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Calling all the Pregnant PS''ers

Lindsey, you and your husband are truly inspirational. I''m sending lots of hugs and kisses your way. I can''t even imagine how hard this is for you and your family but the prospect of Natalie having a future brother or sister sounds uplifting. Do all you can to take care of yourself. We''re all here for you and care very much about you, your husband, and Natalie.
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Lindsey- Thank you so much for the update. It sounds like you received a lot of good information from your docs and are in very good hands. I don''t think you should feel crazy at all for wanting to try again soon, and are obviously getting as educated as possible about the best way to go about doing so. It seems to me that carrying Natalie and having her (even for a short time) has shown you and your DH how unbelievably much it is possible to love a child. This is something that everyone who has a child says you can''t possibly know until you''ve been there, so I think it''s natural that although you are still mourning Natalie you want to feel that for another baby. You have seen "the light" of how amazing that bond can be, and want to share it. It seems that you have a firm grasp on the difference between grieving for Natalie and wanting another- that all sounds healthy to me. I hope I am not speaking out of turn, as I am in no way a therapist or doctor of any sort. I just think your posts sound like you are really in a good place in your coping process and have a fantastic support system through DH and the rest of your family. I continue to think of you and pray for you and your DH daily. Wishing you all the best.
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Mela- thanks for the info on supplements. I do think I will up my Omega''s starting today. I also have a zinc/magnesium/calcium supplement that I take somewhat inconsistently, but will get that back into regular rotation too. Will look into the acidopholus- that''s another one I have heard great things about. I was trying to be better about eating my Activia, but I just get burned out on yogurt so fast. Didn''t realize you could get it in supplements. Off to vitamin store in a bit!

Robbie- Thinking about you and hoping your meeting with HR brings you some peace of mind. You definitely do NOT need this extra stress. Sending zen vibes your way!
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Mandarine- LOVE your new furniture. It''s gorgeous!
 
Lindsey, I agree with Fiery, you and your husband are so strong, and I wish the very very best for you both.
 
Lindsey, I am so glad you got some answers.
I am also very happy the Drs were ready to talk about your optons for the next time. I think it is completely normal to start thinking about that and get ready for it, when the time comes. I am so happy to know you feel comfortable with the specialist and that they''re making you feel it''s ok and normal to want to discuss these things.
I keep praying and thinking of you, take care of yourself and big hugs
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Oh Linds - THANK YOU for your post! I''m so glad to hear from you, and relieved at all that has transpired in the past two weeks. It truly sounds like you both are on the right road. I''m also glad to hear you''re going to therapy to grieve Natalie''s passing. I think that getting the proper support during the greiving process is SO key to a healthy, happy future.
I cannot compare a miscarriage to what you''ve gone through, but I will say that I was 100% ready to try again after I lost my embryo at 7 weeks. I remember people telling me that "maybe I wasn''t ready yet"...but I was. Again, I''m not comparing, but I want you to know that I understand what you mean about being "ready" to conceive again. I think the timelines the Drs have suggested sound great - coupled with therapy and hobbies. I remember Indy was talking about taking up some hobbies too.

Lindsey - no one should have to see a child pass. What you have gone through is unbelievable. I continue to pray for you and both of your families. Stay well.
 
Lindsey, I can''t even begin to imagine how hard this is for you and your family. You and your DH are inspirational. Take care of yourself. Hugs.
 
Is it okay to post my Belly Pic? I hope so...

I''m 37 weeks today. TERM!

TermBermWormLerm. Thank you Ma''am for le Term!
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You look great Mela!!!
One hot mama and looking GREAT at 37 weeks!!
 
Lindsay, thank you for the update! It''s so good to hear that you do have options for future babies, even if the options are going to be slightly complicated and less natural. Sending you all the best!

Mela, you are looking foine! Yay for term!

Robbie, thinking of you, hoping it goes well!


