Calling all the Pregnant PS''ers
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What you''re saying about night feedings makes sense. My wanting my husband to feed the baby isn''t about night feedings, I plan on being responsible for those, it''s about him being able to spend time with the baby without needing me to be present. I''ll be going back to work part time and he''s going to be in charge, which means he needs to feed the kid. So it''s actually out of necessity, he''s going to have to feed the kid because I won''t always be around to do so.
RPS, I''ve read and been told the exact opposite about when to introduce bottles, which is part of why I find the whole thing so confusing, everyone has a different opinion about what works and/or is best.
RPS, I''ve read and been told the exact opposite about when to introduce bottles, which is part of why I find the whole thing so confusing, everyone has a different opinion about what works and/or is best.
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Hello preggo ladies! I Cannot believe how many PS babies are going to be born here in the next few weeks! Crazy!
Steph~You look tiny and adorable as usual. Seriously I think your 37 week shot is comparable to my 27 week!
MP~You look great!!
QT~Love the collage! So funny how your tank quits fitting the whole belly around week 34!
You''re such a cute preggo!
drk~This is the first belly pic where I actually see a forming belly on you lady!
You look amazing! Sorry you''ve been sick. I just caught a cold and I''m miserable so I can totally relate!!
Lindsey~Good luck with the amnio!
Cello~You look great! Baby dust your way!!
Meresal~Still tiny lady but I can see a bit of a belly there! So cute!
HH~Congrats!!
anchor~Great collage! Hope all is well!
re breastfeeding with bottle feeding. I''m probably in the minority but we introduced a bottle early and DH took the first feed of the night so I could go to bed. For example I would feed Tayva at say 7pm and then go to bed around 8:30 or 9 depending on how tired I was (after I pumped) and then DH would feed a bottle of BM at the 10pm feeding. Worked well for us but you of course have to do what works for you. I also was not comfortable breastfeeding in public (just a personal thing) so I always brought a bottle of BM if we were out and about. I had no supply issues but I can certainly see how my schedule could have caused supply issues.
Okay, gonna go check out the nursery thread (I need to take pics tomorrow and add mine) and then go try and a get a late belly pic added!
Steph~You look tiny and adorable as usual. Seriously I think your 37 week shot is comparable to my 27 week!
MP~You look great!!
QT~Love the collage! So funny how your tank quits fitting the whole belly around week 34!
drk~This is the first belly pic where I actually see a forming belly on you lady!
Lindsey~Good luck with the amnio!
Cello~You look great! Baby dust your way!!
Meresal~Still tiny lady but I can see a bit of a belly there! So cute!
HH~Congrats!!
anchor~Great collage! Hope all is well!
re breastfeeding with bottle feeding. I''m probably in the minority but we introduced a bottle early and DH took the first feed of the night so I could go to bed. For example I would feed Tayva at say 7pm and then go to bed around 8:30 or 9 depending on how tired I was (after I pumped) and then DH would feed a bottle of BM at the 10pm feeding. Worked well for us but you of course have to do what works for you. I also was not comfortable breastfeeding in public (just a personal thing) so I always brought a bottle of BM if we were out and about. I had no supply issues but I can certainly see how my schedule could have caused supply issues.
Okay, gonna go check out the nursery thread (I need to take pics tomorrow and add mine) and then go try and a get a late belly pic added!
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Re: bottle feedings My kids both had bottles introduced basically the first weekend (we had to supplement with formula b/c they were tiny to begin with and lost a lot of weight the first few days) and they breastfed totally fine.
So do what YOU think is right for your kid. The reason everyone has a different opinion is because there isn''t any strong research either way.
So do what YOU think is right for your kid. The reason everyone has a different opinion is because there isn''t any strong research either way.
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You''re so lucky that your DH will be taking care of the baby while you''re working! And your baby is lucky, too!
This situation would be exactly like anyone else who goes to work. If you''ll only be gone for a few hours, you may not need to pump at all during that time -- just feed the baby right before you leave and then when you return. That''s the really easy way! Of course, it''s possible that your baby will decide that he needs to eat before you return, so then your DH can give a bottle that you''ve left. If this happens, you may find that the baby isn''t hungry when you return, so you end up pumping because you''re ready to feed. No big deal, really -- the two of you will find a schedule.
