BAHAHAHA...this is what happens when you assign a wedding chore to a man!!

[larussel03]

Date: 9/28/2006 3:24:49 PM
Author: aljdewey

Date: 9/28/2006 2:45:36 PM
Author: Mara

then get one from a local stationery store and say your Mom found it for you guys and you would never dream of hurting her feelings by not using her gift that coincidentally matches your color scheme and does not look like a funeral home purchased it in bulk.

I''d go with this.......or I''d ''misplace'' the other one (well enough that it''s misplaced for the wedding) causing you to have to go pick up another one.

This seems like the best option to me...don''t want to make him feel like he did a bad job. HAHA, oh well at least he tries

 

[Mara]

*day before wedding*

OH MY GOD!!! I''ve lost the guestbook!! I just can''t find it anywhere!!! (hiding burnt remains in trash in kitchen) I''m SO SORRY honey, I know you chose that for the wedding!!!! I could just cry!

*two minutes later*

I''ll just have to RUN OUT and get another one right quick! I''ll be back in just a few!

*rush to stationary store where you have previously scoped out appropriate book with no address lines and put it on hold under ''desperate bride'', rush home with new theme-approved guest book*

This was the only one they had and look it matches great!! CRISIS AVERTED!!!! Now onto your haircut....

 

[anchor31]

Oh my, this is hilarious!!! I almost fell off my chair laughing when I saw it!

I''m not sure what advice to give you... Obviously, it''s better open than closed, though.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 9/28/2006 4:01:35 PM
Author: Mara
*day before wedding*

OH MY GOD!!! I''ve lost the guestbook!! I just can''t find it anywhere!!! (hiding burnt remains in trash in kitchen) I''m SO SORRY honey, I know you chose that for the wedding!!!! I could just cry!

*two minutes later*

I''ll just have to RUN OUT and get another one right quick! I''ll be back in just a few!

*rush to stationary store where you have previously scoped out appropriate book with no address lines and put it on hold under ''desperate bride'', rush home with new theme-approved guest book*

This was the only one they had and look it matches great!! CRISIS AVERTED!!!! Now onto your haircut....

LOL...I wish.

Like I said, is it really worth it? I started that "three goals" thread, and how was I to know when I started it yesterday that I would have to go back and read it today and remind myself of my priorities? In the end, does a theme guestbook matter? If even if it is beyond hideous? Grotesque? MORGUE-LIKE?

On this forum, I often read stores of angst and sympathize with brides. But I always think to myself "don''t sweat the small stuff." What''s more important...matching details that I don''t really care about (believe me, I would pick this battle if it was important to me) or the feelings of my husband to be? It''s time I took my own advice....

But I''ll go scope out a book and put it on hold under Desperate Bride, just in case.

 

[codex57]

Hahahaha, I like the spilling coffee idea on it. Most guys would fall for it. Even if you had alternatives ready to mention as soon as he finds out, he might not connect the dots.

 

[Mara]

LOL codex sometimes I just love you.

You are such the manly voice of reason many times in a sea of BWW estrogen. It DOES help to get a guy''s perspective. hahaha.

 

[TravelingGal]

You''re probably right codex...and in the end, he doesn''t care about the damn guestbook....so it wouldn''t kill him if it got damaged somehow.

Hm, I think I''ll be making a BIG POT OF SPAGHETTI sauce for dinner. muahahaha.

 

[whatmeworry]

Well at least it''s not camouflage. BTW if she told me pick the song, I would interpret it as find and make final selection. Yeah keep it, have a good laugh later on in life. I''m sure the Visitors will have one too when they sign the book!

 

[FacetFire]

Oh, this is too funny! Men kill me sometimes! I could so see my FI doing something like this, and yes, he''d be very upset if I told him I didn''t like it. I''m with you on this one...the book just stays open the whole time so people don''t see the cover, I don''t think it''s a big deal. I''d probably let this one go. Besides, it makes a great story to tell years down the road...

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 9/28/2006 4:27:26 PM
Author: whatmeworry
Well at least it''s not camouflage. BTW if she told me pick the song, I would interpret it as find and make final selection. Yeah keep it, have a good laugh later on in life. I''m sure the Visitors will have one too when they sign the book!

I agree...live and learn.

