anchor31
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Calling all the Pregnant PS''ers
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Mara
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on a good note i feel much better and more like myself now that my nausea is pretty much gone now...THANK GOD. i hit upon adding lemon to water to make it taste better to me so now i am drinking a lot more of it thankfully since it''s been 95 this weekend!
on a bad note i feel like a BLOB now that my belly is starting to harden and push out slightly. at 15 weeks, i am in that weird stage of ''is she fat''... at least my arms and legs are staying the same or else i think i might lose it. HAHA.
on a bad note i feel like a BLOB now that my belly is starting to harden and push out slightly. at 15 weeks, i am in that weird stage of ''is she fat''... at least my arms and legs are staying the same or else i think i might lose it. HAHA.
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Mara, I feel your pain. I feel the same way. The maternity shirts I''m wearing don''t really look like maternity, they just have some stretch, so when I look in the mirror, I just feel like I look thick in the middle. Adam tried to convince me I was obviously pregnant and not just looking like I put on weight, but I think he was just trying to make me feel better. Oh well, we will have huge bellies soon enough!
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VIzla, I hope the massage offers some relief!
Steph and Mara, I know how you feel about just looking kind of pudgy at that stage. It didn''t help that DH told me stories of women he met when they were pregnant but didn''t know they were pregnant (like, being introduced to somebody''s wife) and he thought, "Oh, she''s not very attractive," only to find out later that she was just pregnant.
OK, I have just had a ridiculous breakdown over nothing. I''m allowed a few of those, right? The story isn''t all that interesting but I''m going to write it out in case it gives me any insight. For background, I am normally a very even keeled person. I''m an INTJ -- a rational, stoic type person.
So, DH''s friend knows nothing about computers, and his just got infected with a virus. DH offered to give him our old Linksys router from when we had Comcast. Then this morning DH asked if we had any extra copies of Microsoft Office. I just cleaned the office, so I said, well, we had a Word disc and a Works disc. I don''t know if either of these is actually "Microsoft Office" or just components of it. So he said we''d give that to his friend too.
So he called me an hour ago and woke me up from a nap and said his friend wanted to pick the stuff up this afternoon. I wasn''t happy to be woken up but said ok, I would see what I could find. DH said he''d tell the friend I was "running errands" so I could just leave them outside the door. So I find the Works (2002) and the Word (2003), and I''m like, who wants 7 year old software? And is this even legal? My dad, whom I''ve been missing/grieving a lot lately, was an ethicist and raised me to believe that sharing/stealing/whatever software is wrong. Plus, he bought me the Word for Students and Teachers for Christmas before DH and I were married. I remember that it was very expensive, and not that I think I should be sentimental about software, but I also don''t want to just lend it out.
So I call DH back and say I haven''t looked for the router yet (can''t remember which of the million neatly stacked boxes I just put in the office closet it''s in) but here''s what I found. DH says his friend is already on his way over. I have drool from my nap on my face and I don''t know if his friend will be able to use the stuff or if it''s even right to "share" the software and he''s computer illiterate and the world''s most chatty man (every time DH tries to say goodbye on the phone or in person, it takes forever, and often he just doesn''t even answer the phone because this friend is so chatty) so I am going to be stuck talking to him forever. It''s not like I''m the one who ever installed the router so what do I know?
So I start bawling about all of this, and DH tells me I''m overreacting (oh really? I had no idea) and that he''ll come home from work right now so he can give the stuff to the friend, which just makes it worse because now both of us will be inconvenienced, and I''m like, why does he have to come right now (the guy was leaving work to do this) and why did you have to lie and say I was running errands? Couldn''t you just say it wasn''t a good time so I don''t have to hide in the house and pretend I''m out? So I collapse in a weepy ball on the bed, and DH finally calls back and says snippily that I can go back to napping because his friend isn''t coming over anymore. Maybe I''m supposed to feel guilty about this but really, isn''t it ok to say, "My pregnant wife isn''t having a good day so can you wait a few hours to pick this stuff up?"
In DH''s defense, I did have a less angry/more pitiful breakdown a few weeks ago which he was very nice about; he did everything he could think of to make things better and brought flowers home from work the next day. But he doesn''t respond well when I get overly emotional in an angry way and direct it in any way at him, which I attribute to his issues with his mother, who is really just one big irrational tantrum. I understand that in theory; I just feel like every so often I, the world''s least emotional girl, should be able to get a teensy bit upset about something without him getting huffy in return. He doesn''t get huffy with his mother; I guess he just does with me because I''m "safe" and he knows that ultimately I will respond to reason, whereas his mother''s rage will just spiral out of control. I''m pregnant, I''m hormonal, and I was asleep, but (IMO) because his mother is such a mess, I don''t get any slack when I have a meltdown.
Speaking of MIL, I keep forgetting what her cell phone number is and answering the phone when she calls, which granted is not very often. So I spoke to her this weekend. First, she thought I had attended a conference with a friend of hers, but he teaches middle school and I teach AP level 12th grade (which it turns out she didn''t even know), so I was like, um, no . . . . Usually when she calls I feel so uncomfortable that I just sort of spit out yes/no answers, but I was in a more gregarious mood so I told her some random stories about little things, and I really think that the more I chatted cheerily, the more withdrawn and strange she became. Then DH said to invite her over for lunch, so I did, and she sputtered out something about how she can''t leave her husband right now (he''s the dangerous felon she married in prison, closer in age to us than to her, whom we won''t meet) because he''s upset about their . . . financial situation, so, well, she would just leave it at that, and then she got off the phone very quickly. Am I crazy to think that it was almost as though the more "normal" I acted, the more uncomfortable/upset she got? I can''t quite put my finger on it, but the whole conversation was very strange. Of course, the first part of the conversation probably reminded her how she''s not close to us at all (embarrassing not to even know what your DIL teaches, right?) and then it just went downhill from there.
Ugh, I know DH is most likely going to be mad at me when he gets home and want me to placate him. I am a stubborn person, and while I know I wasn''t behaving rationally, I think my meltdown was understandable, and I''m not going to be able to make him feel better about it if I don''t see it from his perspective. I guess his perspective is, what is the big deal about getting a disc and a router and putting it outside the door for a friend who really wants to get it ASAP? He thought he was doing me a favor with the "running errands" lie because he knows I don''t always like to be social. I''m really trying to feel sympathy for him but I''m a stubborn girl! My mother keeps saying she hopes my baby pays me back for the trouble I gave her during potty training when we had a battle of wills and I usually won. She would put me on a little potty in front of the tv and leave me there for hours and I would hold it and hold it and then as soon as she had to take me somewhere and put a diaper on me, I would go. Well, my brother got a Shogun Warrior every time he blew his nose, so maybe it was just her approach that was wrong! Where was the motivation?