For most people, I''ve always recommended introducing the bottle between 4 and 6 weeks, but for my kids, I generally do it at 3 weeks. I had one baby that I waited until 6 weeks with and she never, ever took an artificial nipple. That was all sorts of frustrating when I left her with her dad one time for 6 hours and she refused to eat!
Some babies will do just fine if you introduce a bottle/pacifier early, but since there''s no guarantee, it''s easier to err on the side of caution when giving advice. You can have one baby that goes back and forth seamlessly between the two from day one, and then another baby who develops a preference for the smaller amount of work needed to drink from a bottle and develops issues with latching.
The biggest reason I suggest waiting is to give you plenty of time to get your supply well established. The first 6 weeks of breastfeeding are hormone driven, but during this time, nursing often will typically ensure that after 6 weeks, you have a good supply. If the baby develops a preference for the bottle early and then you have nursing issues, your supply can be impacted and it can be a lot of work to recover from.
Does that make sense?
Thank you all, too, for letting me go on.
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Someone at work informed me that I was waddling yesterday. I laughed so hard.Date: 1/9/2010 10:31:25 PM
Author: Burk
Thanks! Ah yes, the waddle...I feel myself doing it now and think if I have 4 more weeks of this I don''t know what I''m gonna do!?!
RPS, I and our baby are very lucky to have a husband who wants to be actively involved. It may have something to do with the fact that I informed him when we were decided whether or not to have kids that I would be handing them over and leaving for periods of time very early on as I think it''s important that he develop a relationship with our child/ren independent of me and that it needs to start early.
I''m really going to contemplate this, because I do want it to work for us, and both sets of reasoning have their merits (the complicated part!).
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We went to the zoo today. Walked around for 4 hours or so, with several breaks, and between that and work yesterday I am a bit on the tired side. I totally screwed up my GD diet at lunch, good thing I''m not monitoring blood sugars yet.
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here is my bad iphone photo from this afternoon. there was a better pic, but greg wanted me to use this one because he thought portia laying there in the corner was hilarious...haha. 37 weeks.
re: bottle feedings, add me to the people who know a few people who have been able to do breast and bottle fairly interchangeably from day 2. both of them did pump pretty much every feeding to keep their milk up, and had a pretty good supply. they didn't do it so much for the night feedings but just so that others could feed the baby as well. they would do night feedings on the breast themselves, but the day feedings would be done more by bottle.
also i know that a lot of people say boob is easier since you can take it with you everywhere etc etc but if you can get your kid to be interchangeable it seems so much more valuable than JUST wanting boob. also both of my friends who did both noted that once they got pumping down, they could pump in like 15 min and be done whereas boob was 30-45 minutes. so they felt like they had MORE time by pumping and bottling.
anyway i am just happy there seem to be diff ways that can work for various situations and use whatever works. and we are PLANNING to have greg be pretty involved, i know he definitely wants to be and HE is the one who functions better with a few hours of sleep in him whereas i am like zombie person when woken up. i think he will be the one getting me up more often at least in the beginning until i can adjust more.
kim...i can't believe that you can walk around for 4 hours!! i swear after like an hour of being on my feet at all and i need to just lay down and take a rest.
burk...you look great...!! you do look lower to me now.
speaking of a rest, i took a 2 hour nap today, it was great. tomorrow i have a baby shower for a friend who is due my same date, and then a bday dinner with friends. tonite we went out for a steak dinner, and i was happy to fit a fair amt of wedge salad (blue cheese yum, i am a rebel too RPS!!) and medium new york strip in. i figure it will be our last nice steak dinner for many many weeks.
oh and CG i agree i could not eat well-done..hehe.
re: waddling, yep add me to the list. it's attractive, esp when i have to pee from just getting up from the couch, i do a weird waddle kind of closed leg thing over to the bathroom. greg just laughs.
re: bottle feedings, add me to the people who know a few people who have been able to do breast and bottle fairly interchangeably from day 2. both of them did pump pretty much every feeding to keep their milk up, and had a pretty good supply. they didn't do it so much for the night feedings but just so that others could feed the baby as well. they would do night feedings on the breast themselves, but the day feedings would be done more by bottle.
