Awful Hair Trial

[sap483]

So I had my hair and makeup trial the other day. The woman who did my make-up did a fairly good job, although I''m not sold yet on it. My parents really liked it though. My FI thought the eyes looked too dark. Me, I''m not sure, but I wasn''t jumping up and down. The hair on the other hand, was completely awful. I wanted to cry. Luckily I haven''t booked either of them officially, so I can still look around. I definitely will not be booking the hair person, but she was really nice so I don''t want to hurt her feelings. Do you girls have any suggestions for how I can tell her that I will be going with someone else without making it seem like she did a bad job? I was thinking I might just tell her that my own stylist just became free on that date and so I am going to go with him. What do you think?

 

[aprilcait]

I'm sorry it didn't go well! That must be frustrating.

I would tell the stylist that you're checking a number of options and that you will get back to her once you have made a decision. It's logical for you to check other stylists, and you're not lying to her at the same time. Do get back to her, though. She's a professional, she should certainly understand if you decide to go in another direction.

 

[SarahLovesJS]

It''s a little white lie, hehe. But I think that may work. Why not?

 

[bee*]

Date: 2/21/2008 12:00:04 PM
Author: SarahLovesJS
It''s a little white lie, hehe. But I think that may work. Why not?

I agree with this.

 

[gtn]

If you definitely don''t want to go with her, tell her right away that you will not be booking her. If you want to lie to soften the blow, by all means, do so. If you would like to work with her, but didn''t like the way she did your hair, be honest and constructive and tell her what you liked and didn''t like and see what she could do differently.

 

[happy in love]

You can''t worry about her feelings really, you want to be thrilled with how you look on your wedding day.

I am a hair stylist and my main goal is to make my clients happy, if that means that they are a better fit with someone else at the salon, or at a different salon, then thats how it goes. When I was first starting out I would take everything super personally, but, as time went by I realized that "suzy" might not have liked how I did her hair, but "jane" raves about me and sends me all her friends.

If you want, see if you can do another trial, bring pictures of things you like and DONT like. If it is someone new, just don''t call her again. If after the 2nd trial you still aren''t happy, just be honest with her. She should understand, and if she doesn''t, well, that is not your fault!

Hope that helps! Good Luck!

 

[misysu2]

I wouldn''t worry about hurting her feelings. She is, afterall, a professional, and this is your wedding! Be glad it was just a trial run. We can breathe a sigh of relief there!!

 

[Harleigh]

I''m sorry that didn''t work out for you, sap. I agree with happy''s advice, and if you did take her pictures and gave her a good idea of what you wanted and you didn''t get it, I would go elsewhere.

You do seem to like her, but I also think it could be beneficial to let her know that you didn''t feel she "got" the vision you had in mind and could you try it again if you care to give her another try. She may appreciate the feedback and strive to do better for you or future clients, which could work in both your favors.

However, you need to LOVE your hair on your wedding day, and it doesn''t sound like you did at all, so maybe you need to look in another direction.

I hope it works out for you!

 

[LegacyGirl]

I would be honest with her and tell her you didn''t like it. I do this with anyone who does my hair and they are not offended because they are professionals. They also fix whatever I don''t like. I''m very nice about it to.. It''s more like "oh hey I don''t like it like this can we do something else" rather than "omg you can''t do anything right this looks awful where did you learn to do hair in a barn?!?!" hehe you get the point.

 

[sap483]

Thanks for all of your replies. You''re right, she is a professional and should be able to handle my saying that it didn''t work for me. I did actually bring in several pictures of the look I was going for. We also talked throughout the appointment on what I liked and didn''t like. I''m travelling for work right now but when I get home I''ll post pictures of her work. Normally I would be willing to give someone a second chance, another try at the trial. The main reason why I definitely have decided not to book her is that she told me flat out that she could not achieve the look I wanted without putting a ton of product in my hair. I know this is not true- I''m looking for simple curls, pulled partially back a la Jessica Simpson''s wedding day hair. I''ve had a similar style done before without a ton of product elsewhere so I know it can be done. I''m against the crunchy look and feel that she says can''t be avoided. I went for a trial with her b/c she is far closer to my venue than my regular stylist who is about 2 hours away. I may have to suck it up and pay extra though for him to come out.

 

[LegacyGirl]

I know what style you are talking about and if I can do that to my hair w/o a ton of product anyone should be able too

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I have really really fine blonde hair too. Half of it is straight and half is curly. It''s really weird and hard to do. I hope you end up finding someone who works for you.