Calling all the Pregnant PS''ers

[TravelingGal]

Date: 10/6/2008 1:30:08 PM
Author: mrssalvo

Date: 10/6/2008 1:06:01 PM
Author: MC

Date: 10/6/2008 4:55:03 AM

Author: Kay


I am starting to freak out about my decision to have a vag birth instead of a C. I thought I might be okay since my mom had such an easy delivery, but I only weighed 6 pounds, 4 ounces at 2 days past her EDD. Based on my last ultrasound, Alexis will be at least 7.5 lbs if I go to my EDD, and probably 8 or better if I go overdue and have to wait until the induction date. I have a really low pain threshold and not much endurance, and I’m not sure I have the strength to go through a long vag delivery. Stories here and watching the Discovery channel is freaking me out. It is probably too late to switch to a planned C, as I imagine the Dr. has already set his schedule for the week and probably cannot squeeze me in Thursday or Friday (when he said he would do it when we discussed a planned C weeks ago). I am thinking of calling the Dr. in the morning, but he is going to think I am nuts – I am just so confused about what to do.

Kay,


I've just scanned your post here. . . WHY would your dr. actually give you the option of a planned c/s? I've had two c/s and only the second was planned and that was because my first son was born via c/s and we didn't want to encounter the same problems the second time around so we opted for the birth plan. If you have an epidural, the pain is entirely dulled and you'll be able to concentrate on giving birth! TV shows like the discovery channel get their viewers by showing you the most dramatic of births rather than the majority of average/'normal' ones, so if those shows are scaring you, it's probably time to turn OFF the tv.

Oh, and I'm sorry if you mentioned earlier why you're considering a c/s. I just popped into this thread and found it's hundreds of pages long!

ditto MC. I've never had a c-section but my sister did and her recovery was so much more drawn out and painful than any of mine. The ultrasounds are usually off too when it comes to the estimated birthweights. I've had 3 kids, my first was 7 lbs 5 oz, second was 8 lbs 9oz and third a whopping 9lbs. If you are doing the drugs, you won't be able to tell a difference. I actually walked my oldest to school the day after coming home from the hospital with Jake. If you are planning on an Epi, go for the vaginal birth and for goodness sake, stop watching those shows

I had a csection and my recovery was a piece of cake. I never even took painkillers (apparently I thought they had given them to me so I felt fine. The nurse was a bit confused when I raved about whatever drugs they were giving me, and then had to inform me that I wasn't on any.)

That being said, I would still choose to try and go vaginal. It is the best thing for the baby. Amelia is fine now...big and strong. But when she was born, there was a lot of fluid coming from her lungs which would have been pushed out if she came out vaginally. No real big deal, but when you're a new mom and your baby is gagging and gasping for air in the middle of the night...welll....

Will have to catch up more on this thread later. Opened it up and just saw this response.


ETA and the estimates are often off. My doc thought Amelia was going to be born at over 9 lbs. She was 7.02.

 

[sk8rjen]

Hi everyone!

First things first -- Pandora -- I''m so glad the baby''s healthy and has a strong heartbeat!

Neatfreak -- glad you are home and still pregnant!! No more scares like that, ok?? take good care of yourself and those boys!

Snlee-- I haven''t gotten to read your birth story yet, but when I get home from picking up the boys I will (I''ve been SO looking forward to reading it!)

Kay -- I know these last few weeks suck, but you are almost there and doing great! hang in!

As for me and the girls, well, short story: I''m *Still* pregnant!!!

I have to say you guys are all so amazing and supportive -- It was really hard coming back here to tell you this news when you all seem so excited for me and the girls...I feel like I let everyone down

BUT, I guess it''s good that they get to bake a bit longer...

