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Bella_mezzo|1323559908|3078785 said:Oh, Logan, I am so glad that you like that book! I thought it was so amazing! I got that for B when we were in process and forgot all about it! I think it will have to resurface soon Maybe from Santa
isaku5|1323217240|3075698 said:AGBF|1323213187|3075649 said:PS-It is funny (amusing) although not coincidental (since my being an adoptive mother is what draws me to the threads on adoption on Pricescope), that my daughter called while I was typing my response to IG above. She wanted (among other things) to complain about her birthmother to me. She felt her birthmother had been very rude in her last e-mail to Whitney (my daughter), chastizing her as she did once before when Whitney asked too many questions about her birthfather! Her birthmother had told Whitney that she should'nt be so interested in her birthfather and his family, since he had had no interest in her, and should be more interested in her adoptive parents! Whitney was incensed.
I had to help her to recognize that her birthfather had treated her birthmother like dirt and that it was natural for her birthmother to be jealous when she saw Whitney fascinated by the man. I explained that her birthmother had endured pregnacy and childbirth and since Whitney had reached out to her that her birthmother had responded with warmth to Whitney, wanting her in her life and sending gifts and letters to her and to me.
Whitney said that her birthmother, like her birthfather, had thrown her out!
But sanity prevailed in the end as I again went over all the things her birthmother had done for her. It is hard for a 19 year-old girl to see things from the point of view of her birthparents, though!!! I hope you don't mind this detour from stories about impending adoptions. It is a story about an adoption!
Aw, Deb, you've said and done all the right things for Whitney. She's at that age where she's 'fascinated' by her past. She's not able yet to understand how the whole story has worked its way along. She's looking to YOU for the truth and you are giving it to her bit by bit (which is all she's able to handle right now). For an adoptive child, she wants to know why she was given away and she seems to be fixated on that right now. That's must be very hard for her to comprehend and you to hear.
You're doing a wonderful 'job' of being there for her no matter how difficult it is. She needs PROOF that you love her more than her birth parents did and that's the tough part for you (or like anyone else in your situation). I'm certainly not a mental health care expert, but it sounds to me liket you've done everything right. Keep doing what you're doing and hopefully she'll come to the conclusion that you care for her much more than her birth parents did and you will never abandon her.
Logan Sapphire|1323545556|3078590 said:Congrats, IG, on becoming an aunt! You're right- he looks HUGE! I hope to read your own story very soon.
As an aside, I found a book called On The Night You Were Born by Nancy Tillman that really spoke to me, both as an adoptee and an adoptive parent. It's not written specifically for adoptees but I thought it was especially nice to read to my daughter about what could've happened on the night she was born, since we don't know anything about her birth.
"On the night you were born,
the moon shone with such wonder
that the stars peeked in
to see you
and the night wind whispered,
'Life will never be the same.'
Because there had never been
anyone like you...
ever in the world."
ImperfectGirl|1324226161|3084014 said:Diamondseeker - thanks for the info on the book!
Prana - Thanks! I sure hope it is close.
I, too, read through this entire thread the last few days and I was just bawling my eyes out. I'm so touched and so thankful for all of the support I've received from you all throughout this journey. You all have been more supportive than people I know IRL in some cases. I'm beyond grateful to each of you and I don't think I could have gotten this far without your support. A huge THANK YOU to each of you!
Today is FULL TERM! I'm happy the milestone is here since it's just a relief to know that the baby would most likely be ok if born today but also because the finish line is in sight! Today I will pack for the trip and DH will install the car seat so we are ready once the call comes. I spoke to S on Friday since D had an appt on Thursday. Baby is head down and D is having braxton hicks. Dr. will start checking D internally at this week's appt. Not too much longer to go! I'll keep you all posted.
ImperfectGirl|1324226161|3084014 said:Diamondseeker - thanks for the info on the book!
Prana - Thanks! I sure hope it is close.
I, too, read through this entire thread the last few days and I was just bawling my eyes out. I'm so touched and so thankful for all of the support I've received from you all throughout this journey. You all have been more supportive than people I know IRL in some cases. I'm beyond grateful to each of you and I don't think I could have gotten this far without your support. A huge THANK YOU to each of you!
Today is FULL TERM! I'm happy the milestone is here since it's just a relief to know that the baby would most likely be ok if born today but also because the finish line is in sight! Today I will pack for the trip and DH will install the car seat so we are ready once the call comes. I spoke to S on Friday since D had an appt on Thursday. Baby is head down and D is having braxton hicks. Dr. will start checking D internally at this week's appt. Not too much longer to go! I'll keep you all posted.
ImperfectGirl|1324226161|3084014 said:Today is FULL TERM! I'm happy the milestone is here since it's just a relief to know that the baby would most likely be ok if born today but also because the finish line is in sight!
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Baby is head down and D is having braxton hicks.
Dr. will start checking D internally at this week's appt. Not too much longer to go! I'll keep you all posted.
ImperfectGirl|1324434982|3085735 said:I just want to be put out of my misery.
ImperfectGirl|1324476605|3085990 said:Thank you all for replying. I was really upset last night...more upset than I've been through this whole process really. I realize that I'm just terrified/nervous/hopeful/anxious/happy and a whole host of other emotions all at the same time. I just let myself cry and I do feel a little better this morning. I so appreciate you all.
Thanks for the recommendation Logan, I'll check it out today!
ImperfectGirl|1324476605|3085990 said:Thank you all for replying. I was really upset last night...more upset than I've been through this whole process really. I realize that I'm just terrified/nervous/hopeful/anxious/happy and a whole host of other emotions all at the same time. I just let myself cry and I do feel a little better this morning. I so appreciate you all.
Thanks for the recommendation Logan, I'll check it out today!