also i know that a lot of people say boob is easier since you can take it with you everywhere etc etc but if you can get your kid to be interchangeable it seems so much more valuable than JUST wanting boob. also both of my friends who did both noted that once they got pumping down, they could pump in like 15 min and be done whereas boob was 30-45 minutes. so they felt like they had MORE time by pumping and bottling.
anyway i am just happy there seem to be diff ways that can work for various situations and use whatever works. and we are PLANNING to have greg be pretty involved, i know he definitely wants to be and HE is the one who functions better with a few hours of sleep in him whereas i am like zombie person when woken up. i think he will be the one getting me up more often at least in the beginning until i can adjust more.
kim...i can't believe that you can walk around for 4 hours!! i swear after like an hour of being on my feet at all and i need to just lay down and take a rest.
burk...you look great...!! you do look lower to me now.
speaking of a rest, i took a 2 hour nap today, it was great. tomorrow i have a baby shower for a friend who is due my same date, and then a bday dinner with friends. tonite we went out for a steak dinner, and i was happy to fit a fair amt of wedge salad (blue cheese yum, i am a rebel too RPS!!) and medium new york strip in. i figure it will be our last nice steak dinner for many many weeks.
re: waddling, yep add me to the list. it's attractive, esp when i have to pee from just getting up from the couch, i do a weird waddle kind of closed leg thing over to the bathroom. greg just laughs.
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I totally agree that it''s important for your DH to develop a relationship with the kids independent of you! It sounds like he''s really, really excited! I love when Dads are like that.Date: 1/9/2010 11:13:45 PM
Author: KimberlyH
RPS, I and our baby are very lucky to have a husband who wants to be actively involved. It may have something to do with the fact that I informed him when we were decided whether or not to have kids that I would be handing them over and leaving for periods of time very early on as I think it''s important that he develop a relationship with our child/ren independent of me and that it needs to start early.Honestly, he is an amazing partner and is so looking forward to being a dad. He tells me all the time where he plans to take her and what he wants to do with her and says if I''m lucky I''ll be invited along, sometimes. I took my job because my schedule is totally up to me, so we can work around one another and not need daycare. He is very understanding of how torn I feel between wanting to be at home and needing the satistfaction I get from work (I absolutely love what I do).
I understand feeling torn. I''ve done both the working mom thing and the SAHM thing and for me, being a working mom makes me happier, albeit a little more crazy.
It''s really awesome when Dad can take over for you and you don''t have to stress. I travel for work, usually 3-4 days once a month, so SO is on 100% parent duty. It has been so good for him and for our son! The first time I left, I did stress a little bit, but everything was fine. Since then, I know that SO actually looks forward to my trips so he and Will can have their guy time. It''ll be interesting to see what happens when SO has two little boys to look after.
Trust me, you''ll figure out the right combo of breast/bottle feeding. There''s plenty of flexibility and I''ve seen women do all sorts of combos! I don''t mean to make it sound more restrictive than it is because I don''t really think of it that way -- I think if you get breastfeeding off to a good start, after that, you have tons of options and you can even change it up from time to time. Your body will adapt and your baby will adapt!
As for waddling...I''m not even going to go there. LOL! With my 3rd, I was seeing a chiropractor and he did help with my hips -- I didn''t waddle at all, even when I was 10 days overdue. I haven''t seen a chiropractor this time, so...
Mara, OMG, now you have me thinking about wedge salads!! YUM!!
I totally agree that it''s easiest having your kids be interchangable between breast and bottle. My 4th, the one that would not take a bottle, was a pain. I was a SAHM with her, so it wasn''t a huge deal, but it was pretty restrictive. We didn''t go out as a couple at all, so it wasn''t as if I needed to have anyone else feed her, but I also was never able to get out by myself. Plus, she would scream in her carseat instead of falling asleep like the other kids did, so taking her anywhere was really stressful. Poor kid -- I make her sound like she was an awful baby! The funny thing is that now that she''s 9, she''s still pretty high strung. I should have known back then so I could lay in my supply of Valium.
Your pic looks cute! I love the way your dog is looking at you!
