BGD Blue Dream Ring

[Dani5577]

Its taken me a few months to post this. After a year and a half of obsessing over everyone's rings on here, I finally decided to do an upgrade myself. The ring is absolutely perfect and everything I wanted. But... my husband told me two weeks before it was even finished that he wanted a divorce. Of course I had to do a custom setting so it wasn't returnable. So now I have my Dream ring and I can't wear it. I still love it and have no regrets. Heather and Leslie at BGD were wonderful and helped me pick the perfect ring.

Diamond is a 1.354 G VS1 blue
Dream setting using .03 ct diamonds instead of their standard .05 (I was afraid the bigger diamonds would take away from the center stone)

 

[Tourmaline]

Wow, that's terrible! My heart goes out to you. Was your husband upset about the upgrade, or just not involved with it? Did his wanting a divorce seem to come out of nowhere, or were you not surprised? Hugs to you. What are your plans for the ring?

 

[Dani5577]

I was completely blindsided by it but it had nothing to do with the upgrade. I wore the ring for about a month and finally just put it away. I love the setting too much to put the diamond in something else. I have no idea what I'm going to do with it!

 

[tyty333]

Its just beautiful Dani! I think you were right about the .03 stones...they compliment the stone perfectly. That setting is amazing!

I am so sorry for what happened. I think you should reset the center stone in a "divorce" ring and wear it until you fall in love again.
(then reset it back in your current setting since it was never really used to represent your marriage...you could maybe do a small upgrade
and get a new BGD stone if that makes it feel more right)

Did you see this thread...might as well get some use out of a beautiful stone
https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/divorce-ring.231686/

 

[BlingDreams]

It is indeed a gorgeous ring, and your choice of the smaller stones was perfect! I'm sorry that it is now tainted with the pain of a divorce though. I'm confident that one day you'll know the right thing to do with the ring, whether it be reset the diamond or sell it outright and start all over.

Sending you some hugs of condolence. I hope the upcoming divorce isn't too tough and that you're back on your feet again soon.

 

[Acinom]

Hugs for you. What an upsetting situation for you. I hope you can turn this into a 'strong woman' ring that you will eventually enjoy to wear.
Wishing you all the best

 

[aac2013]

Oh Dani, hugs to you. I am so sorry.

The ring turned out beautifully and perfectly proportioned. If you do reset the diamond into something else, you could find a colored stone to put in the setting and wear it on your right hand. You could also use the band itself as part of a stack if you want to enjoy your beautiful rings in a new way.

 

[pearaffair]

Oh Dani, hugs to you. I am so sorry.

The ring turned out beautifully and perfectly proportioned. If you do reset the diamond into something else, you could find a colored stone to put in the setting and wear it on your right hand. You could also use the band itself as part of a stack if you want to enjoy your beautiful rings in a new way.

I like this idea. Also, I am so sorry that you have to go through this. At least you have a stunning ring to keep you company

 

[whitewave]

Oh hell. Wear it anyway: it's not like you feel like trolling for some men right now anyway.

It's gorgeous and I'm sad to hear how things went down for you...

 

[LLJsmom]

Your ring is beautiful!! I'm sorry about he bad news but I hope you will be able to appreciate how stunning your ring is.

 

[Ally T]

Gosh, happiness & heartbreak all in one go... I'm so sorry for your situation & hope you can somehow get some joy from thre ring. Hugs!

 

[poshmommy]

I'm so sorry for you, Dani! Very sad situation and crappy timing on his end. I agree with whitewave though. Throw it on your right hand and embrace your new life. I hope if fills up with happiness in a heartbeat!

 

[marcy]

Your rings are gorgeous and the side stones are the perfect size. I am so sorry for how things turned out though. I hope you'll find some joy in your gorgeous rings and diamond. I like the idea of putting a colored stone on the ering and either sell the diamond or put it in a pendant. Hugs to you!

 

[embdiva]

So terribly sorry you have to go thru this; however, having said that stand tall in front of your mirror, put your shoulders back and tell yourself you are beautiful and strong and he just wasn't enough man to handle it! If you have to, say it every morning and night until you are thru this. Then turn that beautiful center stone into a pendant and love it...it did nothing to you. Like the others have said, put a beautiful colored stone (birth stone?) in the ring and wear it proudly.

 

[MissGotRocks]

Wear the ring anyway! I am sorry that the divorce came up while you were waiting for the ring but oh, well . . . I'd wear it anyway and enjoy your beautiful ring! You will know when the time is right to do something else with it.

 

[arkieb1]

I'm sorry, I agree with the others put a coloured stone into the beautiful setting and either put the main stone into a pendant you can love and wear or into a new right hand ring.