I''m really excited for tonight. Dh and I have had a gift certificate to a really nice restaurant since Christmas that we haven''t used because of first, pregnancy sickness, and then lots of busy-ness, and then me being sick and not being able to taste food. But he made reservations for tonight and we get to have a real date night! I don''t even care that the weather is crappy!

Does anyone else find themselves being more socially awkward now that they are preggo? I had a colleague try to do me a favor because I''m preggo that didn''t really end up BEING a favor (hard to explain, he had good intentions, but didn''t realize he was actually causing me more work), but I had so much trouble following what he was saying that I basically said "why would you think this would be a favor to me?!?" I could tell he felt bad and was really just trying to help, and now I feel all crappy for not just thanking him. This whole being able to think CLEARLY before I speak better return soon...
 
Mandarine, the bedroom furniture looks great! I''m going to be a slacker and post my belly pic tomorrow because I''ll be dressed up for a friend''s shower tomorrow, plus I''ll be 31 weeks :).

Thanks, Mela! I can''t believe you''re term already! You look great!

Lindsey, I''m so glad to see that you checked in. You and your husband are so strong, it''s really inspirational. I think about you two and little Natalie a lot. I think it''s great that you''re being so proactive about what you''ll do next.

Thanks, Natalina! I think there''s actually a brand of milk that has the acidopholus bacteria (is that what it is?) in it. I''m almost positive my mom used to buy it when I was in hs.

The meeting with HR went well. I was uncomfortable at first because they called the rep I''d had the problem with on the phone and conferenced her in to the meeting. She had a totally different attitude today though and answered all of my questions thoroughly so I''m much more relaxed about going on leave. I did find it a little odd that her supervisors didn''t want to hear my side of what happened though. Coworker found it odd too. They said that they''d been informed of the situation. I''m guessing from her and perhaps from my boss? Not sure. They were both very nice though and very clear about the fact that they want to make this as easy as possible for me and that they don''t want to cause any stress.

Coworker was also having contractions last night apparently and it sounds like hers are worse than mine. She''s also feeling a lot of pressure and someone commented that it looks like she''s dropped. Her belly does look lower to me also. She''s been under stress from this whole leave thing and her grandmother was just put in hospice care. Her Dr. sent her down to the hospital to be monitored so any good vibes sent her way are welcome! She''s 30 weeks so he sent her to a different hospital than where she plans to deliver because it has a better NICU.
 
Linds- soooo glad to hear from u! Im amazed at how u are handling the situation and how much knowledge u have about it all. Its good to know u still want to try and are ready to do what it takes...I am sure the future is bright for u and dh and I can''t wait to see u back on this thread! <3

Mela- amazin as always!
 
Robbie I am so glad to hear that it went well!!! They BETTER treat you like that from now on.
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Sorry for being a bad poster and not responding to everyone else''s posts, but I am having a "me" moment, and need your ladies advice on something. Do you think that at 19 weeks it is too late to switch ob/gyns? I had my regular appointment with mine yesterday, and I walked out of there a mess. To make a long story short...

1) They have mis-billed my insurance, and are saying that claims for basic prenatal care are being denied. I have talked to the insurance twice about this, and they said they are just loking for more information from the doctor. I have talked to 3 separate people at my doctor''s office, and each says they will take care of it, but no one ever does. And they never pass along the notes to eachother. When I showed up yesterday and they told me I owed them $500, I was LIVID.

2) Since I was 19 weeks at my appointment yesterday, I thought they would be doing my anatomy scan. I even called the office that morning to confirm, and the lady said she wasn''t sure. What she failed to mention to me, and what they have failed to tell me from the beginning, is that apparently I need a separate appotinment for an anotomy scan. The woman that does them only comes in twice a month! If I would have known that, I would have made the appointment long ago, since my DH can only make appointments after 4:00.

3) At this point I was about ready to burst into tears. And you know what the nurse practitioner tells me? I need to stop being so emotional. I could have slapped her!

The problem is, I really like the doctor, but the office is really starting to get to me. I don''t know if I could switch at this point, or if I should ride it out.

