Birthday & Wedding Gift

[blake]

GF and I (no guests) are going to Hawaii for a casual beach wedding. Her B-Day is 2 days before the wedding ceremony. Do you think a single gift is OK? My own B-day is 3 days before Xmas and I always felt I got ripped off whenever I got a single present. I''ve been researching Hawaiian jewellery. I was considering this bracelet to be purchased when we got to Hawaii. Maybe a second separate gift of matching necklace and earrings?

 

[belle]

you know your gf better than we do, how do you think she would feel about a single gift?
i think the bracelet is beautiful on it''s own, but only you can decide if it will be enough.
best of luck to you!

 

[IrishEyes]

LOL, being a "christmas baby" myself, I completely understand the rip off of the single gift!!

That being said, I LOVE that bracelet, I think it''s gorgeous! As Belle said, you know her better than we do. If you are going to get her something for the wedding as well, I would make it small, as with the bracelet, her wedding ring and of course YOU, she will be getting a handful!!

 

[drk]

Hi Blake,

If I were buying, it would depend on what my budget was for each event''s present. I don''t mind getting one gift for two occasions if it means I get a nicer gift than I would otherwise have gotten. I would personally rather have one great gift for my birthday + Christmas (even though they''re a month apart) than two gifts that aren''t as special.

That bracelet looks amazing to me! If I were you and loved the bracelet, and thought that my fiance would like a matching set, I''d probably get the matching necklace and earrings secretly and save them for either the 1 year anniversary gift or a Christmas gift. I know I''d love to have a set like that, and I think it would make for a pretty special anniversary present down the road to complete it.

 

[drk]

I just had to check out the website that bracelet was from - I love the plumeria link bracelet too. They have some gorgeous stuff!

 

[heart prongs]

Who is her? The bride or your girlfried...if it''s the bride, just one gift is fine...your girlfriend however, should receive the very pretty beacelet AND a diamond e-ring

!!

 

[Kaleigh]

I think he means that they are getting married so his GF is the bride, unless I read it wrong.

 

[blake]

Thanks for all the comments, ladies. She is my GF, but she will be the bride in 5 weeks. We talked about marriage only 6 weeks ago. Four weeks ago, we went to see Todd at Nice Ice and bought a small half-carat diamond. I was willing to pay for a carat or 2, but she didn''t want a larger diamond. We also ordered the Vatche full pave wedding set. With Vatche closed for their 2-week summer break, we might not get the rings before we leave for Hawaii. She is not my fiance yet because there is no ering and I haven''t proposed. But we''ll get married in 5 weeks. We already have the time, place and minister booked. We''ll get the marriage license when we get to Hawaii.

We''re both Chinese Canadians. For whatever reasons, at least 90% of the Asians here in Vancouver don''t wear any erings and/or wedding bands. Among her married friends, only one woman wears her ering. We got a pair of matching 995 platinum wedding bands. I suspect my future wife will wear the Vatches for a while and then go ringless most of the time or just wear the platinum band. I would prefer to use the Vatche pave wedding band for the wedding ceremony.

For her B-Day and the wedding, I think I will get her 2 separate gifts. The bracelet appears nice enough as a B-Day gift. I was hoping to find something that is at least 18K gold or platinum. It appears all these Hawaiian jewellery I found on the internet were made for tourists and are either 14K gold or silver. I''m really hoping I will be able to find something nicer with perhaps diamonds and/or coloured stones. If anyone knows where in Honolulu I can find better jewellery, please let me know. For the wedding, I now want to get her something speaical but haven''t any ideas yet. The search continues...

 

[heart prongs]

OH!!! I get it now ... personally, I think the bracelet is a great birthday gift, and you certainly don''t need to get each other a wedding gift ... you can if you want, but it''s certainly not a requirement. My husband and I bot each other a digital camera for a wedding gift, but we needed one anyway for our honeymoon in Hawaii -- which was FABULOUS by the way

!

What we did was buy each other gifts while we were there. Have you considered that?

 

[MissAva]

There are a traditional style of Hawaiin braclets that you may want to look into. They will inlay your GF/Brides name in Hawaiian and they are abosolutely lovely. My father bought one for all the girls in the family when we went. They are always hand engrazed and have historical ties. (The princesses of Hawaiian court wore them.) I dont know if that would be on intreast to you. As for the two presents becoming one I think she is going to be soo excited about the wedding that she wont mind, as long as you dont do it every year.

 

[ame]

We didn''t do gifts for our wedding. We went on a honeymoon and that was our gift.

 

[blake]

I''ll definitely need to get her a wedding gift. I won''t be getting a Mercedes sports car.

I''ve no ideas why, but she insisted on getting me a belt and a wallet. Probaby some Chinese custom. The last things I needed are belts and wallets so I picked out a $9 belt and $14 wallet that I''ll probably never use.

I looked at lots of Hawaiian jewellery, but they all seem too touristy and cheap for my taste. I just found this better jeweller Philip Rickard. His website is http://www.philiprickardhonolulu.com . He makes lots of nicer stuff. In addition to 14K YG, he also makes jewellery in 18K (white, yellow, pink and green) and platinum. The best part of it all is that he has a store in the hotel we''ll be staying at, the Hilton Hawaiian Village. I think I will just take her to Philip Rickard and let her pick out whatever she wants.

Here''s Rickard''s version of the Plumeria bracelet:

 

[belle]

wow! that is a stunning bracelet. let us know what she decides.

 

[MissAva]

Oh I am sorry! I was not trying to say that the one you picked out wasn''t nice. I just am really big into history so if there is any tie to it then that just makes it all the better for me. The bracelets I am talking about are not availbe over the internet bt if you can find a native who will talk to you they would know what I am speaking of. Hawaii is just so lovely I imagine she is just going to be thrilled to be there!

 

[blake]

There''s no need to apologise. I was the one that wasn''t happy with what I found on the internet. My GF is so not into jewellery. I was joking with her the other day about future diamond purchases. I told her that with 249 diamonds in the Vatche pave wedding set plus the diamond studs I got her there will be no needs to buy her any more diamonds. She said the only diamond she wants now will be in a necklace. I already talked to the designer about a matching 3-prong martini necklace that I planned on getting her for Xmas or V-Day. The only thing she wears on a daily basis is the 18K YG Tiffany necklace I gave her early in our relationship. What do you all thnk about this pendant on a green gold chain?