Longer story: Sarturday was a rough day for me. The contractions were going by the time I got out of bed Sat morning and just kept getting closer and more regular. Then in the afternoon they got a LOT more painfl than they''d been and by the night they were difficult to get through. I am still a bit shocked that I''m NOT holding babies right now b/c I never had any contrax like that with the boys until I was already in the hospital! My mom came over Saturday night to spend the night with the boys so we could leave. By that time, walking was horrible. I decided to not be an idiot and try to relax at home for a bit more, and wouldn''t you know it, I dosed off for almost an hour. The contrax woke me up, but the fact that I fell asleep at all amde me start questioning things. So I tried sleep again and felt enough better the next time I woke up to not bother going to the hospital after all. By morning the contrax were 10 minutes apart again!

So I spent yesterday in bed, fully expecting to still be going to the hospital at some point, just waiting and taking it easy. I didn''t update at that point because I was SO SURE i was still going to go, and a bit embarrassed by the whole thing too!

Anyway, today I seem to be feeling fine -- contractions are anywhere from 10 to 20 minutes apart and not hurting terribly, so I fully expect to make it to my appt in the morning. Ugh. Who knew -- ESPECIALLY after having 3 kids -- that I could have false labor?? And ESPECIALLY with twins, no less! I know I''m repeating myself here, but I seriously have never been in that kind of labor pain before *except* when I was in the hospital having my boys. I feel stupid for getting everyone''s hopes up (my own included), but all of your posts really did make me feel great... hopefully I''ll have these girls soon anyway

Gotta run and get boys from school...
jen
35w 5d

 

[snlee]

jen, I''m glad the girls get to bake in there a little longer. The longer the better. I''m sure they will come soon and I can''t wait!!! Hang in there!

 

[sbde]

aww jen, don''t feel embarassed! glad things are progressing and the babies are baking in there for a while longer. hang in there!

mela lu: i''ve never heard that wives tale before, but it is quite uncanny. my friend who had a baby girl last yr told me all she craved was citrus....

 

[Jas12]

Indy--i just got caught up on this thread. Thinking of you

Jen--we are waiting on pins and needles around here. Can''t wait to hear the news


Sbde--i got "skinny'' mat jeans from H & M and wore them to death. I like them for the same reason as you (tucking into boots) and they look dressier. I wore them for a while postpartum and my sister (a fashionista) even wanted a pair cuz they are so darn comfy

Kay-i was *excited* about giving birth and really wanted to experience it and i was still nervous and doubtful. I think that is totally normal, but porbably not the best reason to opt for a c-section. As Tacori mentioned, it''s gonna hurt no matter what but it is over so fast and it is SO true what they say about forgetting the pain. I had a good sized baby (8., long labor and no pain meds. At the time i said i would NEVER do it again, but i am already talking about #2

so so much for that threat. You can totally do it!

Lara--i had this article (see below) on the effects of epis in my ''saved preggo stuff file'' don;t know if i read it or not. Since my hospital doesn''t routinely offer epis i didn''t look into them too much. I think they are known to increase the length of the pushing stage (b/c lack of feeling) and very often cause urinary problems, blood pressure issues and a few other things that i can''t recall, but i don''t remember reading anything about making contrax weaker??
Did you get a second opinion on the birth of baby #3?
epi article

 

[Jas12]

Jen--posting at the same time--ugggh, sorry about the painful false labor. I hope it happens sooner rather than later for you. Do something nice for yourself tonight if you can

 

[sk8rjen]

Snlee -- what an amazing birth story! I cannot imagine doing it without drugs, let alone 4.5 hours of pushing!! You are truly an inspiration! Oh yeah, and I''m ready for more pics of Derek any time you want to post some

Pave -- another PSer trip to L7D, geez -- glad to hear everything''s ok!

Jas12, Snlee and sbde -- thanks for the encouragement...I really hope they come soon now too.

jen

 

[mela lu]

oh man Jen - I''m rootin and a tootin for you too!!! It''s only a matter of time now

HEE!

...and in related news - did you settle on the middlenames?

 

[Pandora II]

Date: 10/6/2008 1:42:02 PM
Author: mela lu

Date: 10/6/2008 1:26:20 PM
Author: sbde
hey mela...yay for you!! seriously, each day that we are preggo is a miracle in itself. so glad you''ve passed this milestone.


btw, i was craving lentils HARD my first trimester too!! if you live near an indian restaurant (which in T.O. - i''m sure you do!) you should really try a dish called ''haleem''. it''s a mixture of diifferent lentils and grains slow cooked for hours with chicken or beef. soooo yummy esp with lemon squeezed over it. i actually made some on the weekend just because i was craving it again.

salivating right now....