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My husband has never been around a newborn, so there will definitely be a period of adjustment, but I think after a few weeks he''ll be just fine. I remember when my nephew was tiny I needed to hand him over for a minute so I dropped him in my husband''s lap, the stunned look on his face was hysterical. You''d think I''d handed him a ticking time bomb and told him not to drop it.Date: 1/10/2010 9:35:38 AM
Author: rockpaperscissors67
I totally agree that it''s important for your DH to develop a relationship with the kids independent of you! It sounds like he''s really, really excited! I love when Dads are like that.Date: 1/9/2010 11:13:45 PM
Author: KimberlyH
RPS, I and our baby are very lucky to have a husband who wants to be actively involved. It may have something to do with the fact that I informed him when we were decided whether or not to have kids that I would be handing them over and leaving for periods of time very early on as I think it''s important that he develop a relationship with our child/ren independent of me and that it needs to start early.Honestly, he is an amazing partner and is so looking forward to being a dad. He tells me all the time where he plans to take her and what he wants to do with her and says if I''m lucky I''ll be invited along, sometimes. I took my job because my schedule is totally up to me, so we can work around one another and not need daycare. He is very understanding of how torn I feel between wanting to be at home and needing the satistfaction I get from work (I absolutely love what I do).
I understand feeling torn. I''ve done both the working mom thing and the SAHM thing and for me, being a working mom makes me happier, albeit a little more crazy.My mom worked the whole time I was growing up, so I think that has a lot to do with it. There are a lot of SAHMs out there that do a fantastic job -- I wasn''t one of them. I don''t think anyone can say that one is better than the other; it seems to be more important to figure out what''s best for YOU.
It''s really awesome when Dad can take over for you and you don''t have to stress. I travel for work, usually 3-4 days once a month, so SO is on 100% parent duty. It has been so good for him and for our son! The first time I left, I did stress a little bit, but everything was fine. Since then, I know that SO actually looks forward to my trips so he and Will can have their guy time. It''ll be interesting to see what happens when SO has two little boys to look after.
Trust me, you''ll figure out the right combo of breast/bottle feeding. There''s plenty of flexibility and I''ve seen women do all sorts of combos! I don''t mean to make it sound more restrictive than it is because I don''t really think of it that way -- I think if you get breastfeeding off to a good start, after that, you have tons of options and you can even change it up from time to time. Your body will adapt and your baby will adapt!
The above highlighted is how I feel about breastfeeding. Everyone has different circumstances and a lot of things to be factored in to whether it''s the right choice for their family. I''m lucky that I have a choice about how much and when I work, it gives me a lot of flexibility that not everyone has. And I also think it''s okay to just decide it''s not something you''re interested it doing. In my mind the ultimate goal is to make sure the baby is fed and healthy.
Mara, I''m telling you the walking is all about work. I am on my feet constantly, so it''s normal for me. I hear you about "PLANNING" involvement. I said I''m leaving the house because I want John to take care of the kiddo without my interference. He''s more than capable and there''s no one right way to do things but but I have a tendency to take over, thinking I''m helping, when in fact I''m just butting in. So I''ll be working on just standing back and letting him work things out unless he comes to me and asks for my help or opinion and not jumping in when he''s taking the initiative to do something related to the baby.
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Re: dad bottle feeding at night. DH was great with nighttime feedings for JT. Of course I woke up and my sleep was broken. But, JT had to finger feed for a while and it took an hour to feed him. Even after he could latch on to the bottle, he still took a long time to eat because he was so urpy. DH worked second shift and got home and showered by 1 am. JT would wake up by 2 am and DH would feed him and I''d go right back to sleep. So, I actually got 5-6 straight hours of sleep every night. That was a blessing!!! DH really enjoyed his time with the baby. He said it was very relaxing to come home and hold and feed the baby. I had really wanted to breastfeed and it didn''t work. But, I definitely don''t regret going with the bottle. Post partum hit me hard with JT and if I wasn''t getting any sleep I can''t imagine how much worse it would have been. We have the same plan with this baby. I will try to breastfeed but I intend on pumping so DH can give one bottle at night. He works second shift at another place and will be home and showered by 3am so I''ll try to get the baby to have one of the feedings around that time.
