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Calling all the Pregnant PS''ers

Mela, thanks for the avi compliments! I promise I''m not ignoring you on facebook. I''ve just been really busy and have about 80 unread emails (agh!) most of which are notifications from facebook.

Pandora, ugh those employers of yours are just ridiculous. At least you have all of their antics documented. I''m kind of confused by the legal system over there. Will this ever be seen by a jury of your peers or will it be decided by a judge in the end? LOL about celebrating with cake. Mmmm, cake. Lydia and Desmond are pretty uncommon over here which is one reason I like them. Too funny about the dinosaur cartoon. Is it similar to Barney? My sister used to LOVE that show. She''d watch her tapes on repeat play. She turns 18 today. I feel old.

Lysser, sorry that you''re having anxiety issues. I don''t know if I agree with Neat about questioning whether or not it''s bad enough for meds meaning that you don''t need it. While I don''t think people should run to meds as their first course of action (not saying you are), I know that one thing that I learned in therapy (for sporadic anxiety and depression since I was 19) was to realize when I need to ask for help. I still struggle with this, but it seems like I always have at least a few moments before asking for/being put on meds where I think, "Do I really need this? I should be able to do this without them since so many other people do!" followed by disappointment in myself for not being able to handle the situations on my own. I definitely got to the point once where it was obvious to everyone close to me who knew what was going on that I needed them and I still had these thoughts. I hope you get it all figured out with your Dr. soon!

Neat, Maxwell is DH''s fave right now and has been for a while. Do you get a lot of people calling your Maxwell "Maxi?" I''m not a big fan of the nickname and I think that''s what''s mainly holding me back.

Thanks, Blen! I wonder if my grandparents put this much pressure on my parents when it was time to name me. I''m named after both of my mom''s grandmothers, so perhaps they did.

Thanks, Ebree!

Lindsey, 6 lbs in 4 weeks doesn''t sound so bad. I think I''d gained 8 inbetween my last appointment and my most recent one.
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Natalina, I didn''t really have morning sickness. I had some pretty mild nausea, but it didn''t last for very long. You can actually hear the hb using the u/s as well, so if you see anyone saying they heard it pretty early, that''s generally how. We heard ours on the u/s at 8 weeks and on the doppler at about 10 weeks.

NYCSparkle, that''s so cute that your DH is thinking so far ahead!

Dreamer, thanks! It''s actually the camera. I take my bump pics myself using the mirror. I thought about photoshopping it out, but I was worried that I''d do all that work and it would look weird, lol. Sending tons of low fluid vibes!!! I hope your appointment goes well!

Fiery, is your appointment today or next Friday? I think I remember you saying that you''ll be 20 weeks tomorrow which would put us at a week apart. I think your EDD might be wrong on the PIW thread. It has you more than a week after me. I love the cake idea!

Mandarine, I''d definitely talk to your Dr., but like you said, it''s generally ok to continue what you were doing before unless you were training for a marathon or something. That being said, pay extra attention to your water intake and make sure you stay well hydrated.
 
Had my ortho appointment today. It was pointless. He wants me to do auqatic therapy and when I went to schedule my first appointment, they didn''t have anything available until the 2nd week in March. He also told me that I may have to go on bedrest here pretty soon if the pain continues. Oh and he told me to put ice it. Thanks.

I realized that the tightening of my tummy I''ve been experiencing for the last 3 or 4 days has been Braxton Hicks, so that''s a exciting I suppose. It''s a step closer to the real thing.
 
Court- sux about appointment..I hate when that happens?? Can u try looking for another place?...aqautic therapy sounds so appealing to me right now...I think it would feel so niice!
 
Robbie No one has called him Maxi yet except my DH and me when rhyming or making up a song. If people shorten it it''s just to Max, which is fine with me as I do it too.
 
Question for you ladies...this may have been discussed before.