ETA: Sbde - our lentil craving furthers the theory that women pregnant with a BOY crave protein (pregnant with girl = citrus cravings). I''m convinced that I''m going to have a boy...and you''re having a boy, so PAAN! Theory is considered proven. Boys = protein = lentils = I''M DEF HAVING A BOY. LOL.

Interesting - I''d really like a girl but ''think'' I''m having a boy and so far my cravings are for pickled onions (I''m on my third jar) and salmon sashimi (I haven''t actually had this yet - but I spend a lot of time thinking about it! I''d have to go out for some and I haven''t been into central London for a bit.)

So, are pickled onions citrus or protein???

 

[mela lu]

Date: 10/6/2008 4:11:47 PM
Author: Pandora II

Date: 10/6/2008 1:42:02 PM

Author: mela lu

Date: 10/6/2008 1:26:20 PM

Author: sbde

hey mela...yay for you!! seriously, each day that we are preggo is a miracle in itself. so glad you''ve passed this milestone.



btw, i was craving lentils HARD my first trimester too!! if you live near an indian restaurant (which in T.O. - i''m sure you do!) you should really try a dish called ''haleem''. it''s a mixture of diifferent lentils and grains slow cooked for hours with chicken or beef. soooo yummy esp with lemon squeezed over it. i actually made some on the weekend just because i was craving it again.

salivating right now....


ETA: Sbde - our lentil craving furthers the theory that women pregnant with a BOY crave protein (pregnant with girl = citrus cravings). I''m convinced that I''m going to have a boy...and you''re having a boy, so PAAN! Theory is considered proven. Boys = protein = lentils = I''M DEF HAVING A BOY. LOL.

Interesting - I''d really like a girl but ''think'' I''m having a boy and so far my cravings are for pickled onions (I''m on my third jar) and salmon sashimi (I haven''t actually had this yet - but I spend a lot of time thinking about it! I''d have to go out for some and I haven''t been into central London for a bit.)


So, are pickled onions citrus or protein???

hahah. I don''t know, but I''d certainly put them in the savory category! I''ve craved and eaten tons of pickled hot peppers. mmmm. my mouth watered thinking about them.

It''s so weird because not only have I NOT had any citrus cravings, I''ve had citrus aversions. My DH made rapini the other day and squeezed fresh lemon on top. I took one bite and scrunched up my face and asked him if he poured vinegar on it!!!

The lemon tasted like pure acid in my mouth!!!

 

[Pandora II]

It''s a tricky one!

When my m/s was at it''s worst I did eat a lot of oranges (or rather I''d suck them a bit

) in the hope that I was getting liquids, vitamins etc in a non-throw-upable package.

I''d definitely put myself in the pro-citrus camp rather than anti. Whereas the thought of lentils...

 

[mela lu]

well then, me lady! Me thinks you have a wee lass in there!!! I cannot even smell an orange, let alone suck one. I'm still nauseous to the max. are you feeling all better now????????????????

I'm so so so "off".

ETA: Are you going to find out the sex of your baby Pandora?

 

[Pandora II]

Date: 10/6/2008 4:31:44 PM
Author: mela lu
well then, me lady! Me thinks you have a wee lass in there!!! I cannot even smell an orange, let alone suck one. I''m still nauseous to the max. are you feeling all better now????????????????

I''m so so so ''off''.

ETA: Are you going to find out the sex of your baby Pandora?

I threw up about 3 times this am before going to the hospital, but that was before I took my anti-sickness meds.

I really recommend getting something - I feel so much more human and less miserable. The only thing is that they make me quite sleepy - but that is so much better than 24/7 nausea.

We''ll definitely be finding out the sex - you?