And yes, I outlasted her in the showdown but wasn''t I ultimately learning bladder control?
So anyway . . . all I can say is, that cry felt really good!
Steph and Mara, I know how you feel about just looking kind of pudgy at that stage. It didn''t help that DH told me stories of women he met when they were pregnant but didn''t know they were pregnant (like, being introduced to somebody''s wife) and he thought, "Oh, she''s not very attractive," only to find out later that she was just pregnant.
OK, I have just had a ridiculous breakdown over nothing. I''m allowed a few of those, right? The story isn''t all that interesting but I''m going to write it out in case it gives me any insight. For background, I am normally a very even keeled person. I''m an INTJ -- a rational, stoic type person.
So, DH''s friend knows nothing about computers, and his just got infected with a virus. DH offered to give him our old Linksys router from when we had Comcast. Then this morning DH asked if we had any extra copies of Microsoft Office. I just cleaned the office, so I said, well, we had a Word disc and a Works disc. I don''t know if either of these is actually "Microsoft Office" or just components of it. So he said we''d give that to his friend too.
So he called me an hour ago and woke me up from a nap and said his friend wanted to pick the stuff up this afternoon. I wasn''t happy to be woken up but said ok, I would see what I could find. DH said he''d tell the friend I was "running errands" so I could just leave them outside the door. So I find the Works (2002) and the Word (2003), and I''m like, who wants 7 year old software? And is this even legal? My dad, whom I''ve been missing/grieving a lot lately, was an ethicist and raised me to believe that sharing/stealing/whatever software is wrong. Plus, he bought me the Word for Students and Teachers for Christmas before DH and I were married. I remember that it was very expensive, and not that I think I should be sentimental about software, but I also don''t want to just lend it out.
So I call DH back and say I haven''t looked for the router yet (can''t remember which of the million neatly stacked boxes I just put in the office closet it''s in) but here''s what I found. DH says his friend is already on his way over. I have drool from my nap on my face and I don''t know if his friend will be able to use the stuff or if it''s even right to "share" the software and he''s computer illiterate and the world''s most chatty man (every time DH tries to say goodbye on the phone or in person, it takes forever, and often he just doesn''t even answer the phone because this friend is so chatty) so I am going to be stuck talking to him forever. It''s not like I''m the one who ever installed the router so what do I know?
So I start bawling about all of this, and DH tells me I''m overreacting (oh really? I had no idea) and that he''ll come home from work right now so he can give the stuff to the friend, which just makes it worse because now both of us will be inconvenienced, and I''m like, why does he have to come right now (the guy was leaving work to do this) and why did you have to lie and say I was running errands? Couldn''t you just say it wasn''t a good time so I don''t have to hide in the house and pretend I''m out? So I collapse in a weepy ball on the bed, and DH finally calls back and says snippily that I can go back to napping because his friend isn''t coming over anymore. Maybe I''m supposed to feel guilty about this but really, isn''t it ok to say, "My pregnant wife isn''t having a good day so can you wait a few hours to pick this stuff up?"
In DH''s defense, I did have a less angry/more pitiful breakdown a few weeks ago which he was very nice about; he did everything he could think of to make things better and brought flowers home from work the next day. But he doesn''t respond well when I get overly emotional in an angry way and direct it in any way at him, which I attribute to his issues with his mother, who is really just one big irrational tantrum. I understand that in theory; I just feel like every so often I, the world''s least emotional girl, should be able to get a teensy bit upset about something without him getting huffy in return. He doesn''t get huffy with his mother; I guess he just does with me because I''m "safe" and he knows that ultimately I will respond to reason, whereas his mother''s rage will just spiral out of control. I''m pregnant, I''m hormonal, and I was asleep, but (IMO) because his mother is such a mess, I don''t get any slack when I have a meltdown.
Speaking of MIL, I keep forgetting what her cell phone number is and answering the phone when she calls, which granted is not very often. So I spoke to her this weekend. First, she thought I had attended a conference with a friend of hers, but he teaches middle school and I teach AP level 12th grade (which it turns out she didn''t even know), so I was like, um, no . . . . Usually when she calls I feel so uncomfortable that I just sort of spit out yes/no answers, but I was in a more gregarious mood so I told her some random stories about little things, and I really think that the more I chatted cheerily, the more withdrawn and strange she became. Then DH said to invite her over for lunch, so I did, and she sputtered out something about how she can''t leave her husband right now (he''s the dangerous felon she married in prison, closer in age to us than to her, whom we won''t meet) because he''s upset about their . . . financial situation, so, well, she would just leave it at that, and then she got off the phone very quickly. Am I crazy to think that it was almost as though the more "normal" I acted, the more uncomfortable/upset she got? I can''t quite put my finger on it, but the whole conversation was very strange. Of course, the first part of the conversation probably reminded her how she''s not close to us at all (embarrassing not to even know what your DIL teaches, right?) and then it just went downhill from there.
Ugh, I know DH is most likely going to be mad at me when he gets home and want me to placate him. I am a stubborn person, and while I know I wasn''t behaving rationally, I think my meltdown was understandable, and I''m not going to be able to make him feel better about it if I don''t see it from his perspective. I guess his perspective is, what is the big deal about getting a disc and a router and putting it outside the door for a friend who really wants to get it ASAP? He thought he was doing me a favor with the "running errands" lie because he knows I don''t always like to be social. I''m really trying to feel sympathy for him but I''m a stubborn girl! My mother keeps saying she hopes my baby pays me back for the trouble I gave her during potty training when we had a battle of wills and I usually won. She would put me on a little potty in front of the tv and leave me there for hours and I would hold it and hold it and then as soon as she had to take me somewhere and put a diaper on me, I would go. Well, my brother got a Shogun Warrior every time he blew his nose, so maybe it was just her approach that was wrong! Where was the motivation?
So anyway . . . all I can say is, that cry felt really good!
littlelysser
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I've been biting my tongue, but I have to say this.
I have never been a size 0 and have never bragged about the amount I weighed before I got pregnant. Most of you would consider me fat before I got pregnant, and would consider me fat now too. My husband found and still finds me attractive. I exercise and I take care of myself. But I'm fat. Yup. I am.