RE: working moms. You have to do what makes you happy. I love staying home and honestly wouldn''t be able to get everything that I want done if I was also working. I like/want to make full meals every night. I like/want to have learning time with JT every day. I like/want to have physical activities with JT every day. If I wasn''t able to do those things, I''d feel like I was lacking. I have a friend who NEEDS to work to keep her sanity. She''s a better mom when she has some time away from the kids. Neither is right or wrong, it''s just what works best for your family. And, there''s no guilt like mom guilt, so either way you''re going to have days when you feel like you should have chosen the other.
Rock~ I have a couple questions about going to the chiropractor while pregnant. With JT I got terrible hip pain and apparently he misaligned by pubic bone. I haven''t completely recovered from either even when I wasn''t pregnant. When I woke in the middle of the night, I waddled because my hips were so off and I couldn''t do much horseback riding because my pubic bone would kill me. What adjustments were possible while you were preggo? How often? Did you have to be referred by your ob? Any other thoughts?? TIA.
I''m still waiting for DH to take down the Christmas lights outside. I put them up (I was pregnant but didn''t know yet) because he''s afraid of heights. He won''t let me take them down but hasn''t built up his own courage yet. Last time he got on the roof was over the summer. He got "stuck" up there for 2 hours because he couldn''t get back down the ladder. lol.
I''m so happy to be officially in the second tri, it''s like I can breathe easier already.
RE: working moms. You have to do what makes you happy. I love staying home and honestly wouldn''t be able to get everything that I want done if I was also working. I like/want to make full meals every night. I like/want to have learning time with JT every day. I like/want to have physical activities with JT every day. If I wasn''t able to do those things, I''d feel like I was lacking. I have a friend who NEEDS to work to keep her sanity. She''s a better mom when she has some time away from the kids. Neither is right or wrong, it''s just what works best for your family. And, there''s no guilt like mom guilt, so either way you''re going to have days when you feel like you should have chosen the other.
Rock~ I have a couple questions about going to the chiropractor while pregnant. With JT I got terrible hip pain and apparently he misaligned by pubic bone. I haven''t completely recovered from either even when I wasn''t pregnant. When I woke in the middle of the night, I waddled because my hips were so off and I couldn''t do much horseback riding because my pubic bone would kill me. What adjustments were possible while you were preggo? How often? Did you have to be referred by your ob? Any other thoughts?? TIA.
I''m still waiting for DH to take down the Christmas lights outside. I put them up (I was pregnant but didn''t know yet) because he''s afraid of heights. He won''t let me take them down but hasn''t built up his own courage yet. Last time he got on the roof was over the summer. He got "stuck" up there for 2 hours because he couldn''t get back down the ladder. lol.
I''m so happy to be officially in the second tri, it''s like I can breathe easier already.
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SS, your Christmas light story has me giggling. DH and I bought our first house earlier this year. He''s not so handy so my brother does most of the work around our house...he loves to do it and accepts payment in the form of food 
Anyway, DH decide hanging the lights was going to be HIS project. I was so scared that he would fall that I had to leave the house for the day! When he took them down I was just as worried.
Anyway, DH decide hanging the lights was going to be HIS project. I was so scared that he would fall that I had to leave the house for the day! When he took them down I was just as worried.
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Warning "Me-centirc post"... I don't think I have much to add to the Dad bottle thing at night. I'm still worried that the minute the baby takes a bottle he will never want the boob again.
Update:
I definitely pulled a muscle, but it must be waaaaay inside, because it doesn't hurt when touched. I think it might be something that is actually connected to my pelvis.
It hurts so bad. Anytime I take a step with my left leg, I want to collapse. It is definitely its' worst the first thing in the morning though... it took me 5 minutes to roll over and sit up, and then another 2 or 3 just to get onto my feet
Pupp- Are you doing any better.
Update:
I definitely pulled a muscle, but it must be waaaaay inside, because it doesn't hurt when touched. I think it might be something that is actually connected to my pelvis.
It hurts so bad. Anytime I take a step with my left leg, I want to collapse. It is definitely its' worst the first thing in the morning though... it took me 5 minutes to roll over and sit up, and then another 2 or 3 just to get onto my feet
Pupp- Are you doing any better.