And I hope the visitors don''t laugh too hard! Maybe we''ll ply them with extra wine so they don''t notice. I''ll take an extra dose myself so I won''t have a care in the world. I think I''ll be fine.

 

[ljmorgan]

TravelingGal I nearly died of laughter!

I guess my opinion differs from most here, but I say keep it

It is absolutely hilarious, and it would be your own inside joke at the wedding. Years later I think you will definitely look back at that book fondly, and maybe in 10 years you can confess how you really feel about it

Honestly I think that the situation is adorable. No one at your wedding is going to look at you VISITOR book and think "ugh" -- I say enjoy it!

 

[KimberlyH]

I read this and laughed loud enough that hubby came in from the other room to find out what was so funny. I told him the story then showed him the pictures and he said "what''s wrong with that?" and then proceeded to leave the room chuckling. You will look back on this with fondness someday if you don''t change it. And when planning, you really do need to let go of what doesn''t truly matter or you''ll make yourself insane!

 

[ljmorgan]

I forgot to mention what KimberlyH did -- I held back laughter and showed the book to my fiance -- he thought it looked just swell

 

[codex57]

Hahaha, yeah. This actually makes a pretty funny story for later on in life. I mean, really. It''s just the guest book. In terms of wedding importance, it''s pretty far down the list. After your beautiful wedding, even he''s gonna be able to laugh about it.

I still like the coffee or spaghetti thing tho. Now, I''m starting to wonder what my wife has slipped past me. She''s been great tho. She usually just does the, "Honey, I can''t decide btw these two. Which one do you like?" I can''t lose. She already likes both so it doesn''t matter what I say. Cuz in reality, we really don''t care. Well, not about the same things. Say she asked me to choose btw two dresses. I don''t care which one matches better. I can''t match. I''m really more concerned about which one is faster to put on so we can get going already or which one is faster for me to take off later.

 

[TravelingGal]

OK, real quick as my FI is out getting us sandwiches.

He came home and we talked for awhile. I didn't bring up the guest book...

Him: So, do you like it or not?

Me: Oh yeah, thanks honey. I appreciate you going out and getting it.

Him: Well, you can exchange it if you want.

Me. Oh no, this will work. Where did you find it?

Him: At Borders. They only had two. A white one and this one. I picked this one because it will look better years from now.

Me (suppressing urge to laugh): Oh, cool. What did the white one look like?

Him: It was just white and it said Guestbook on the front.

Me (hurting from not laughing). Ah. Well thanks honey. It will be displayed with that frame.

Him: I know. That's why I laid them out side by side.

OMG, how funny is this. He picked it because he did think it was better...so he put *some* thought into it. I'm keeping it. I've been giggling like mad ever since this conversation. I was cleaning the kitchen and didn't think he could hear, but he called out "what are you cackling about?"

 

[codex57]

Bahahahaha. Screw it. Forget the coffee. Just leave it open and disguise the edges. You''ve got an AWESOME story to tell friends and family later.

 

[oshinbreez]

This is toooo funny. Yeah, you should keep it. Maybe having a few shells around the visitor book and frame will help bring the colors together. And just think of all the comments your guest will get to write in the book. Will make for some interesting reading. Something you wouldn''t get with a normal guest book.

 

[sparkly_stars]

i think, the memory down the road that this "guestbook" (i.e visitors book) will bring you down the road will be SO fantastic.
hahahahah.
you''ll laugh whenever you re-open it and such..
what a great addition.
its so MAN-ish.
makes me laugh. I''m pretty sure my boy would pick something similar.

buuuuuuut when i get married i want that pollariod *sp?* idea.. where u snap pics of the guest and post it next to the message!
but THAT book is priceless, for the laughs alone AND the memories of the laughs you''ll have! hehe.

 

[Mara]

LOL love it.

''it was a plain white one, and just said GUESTBOOK on it''.

''it will be displayed with THIS (white) Frame...i know...thats why i put them side by side''

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 9/28/2006 9:31:02 PM
Author: Mara
LOL love it.

'it was a plain white one, and just said GUESTBOOK on it'.

'it will be displayed with THIS (white) Frame...i know...thats why i put them side by side'

I know...it's killing me...I just want to say something because I'm normally such a smart a** and wish I could point how funny the error of his logic is. Well, error according to me, anyway...I am sure he will be like the rest of the boys here and wondering what is wrong with it!