And I can tell you that there are much worse things in this world that carrying around (or looking like you are carrying around) extra pounds.
Perhaps looking overweight as you go through pregnancy is very difficult for some some of you, and I'm sorry to hear that. And I understand that you work out and take pride in your figure. But it'd be really nice if we could ease up on the OMG I look so disgusting because I'm fat thing.
Frankly, it is hurtful.
Thanks.
ETA - Anchor, I'm sorry to hear about your Grandmother. My thoughts are with you and your family.
I have never been a size 0 and have never bragged about the amount I weighed before I got pregnant. Most of you would consider me fat before I got pregnant, and would consider me fat now too. My husband found and still finds me attractive. I exercise and I take care of myself. But I'm fat. Yup. I am.
And I can tell you that there are much worse things in this world that carrying around (or looking like you are carrying around) extra pounds.
Perhaps looking overweight as you go through pregnancy is very difficult for some some of you, and I'm sorry to hear that. And I understand that you work out and take pride in your figure. But it'd be really nice if we could ease up on the OMG I look so disgusting because I'm fat thing.
Frankly, it is hurtful.
Thanks.
ETA - Anchor, I'm sorry to hear about your Grandmother. My thoughts are with you and your family.
AmberWaves
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LL: It''s crazy because I was also not a size zero, despite many many doctor''s appointments trying to find out why, because I''m a vegetarian who eats well. So I already felt badly about myself going in, because I was worried I was going to be gigantic. Luckily I''ve only gained 4.5 pounds and I''m 25 weeks. I''ve never felt more attractive than I do right now, my husband has never loved my body more, but I''m wondering now if that''s not the norm? I think pregnancy is a tough thing to deal with, with all the changes we go through, but I''m glad to know that I''m healthy, and my baby is healthy. It''s a little hard to see ladies who are smaller at 10/16/20 weeks than I was pre-preg say they think they''re gross or ugly (just using words, not directed at anyone''s post) when I would have killed to look like that. It''s already hard for me to post my belly pics because I know I''m larger. I honestly don''t think I was unattractive at all early on, or even now. I''m one of those weirdos who loves being pregnant and wish I could do it forever. Yeah, I can''t believe I said that either. Then again, maybe it was trying for a year to get this way that made me appreciate all aspects of it.
Other stuff:
I had my 24 week appointment. Baby is growing well, I''m up 4.5 pounds, which the doctor loves. I was given my glucose drink for next month, not looking forward to it.
We got our crib and a jogging stroller. Now I''m torn between the Maclaren Triumph and the Maxi-Cosi Perle for our lightweight stroller. I wanted to try a Peg Perego, but couldn''t find one?
Other stuff:
I had my 24 week appointment. Baby is growing well, I''m up 4.5 pounds, which the doctor loves. I was given my glucose drink for next month, not looking forward to it.
We got our crib and a jogging stroller. Now I''m torn between the Maclaren Triumph and the Maxi-Cosi Perle for our lightweight stroller. I wanted to try a Peg Perego, but couldn''t find one?
Mandarine
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LL I am sorry those comments are hurtful to you. I know I have made similar comments when I was at that stage of "not yet having a baby bump, but pregnant".
You have to understand though...that image body issues are real issues for everyone....regardless of whether or not someone else thinks they have no reason to have those issues because they are leaner than most. That''s why they are "issues" and we all have them. They are specially hard to deal with when they happen so quickly and we have little control over them. At least that was the hardest thing for me.
About 8 years ago (or maybe more now) I lost about 60 lbs...that I gained after moving to the US. For teh past 8 years I have managed to work to take the weight off, keep it off and be active/healthy. I take pride on that so it was hard seeing how my body was transforming.
Was it a beautiful time? sure it was...I was beginning to grow two human beings in my body!...but it was hard!!. My self esteem went down the drain and all my body issues came back. When the bump finally arrived and was "obvious" I started feeling better. The "I''m pregnant" thought in my brain matched the image in the mirror!
All I''m trying to say is we all have issues for different reasons. A girl size 0 may feel fat when she''s a size 2...and well, that''s her own view of herself. Is she fat? No..of course not...but that doesn''t make her body image issues samller than someone who is a size 12 and goes up to a size 14....or someone who is a size 20 and goes up to a size 22. They are all different issues, but I don''t believe one is bigger than the other for the person that''s living that life.
Just my .02
You have to understand though...that image body issues are real issues for everyone....regardless of whether or not someone else thinks they have no reason to have those issues because they are leaner than most. That''s why they are "issues" and we all have them. They are specially hard to deal with when they happen so quickly and we have little control over them. At least that was the hardest thing for me.
About 8 years ago (or maybe more now) I lost about 60 lbs...that I gained after moving to the US. For teh past 8 years I have managed to work to take the weight off, keep it off and be active/healthy. I take pride on that so it was hard seeing how my body was transforming.
Was it a beautiful time? sure it was...I was beginning to grow two human beings in my body!...but it was hard!!. My self esteem went down the drain and all my body issues came back. When the bump finally arrived and was "obvious" I started feeling better. The "I''m pregnant" thought in my brain matched the image in the mirror!
All I''m trying to say is we all have issues for different reasons. A girl size 0 may feel fat when she''s a size 2...and well, that''s her own view of herself. Is she fat? No..of course not...but that doesn''t make her body image issues samller than someone who is a size 12 and goes up to a size 14....or someone who is a size 20 and goes up to a size 22. They are all different issues, but I don''t believe one is bigger than the other for the person that''s living that life.
Just my .02
Mara
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LL, i definitely understand what you are saying....i wanted to clarify also that when i am talking about 'feeling fat' or whatever, it's ME talking about ME. please don't take what someone else says about how they feel about their body changing as a personal affront.
in general, i am in the same train of thought as mandarine. i worked hard for the body i had before i got preggo and it took me years to feel comfortable with where i was at, and what was in my control. i knew when i got preggo i'd have to 'give it up' in a way and that is fine--in principle. but it is VERY hard for me...to not have control over my body the way i have in the past. eating healthy? who cares, my body doesn't want fruits and proteins and veggies. it wants CARBS. all the time. that is mentally super hard for me after years of training myself to love proteins and healthy items. and to see myself in the mirror and know that i have no control over what my body is going to be doing is even harder...esp knowing i am consuming carbs.
my husband thinks i am beautiful regardless and he is sooo good about saying sweet things to me when i feel blue about my body. a few months more and he will prob be like STFU. i know that people think 'hello you are pregnant, why are you complaining...' but mentally it's very hard to accept it. i am not just a 'go with the flow' kinda gal in general, i tend to want to fight for what i want, but in this instance, body will do what it wants and will WIN regardless. yet i still have to dress cute and comb my hair and put makeup on and try to feel pretty every day even though i don't. i am excited about the RESULT of all of this (curly headed child), but the other changes are hard to stomach.
anyway, weight IS a sensitive issue, recently i started the 'healthy lifestyle & fitness for preggos' thread in the workout section so i will try to just limit my blob whining to that area from now on.
