'm talking health-wise. I remember what that was like, and no amount of alcohol can make those memories go away

 

[FrekeChild]

Sparkalicious-I kind of like being a LIW. Keeps life interesting, and it means I have something to look forward to-even though I have no idea when it''s coming. Of course I don''t like being a LIW enough to want it to continue forever

.

star sparkle- I read your post to BF because he asked what I was smiling about and I told him that it could be his ring until he gave it to me, and then it could be our ring. He just looked at me funny and then smiled. He''s goofy.

Choro- Thank you! It means a lot that you think that I''m patient. I don''t feel like it. Lately I have to confess I haven''t been as patient or understanding but its because I have a friend that proclaimed about a month ago that she''d never get married, it was old fashioned and outdated. Recently she''d been asking me about what kind of wedding I wanted, engagement ring-all that stuff. Well this past weekend she asked her BF to marry her

, and then proceeded to rub it in my face a bit. I don''t think it was intentional, but it still hurt a little bit. Probably mostly because they''ve only been in a relationship for about 4 months-this time. Before it was only 2 months.

What really gets to me though is that she was a touch snotty about how I was getting a silver/gray gemstone (for fun!) and said, "I''m sorry honey, I only do diamonds." I only asked for which stone she preferred out of the two I was looking at! But guess what-when it came down to her BF buying her a ring-she didn''t get diamonds- she got CZ from QVC.

He''s wanting her to buy his diamond wedding band-and it''s more than twice as much as her ering-and it has real diamonds on it. The combination of all of it kind of got on my nerves, but I''m getting over it now.

As for BFs comps-he won''t be able to drink to forget afterwards. He''s got a heart condition and mixing his meds with alcohol is icky. Honestly, I''m really not worried about him. He''s an amazing test taker-he wasn''t going to go to college at all, and his dad pulled him out of bed the day of the ACT tests with no prep of any kind, and told him he was going to go to college and to get his bum out of bed and go take the test. He ended up getting a 35.

Plus, he just doesn''t stress about that stuff. I have horrible test anxiety, so I don''t get him in that aspect AT ALL.

Luckily, I think I really am able to live vicariously through all the great ladies here, and try to concentrate on helping them out or relishing in their engagement joy, instead of concentrating on my own issues. That seems to help them go away. So thank you again-I really do appreciate it.

 

[star sparkle]

Date: 3/27/2008 1:43:42 AM
Author: FrekeChild

star sparkle- I read your post to BF because he asked what I was smiling about and I told him that it could be his ring until he gave it to me, and then it could be our ring. He just looked at me funny and then smiled. He''s goofy.

Actually now he has 2 rings because he decided to get a matching wedding band custom made after getting custom e-ring.

He just got the band yesterday, and I rallied really hard for him to let me see it. Of course he said no. He said I can see it after I get the e-ring, which he also won''t let me see.

 

[FrekeChild]

So do you know what they look like? Did you design them? I don''t think I''ve seen any threads with any descriptions...Have I been living under a rock except for threads that have something to do with shoes?

 

[star sparkle]

Date: 3/27/2008 2:49:30 AM
Author: FrekeChild
So do you know what they look like? Did you design them? I don''t think I''ve seen any threads with any descriptions...Have I been living under a rock except for threads that have something to do with shoes?

Yes, I know what they look like.

My thread on the finished ring is here.

The matching band is basically the same, just without the large center stone. I can post a pic of that as well, if you''d like.

 

[CrookedRock]

Well hopefuly we can all be off the list sooner than later!

For Me it will def be before my Bday (May 24th) or during that Meomorial Day weekend when we head off for Nantucket.
Leon should be done by the end of April, regardless of how much my bf try to throw me off, I am still counting the days on my own! I am ready to not be a gf after 8 long long years!

And I think I am #8 now, when I first came to PS I think I was in the 50''s! Ugh!

Cheers to short stays on the list girls!

 

[Deelight]

Spark I hope it will be this weekend for you


For me it better be sometime between May and June this year or he is in trouble


After almost 10 years of being BF and GF I am over the waiting I want to move on and forwards, plus I saw the video of the diamond and I can''t wait to get that baby on my finger she is beautiful .

Sparkles GALORE

 

[Sapphire_Cutie]

I know that it will be this year. I have a timeline of us being engaged this year and married within 12-18mos from the day we get engaged. So...its still a wait since we havent found THE ring yet...and even when we have, he can ask at ANY time til the end of Dec lol.

 

[cammy85]

We''ve been talking and he has told me that it would be ''sometime in 2008''


So I am hpoing that is pretty accurate. The timeline only works for me if it''s stuck to. If December 31, 2008 rolls around and nothing, I have a feeling I''ll be pretty unhappy haha.