ETA, I may not love my boy's taste Re: guestbooks, but I sure do love my guy.

 

[anchor31]

Oh. My. Goodness!!! I''m DYING of laughter here!!! Bwahahahahaha!! Ah dear... Men... Gotta love ''em!

 

[KimberlyH]

Oh my goodness, I read hubby this post earlier and had him look at the picture and he just said "what''s wrong with that book?" chuckled and left the room. The addition to your story makes this a classic. Please don''t get rid of the book, it is just too funny and you will always look at it when reminscing and laugh your arse off!!!!

 

[larussel03]

haha, I think you made the right choice...as tempting as it is to fake that the guestbook met an untimely end, it''s prob for the best to let him feel as though he helped out

 

[firebirdgold]

Date: 9/28/2006 7:36:23 PM
Author: TravelingGal
OK, real quick as my FI is out getting us sandwiches.


He came home and we talked for awhile. I didn''t bring up the guest book...


Him: So, do you like it or not?


Me: Oh yeah, thanks honey. I appreciate you going out and getting it.


Him: Well, you can exchange it if you want.


Me. Oh no, this will work. Where did you find it?


Him: At Borders. They only had two. A white one and this one. I picked this one because it will look better years from now.


Me (suppressing urge to laugh): Oh, cool. What did the white one look like?


Him: It was just white and it said Guestbook on the front.


Me (hurting from not laughing). Ah. Well thanks honey. It will be displayed with that frame.


Him: I know. That''s why I laid them out side by side.

Oh G, I''m laughing so hard I''m crying. He very carefully, and with great thought, did not get the white guest book! That''s what makes the book truly funny! It could turn out to be one of your most treasured mementos of your wedding!

I must say I''m impressed that you managed to hide your reaction from him.

 

[jesterjigger]

OMG...tears are streaming down my face...I told the story to my FI and a friend...they both cracked up too, though when I told them about the visitor''s book over white book they said he gets and A for effort. I would definitely keep it. Well worth the story for down the road...oh, and I told my FI that he doesn''t get to pick the guest book...

 

[Lorelei]

Date: 9/28/2006 2:33:47 PM
Author: sumbride
By any chance does it not go with your color scheme?

It looks like something you might use at a funeral viewing...

If you want to just go with it, nobody besides the two of you will see the cover as it will be open to be signed, but, um... maybe he did it as a joke????

Did he want tasks or did you just want to make him feel included?

I am sitting here crying - that is exactly what I was thinking!

 

[eks6426]

I''d just use the book. Make sure it is open from the start so no one can see the "visitor''s book" title. In reality it doesn''t really matter and you don''t want to make your guy feel like more of a failure.

Or other option is you can have this brainstorm of an idea to not have a book at all but instead have people sign a matted photograph of you guys...some people have an 8X10 photo framed with a really deep matte....

 

[Eva17]

This is tooooo funny. So manly man!!!

Sounds like you have a great sense of humor, and will definately be one to laugh about in 5/10 years.

You go girl

 

[moremoremore]

LOL...that is so funny! Well, he tried!!! Yes, I'd definitely "misplace" this one and happen to have another LOL...He won't notice or care

I just wanted to mention that another idea is to get a huge plain frame with a wide matting....with your pic or invitation in the middle and guests can sign it and then you have the glass put over and hang! That's what I did. I had a beautiful urn filled with pens and had the invitation mounted....It's hanging in the hall and I love what people wrote...even the drunk ones

 

[ephemery1]

Hahahaha... oh that is fabulous... and just think, if it isn''t filled up at your wedding, you could always break it back out for any upcoming memorial services!

As much as I love the story behind it, if you''re still mildly disappointed... here''s one more option on dealing with the whole thing: "Ya know, I''m a little worried about the part in the book that says addresses... it could be kinda confusing if people think they''re supposed to be writing their addresses in there too... maybe we should check out that other book you found and see if it''s worded differently?" <-- See how nicely you give him ownership over BOTH books that way? Suddenly he''s the hero who found NOT just the one charming visitor''s book, but a back-up guestbook as well! He was thoughtful enough to give you a choice... what a great guy! Hehe... a little reframing never hurt anyone.....