ETA PG.... i guess i am lucky in that i haven't had too many hormonal breakdowns (YET) but i am sure they are coming. poor greg, i have been telling him when it does happen to DONT PROVOKE THE PREGNANT WOMAN and just take off running. safest for us all!
in general, i am in the same train of thought as mandarine. i worked hard for the body i had before i got preggo and it took me years to feel comfortable with where i was at, and what was in my control. i knew when i got preggo i'd have to 'give it up' in a way and that is fine--in principle. but it is VERY hard for me...to not have control over my body the way i have in the past. eating healthy? who cares, my body doesn't want fruits and proteins and veggies. it wants CARBS. all the time. that is mentally super hard for me after years of training myself to love proteins and healthy items. and to see myself in the mirror and know that i have no control over what my body is going to be doing is even harder...esp knowing i am consuming carbs.
my husband thinks i am beautiful regardless and he is sooo good about saying sweet things to me when i feel blue about my body. a few months more and he will prob be like STFU. i know that people think 'hello you are pregnant, why are you complaining...' but mentally it's very hard to accept it. i am not just a 'go with the flow' kinda gal in general, i tend to want to fight for what i want, but in this instance, body will do what it wants and will WIN regardless. yet i still have to dress cute and comb my hair and put makeup on and try to feel pretty every day even though i don't. i am excited about the RESULT of all of this (curly headed child), but the other changes are hard to stomach.
anyway, weight IS a sensitive issue, recently i started the 'healthy lifestyle & fitness for preggos' thread in the workout section so i will try to just limit my blob whining to that area from now on.
ETA PG.... i guess i am lucky in that i haven't had too many hormonal breakdowns (YET) but i am sure they are coming. poor greg, i have been telling him when it does happen to DONT PROVOKE THE PREGNANT WOMAN and just take off running. safest for us all!
vizsla
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i agree with mandy
i *know* i've made those comments about feeling out of sorts with my body as well ....
yes, to other people, my concerns seem unsubstantiated ... but it doesn't make it *any* easier for me to feel out of control with my body. i'm sorry if my comments in some way hurt your feelings... it certainly wasn't my intention - but as an open forum where we are free to express all of our fears, uncertainties, worries, and joys -- i think this is just another aspect of that.
i love to read how 'empowered' other people feel while PG, and how beautiful it makes them feel... it helps to change my mindset (when i feel the exact opposite
).... but that's what makes this forum so great... no homogenized group consensus on how you are 'supposed' to feel.
i *know* i've made those comments about feeling out of sorts with my body as well ....
yes, to other people, my concerns seem unsubstantiated ... but it doesn't make it *any* easier for me to feel out of control with my body. i'm sorry if my comments in some way hurt your feelings... it certainly wasn't my intention - but as an open forum where we are free to express all of our fears, uncertainties, worries, and joys -- i think this is just another aspect of that.
i love to read how 'empowered' other people feel while PG, and how beautiful it makes them feel... it helps to change my mindset (when i feel the exact opposite
phoenixgirl
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Wow, Mandarine, 60 pounds!!! You go girl!!!
Littlelysser, I appreciate you being honest about your feelings. It is good to remember how others may be taking our comments and to remind ourselves that a few pounds here and there aren't a big deal. But I also think that the first trimester "Oh no! Everyone must just think I'm getting fat!" reaction is pretty common. I will make an effort to be more sensitive, but I hope you can see of where I'm coming from too. I don't think anyone will begrudge you if you're not sympathetic to someone who went from a 0 to a 2 because she was growing a baby, but I do think women's feelings about our bodies involve more than just numbers on a scale or a piece of clothing.
Before I was pregnant, I thought I would be one of those zen goddess mothers who is totally in love with her pregnant body and not fazed at all by weight gain. Like Mandarine, I lost weight a few years ago (not 60 pounds though, that is awesome! Mine was a little over 20). It wasn't because I was unhappy with how I looked. I didn't think I had that much weight to lose (I would have said "5 to 10 pounds"), and I've always been small boned and looked pretty small. I just wanted to be healthy and feel better, and I knew that in order to do that you were supposed to eat right and exercise, which my dad had been bugging me to do for years. I never knew that constipation and headaches and craving sugary soda just to crash after drinking it and all of that didn't have to be a part of every day life. But the more I worked out and changed my eating habits, the more I got in shape, and as I did, the pounds just fell off. And then DH quit smoking and took up cycling again because he didn't want to be left out and we became "those people" who avoid processed foods and hang out at duathlons and stuff.
But I guess that the funny thing is that after I lost the weight I became unhappy with who I was before the weight loss. Then I saw the unnecessary fat and the lethargy and the bathroom problems and moodiness for what they were and I didn't like it, and frankly I don't ever want to go back. And maybe part of it is a subconscious desire to fit in with the crowd because when you start to hang out with really fit people and are no longer hanging out with people who don't work out or eat fast food, you feel like you'd stick out if you were suddenly a lot bigger than before. I'm scared -- not that I physically can't lose the weight/regain my fitness -- but that I won't have the time to make me a priority like I did before. I'll just have to, but on top of being a working mom it's going to be hard. And really, I'd rather be as fit as I was when I could run 6 miles and be a size 8 than feel lethargic and unfit and be a 2. I think the fear is more to do with losing the ability to stay active because the bigger you are, the harder it is to move, and the harder it is to move, the more likely you are to remain bigger.
We're all hormonal messes (well, I am at least), and if we haven't gained much weight, they tell us our babies might be too small, and if we gain too much, they tell us we've overdone it, and I just have to hand it to the handful of women who don't seem fazed either way. I wish I were one of them!