But have you found that since being pregnant people feel they have the right to say/do whatever they want to you??? I cannot even tell you how many comments I''ve gotten about my belly not being big enough, but my a** being too big!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It''s really starting to piss me off!!! I had the lady who does my eyebrows today tell me my a** was getting big, so I MUST be having a girl (wrong!!) and then LIFT UP MY SHIRT and tell me my belly is too small for being 5 months!!!!! WTF?????? Really?? You lifted up my shirt??? I''m so pissed.....and I''m really sick and tired of hearing about my ''expanding'' body....i''m doing what i can people!!!!!!!! My boss actually made me cry the other day because he made a comment about the ''extra'' weight i''m putting on! I''ve gained like 20 lbs and i''m 23 weeks!!!!!!!! That''s well within the range of healthy pregnancy, so why are people making these comments?????? It''s hurtful
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Sorry to vent, but it''s unbelievable to me that people just feel like they can say and do whatever they please just because I''m pregnant!

Anyone else want to vent w/ me????
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Date: 2/20/2009 12:21:16 PM
Author: robbie3982


Fiery, is your appointment today or next Friday? I think I remember you saying that you''ll be 20 weeks tomorrow which would put us at a week apart. I think your EDD might be wrong on the PIW thread. It has you more than a week after me. I love the cake idea!
Hey Robbie. My appt is next Friday. I have been calculating my weeks from my first appointment with the doctor. It was on a Monday and I was 7w2d so I use Saturdays as my official week. The due date should tecnhically be 7/11 but my doctor had written 7/13.

Mandarine-I would ask your doctor just to be sure but so you know I didn''t exercise regularly before getting pregnant and I asked my doctor about what I can do. She ok''d a lot of stuff that I thought she would say no to (like spinning) so its very possible that if you have been running, you can still run.

NYBK-how are you feeling??
 
Date: 2/20/2009 1:46:45 PM
Author: cdt1101
Question for you ladies...this may have been discussed before.

But have you found that since being pregnant people feel they have the right to say/do whatever they want to you??? I cannot even tell you how many comments I''ve gotten about my belly not being big enough, but my a** being too big!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It''s really starting to piss me off!!! I had the lady who does my eyebrows today tell me my a** was getting big, so I MUST be having a girl (wrong!!) and then LIFT UP MY SHIRT and tell me my belly is too small for being 5 months!!!!! WTF?????? Really?? You lifted up my shirt??? I''m so pissed.....and I''m really sick and tired of hearing about my ''expanding'' body....i''m doing what i can people!!!!!!!! My boss actually made me cry the other day because he made a comment about the ''extra'' weight i''m putting on! I''ve gained like 20 lbs and i''m 23 weeks!!!!!!!! That''s well within the range of healthy pregnancy, so why are people making these comments?????? It''s hurtful
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Sorry to vent, but it''s unbelievable to me that people just feel like they can say and do whatever they please just because I''m pregnant!

Anyone else want to vent w/ me????
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I would''ve lifted up her shirt and said "what''s your excuse?!" I can''t believe the nerve, honestly.

I''ve had 2 people ask me how much weight I''ve gained. They tell me I don''t look anywhere near 7 months. I''ve gained like 25-30 lbs people! Do I have to prove it to you??
 
CDT-People feel the need to tell me that I''m very wide. This is not news to me. I can see it every day but don''t need the reminder. I do have people criticizing my food choices all the time though. Today I went to lunch with 3 other girls and the entire time they were telling me that I shouldn''t be eating chicken or drinking milk unless its organic. I can understand their concern and what they were saying made sense...but this was going on as I had just ordered chicken breast so of course I''m eating it feeling guilty
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I have to say though if someone told me I dont look like I''ve gained any weight, I may just have to buy them dinner
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. I''m not looking forward to this weekend filled with all of my Hispanic aunts, grandparents, and mother. It should make for a very ego shattering weekend.
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Courtney - maybe i should have said that!

