Age.

[tberube]

Date: 1/28/2008 5:22:20 PM
Author: TravelingGal

I take offense to the above comment.

I didn''t get married late because I wasn''t ready and immature.

I got married late because...well, no one wanted to marry me in my 20''s.

Amen to that, sista!

 

[Skippy123]

Date: 1/28/2008 11:19:10 PM
Author: diamondseeker2006
I don't have the time to read every word of this thread, but I think successful marriage has a LOT more to do with maturity and character than AGE!!!

Just for the record, I met my huband at 19 and we got married at 21 and have been married for 31 years! Almost all of our college friends are still married and most of our current friends have been married since a young age as well. Yes, I realize the average age of marriage has risen, but so has the divorce rate!!! I think self-centeredness and lack of commitment have more to do with the rise in the divorce rate than does the age factor.

So Isolde, my advice is to ignore all those people because they have zero right to question your relationship. When you find the one you want to spend your life with, you just know.

I agree with this. I married at 24 and now at age 32 I am still married and don't see that changing. I think it really has to do with maturity for both the woman and man.

 

[swimmer]

Interesting comments.
I''m wondering if there are also geographically different expectations about when to marry, not just generational...

In doing my guest list, all my childhood friends and sorority sisters from down south are married (and have been for ages) and my boston area friends are all over thirty and I''m one of the first to get married. This isn''t a negative or a positive for either region, and could also perhaps be tied to housing prices. I''m not sure, but if you think about it geographically, it might be easier to let someone else''s notions of what is appropriate roll off your back...you are from different worlds, despite it being the same country. Does this make any sense, or perhaps I''m overgeneralizing. Just offering words of succor as someone who has been asked both "are you EVER going to get married?" and "why do you want to get married, you have so much life left to live?" by different people from different places.