The funny thing is that people talk about not feeling sexy after they've gained weight in pregnancy, and I haven't found that at all. Just like before I lost the weight, I don't look at myself and think, ick, so fat! It's really more about knowing what my ideal weight is (based on two years of maintaining that weight without counting calories or anything -- just by eating well and working out regularly) and seeing how far I am from that and how much I'm exceeding the "recommended weight gain." And knowing how many women never lose the baby weight. And knowing how my metabolism is slowing down as I age and that each year we lose muscle mass if we don't make an effort to maintain it. And knowing the heart and cancer etc. risks associated with weighing more than your ideal weight. When I got in shape, each time I worked out it was easier, and each time I ran I could go farther. Now, because nature has a twisted sense of humor apparently, each time I work out or walk it gets harder. While I know intellectually that this is natural and to be expected and good for my baby, it's frustrating in a sort of Sisyphean way. It will be a relief when the baby is here and we both have a healthy 6 week PP checkup and then I can work on regaining my fitness in earnest. Right now I'm in limbo just trying to stay fit (for me and for my baby) as much as I can without overdoing it.
P.S. DH and I have made up. Yay!
Littlelysser, I appreciate you being honest about your feelings. It is good to remember how others may be taking our comments and to remind ourselves that a few pounds here and there aren't a big deal. But I also think that the first trimester "Oh no! Everyone must just think I'm getting fat!" reaction is pretty common. I will make an effort to be more sensitive, but I hope you can see of where I'm coming from too. I don't think anyone will begrudge you if you're not sympathetic to someone who went from a 0 to a 2 because she was growing a baby, but I do think women's feelings about our bodies involve more than just numbers on a scale or a piece of clothing.
Before I was pregnant, I thought I would be one of those zen goddess mothers who is totally in love with her pregnant body and not fazed at all by weight gain. Like Mandarine, I lost weight a few years ago (not 60 pounds though, that is awesome! Mine was a little over 20). It wasn't because I was unhappy with how I looked. I didn't think I had that much weight to lose (I would have said "5 to 10 pounds"), and I've always been small boned and looked pretty small. I just wanted to be healthy and feel better, and I knew that in order to do that you were supposed to eat right and exercise, which my dad had been bugging me to do for years. I never knew that constipation and headaches and craving sugary soda just to crash after drinking it and all of that didn't have to be a part of every day life. But the more I worked out and changed my eating habits, the more I got in shape, and as I did, the pounds just fell off. And then DH quit smoking and took up cycling again because he didn't want to be left out and we became "those people" who avoid processed foods and hang out at duathlons and stuff.
But I guess that the funny thing is that after I lost the weight I became unhappy with who I was before the weight loss. Then I saw the unnecessary fat and the lethargy and the bathroom problems and moodiness for what they were and I didn't like it, and frankly I don't ever want to go back. And maybe part of it is a subconscious desire to fit in with the crowd because when you start to hang out with really fit people and are no longer hanging out with people who don't work out or eat fast food, you feel like you'd stick out if you were suddenly a lot bigger than before. I'm scared -- not that I physically can't lose the weight/regain my fitness -- but that I won't have the time to make me a priority like I did before. I'll just have to, but on top of being a working mom it's going to be hard. And really, I'd rather be as fit as I was when I could run 6 miles and be a size 8 than feel lethargic and unfit and be a 2. I think the fear is more to do with losing the ability to stay active because the bigger you are, the harder it is to move, and the harder it is to move, the more likely you are to remain bigger.
We're all hormonal messes (well, I am at least), and if we haven't gained much weight, they tell us our babies might be too small, and if we gain too much, they tell us we've overdone it, and I just have to hand it to the handful of women who don't seem fazed either way. I wish I were one of them!
The funny thing is that people talk about not feeling sexy after they've gained weight in pregnancy, and I haven't found that at all. Just like before I lost the weight, I don't look at myself and think, ick, so fat! It's really more about knowing what my ideal weight is (based on two years of maintaining that weight without counting calories or anything -- just by eating well and working out regularly) and seeing how far I am from that and how much I'm exceeding the "recommended weight gain." And knowing how many women never lose the baby weight. And knowing how my metabolism is slowing down as I age and that each year we lose muscle mass if we don't make an effort to maintain it. And knowing the heart and cancer etc. risks associated with weighing more than your ideal weight. When I got in shape, each time I worked out it was easier, and each time I ran I could go farther. Now, because nature has a twisted sense of humor apparently, each time I work out or walk it gets harder. While I know intellectually that this is natural and to be expected and good for my baby, it's frustrating in a sort of Sisyphean way. It will be a relief when the baby is here and we both have a healthy 6 week PP checkup and then I can work on regaining my fitness in earnest. Right now I'm in limbo just trying to stay fit (for me and for my baby) as much as I can without overdoing it.
P.S. DH and I have made up. Yay!
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Eh, nevermind. I clearly wasn''t able to get my point across and I kind of wish I hadn''t posted what I did.
My point has been completely misconstrued.
I was not talking about people feeling that their bodies are changing and different or that pregnancy is hard. It was difficult for me when I felt like I had gained weight and didn''t look pregnant. That is difficult. And of course you can talk about it. Feeling out of sorts with your body is NOT what I was referring to.
I''m talking about people saying that being fat is gross or disgusting or making comments about how someone was unattractive until they found out they were pregnant and there was a reason for them being fat.
There is a huge difference between the two - I wasn''t taking anything as a personal affront and I am not advocating that people cannot express concerns, fears, etc. I was just asking that people think about the words and phrases they use.
but seriously, nevermind.
My point has been completely misconstrued.
I was not talking about people feeling that their bodies are changing and different or that pregnancy is hard. It was difficult for me when I felt like I had gained weight and didn''t look pregnant. That is difficult. And of course you can talk about it. Feeling out of sorts with your body is NOT what I was referring to.
I''m talking about people saying that being fat is gross or disgusting or making comments about how someone was unattractive until they found out they were pregnant and there was a reason for them being fat.
There is a huge difference between the two - I wasn''t taking anything as a personal affront and I am not advocating that people cannot express concerns, fears, etc. I was just asking that people think about the words and phrases they use.
but seriously, nevermind.
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I think (and please tell me if I am wrong LL) that all LL is trying to say is to please refrain from equating fat with being gross, disgusting, etc.
It's one thing to be uncomfortable with how your body is changing, which of course includes weight gain, but another thing entirely to imply that carrying around extra pounds is gross or disgusting...the first one is something everyone goes through and the second can be hurtful to others.
It's one thing to be uncomfortable with how your body is changing, which of course includes weight gain, but another thing entirely to imply that carrying around extra pounds is gross or disgusting...the first one is something everyone goes through and the second can be hurtful to others.