I've always had body image issues and this pregnancy is just making it a million times worse for me. So maybe I'm overly sensitive, but really, what do people want from me??? I'm not eating crap, i'm still working out, so what else??? Really??? It's just frustrating. I HAVE A BIG A**!!! I GET IT!!! And i don't gain much in my belly (normally), so maybe that's why my belly is small??? i don't know...but I can't take the freakin comments anymore.

I'm just sad
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I wish people would think before they speak, ya know???

ETA:

Fiery - I hear ya, I think i've been so much more conscience of what I eat while pregnant because I don't feel like hearing people tell me what I should and shouldn't eat! I know someone is always going to have an opinion and I shouldn't listen or let it bother me, but this week has been a doozy!!! The weird part is, is that without the comments, I really don't think I look that bad, but hearing things from people makes me think I'm a whale!!!!!
 
cdt and fiery-

Want me to kick some shins? Seriously, did these people grow up under a rock? PSA: Comments about a pregnant woman''s weight are NOT okay unless they''re positive. I know some people think they''re being funny, but that doesn''t make the comments any less hurtful. I''ll lace up some hiking boots and you all can point me in their direction.
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Ebree - that''s the weird thing!!! I think once you''re preggo, people feel they CAN say something about your weight! I mean I''ve had WAY more comments made about my body since preggo than ever before! So strange
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Ebree-If you come over, I''ll treat you to a day at Disney
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Oh and I forgot....the other day my boss said "Oh you''re definitely showing now! You have a bump there AND there!" Pointing to my stomach and my ass. So I''m pregnant in my ass now? Thanks!!
 
Mandarine~Congrats! I''m very active (workout regularly and am a volleyball coach and play a lot of volleyball). My OB told me I could do everything I did pre-preggo. The thing to watch for was my heart rate. I played volleyball until I was 30 weeks (obviously eliminated diving for balls
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cdt~I hate that people think just because you''re pregnant that gives them a "free pass" to be rude and thoughtless! I cannot tell you how many comments I got that made me think "are you kidding me?" while I was pregnant. I found that the most hurtful things came from women and mostly women who had been pregnant before....shouldn''t they KNOW how it feels? No one has control over what pregnancy does to their body (obviously outside of eating healthy and exercise). Continue to work out and eat healthy and when you have a healthy baby in your arms all the ridiculous comments you had to endure won''t matter!
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Courtney - if you're preggo in your a**, i must be having twins back there
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hehehe...seriously, people are weridos....

I just love though how someone will make the big butt comment to me, but THEN follow it up w/ "oh but your belly is so small"....because i GUESS that's supposed to make the insult feel better
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Burk - thanks
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I know I"m doing everything right, so I just have to keep reminding myself that my body likes to store fat on my butt and thighs! Just the way it is for me. I'd just rather not be reminded by other people on what seems like a daily basis (this week)
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I am FLOORED just hearing about people thinking it''s okay to comment on the ''backside'' as well (as if comments about the belly aren''t rude enough). I mean, HELLO, sexual harassment? How well would comments like that go over with someone who wasn''t pregnant?

I work from home and my husband''s the only one who can make comments (all positive- he knows better!), but I used to work with a few of ''those kind'' of men and while I''m not surprised, boy does it make me angry for you all. Not. cool.
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Ebree - woman are worse than men!!! I mean my boss just made a comment in general about the ''extra'' weight (stupid idiot, his wife had 2 kids you would think he knows better!). But like Burk said, woman seem to think it''s A-okay to say whatever they want about any specific body part. It''s aweful. It''s like they WANT to make you feel bad...it''s a weird thing for sure!
 
Date: 2/20/2009 2:32:06 PM
Author: cdt1101
Ebree - woman are worse than men!!! I mean my boss just made a comment in general about the ''extra'' weight (stupid idiot, his wife had 2 kids you would think he knows better!). But like Burk said, woman seem to think it''s A-okay to say whatever they want about any specific body part. It''s aweful. It''s like they WANT to make you feel bad...it''s a weird thing for sure!