The only good news is that DH convinced them to do an ultrasound so that we could tentatively find out the sex, even though we will have to do a separate anatomy scan. And... it''s a BOY!! I can''t say I''m surprised, since that is what I was expecting anyway. There hasn''t been a girl born in DH''s family in 70 years.

Sorry this is long and kind of rambling. Feel free to ignore my whinyness if need be. I just needed to get it all off my chest.
 
Thanks, Mandarine!

So Cal, so sorry your office is stressing you out. It''s definitely not too late to change. When I was thinking about changing to a midwife from my OB I believe I was told that they would take patients up to 33 weeks. I think most Dr''s would take new patients until at least the third trimester. I''d definitely be switching if I were you. Sure, liking the Dr. is important, but you have to deal with the staff more than you have to deal with the Dr. most of the time so that''s definitely important too! Congrats on joining team blue!
 
SoCal,
Sorry you''re having problems with the Dr''s office...
I agree with Robie and it''s not too late to change!!. I can''t believe the nurse told you that!.
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I changed Dr offices pretty early on because of a combination of the staff and te Dr....and to be honest I think it was the staff that pushed us over the edge. Just think how it will be when you have to start going every two weeks or every week!...better to change now and save yourself some headaches later...
 
Mela- You look fantastic! Did you notice your little Mela peeking out from behind your belly? So cute!

Robbie- glad to hear the convo went well. My guess as to why they didnt ask your side of the story is that they wanted to get past any drama and just address the concerns you had about your leave. That seems to be how HR departments handle things, when you boil it all down, the "he said she said" doesn''t matter so much, it''s just about taking care of the issue at hand. I wouldn''t take it personally at all. And thanks for the info about the milk, I''ll have to look for it next time I''m at the store.

Sabine- yay for a date night and yummy dinner! I''m excited for you!

SoCal- I would definitely look for a new doc. It doesn''t seem to me that it should be too late at all. An office should never assume that you would know you have to have a separate appointment for the scan, especially since this is your first baby. And the lady is only in twice a month? So when are they able to get you in? The comment about not getting emotional would have been the icing on the cake for me. I''d check with my insurance for referrals immediately and start finding a new doc. Just make sure that you mention to them that you need to get your scan completed ASAP. It''s too bad since you really like your doc, but he/she should set a higher level of expectation for the office staff in regards to patient relations. MOST IMPORTANTLY- YAYAYAYAYAY on finding out you have a BOY in there! How exciting! I can''t believe there hasn''t been a girl born into your DH''s family in 70 years! That''s nuts!
 
so cal i would totally change! the right practice can *make* your pregnancy. stress and pregnancy shouldn''t mix.. and it certainly shouldn''t come from your drs office.. poo poo to them.
in comparison - i think my dr. office is just the most fantastic place on earth.. they are always willing to answer a question without making me feel stupid or silly. i''ve had some spotting and they''ve gotten me in that day for an ultrasound to check things out.. such a relief.
too emotional !?!?! ugh! the other day i got lost going to a branch of my drs office that i had not been to before and i came in flustered, half crying and 20 mins late.. do you know what the receptionist did? she hugged me... we all deserve a great dr and a stress free 9 months ;)
congrats on having a boy!!!! that''s fantastic!

good to hear from you lindsey... you are one amazing woman!

courtney.. holy good lookin'' mama! i''ve never seen anyone that beeeeaauuuutiful after delivery. i want pointers too ;) must be some fantastic genetics - your daughter is stunning.