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Mara
I never read any pregnancy books either. I did get weekly updates from babycenter and thebump. I picked up most of the acronyms from being on other pregnancy forums. I was reading TTC forums when we were TTC for Meena, but I ended up finding it overwhelming and stressful. You always have such great attitudes about everything, and same goes for your pregnancy.
Viz
You are right about the love/hate relationship with the bella band. I like it when I put it on, then I hate it when it starts pulling up. LOL. The other issue I have with it was that I have to wear it folded over b/c it’s too loose on my waist. I actually used it more postpartum to smooth out the belly under clothes.
phoenix
Sorry you are having a bad day. I think your reaction is understandable, and not totally irrational. It wasn’t like the things were hanging around and you just need to put it outdoor. You actually have to look for them in boxes. Hope your DH will understand once you tell him why you reacted that way.
Mandarine
I comment on your dressing as changing table thread already, but just wanted to say that if the dresser ended up being too tall for your comfort, then you can always change the babies on the floor or something.
LL
I am sorry those comments offended you. No one intended to do that. I think I was guilty of making one of those comments, and it’s really just have to do with my view on my body. I think the pregnant body is beautiful once there is a real bump. It’s just the in between stage, when it’s not obvious that I am pregnant, that is hard for me. So I hope you understand.
ETA: I understand what you are saying about fat = gross comments. I don't think any of us meant it that way.
I never read any pregnancy books either. I did get weekly updates from babycenter and thebump. I picked up most of the acronyms from being on other pregnancy forums. I was reading TTC forums when we were TTC for Meena, but I ended up finding it overwhelming and stressful. You always have such great attitudes about everything, and same goes for your pregnancy.
I know what you mean by feeling like a blob. That’s what I feel like, and it’s b/c it’s still not obvious to everyone that I am pregnant. But I think I have a bump already, just that it can still be hidden under loose tops. I still can still get away with non-maternity tops yet, but I am wearing maternity pants for comfort. It’ll become a non-issue once you get a real bump.
Viz
You are right about the love/hate relationship with the bella band. I like it when I put it on, then I hate it when it starts pulling up. LOL. The other issue I have with it was that I have to wear it folded over b/c it’s too loose on my waist. I actually used it more postpartum to smooth out the belly under clothes.
Hope the massage helps ease your back pain/ache. It sounds nice. I should look into it.
I love my sleep too, but not getting much nowadays. So try to get as much sleep as you can before the baby gets here. =D.
phoenix
Sorry you are having a bad day. I think your reaction is understandable, and not totally irrational. It wasn’t like the things were hanging around and you just need to put it outdoor. You actually have to look for them in boxes. Hope your DH will understand once you tell him why you reacted that way.
Mandarine
I comment on your dressing as changing table thread already, but just wanted to say that if the dresser ended up being too tall for your comfort, then you can always change the babies on the floor or something.
Hope the babies stay in until 36 weeks, so you don’t have to give birth in the hospital.
LL
I am sorry those comments offended you. No one intended to do that. I think I was guilty of making one of those comments, and it’s really just have to do with my view on my body. I think the pregnant body is beautiful once there is a real bump. It’s just the in between stage, when it’s not obvious that I am pregnant, that is hard for me. So I hope you understand.
ETA: I understand what you are saying about fat = gross comments. I don't think any of us meant it that way.
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LL, I''m sorry that you feel upset. It''s definitely difficult when people who are smaller complain of weight issues and feeling fat. But, you have to realize they aren''t saying "I''m fat, so if you''re bigger than me, geez you''re a cow." It''s their perception of themselves, relative to themselves.
I''m a curvy, healthy woman. I wear a size 8 (well before I got PG) and I would feel out of shape if I was a 12. That doesn''t mean I think other people who are a 12 are fat. I just feel out of shape/pudgy in comparison to how I usually see myself.
It''s a shame that women have such issues with their bodies, I will say that. But, it''s difficult for some people to gain the weight during pregnancy, even though they know it''s necessary.
My Mum is a bitty little thing. She wore a 3 in juniors the whole time I was a kid (this was before 0''s and 2''s were readily available for women, so she''d shop in the juniors section). Even now at 51, she wears a 4/5. It used to drive me NUTS when she''d complain that she was getting fat, until I realized that she felt that way because, for her, being a 7 was really big. For her. Not for anyone else.
Anywho, I know it''s hurtful when you think people might be judging you. But they are juding themselves.
((hug))
I''m a curvy, healthy woman. I wear a size 8 (well before I got PG) and I would feel out of shape if I was a 12. That doesn''t mean I think other people who are a 12 are fat. I just feel out of shape/pudgy in comparison to how I usually see myself.
It''s a shame that women have such issues with their bodies, I will say that. But, it''s difficult for some people to gain the weight during pregnancy, even though they know it''s necessary.
My Mum is a bitty little thing. She wore a 3 in juniors the whole time I was a kid (this was before 0''s and 2''s were readily available for women, so she''d shop in the juniors section). Even now at 51, she wears a 4/5. It used to drive me NUTS when she''d complain that she was getting fat, until I realized that she felt that way because, for her, being a 7 was really big. For her. Not for anyone else.
Anywho, I know it''s hurtful when you think people might be judging you. But they are juding themselves.
((hug))
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LL, I get what you were saying. Just wanted to say I was also saying I feel thick instead of pregnant b/c I at that in between stage. I just can''t wait until I have a big belly so it is obvious where strangers are coming up to me and asking my due date rather than just feeling like I put on a few pounds in the tummy area.
Anchor, very sorry to hear about your DH''s grandma.
Anchor, very sorry to hear about your DH''s grandma.
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i got it now LL...no worries. i do equate feeling blobby with gross but it's like saying 'icky' for me (i used gross all the time in daily life hehee)...but yes terminology can be impt.
i just sucked down a coke since i was getting a throbbing headache and had a weird stomachache. strangely enough the soda helps with stuff like that for me. even though, GAH, coke!