UGH, I know- women can be so catty, especially when it comes to weight. I''m sorry- I''ll send ''em some e-kicks through my screen.
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Date: 2/20/2009 12:51:16 PM
Author: Courtneylub
Had my ortho appointment today. It was pointless. He wants me to do auqatic therapy and when I went to schedule my first appointment, they didn''t have anything available until the 2nd week in March. He also told me that I may have to go on bedrest here pretty soon if the pain continues. Oh and he told me to put ice it. Thanks.

I realized that the tightening of my tummy I''ve been experiencing for the last 3 or 4 days has been Braxton Hicks, so that''s a exciting I suppose. It''s a step closer to the real thing.
I''m sorry that he was useless - I would really try and get an appointment with a neurosurgeon and get some MRIs done. I can''t remember, but have you already had surgery on your back?
 
I haven''t gotten too many rude comments, but it seems like people are only starting to notice in the last week or so that I''m pregnant if they didn''t already know. When I told one coworker (around 14 weeks?) she said she thought so since I''d gained weight in my face. Uh, thanks?

Question to all: On some of the bump boards they have Belly Pic Friday where everyone posts their most recent belly shot at a certain time. I think it would be really fun if we started doing that on here so that we can get a weekly glimpse at where everyone is. What does everyone else think?
 
Date: 2/20/2009 12:21:16 PM
Author: robbie3982

Pandora, ugh those employers of yours are just ridiculous. At least you have all of their antics documented. I''m kind of confused by the legal system over there. Will this ever be seen by a jury of your peers or will it be decided by a judge in the end? LOL about celebrating with cake. Mmmm, cake. Lydia and Desmond are pretty uncommon over here which is one reason I like them. Too funny about the dinosaur cartoon. Is it similar to Barney? My sister used to LOVE that show. She''d watch her tapes on repeat play. She turns 18 today. I feel old.
Desmond the Dinosaur is pretty similar to Barney.
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I quite often look at the Top 100 UK baby names and then the Top 100 for the USA - it''s amazing how different they are. My SIL is from Chicago and she hates all the names that our social circle like - and we all pull faces at the ones she likes!

Regarding the legal system here, I have to go through an internal ''grievance process'' with my employer before I can apply to the courts for a hearing. It has 3 stages and takes a LONG time to get through - but if you don''t comply, you can lose up to 50% of potential damages that may be awarded by the courts.

As of April 09 the system will change and you can just go straight to court - mainly because it has become obvious that it is just stressful, unpleasant and drawn out and rarely results in a happy solution for anyone.

The Tribunal will be a panel of judges - it''s not a jury case. I suppose it''s a bit like Judge Judy... only there are a couple of people on the panel.

They hear both sides and then make a decision and award damages/compensation if necessary. The decision is legal and binding.

Until you get to the stage of filing the case with the Tribunal you cannot have legal representation at any meetings. I''m now at the point where I can file my case and so finally I will be able to delegate things to my legal team rather than having to do everything myself.

My case is complicated by the fact that they haven''t actually fired me (yet) - in most cases the woman has lost her job and so just goes ahead and sues the employer. My lot keep changing their story and backtracking and contradicting each other to the point where it makes my head go round in circles. If it''s confusing to me, you can imagine what it''s like for my lawyers trying to make head or tail of it all. The last session I had with my barrister was nearly 3 hours and that was just at the beginning - I now have reams of new documents for her to go through.

I am extremely fortunate that I am getting all the advice and legal work pro-bono at the moment. My brother has saved me thousands in fees - he is getting one hell of a wedding present from me and DH.

So, next step is the meeting on Tuesday morning - and I''m hoping that her advice is ''Let''s go get them'' and I can file the papers. I just have nightmares that she might now think I have no case at all....
 
Good Luck DD - just realised I forgot to vote.... I'm thinking blue for you.

A friend of mine was due on Wednesday and is sitting waiting for the off as well.


I've not really had any comments - although I don't go out an awful lot. The physio asked me if I was pg at the moment when I saw her on Tuesday - I was rather suprised as my bump is pretty obvious although I was sitting down at the time. When I said I was 27 weeks she said I looked small for dates.