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mere~ Sorry to hear about your pulled muscle. I don''t have any ideas to help ease the pain except warm baths with epsom salts. Hope you get some relief.
puppmom~ lol to having to leave during the decorating/undecorating! I left when DH was on the roof, that''s why he was stuck up there for so long! If I''d been home I could have talked him down.
puppmom~ lol to having to leave during the decorating/undecorating! I left when DH was on the roof, that''s why he was stuck up there for so long! If I''d been home I could have talked him down.
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Mere, ouch! That stinks. I hope you feel better soon. No pulled muscles for me...because I''ve been doing nothing but sitting on my butt!
Thanks for asking about me - I''m feeling better. I have my moments. I still worry like crazy but have come to the realization that I have no control over what happens so I''ve settled down a bit. I''m 10 weeks today and have an OB appointment tomorrow. I REALLY hope that we can hear the heartbeat. From what I''m reading, it may be a bit early
Thanks for asking about me - I''m feeling better. I have my moments. I still worry like crazy but have come to the realization that I have no control over what happens so I''ve settled down a bit. I''m 10 weeks today and have an OB appointment tomorrow. I REALLY hope that we can hear the heartbeat. From what I''m reading, it may be a bit early
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Kim, you hit on something that''s important but really hard to do. New moms sometimes hover over Dad when he has the baby, saying, "Do this...no, do it this way..." OMG it''s really, really hard to NOT do it!
Sometimes you have to bite your tongue, walk away and leave them to their own devices. The baby will be ok if Dad doesn''t do everything 100% right.
I would have loved to see the look on his face when you gave him your nephew! I still get kind of scared holding newborns until I get used to it.
SS, see, you''re one of the people that does the SAHM gig well and makes it look so tempting for everyone else!!
As for the chiropractor, I started going during my pregnancy because I was in a car accident. I don''t believe I needed a referral from my OB, but if I remember right, he was fine with me going. The chiro had to spent a lot of time on my neck and shoulders due to the accident, and then he would have me lie on each side and adjust my hips. I remember wondering how he could be so aggressive, but he assured me it was safe. Sometimes the adjustments were not pleasant but afterwards, I would feel like a new person. I don''t know if that''s very much help, unfortunately. It''s been 14 years so my memory is a bit fuzzy. I do remember that it was heaven to be able to lie face down on the table and that was the only pregnancy were I didn''t waddle!
Mere, I''m so sorry that you pulled a muscle. It sounds painful as anything -- I hope with some rest, it gets better quickly!
I''m having one of *those* days. My 3 year old had me up early so I didn''t sleep enough last night. I took a long nap, which was really good, but the kids keep arguing and it''s working on my nerves. It''s too cold here to send them outside. I''d consider going off to the mall or something, but I''ve hit that stage where I don''t want to go anywhere unless I absolutely have to. Thinking about living like this for another 3-4 weeks is really depressing. Bleh.
I would have loved to see the look on his face when you gave him your nephew! I still get kind of scared holding newborns until I get used to it.
SS, see, you''re one of the people that does the SAHM gig well and makes it look so tempting for everyone else!!
As for the chiropractor, I started going during my pregnancy because I was in a car accident. I don''t believe I needed a referral from my OB, but if I remember right, he was fine with me going. The chiro had to spent a lot of time on my neck and shoulders due to the accident, and then he would have me lie on each side and adjust my hips. I remember wondering how he could be so aggressive, but he assured me it was safe. Sometimes the adjustments were not pleasant but afterwards, I would feel like a new person. I don''t know if that''s very much help, unfortunately. It''s been 14 years so my memory is a bit fuzzy. I do remember that it was heaven to be able to lie face down on the table and that was the only pregnancy were I didn''t waddle!
Mere, I''m so sorry that you pulled a muscle. It sounds painful as anything -- I hope with some rest, it gets better quickly!
I''m having one of *those* days. My 3 year old had me up early so I didn''t sleep enough last night. I took a long nap, which was really good, but the kids keep arguing and it''s working on my nerves. It''s too cold here to send them outside. I''d consider going off to the mall or something, but I''ve hit that stage where I don''t want to go anywhere unless I absolutely have to. Thinking about living like this for another 3-4 weeks is really depressing. Bleh.