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ladies! i''ve been trying to catch up from our vacation, but man it''s hard when you miss a week ;) congrats sweetpea!!!

everything is going fine here.. i think i have a pooch, but since it goes all the way around my body :P i don''t know if i can call it a "baby belly" yet. most of my pants fit (with the help of a rubberband) and luckily my "fat pants" are still too big. nothing much to report.. just hanging in there... trying to get DH to talk names, but he hates everything... everything.... this is going to be fun
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here is my 14.5w belly ;P

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OMG!!! i''m so sorry... that picture is as big as me..
i''m soooo embarrassed
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Viz- that is the cutest lil pooch hehe ;)
 
So cal- just wanted to say that I totallt understand where u r coming from! I hated my office/hospital...they scheduled me for appts with ppl that didn''t take my ins etc....total stress all pregnancy with them...luckily I have a sista who is way Fierce and fought with them all for me...but u gotta stand ur ground and fight fight fight!....if u wanna switch I don''t see y u can''t...take all ur med records and go elswhere! Otherwise just gotta deal with them and not let them do this to u! Good luck.
 
So cal, CONGRATS on team blue!!!! Sorry the office is so hard to deal with, and I agree that you should definitely switch. What a pain!

Robbie, glad the meeting went well, and I agree with Viszla that it probably doesn''t matter who was right or wrong (although clearly you were, and it can be so frustrating to not have that validated) and just fix the problem of getting your questions answered.

Viszla, cute pic!

I''ll try to take one tonight before we go out to dinner, although the rain has left my hair looking a little, say, frazzled!
 
Vizsla- you look great! Cutest baby bump ever, possibly!
 
Thanks for the advice you guys. I think I am going to switch. A couple of my friends use a different doctor here in town, so I may call and see if they are taking new patients.

vizsla - Your office sounds FANTASTIC! I wish I could find one like that.

By the way, I am loving the belly pics everyone posts. I''m still too chicken to take one. Maybe I''ll be brave and take one tomorrow, since it is easier for me to get things done when I don''t have to work. Keep the belly pics coming, though!
 
Lindsey, again I''m amazed at your strength. I cried when I read your sweet post about being happy for me. I thought about you a lot this week. The Rh thing is so confusing to me. I know that I''m negative and Alila is positive so I had to have the shot before and after delivery. What causes hemorrages like that and why can''t they be detected?

Thanks for all the wonderful compliments, ladies. My beauty secret was sunless tanner that I''d put on the day before, my Bare Minerals powder, waterproof mascara, and Soft Lips.
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I''ll post my birth story and a few more pictures a little later on.
 
Courtney, can''t wait to hear the birth story!

Here''s my contribution to bpf, although you can''t really see the bump since I''m dressed up for date night... I''ll also attach my 2nd tri montage since next week I''ll officially be 3rd tri!

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And the montage...

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Cute bump - vizla. Looks like you haven't gained much weight at all!

Sabine - lovely montage! It's fascinating to see how the bump grows. Amazing how much more rounded it looks going from Weeks 24 to 25! I'm planning to do a belly pic progression too. Maybe I'll post a pic tomorrow - since it seems I already have a tiny little bump/bloat?

Is anyone doing pregnancy journals? Online or written? I'm thinking of ordering the 'BAby Book' Journal from Amazon so that I can record this experience for posterity.
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Just wondering if anyone else is doing the same...

Lindsey - I'm glad you and family are doing OK, and you're moving towards getting some closure/answers about Natalie. I hope the future brings you many beautiful, healthy babies...
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Mela, Vizsla and Sabine, love the pics! I can''t wait to have some to share too.

Mandarine, love the bed! How fun to get new furniture that is for you, and won''t be outgrown quickly ;)

SoCal, hope your friends doc is taking new patients, sounds like a good decision.

Well, DH and I are kinda in the middle of a remodel project (not where we live thankfully), and on the agenda this weekend was knocking out bathroom tile and lots of painting. I called my dr. and they said no tile demo for me, the house is too old so who knows what we''d find
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I love the demo part of these projects! And, as far as painting, I guess I get to do the parts close to doors and windows. Looks like DH needs to find a new work partner as this lil mama isn''t going to be much good for a while!

I hope everyone has a great weekend!
 
COURT: CONGRATS.....SHES BEAUTIFUL!!!!!!!!
 
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