Midwives measured yesterday and I was exactly 27cm from top of pelvic bone to the top of the uterus, so spot on for where I should be.

I can't wait until it gets a bit more cramped in there. Daisy has way too much room and has a lovely habit of leaning back against my spine and running her legs up and down my stomach which is a seriously nasty sensations.

She still sleeps from 3am to 1pm and then is up and about in a big way with a schnoozle at around 4-6pm . DH and I are evening people so I will be thrilled if she sticks to the same schedule after birth! My idea of hell is a child who sleeps all evening and then gets up at 7am = a very grumpy mother.
 
Pandora - i get a similar sensation. I think he''s changing positions and I can feel him scraping on the lining of my stomach or whatever...ugh! I makes me want to throw up! I don''t know, it give me a feeling of being sick...blah....can''t even talk about it, freaks me out so much
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Date: 2/20/2009 3:27:54 PM
Author: cdt1101
Pandora - i get a similar sensation. I think he''s changing positions and I can feel him scraping on the lining of my stomach or whatever...ugh! I makes me want to throw up! I don''t know, it give me a feeling of being sick...blah....can''t even talk about it, freaks me out so much
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See, when this happens to me it feels like a pressure moving slooowly across. At first I thought BH, but then I realized my uterus wasn''t getting tigher, and it simply felt like a little butt or a head pushing against the wall. Did it feel like that earlier in your pregnancy (20 weeks or so)?
 
Date: 2/20/2009 10:06:28 AM
Author: dreamer_dachsie

I have been having tonnes of BH contractions and other strange crampy things, I finished the work I wanted to get done, and my mom arrived last night to stay with us for 2 week. I am now officially READY!

Eeeee! How exciting!
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Ebree - yes, I felt it the first time when I was about 19 weeks. But now, at 23 weeks, it's a stronger sensation and I was just like you, worried that it was a contraction because i feel tightness, but it's really just whatever body part pushing my stomach out! I can see it happening...blah...i'm getting sick again
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It happened this morning while sitting at my desk and I literally had to get up and walk around so that i had something to distract me from what feels like something trying to crawl out of my skin.

Robbie - I'm up for doing the friday belly shots! I'll post mine tonight when i get home!!
 
Date: 2/20/2009 3:11:18 PM
Author: robbie3982
I haven''t gotten too many rude comments, but it seems like people are only starting to notice in the last week or so that I''m pregnant if they didn''t already know. When I told one coworker (around 14 weeks?) she said she thought so since I''d gained weight in my face. Uh, thanks?

Question to all: On some of the bump boards they have Belly Pic Friday where everyone posts their most recent belly shot at a certain time. I think it would be really fun if we started doing that on here so that we can get a weekly glimpse at where everyone is. What does everyone else think?
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Note to self: wear cute outfits on Fridays
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Ugh, so sorry about those of you having to deal with rude comments from people. I cannot believe someone would seriously grab your shirt and lift it up! I wouldn''t do that to someone on a dare for a $100! I have no idea what I would do if someone did that. I think I would be totally in shock, and when I recovered I would be FURIOUS. I love Courtney''s comeback. I am really not looking forward to those comments, as I am fairly insecure about my shape as it is. I''m sure it will only get much worse in the next 7-8 months. I had lost a bunch of wieght for our wedding with the intention of keeping it off for getting preggo, but didn''t do so well on that plan. I really think I am going to have to be careful not to gain too much.
 
Mandarine- Congrats and WELCOME! How exciting! I, too, had a very short stay on the TTC thread before coming over here and was pretty anxious "officially" join the preggo thread, but it has been great. You will learn SOOOO much from these awesome mamas-to-be! I''m excited to have another newbie here to go through all the craziness with, as you and I should be pretty close together. Sending you lots of wishes for a sticky bean!
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Ok...I don''t know if we''re starting this Friday belly shot thing....but either way, here I am in all my BIG BUTT glory
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23w 1d!!

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