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Date: 1/10/2010 2:16:01 PM
Author: meresal
Warning ''Me-centirc post''... I don''t think I have much to add to the Dad bottle thing at night. I''m still worried that the minute the baby takes a bottle he will never want the boob again.
Update:
I definitely pulled a muscle, but it must be waaaaay inside, because it doesn''t hurt when touched. I think it might be something that is actually connected to my pelvis.
It hurts so bad. Anytime I take a step with my left leg, I want to collapse. It is definitely its'' worst the first thing in the morning though... it took me 5 minutes to roll over and sit up, and then another 2 or 3 just to get onto my feet
Pupp- Are you doing any better.
Meresal, could it be "round ligament" pain? I woke up in the middle of the night wondering if my right leg had been cut off. Well, it is still here, but goodness gracious it is an internal pain, muscular where the leg connects, but weirdly not like a normal pull/strain. Does that sound like what you have? or are did you do something that you can point to as a pull cause? I am curious b/c I did 45min on the elliptical yesterday, but had no probs after that...swimming this morning didn''t hurt, but sitting, standing, anything on land that isn''t horizontal is not so comfortable. I am going to ask my ob about this at swim practice tomorrow am. poor woman can''t escape me. Good luck Meresal, it is just the weirdest feeling.
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Hey ladies! I think someone asked about Henry''s homebirth. Here''s the story for anyone that wants to read it.
Backstory
Mark arrived home on leave Christmas morning. That night we ''baby danced'' twice hoping it would put me into labor. I did get contractions ranging from 3-5 minutes apart for about three hours, but there was no change in dilation or effacement. I was still 4-5 cm and 80% effaced. My midwife did say my cervix moved more anterior and wasn''t off to the side as it was before. So some progress, but not labor or anything.
The 26th was the day we had long planned on inducing me. This was the day my midwife and I talked about getting things going as Mark was due to arrive on Christmas and I was ready for this journey to be over. I finally wanted to have my rainbow baby. We got up the morning of the 26th prepared for a long day ahead of us. We knew with induction it could take time. The girls were already at my mom''s house, but we decided to get them to give her a break. I spoke to my midwife about our plans. The methods of induction included castor oil and herbs. We figured we''d start with the castor oil first since it''s known to work within 2-4 hours. This is what we were hoping for anyway. I took my first dose of castor oil at 1:30 p.m. It was a CO concoction I bought awhile back that had other stuff in it (blue cohosh and clove and lemon EO). Thinking it would kick in within 2-4 hours we filled up the birth pool. The girls were getting very excited. It still didn''t see real to me or Mark.
My midwife arrived a little after 2:00 p.m. After a few hours of waiting for the CO to take effect we decided to go for a walk around the apt. complex. The girls were getting restless and we were hoping walking would help with getting my bowels moving. I took two doses of CO total. We hoped the second would take effect. The first dose was utterly disgusting. I took it in V8 juice. Gross. The clove and other stuff didn''t help, either. The second dose was better because I mixed it with rocky road ice cream. Much better. My midwife was confident this time it would work. All this time had passed and we were beginning to think I was an anomaly. No bathroom trips at all 6 hours after the first dose and 2 hours after the second. Time for herbs. We alternated between black and blue cohosh. I believe I took 4 doses total inside of two hours. During this whole time I was getting contractions, but they weren''t active labor contractions. No change in cervix. They weren''t very strong or anything. Maybe just warm up contractions. We spent a good amount of time watching TV to kill time. The girls started getting restless so I had Mark take them to my mom''s. We had planned to call her as soon as we knew I was in labor.