 

[MoonWater]

Well sometime last year we decided the deadline would be Fall of this year. But this is when we were going to get married in October ''09. We have officially decided to get married Oct ''08 instead (we both want a small wedding so waiting a year didn''t make any sense at all, we''re practically married now! lol). So, I am pretty sure I will see the ring by the end of April. Our 5th anniversary is on April 23rd so we''ll see. I even saw the email from WF saying when they expect to ship it (tho I wasn''t suppose to). But my FF said that I can''t go by that date because HE decides when they ship it LOL...bleh whatever. I still have the date stuck in my head anyway because I want it already!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Miscka]

I think I will be engaged before 2009. I told BF that 2008 works, 2009 is pushing it. I think it will be late summer/fall.

I''m cool with that, we are waiting on a few things and have just now picked out a ring. It won''t be available/ready for a few months and I dont get to know any more about it so who knows.

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

I am very hopeful that it will be by the close of this year. SO has been looking for feedback on jewelry when we are out and about and at one point in time he was very keen on hearing what types of proposals women like (i.e public vs. private). However, since he wants to keep the entire thing a surprise and is taking it very seriously, I am trying to give him as much room as possible without completely smothering him with my LIWitis.

If it doesn’t look like he is making any moves by the close of summer, he’ll probably have to come clean with a timeline or else I may just lose my mind!

 

[luckynumber7]

i''m sure it will happen this year.

i posted last week (i think) and mentioned that he is ready to buy the ring. we''re actually looking at diamonds over the weekend (found the vendor thru here).

i asked him how long he''s going to make me wait, he just smiled.

i hope he won''t make me wait too long coz that will be really cruel. we''re hitting our 7 year mark soon and he told me that he wants to be engaged this year for sure. i''m guessing he might ask me on my bday (which is 2 months from now) but it could be sooner. i''m getting really excited coz we''re looking at diamonds this weeked. i did as much research as i can and have asked help from my friends who work in a diamond grading lab. so i think i''m ready to take the plunge if i find my perfect stone.

 

[ktdid]

I originally thought by my b''day which is next week so I know that''s not going to happen. I know because just last weekend he said let''s go buy the ring and I couldn''t find "the one."

I''m hoping to choose something in the next week or so (talking with ERD.com this morning!) so hopefully the proposal will be in the next 2 months or so (as soon as the ring gets here!)

 

[KCCutie]

I wish I could be sure it was going to be this year but I just can''t be sure yet.

My SO and I had a talk over the weekend and he did assure me that he wouldn''t make me wait too long but that he thought he would need about a year to save and plan. I''m pretty sure I''ll be around at least until the Fall as we don''t want to steal attention from his sister''s engagement and wedding in October.

However last night all on his own he told me when we moved in together he''d want to live in his part of town and he mentioned that we could stay in his building ad get a 2 bedroom loft and still save tons of money on rent. So he has given it some thought since Sunday. He also went grocery shopping (which he never does) and bought lunches and dinners and was so proud of himself that he saved so much money that way. He also told me he moved a bunch of money to his savings account (which I had suggested he do way before the talk) and asked me to hold on to his W-2 so I can help him file his taxes to see what his return will be like this weekend. I think my little push helped a lot

While I feel good about the pace things are going right now I still think it''ll be sometime between October of 08 and maybe May of 09, but who knows. Right now I feel like I have something to look forward to and I''m happy hanging around on the LIW list. I''m sure I''ll have bouts of LIWitis along the way but that''s why I''m here....right?

 

[hlpkaixin3344]

We had always been waiting to start seriously thinking about engagement once we both graduated and got jobs. He graduated later than I did and just got a job at the end of January. He said once he had his first paycheck he''s start saving.

So I assume, 6-10 months to save and maybe get engaged by the end of this year or beginning of next year. And we''d get married in 2010.

Well... I came here to figure out a way to let him know what kind of ring I wanted and didn''t want. I ended up talking with him and once we started talking, I''m not sure why, but he decided that he wanted this done ASAP! He worked the numbers and figured that he could pay off the ring in a matter of a year with his salary if he didn''t put down anything. The amount of interest the payments would accrue was so little that he decided it was not worth waiting to save to pay for the ring in cash.

In summary, I came to this forum thinking I would have a loooong road ahead of me, but now he''s asking for my parents'' permission this weekend and wants to buy the ring as soon as he can get to the bank. And I really think I have Pricescope to thank for it!

I think I''ll be engaged my the end of May... Maybe he''ll do it on our anniversary (April 23rd) but either way, it''s a LOT sooner than I thought!

Sparkalicious you are very patient! I couldn''t dream of the ring being in his possession 3 whole months before proposing!! But I''m sure it''ll be worth the wait.

star sparkle maybe we''ll be engagement twins! Late April engagements... I always love late spring...

frekechild I agree with Choro that you''ve been extremely patient! Having dated my BF for 6 years, it seems like all of our friends start dating after us and get engaged before us. I get a pang of jealously or resentment when that happens too... But if fades because I realize that ''to each his own'' and we''re doing what works for us.

CrookedRock It looks like you, Star Sparkle and I will all be spring proposals!

Deelight Good for you for putting your foot down! I can''t believe I complain about 6 years... I know that there are other''s like you who have been in relationships longer (like luckynumber7). I wish the best for you!

cammy85 You sounds like me at the beginning of this year! I thought ''sometimes in 2008''. Maybe a little ring shopping would give your beau a boost too.

