Bridal Shower Etiquette - Will people be offended?

[xiuying]

Hi all! I LOVE this forum. You guys have got to be one of the kindest, sweetest forum for brides-to-be out there!


I will be getting married this July. My older sister (MOH) and younger sister, along with my cousin, are my bridesmaids. No close female friends. I wanted to keep it just to family.


My sisters would like to throw me a bridal shower (yay!) and we''ve discussed it some, but I''m kind of worried that people who are invited might be offended since they''re family. Isn''t there a rule about families throwing showers? The thing is... EVERYONE who''s a BM is family. The cousin''s not quite immediate, but she''s also in Texas (I''m in Maryland) so it''d be really hard and impractical for her to do anything. I''ve tentatively thought about asking my FMIL, who''s lovely, but... it feels like even MORE of an etiquette blunder to say "hey, throw me a party so I can get pressies!" Bleah.


So, with all that said, would you be offended if you received an invitation to a shower thrown by the brides'' sisters? Would it help if it said something like "Mandy Sue, Sister of Sally Sue and Maid of Honor?"

 

[bee*]

I wouldn''t be offended at all. If your sister''s your BM, then there''s no problem with her throwing the shower.

 

[Haven]

There is a piece of etiquette that suggests family shouldn''t throw showers because it''s as if they''re asking for presents for one of their own. HOWEVER, people do it all the time nowadays, and even old fashioned school marms like me are likely to not have a problem with your sisters throwing you a shower.

It is so kind of your sisters to want to throw a shower, so I say accept their offer and enjoy the party!

 

[Italiahaircolor]

I think the rule is against MOTHERS throwing the Bridal Showers...sister, esspecially sisters whom are BM can happily and lovingly throw your shower!

 

[LegacyGirl]

I wouldn''t be offended at all.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Not at all! I think that is an outdated "rule."

 

[mimzy]

i don't think i would even notice, much less think twice about it! don't concern yourself with such silly things

just enjoy the shower!

 

[xiuying]

This is SO relieving! I knew none of my friends would care, but I was more worried about the generation gap - if my mother''s generation would be offended, etc.

You''ve all put me in a much calmer state. Thank you!!!

 

[Gwyn]

I wouldnt be offended. Showers are such a norm these days and more often its the close family members. I doubt many people even really know the ettiquette rule anyway.

My mother threw my sisters and my aunt threw her daughters (my cousin) Noone seemed to mind.