 

[mela lu]

I want the surprise ...and I''ve already confirmed that it''s a boy with my very scientific protein/lentil test, so, yah, I''m good till the birth. lol.

re: meds. I so want to rid myself of the nausea, but on the other hand, it''s so comforting to me that I''m progressing (and not going to have another m/c) so It''s kind of a pleasant sign for me. Maybe i need to stop talking about it and just shut up and eat my lentils.

Speaking of which. I''m going home to make dinner now. yum.

 

[nycbkgirl]

o pandora im so glad everything is ok! as im reading your story...i started a bleed today myself and its similar to yours...its also brownish pink and no cramps....and not too heavy...was urs spotting or flow like and how long did it last...i dont know what this can be,,im devastated and also have to wait til 2mor for u/s

 

[Pandora II]

Date: 10/6/2008 5:11:10 PM
Author: nycbkgirl
o pandora im so glad everything is ok! as im reading your story...i started a bleed today myself and its similar to yours...its also brownish pink and no cramps....and not too heavy...was urs spotting or flow like and how long did it last...i dont know what this can be,,im devastated and also have to wait til 2mor for u/s

It was more a case that I went to the loo and when I wiped it was brownish pink on the paper.

It was like creamy CM, but completely brownish pink - not with streaks or anything. I wiped away as much as I possibly could because I wanted to see if there was more to come, or if it was different, but there hasn't been anything at all since.

There was never enough that it was on my underwear or anything like that.

The hospital (and my OB friend who has called me about 6 times to check on me) both said that you need a u/s to give any kind of real answer, but that if there is no pain, no cramping and the bleed is old blood and not much of it, then not to panic too much.

I didn't sleep too well last night, so I know exactly how you are feeling. Have you had a u/s at all yet? How many weeks are you?

 

[neatfreak]

Pandora and Mela I'm sorry to bust in on your theory here, but all I could eat was fruit and citrus, even the sight of meat made me want to puke, and I've got two boys baking in here. In fact one of my nurses in the hospital this weekend said the same thing when she was pregnant with her boy.

So you just never know...

Jen Don't feel stupid!!!! We're just happy that you guys are healthy and safe whether the girls have been born yet or not. Hope it's soon for you!

 

[nycbkgirl]

im 7 weeks..and i had my u/s appointment on wed. so had to make it for tom instead...now im thinking that i am getting cramping...ugh devastated...if its a twin preg can it mean i can m/c just one or both ??? because 1 was bigger than the other on the previous u/s...im scared

 

[Pandora II]

Date: 10/6/2008 5:30:03 PM
Author: neatfreak
Pandora and Mela I''m sorry to bust in on your theory here, but all I could eat was fruit and citrus, even the sight of meat made me want to puke, and I''ve got two boys baking in here. In fact one of my nurses in the hospital this weekend said the same thing when she was pregnant with her boy.

So you just never know...

Jen Don''t feel stupid!!!! We''re just happy that you guys are healthy and safe whether the girls have been born yet or not. Hope it''s soon for you!

LOL - maybe mine will grow up to be a transvestite or something!

DH is convinced it''s a girl - apparently it ''looks girly'' in the scan pic...

Oh, and DH would like a boy (although I think he''d secretly like a daughter).

 

[Pandora II]

Date: 10/6/2008 5:32:11 PM
Author: nycbkgirl
im 7 weeks..and i had my u/s appointment on wed. so had to make it for tom instead...now im thinking that i am getting cramping...ugh devastated...if its a twin preg can it mean i can m/c just one or both ??? because 1 was bigger than the other on the previous u/s...im scared

Keep calm - by the time I saw the nurse and she asked if I had pain or cramping I had to tell her I didn''t know if I did or not because I''d been trying to think if I did or not I''d practically hypnotised myself into it.

Do they not have an emergency EPU where you are?

I''m pretty sure you can m/c just the one, but better to think positive and that it''s only implantation bleeding. Is yours like mine or different?

 

[qtiekiki]

Kay
Don''t freak out. C-section is major surgery, and take much longer to recover from. You will do great with your vaginal birth.

Pandora
So glad everything is great. Isn''t it awesome to see your LO?

sbde
Can''t believe you are 24 weeks already. Are the maternity skinny jeans comfy?