QT...thanks sweetie, i know i am excited for a real BUMP bump so it's obvious... but in the meantime i am just waiting. the funny thing is that i got some cute cheap sundresses at target that are so comfy and i don't have to wear a bra, but the way the cut is, it comes straight down from under the boobs which gives you an extra big belly area. great for baby growth but in the meantime i look SUPER preggo since my boobs are huge. i think people at work are like what the heck, did she bloom overnight? the fun thing is that in spain i can wear these and people will think i am just further along! hahaha.
has anyone else had strange nipple pain, but only in one nipple? like a bit itchy but throbbing? it's not horrible or anything just kind of odd. i hope this doesn't mean these things are growing AGAIN. i already feel like a national geographic ad! i went from a B to a D so far. yikes!
i just sucked down a coke since i was getting a throbbing headache and had a weird stomachache. strangely enough the soda helps with stuff like that for me. even though, GAH, coke!
QT...thanks sweetie, i know i am excited for a real BUMP bump so it's obvious... but in the meantime i am just waiting. the funny thing is that i got some cute cheap sundresses at target that are so comfy and i don't have to wear a bra, but the way the cut is, it comes straight down from under the boobs which gives you an extra big belly area. great for baby growth but in the meantime i look SUPER preggo since my boobs are huge. i think people at work are like what the heck, did she bloom overnight? the fun thing is that in spain i can wear these and people will think i am just further along! hahaha.
has anyone else had strange nipple pain, but only in one nipple? like a bit itchy but throbbing? it's not horrible or anything just kind of odd. i hope this doesn't mean these things are growing AGAIN. i already feel like a national geographic ad! i went from a B to a D so far. yikes!
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LL I get what you're saying now!. Sorry! I agree with Mara...it's more like "icky", just not comfortable in your own skin. I think that's what people mean when they say they fell gross, etc. Not that they think a ceratin weight is actually gross.
Mara, not to scare you, but I got a similar feeling and ended up with a skin tag on me nipple!. Seriously, I thought I was growing a third nipple (which would have come in handy for BFing two little ones!)...lol. Anyway, even if that's what it is, do not worry...I have gotten it removed and it never grew into an actual nipple!
QT Thank you!!! I hope I don't have to go to that hospital either!!!
ETA: Phoenix, thanks and good job you too for losing that weight!
I'm glad you and DH made up!...
Mara, not to scare you, but I got a similar feeling and ended up with a skin tag on me nipple!. Seriously, I thought I was growing a third nipple (which would have come in handy for BFing two little ones!)...lol. Anyway, even if that's what it is, do not worry...I have gotten it removed and it never grew into an actual nipple!
QT Thank you!!! I hope I don't have to go to that hospital either!!!
ETA: Phoenix, thanks and good job you too for losing that weight!
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Well, as I made the comment (or rather, my DH did) about the women not being unattractive, just pregnant, I suppose I should respond. I agree that this is a twisted viewpoint and knowing that at least one person has secretly thought that about women he didn''t know were pregnant just makes us all more self-conscious. I actually think my DH has more body issues than I do as he will occasionally complain about his very slight amount of belly fat, and that when you are unhappy seeing something like that on yourself, you notice it on other people too. This is also a man who shaves his legs because all the other cyclists do (and also for easy clean-up after falls and because mud gets stuck to leg hair) and who then thinks that men who ride but don''t shave their legs are weird (not knowing/caring that the rest of the non-riding population thinks he''s the weird one), so you be the judge of whether or not his opinion matters.
If you got from my comment that "being fat is gross or disgusting" then I do apologize, but I think maybe you were referring to a different comment??? (I hope, or else I feel like a real jerk!) I know I also mentioned how my birthing instructor is morbidly obese, and I had qualms about mentioning that and didn''t mention it in my first post about birthing class for that reason, and I have no way of knowing if that was offensive to anyone here to point out. I remember a thread on PS about how weight-discrimination was the last "accepted" form of discrimination, and that really opened my eyes to other viewpoints, so I apologize for going there. I am a big believer in being healthy for *your* body, and that this looks different for each person. One person''s healthy might be 5 sizes bigger than another person''s. I have a friend who competes in Ironman Triathlons (the ones where you run a FULL MARATHON at the end!) but you wouldn''t know it to look at her as she is big boned and has some meat on them. Obviously she is in better shape than I am, and that''s what matters. I admire people like her and my DH who exercise as a passion; I have to force myself to do it for my own good. But I digress . . .
Littlelysser, it was nice of you not to call me out individually. Sorry you had to read a million defenses of feelings as a result! You sound very happy with your body, and I think that''s what matters most.
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I just wanted to add onto what Mara said about the thread for preggos over in Healthier Lifestyle . . . so far Mara, Steph, Burk, and I are the only currently preggo ladies posting there so maybe it has gone unnoticed. My understanding is that this thread is for all general pregnancy concerns, whereas that one is for workout/eating tips (or rambling personal anecdotes) geared towards pregnancy.
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I was concerned (as was my family)that I would feel the same as many of you and really struggle with the weight gain, given that I had an eating disorder for several years and have always struggled with body issues. But I haven''t felt that way at all, despite the fact that I am up 20 lbs at 25 weeks. The numbers on the scale don''t bother me for the first time in my life. I am just letting my body do what it needs to do to grow this little girl as healthy as can be. It is actually a very freeing feeling and I can''t remember the last time I was so carefree about food. Now, I am still eating pretty healthy and working out when I have the energy, but if my body tells me it wants McDonalds or ice cream for dinner, that''s what I have, without a second thought. I am sure my issues will come roaring back once she is born, but I am enjoying it for now.
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I think comments from the ladies that started their pregnancy tiny about how they "feel like a blob" are funny, and understandable. I am not thin by any means so my pregnancy won''t be noticeable for even longer than most of you - I had a tummy to begin with, so I can''t relate. But it IS a bummer to know that maybe people thought I was pregnant, when I wasn''t.
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Hi everyone! I just wanted to check in here and say that I am pregnant! I have been posting infrequently over on the TTC thread since we started trying for our second child last October.
My first pregnancy 3 years ago was accidental & achieved while using barrier contraception, so I had no idea it would be so hard to conceive our second child.
When we started trying for a second, we had tons of problems (I stopped ovulating & having a period & was diagnosed with PCOS). Anyway, I just found out yesterday that I am pregnant after taking my second cycle of Clomid. My due date is scheduled for April 20, 2010.
I am so excited!
My first pregnancy 3 years ago was accidental & achieved while using barrier contraception, so I had no idea it would be so hard to conceive our second child.
When we started trying for a second, we had tons of problems (I stopped ovulating & having a period & was diagnosed with PCOS). Anyway, I just found out yesterday that I am pregnant after taking my second cycle of Clomid. My due date is scheduled for April 20, 2010.
I am so excited!