 

[GearGirly]

Wow, to be blindsigted by that...I'm so sorry, nobody deserves that. And you know what, this beautiful perfect diamond and setting are just going to be the start of better things. Hang in there!!!

 

[Dani5577]

Thanks everyone! I appreciate the support. It's going to hang out in my jewelry box for awhile now. I think it's so perfect as is that I don't want to ruin it. Plus, thanks to everyone on pricescope, I already have a beautiful pendent and more right hand rings than I need! I think once things calm down, I may just wear it on my right hand. I sure don't want a pretty diamond to go to waste

 

[tkyasx78]

The stone and ring are beautiful! I am sorry about the divorce. I hope you get a great pendant or pair of earrings from it!

 

[Crystal_Dreams]

Sorry to hear about the situation you're now in....
Your ring is beautiful though. Perhaps set a coloured stone into the setting and use the centre stone for something else if you aren't comfortable wearing the ring as is?

 

[kylier]

Thanks everyone! I appreciate the support. It's going to hang out in my jewelry box for awhile now. I think it's so perfect as is that I don't want to ruin it. Plus, thanks to everyone on pricescope, I already have a beautiful pendent and more right hand rings than I need! I think once things calm down, I may just wear it on my right hand. I sure don't want a pretty diamond to go to waste

It is so beautiful and I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I think it can be very smart to set a precious piece aside when you don't want to associate certain feelings with it. I do hope that you'll be able to find joy in it again. Like you, that diamond is unique, sparkly, beautiful and extremely strong. Best wishes to you at this time.

 

[missy]

Dani, I am so sorry about your marriage and also about being blindsided.

The ring is beautiful (or should I say bluetiful) and I echo what the other women have said here. Wear it and enjoy it when you are ready. Right hand, left hand-however you want. Diamonds are not just for marrieds but for anyone who appreciates and loves bling. But when you are ready and only if you want to. Otherwise I am sure with time you will decide exactly what you want to do re the ring.

In the meantime sending you hugs and good thoughts.

 

[Tekate]

Dream ring: perfect
Husband: a tool

I've been divorced and it's no fun, but long term it is on to a better life (easy for me to say 30 years down the road).

You could take the stone out and make a beautiful pendant. Or you can wear it as a right hand ring... or you can sell it or wait to the mr right comes along. This is a great place to talk to lovely people in hangout who have been thru a divorce, death and life.. May this journey be as peaceful as can be for you. Divorce.. such a harsh word.. Peace

ETA: Tekate should read whole threads b4 posting.

 

[junebug17]

Such a tough thing to go through Dani, I'm really sorry - it's a beautiful ring and I hope that in time you get to a place where you can wear and enjoy it. Sending thoughts of comfort and peace to you. <3

 

[Lookinagain]

I'm very sorry you were blindsided by your husband. However, if you love the ring, I wouldn't take it apart. You can wear it on your right hand when you are ready. Taking it apart doesn't seem like the thing to do if you think it is perfect as is.

 

[ac117]

Dani, I'm so sorry you're going through this...the situation just sucks and so does your ex!! Your new stone is gorgeous and I really do hope that you could enjoy her again one day soon!!

 

[PierreBear]

My heart breaks to hear about your situation. Your ring is beautiful though! Wear it proudly! You did the upgrade yourself so it doesn't necessarily have to represent your past marriage.

 

[Natylad]

Dani, take that gorgeous ring out of the box, put it on your right hand and rock it! Don't let this beauty get wasted, hidden in your drawer. Make this ring the symbol of the new life, which is now starting for you! I've been through a terrible divorce and i just can't begin to explain what the ex husband did to me, while trying to get the custody of our daughter (he failed). Nevertheless, i didn't lose one single moment of my life, feeling miserable and wasting the opportunity to enjoy beautiful things and feel happy. In fact, i left my old ER to him but i went out and got another gorgeous diamond ring which, actually, was much prettier than the one that he had given me on our engagement! I wore that ring on my right hand for years and received so many compliments on it! It made me really happy and in my mind it was a symbol of my love and commitment to my own self.
You know what they say: "When life closes a door, it opens a window". I say: "When life closes a door, breach the wall and walk in like a boss". Be strong, be happy and sparkly!!!

 

[Siamese Kitty]

I am so sorry, Dani. That is a really tough spot to be in, especially if you weren't even expecting it. From personal experience, I had a gorgeous new dream ring made very shortly before my separation/divorce. Since I didn't wear it very long before things ended and it was purchased with joint funds, I dusted it off and proudly wore it on my right hand for years. It was a good reminder of what I had learned and the marriage I hoped for in my future. Some people thought it weird, but oh well. I only took it off this week after receiving a new engagement ring from my dream man. I wish you only the best and send you prayers of strength and support as you move onto your next step. It will get easier.