NF
Rest up & take it easy.

mela
Yay. So happy for you.

jen
Hang in there. The girls will be here soon enough.

nycbkgirl
It''s probably implantation bleeding for you too. Good luck & lots of sticky dust.

 

[nycbkgirl]

I was sitting on the couch n I felt something weird..so I went 2 bathroom and sure enough there it was..but it did go on underwear n I think I saw a clot or some tissue but I was freaked out so I wiped n flushed n stuck some tissue in there 2 hold me til I got home (was at someone''s house)when I got home it was not much on tissue but its darker color..and now its not much at all...I don''t know how long m/c bleeding lasts and do the cramps come after bleeding or with it bc I don''t feel like I have any cramping but just like u I don''t know!...I think I should wait til 2mor bc there''s nothing they can do anyway. Implantation bleeding so far into it?? How can that be?

 

[sk8rjen]

Date: 10/6/2008 5:48:22 PM
Author: nycbkgirl
I was sitting on the couch n I felt something weird..so I went 2 bathroom and sure enough there it was..but it did go on underwear n I think I saw a clot or some tissue but I was freaked out so I wiped n flushed n stuck some tissue in there 2 hold me til I got home (was at someone''s house)when I got home it was not much on tissue but its darker color..and now its not much at all...I don''t know how long m/c bleeding lasts and do the cramps come after bleeding or with it bc I don''t feel like I have any cramping but just like u I don''t know!...I think I should wait til 2mor bc there''s nothing they can do anyway. Implantation bleeding so far into it?? How can that be?

I know it''s practically impossible in this situation, but try to relax and remember that bleeding comes with the territory with twins. At least for many of us (and I had 3 singletons first with no bleeding) -- I bled off and on my first 12 weeks of this pregnancy and it is *common.* I''m glad you have yor appt and will get to know soon for piece of mind, but if you can, try to think that it just might be a twin thing, ok?? ((hugs))
jen

 

[Pandora II]

Date: 10/6/2008 5:48:22 PM
Author: nycbkgirl
I was sitting on the couch n I felt something weird..so I went 2 bathroom and sure enough there it was..but it did go on underwear n I think I saw a clot or some tissue but I was freaked out so I wiped n flushed n stuck some tissue in there 2 hold me til I got home (was at someone's house)when I got home it was not much on tissue but its darker color..and now its not much at all...I don't know how long m/c bleeding lasts and do the cramps come after bleeding or with it bc I don't feel like I have any cramping but just like u I don't know!...I think I should wait til 2mor bc there's nothing they can do anyway. Implantation bleeding so far into it?? How can that be?

That is what I asked - and the nurse, my OB friend and my father (who's an MD and done a fair bit of OB/Gynae) all said it was probably a bruise caused when the embryo was implanting and the blood-vessels etc in the wall of the uterus were being messed about.

It can take a while for that to break down and cause a bleed apparently.

Mine was VERY obvious on the scan when they showed it to me - like a big black area above and around the sac.

They told me at the hospital that if I have any kind of bleeding with clots or similar that I must save them in a clean plastic bag or jar etc as they would be able to have a good idea if it was a m/c or not.

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Yay, Pandora!!

Your baby is cuteness, total cuteness!!!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Jen!!!

We''ll keep waiting til it''s the right time for the girlies to show up!!

Hang in there, you''re almost at the end of the line!!!

 

[nycbkgirl]

Thanks jen! I was considering that it has something 2 do with twins but since this is ivf pregnancy im just so worried but I know I have 2 keep sane until 2mor morn...but doubt sleep tonite will happen. But I appreciate everyone giving me positive thoughts and good hopes.

 

[Pandora II]

Date: 10/6/2008 6:06:52 PM
Author: fisherofmengirly
Yay, Pandora!!

Your baby is cuteness, total cuteness!!!

Thank you - it definitely takes after DH, all I can see is empty space where the brain should be.

 

[nycbkgirl]

Jen- ? For u...can u describe what the bleding was like

 

[lovelylulu]

indy: i''m so late to this, but much love to you and your cubs!!