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LL - i *totally* understand the difference with what you were saying ... it reminds me of the commercials that try and stop people from using the phrase "that''s so gay" when they mean "stupid". it is offensive. totally understood.
mara - girl.. i''m right there with you. i *knew* my boobs were going to change, but i was seriously shocked at how BIG they got in such a short amount of time. it was the total give away to anyone who knew me before i announced i was PG... even my boss (a guy
) noticed. i luuuuvvvved my small bubbies so much (yes, a total steal from nj housewives and i''m not enjoying buying a new bra every 6 weeks or so to accommodate my growing chest. most of the time DH just looks at them in shock and awe like "ummmm, i don''t know what to do with these" heehee hee. i didn''t marry a boob man... i just hope they don''t stay this big after i stop bf... there is a whole different wardrobe i have to wear to make these things not so ''in your face''.
and yes, i''ve had shooting pain in one nipple/boob or the other.. i thought it was b/c i have a cyst in one boob, but my midwife said this is normal and just your boobs getting ready to produce milk etc... i can imagine the pain would be worse if they are growing too.
and i can totally relate to waiting everyday to get a *real* bump... everyone said i would show at 5 months... well, it was 7 months before i actually ''looked'' pg. some days i feel like i''m getting cheated out of a round beautiful bump. maybe that''s why i don''t feel that ''empowered'' or ''beautiful'' with my body. up until this point i just looked, and felt... uncomfortable in my skin.
congrats vespa!!!!!! april babies already??? you know what that means
diamonds baby diamonds
anchor - thinking of you...i couldn''t imagine being in such a highly emotional situation with these extra pg hormones ... ((hugs))
and i know it''s only 8:30 in the morning, but this day can''t go fast enough.. mommy wants her massage
mara - girl.. i''m right there with you. i *knew* my boobs were going to change, but i was seriously shocked at how BIG they got in such a short amount of time. it was the total give away to anyone who knew me before i announced i was PG... even my boss (a guy
and i''m not enjoying buying a new bra every 6 weeks or so to accommodate my growing chest. most of the time DH just looks at them in shock and awe like "ummmm, i don''t know what to do with these" heehee hee. i didn''t marry a boob man... i just hope they don''t stay this big after i stop bf... there is a whole different wardrobe i have to wear to make these things not so ''in your face''. and yes, i''ve had shooting pain in one nipple/boob or the other.. i thought it was b/c i have a cyst in one boob, but my midwife said this is normal and just your boobs getting ready to produce milk etc... i can imagine the pain would be worse if they are growing too.
and i can totally relate to waiting everyday to get a *real* bump... everyone said i would show at 5 months... well, it was 7 months before i actually ''looked'' pg. some days i feel like i''m getting cheated out of a round beautiful bump. maybe that''s why i don''t feel that ''empowered'' or ''beautiful'' with my body. up until this point i just looked, and felt... uncomfortable in my skin.
congrats vespa!!!!!! april babies already??? you know what that means
anchor - thinking of you...i couldn''t imagine being in such a highly emotional situation with these extra pg hormones ... ((hugs))
and i know it''s only 8:30 in the morning, but this day can''t go fast enough.. mommy wants her massage
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Congrats Vesper! So glad that clomid worked for you!
Anyone heard from China???
Re: the bubbies...this was something I was soooo not ready for. Mine were pretty big to begin with (especially since I"m 5''1), and they got HUGE in the first tri and continued to get bigger in second. I didn''t think they could get any bigger, and I definitely got stretch marks on them. In 3rd...well...they sort of deflated...still big, just no longer as full and perky as they had been. I have a feeling that is what I''m going to look like after my milk dries up, and it was pretty depressing. Then, when my milk came in...HOLY COW! Immediately bigger than they ever had been the whole pregnancy!
Anyone heard from China???
Re: the bubbies...this was something I was soooo not ready for. Mine were pretty big to begin with (especially since I"m 5''1), and they got HUGE in the first tri and continued to get bigger in second. I didn''t think they could get any bigger, and I definitely got stretch marks on them. In 3rd...well...they sort of deflated...still big, just no longer as full and perky as they had been. I have a feeling that is what I''m going to look like after my milk dries up, and it was pretty depressing. Then, when my milk came in...HOLY COW! Immediately bigger than they ever had been the whole pregnancy!
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ok sabine, you are *totally* scaring me
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i was at target the other day looking at nursing bras and i had a few in my hand.... well, i decided to call my sister just to check if i should go up a size and she just started laughing at me, "a size? a size? try 3" ... so i put them down and ran away.
maybe that''s why my back hurts
i was at target the other day looking at nursing bras and i had a few in my hand.... well, i decided to call my sister just to check if i should go up a size and she just started laughing at me, "a size? a size? try 3" ... so i put them down and ran away.
maybe that''s why my back hurts
steph72276
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Hey, girls. So I know it''s not Friday, but I turn 15 weeks today so I was taking a picture for my blog so my family could see my belly, and for the first time, I think I actually look pregnant!! I was so excited to see a bump there, I had to share. Any guesses on boy or girl based on my bump?
Sapphire_Cutie
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RE boobies: Well...all I can say about this subject is this: ya know how with underware/clothes EVERY company sizes a bit differantly? Well...I was originally pre-preggo between a bra size of 36B/C. Some styles B fit and others C fit. Shortly after getting PG I was in a 38C I have maintained that sizing til about a week ago (ill be 36 weeks tomorrow) But now its starting to get a bit snug. I now can easily fit into a 38D...BUT my mom had bought me a few nursing bras size 38C...and altho I have outgrown my reg 38C bras...the 38C nursing bras still fit. Go figure lol.
OK...today is my U/S to check Logans growth. Its 11am here and I go at 1pm. Im a lil nervouse yet also excited. I only have a week left til Im Term and wouldn''t mind him comming a bit early as with the heat and my sinuses Ive had a hell of a time with breathing issues lately. Im kinda torn, cuz my OB kinda hinted at my last visit that as long as he''s term.. he doesnt care when I have him (so I may be able to ask for an induction if i choose)
OK...today is my U/S to check Logans growth. Its 11am here and I go at 1pm. Im a lil nervouse yet also excited. I only have a week left til Im Term and wouldn''t mind him comming a bit early as with the heat and my sinuses Ive had a hell of a time with breathing issues lately. Im kinda torn, cuz my OB kinda hinted at my last visit that as long as he''s term.. he doesnt care when I have him (so I may be able to ask for an induction if i choose)
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