MoonWater We have the same anniversary date!!! Maybe we''ll truly be engagement twins... same day and all!

 

[patient1]

Just FYI... The above post is mine... I changed my email address before I posted and because it wasn''t ''verified'' it came up as ''anonymous user'' and now it won''t let me change it...

So know the above sentiment is from me...

 

[sunnyd]

I think it''ll be this year. We''re both rearing to go, but need money in order to actually do it.

Oh the humanity! If we actually do get the stone this summer as planned (thanks government rebate!

) then I may have to either a) find a way to glue it to my finger, or b) come up with a get-rich-quick scheme. Then hopefully we''ll be married by late 2009 or early 2010!

 

[Dreamgirl]

Wow Im blown away by how many of you really "know" when it''s going to happen. Why are some of you setting a deadline?

For me, I don''t think it will happen for another 3-4 years. But that is just my guess. I really have no clue. But, I want to be surprised.

FrekeChild- Im with you. If I was engaged by this time next year, I would be SHOCKED as well. ha! Cause I know that wont happen.

 

[star sparkle]

Date: 3/27/2008 11:19:47 AM
Anonymous Wrote:

star sparkle maybe we''ll be engagement twins! Late April engagements... I always love late spring...

I''m hoping it''ll be sometime next week because my birthday is on Thursday, but I''m not so sure. We''re going to L.A. (with my bro and his wife) for the weekend so I don''t think he''d do it then, and I also don''t see him proposing mid-week. Who knows, though.

 

[FrekeChild]

Star-The ring is beautiful, and I think I did see your thread, but maybe didn''t post? I have a tendency to look at pretty much everything, and only respond sometimes-or forget what I''ve responded to. I have the memory and the attention span of an ant. Oh well.

I think a big part of any anxiety I have has a lot to do with the fact that I just think that people take our relationship seriously. I think with the physical symbol of the intention of marriage (ering) there, it says a lot more than, "Hey this is my girlfriend, Liz."

You know?

Thanks to all of you LIW for responding! I felt like there were a lot of you who were thinking you might get proposals in the next couple of months or so- but I didn''t realize just how many!

KCCutie You and I can hang out on the LIW list after everyone else has moved to the BIW/BWW list! And that''s totally why I''m here!

sunnyd- Gluing the diamond to your finger? That made me laugh so loud and it scared my poor hamster away. She was looking at me, and I read your post and couldn''t contain myself. Poor thing...

Dreamgirl- Welcome welcome welcome! I''m glad I''ll have some great company on the LIW board! How long have you and your SO been together?

 

[pjean]

I will be! We''re waiting while my ring is custom made, and it''s taking FOREVER! We agreed on a design in early January, for pete''s sake. (Actually, I guess it isn''t that long, since we have seen a wax since then and had to get some changes made, but it feels like a long time...)

I try not to talk about it much, since I''m pretty sure I drove everyone around me crazy when we were buying the stone and thinking about the design.

 

[star sparkle]

Date: 3/27/2008 12:12:55 PM
Author: FrekeChild
Star-The ring is beautiful, and I think I did see your thread, but maybe didn't post? I have a tendency to look at pretty much everything, and only respond sometimes-or forget what I've responded to. I have the memory and the attention span of an ant. Oh well.

I think a big part of any anxiety I have has a lot to do with the fact that I just think that people take our relationship seriously. I think with the physical symbol of the intention of marriage (ering) there, it says a lot more than, 'Hey this is my girlfriend, Liz.'

OK, now I'm really freaked out. You know how we've concluded that we're just basically the same person in different bodies?

We have the same name, too.

Apparently BF has been referring to me as his fiancee for the last 7 or 8 months at work because he thinks calling me his girlfriend isn't "serious" enough. And his coworkers refer to me as his wife.

 

[KCCutie]

Date: 3/27/2008 12:12:55 PM
Author: FrekeChild

KCCutie You and I can hang out on the LIW list after everyone else has moved to the BIW/BWW list! And that''s totally why I''m here!

Sounds like plan. I like vising this board, and a year was well within my limits so I''m happy to hang out here looking at sparkles and seeing everyone else''s wonderful engagement stories.

 

[Delster]

Some time before the end of September this year. And he''s "avoiding" April and October and is worried about clashing with "events" in the Summer. So, um, no idea when it''ll happen!!!! I guess we''re left with August and September, eh?

 

[MoonWater]

Date: 3/27/2008 11:36:38 AM
Author: patient1
Just FYI... The above post is mine... I changed my email address before I posted and because it wasn''t ''verified'' it came up as ''anonymous user'' and now it won''t let me change it...

So know the above sentiment is from me...

Haha, I was wondering! That cool we have the same anniversary! I''ll keep my fingers crossed for the both of us!

 

[FrekeChild]

Star...OMG. Freaky. We are so the same person. So weird. I wonder what else we have in common.

Yay for all the positivity on the LIW board!

Delster- I''m so excited about your engagement! I''ll confess I''ve been lurking around in RT and...no comment.

Hahahaha patient1- I was wondering what was going on with that.