lliang_chi
Ideal_Rock
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Lanie|1317495367|3030679 said:IG!!!!!!! This is wonderful news!!!!! I'm tearing up for you AGAIN over here in Texas. Your story is so amazing, and it's one you'll tell this little baby. I truly hope everything works out! Out of everyone, you, your DH, and this little baby deserve this!
Also a question, and I really hope I'm wording it correctly so as not to offend you, because that is not my intent at all. I keep hearing about how adoptions in the US are such a looooong process. And with your first shot, you were matched pretty quickly, and then the second, and then the third. Granted, maybe your agency is fighting for you hard since the first time, and you are at "the top of the list" bc of your heartbreaks. But I was always under the impression that it could take YEARS to adopt within the US. Does it depend on the agency? The amount of money you are spending? The availability in the area you selected? The same happened with a friend of a friend of mine. They decided to adopt here, and within about a year, she had a brand new baby in her arms. I have no other reason to ask all of this other than curiosity.
ImperfectGirl|1317515441|3030868 said:I'll let you guys know if it's a boy or girl on Wed!
AGBF|1317577224|3031288 said:ImperfectGirl|1317515441|3030868 said:I'll let you guys know if it's a boy or girl on Wed!
It's incredibly exciting, IG! I don't remember, now, if you already finished a nursery in anticipation of Parker or Avery! Please remind me!
Deb/AGBF
ImperfectGirl|1317583058|3031350 said:Yes, we do have a beautiful sage green, chocolate, and white nursery just waiting for our baby. The door has remained shut since we came home from MN the first time, but hopefully I'll get to open that door soon. It's pretty basic right now, only containing essentials like furniture and bedding because I'm waiting until our baby actually comes home to add art and other decor.
Dreamer_D|1317624027|3031845 said:IG I am hoping this is it for you. Gosh I sure hope so, not only for you but for poor D and her mom. I hope she is able to be strong and resolute in this decision, because if there was *ever* a situation where adoption is the right thing to do for everyone involved -- D, her mom, the birth father, the baby -- THIS is that situation.
puppmom|1317820042|3033773 said:IG, I hope this is it for you! Lady, you are on the ride of your life! From here on out, you can handle anything that comes your way.
On another note, I had no idea that employers (including my own) offered Adoption Assistance. My company was just recognized for our AA program. I don't know how much time or money goes into adoption other than what I've read here but we offer $13,000 in expense reimbursement and 3 weeks of paid leave. Surely, you need (or want in the very least) more than 3 weeks of leave but I guess it's more than most employers offer if we were recognized for our program.
Do/did any of you receive any assistance from your employers?
Logan Sapphire|1317821444|3033788 said:puppmom|1317820042|3033773 said:IG, I hope this is it for you! Lady, you are on the ride of your life! From here on out, you can handle anything that comes your way.
On another note, I had no idea that employers (including my own) offered Adoption Assistance. My company was just recognized for our AA program. I don't know how much time or money goes into adoption other than what I've read here but we offer $13,000 in expense reimbursement and 3 weeks of paid leave. Surely, you need (or want in the very least) more than 3 weeks of leave but I guess it's more than most employers offer if we were recognized for our program.
Do/did any of you receive any assistance from your employers?
Wow, that's excellent!!! I'm super impressed. I work for the federal government and we get nothing at all. There's no paid maternity or paternity leave- you have to save up your annual and sick leave, take leave without pay, or use advance leave. And technically, with adoptions, you are not allowed to use your sick leave unless it's for a dr's appt or adoption-specific meeting.
When we adopted our daughter, I used up a good portion of sick/annual leave to stay home with her 3 months and then DH stayed with her for 3 months. Both of our supervisors were cool about it- I did invoke FMLA just in case but DH never did.
ImperfectGirl|1317842840|3034022 said:What a day! Still short on time for a proper reply but I wanted to let you all know that we are on
Team PINK!
It's a girl! S reports that baby is 2lbs and the tech could see hair on her head already. She is sending the ultrasound photo to our caseworker who will then send it to us. We are excited!
Names: We very much like to pick names early so we can refer to the baby by name. We've pretty much decided on Olivia, which I love! I hate how popular it is but since girl names are hard for me, I'll stick with it. No thoughts on a middle name yet...any suggestions? It can't end in the letter N because it won't sound good with our last name.
tammy77|1317847947|3034073 said:Delurking to say... IG, I've been silently following your thread and I'm so happy for you! I know it's cliche but what about Olivia Faith or Olivia Grace because your journey to your LO has been full of both...