Am I Being Teased??

[biochemchick]

My boyfriend and I have been ring shopping for about 6 months now. Each time a big occasion comes: Christmas, "anniversary," birthday, etc. I keep thinking it''s going to happen. But now I''m almost positive he hasn''t seriously shopped for the ring on his own. So now I''m wondering just how long it will be. Do you think I''m being teased? It seems like after looking for so long, it has to happen soon...

 

[Dreamgirl]

When you say the two of you have been ring shopping for about 6 months, has he seem interested in the topic? I ask because you said your almost positive he hasn''t seriously shopped for the ring. Maybe he is looking at rings but is not ready to pop the question to you just yet.

 

[biochemchick]

Yes, he seems very interested. In fact, each time we went shopping, it has been his idea.

 

[mimzy]

unless your boy is totally thoughtless i doubt you are being teased.

it takes some guys a LONG time to psych themselves up enough to transition from being ''ready'' to BEING READY. i would ask him when he saw himself proposing (general) and as long as you think he is sincere i wouldn''t worry too much. i bet it is enough to drive you crazy though!

 

[cutiegirl84]

I don''t think you are being teased either. Especially since it was his idea to go ring shopping all those times. Maybe he is trying to surprise you and really blow you away by not doing it on a special occasion like Christmas, birthday, anniversary, etc. Did he every mention that he planned to propose on a special day before? or that he wanted to surprise you?

 

[ringless]

It sounds like he''s trying to surprise you... and not on a day that you would expect. Keep waiting... it will come before you know it!

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

I do not think you are being teased. I think it takes quite a bit of time to make sure that the investment in a ring is the correct one.

I agree with the other opinions here that he could be trying to find a moment to surprise you when you would least expect it.

However, if you are really worried that you are being strung along or "teased" by him the last thing you want is to develop any resentment towards him. If you feel comfortable enough, I would ask him if he has any sort of guess as to approximately when he will do it. Does he think it will be the end of this year? The middle of next year? I am willing to bet if you just get a confirmation from him that he is working on it and it will probably be within 6 months or a year or whatever that you will feel much more relaxed.

 

[Dreamgirl]

biochemchick- I agree with the girls, I bet it will be a huge suprise! I wouldn''t worry.

ringless- I keep noticing your quote and I''ve wanted to tell you I love it! That is one of my most favorite scenes from any movie. It is so sweet, makes me cry every time!

 

[biochemchick]

Thanks ladies. With such a subject, it seems the voice of reason disappears.

 

[Blair138]

Your BF sounds just like mine!!! After 4 ROMANTIC trips/vacations, my birthday, Christmas, New Year''s, Valentine''s Day and now our 4 year anniversary, I can, with 99% certainty, say he is just waiting to "surprise" you. I second guess myself all the time, because my FF doesn''t want to do it when I''m expecting it...