Allow me to introduce myself....

[kdub79]

Hi...my name is Kirsten and I'm going insane. Nearly 4 yr relationship after a failed 12 yr marriage and for the first time in my life...I have truly found love. He is nine years my junior and though we have talked about it...no ring yet. I have gone from hopeful to sad to angry and back. He was planning a proposal with his best friend helping him shop for rings for me...but the trip we had planned fell through due to unexpected military service for both of us in November. We are both U.S. Marines. I google often to see if I am the only one feeling the way I do...in complete limbo and I feel at home here. Nice to know I'm not alone. Even when I manage to think of something else...someone..be it friend, foe or stranger entirely...brings up the subject of marriage The first time around, I was young and dumb. There was no proposal, no wedding, no butterflies...none of what I have now with this man. You guys have to help me keep my sanity.

 

[kdub79]

Is anyone there?

 

[LJL]

Welcome Kdub!

Can't say I'm having that full barrage of feelings at the moment - but you are definitely welcome here. We are a diverse group of women who (almost) all go through those feelings at some point. Congratulations to you for finding love after a long failed marriage - that is truly whats important here. Try to focus more on how lucky and happy you are to be with this man and less on how far off a ring might be.

Also, let me be the first to thank you and your SO for your service to our country! Your proposal will come soon enough - we're all about patience here....or at least about preaching it, maybe not practicing it

 

[kdub79]

Thank you for having me....I've been trying not to dwell on the proposal...or lack thereof , but I must admit it's challenging. This time of year seems to be when alot of proposals happen so it's like I can't get away from it. He assures me that my time will come, but I feel like a bratty little 4 yr old sitting on the floor, arms folded and pouting thinking...."BUT I WANT IT NOW!!!"....I do love him dearly....and he feels the same way. That's truly all that matters and I know that....I feel blessed to have a love like that and I suppose that the rest of our lives is going to continue to pass whether I'm his wife now or later. So here's to waiting...

 

[MisakiChan]

Hi, Kdub! I know this brings you little to no comfort, but I understand how you feel. However, you shouldn't give up on your fairytale ending. I've learned from my own relationship that patience and positivity go a long way and I'm sure that keeping an optimistic outlook will bring you the proposal you earn for.
Also, your bf told you that your time will come, so he's thinking about it too.
Welcome aboard! May your stay be short and sweet!

 

[kdub79]

Thank you so much for the warm welcome!

 

[Amys Bling]

welcome! wishing you a short but sweet stay here and a proposal soon!

 

[kdub79]

Thank you Amy!! Though I too hope for a short stay...i PLAN TO ENJOY YOU GUYS WHILE i'M HERE.

 

[madelise]

welcome occasionally, it gets sort of slow in here as i've realized recently.

let's hope your anxiety is put at rest soon but in the mean time, you can distract yourself with all the sub forums here on PS to help you plan your 2nd round, and make it the way it's supposed to be this time! proposal, fancyschmacy (if that's what you want) traditional wedding and all! i hope you get your fairytale soon!!

 

[mary poppins]

Welcome and thanks for your hard work in serving our country!

 

[kdub79]

Thanks ladies....& Mary Poppins...it has truly been an honor to serve.