The good stuff
We were beginning to think the CO would never take effect or if it did it would be after the birth. 8 hours after the first dose I found myself taking a trip to the bathroom. Finally! I think I took about four trips to the bathroom. I would get contractions during the BMs. I felt cleaned out. Contractions started coming here and there around 10:50p.m. Whenever I did get them they felt productive, but nothing to write home about. I''d get a few that were 3-4 minutes apart and then they''d go away. My midwife checked me around 11:00p.m. and said I was 6 cm. My guess is from me sitting and rocking on the loo during all those trips to the bathroom. For my FaceBook buddies you will know this was around the time I updated my status. I took my laptop to the bathroom with me so I could rock on the toilet. It seemed to help. I''m told it helps bring the baby down. I''m not sure at what point I came back into the living room, but I went to get a drink and my midwife and her intern looked at me wondering what was up. My midwife asked if I was having contractions and I told her I was. I was in the middle of one when I was in the kitchen. Apparently I''m one of the quiet ones. I go on about my business as usual during labor. From my end I wasn''t technically in ''labor'' so it was completely normal for me to act as if nothing was going on.
With the news that things were progressing I decided to call my mom to let her know. I was in the girls'' room when I was talking to her on the phone. I had about three contractions during our phone conversation. I would just keep swaying and circling my hips. At some point during our conversation I felt something leaking. I felt to see what it was. I thought it was fluid, but no, it was blood. I didn''t really think anything at that point. Just walked back into the living room and showed my midwife the blood on my fingers. They laid me on the bed to check his heart tones and all was good. Heartbeat in the 140''s. She checked my cervix and it was a stretchy 6 cm. It was swollen and puffy in the front, which was the cause of bleeding. A lot of pressure on the cervix can cause it to swell, which she thinks was from me sitting on the toilet. I was still talking to my mom on the phone when they were checking me.
As soon as I got off the phone they had me lay on my left side to relieve pressure on my cervix. The next contraction I had was intense. Lying down made contractions worse. The one after I felt some pressure. I was clinching my sheets with the next contraction. That pressure was intense. The thought of getting into the birth pool came to mind, but there was no way I was moving. The contractions seemed like they were coming back to back. I told my midwife I was feeling pressure and she said not to push yet because my cervix wasn''t ready. I felt like I had to hold him in. With the next contraction I propped myself up a little and said, "He''s coming!" She rushed over and could see his head was already out and my legs were still partially closed. I reached down to feel his head while trembling and shaking. I was in such shock that I didn''t know what to think. Holy hell! How could his head be out when 5 minutes before I was still 6 cm? I was *just* on the phone with my mom! She quickly moved my right leg back and he just shot out. I''m not sure if my membranes ruptured when his head came out or when his body shot out. My midwife caught him and put him on my chest. He was born at 11:51p.m after 15 minutes of real, no bullshit labor. Labor where I just knew things had started and wouldn''t let up or fizzle out.
Mark said he called my mom as soon as I said "pressure." He was born right after he hung up the phone. During this short period of time Mark was just standing there looking completely shocked and stunned. I think we all were. We all know I have fast labors and births, but hell, that was crazy. I was in such shock after he was born I didn''t know what to think. I felt him move and heard him cry and breathed a sigh of relief knowing he was alive, but my mind was racing with thoughts of "What the hell just happened?!" After I was able to take it all in I looked him over. I thought he looked more like 7 pounds than 9, but my midwife said he looked 9 lbs. His head was 14 inches. With the very precipitous birth I was left with a skid mark, labial split and small tear. No sutures were needed.
It was a crazy experience, but a good one. There was a huge mess. Blood and fluid everywhere. All over my sheets and mattress and floor next to the bed. My poor down comforter. Fluid went flying when my membranes ruptured. Good thing we had hydrogen peroxide to get the blood out. Hopefully next time I''ll get to have a waterbirth. No mess! I was just never sure when to get in the pool because my contractions did not start until an hour before his birth and didn''t get noticeably stronger until maybe 15 minutes before his birth. No video or pictures of his birth. They were charged and ready, but there was no time to do really anything. Things progressed too quickly.
I''m so happy he''s with us now. Feels like I''ve waited so long for this. My arms are no longer empty. He''s real. He''s here. Finally! I love looking at him and smelling him. Oh how I missed that smell. He''s so lovely and sweet.
Backstory
Mark arrived home on leave Christmas morning. That night we ''baby danced'' twice hoping it would put me into labor. I did get contractions ranging from 3-5 minutes apart for about three hours, but there was no change in dilation or effacement. I was still 4-5 cm and 80% effaced. My midwife did say my cervix moved more anterior and wasn''t off to the side as it was before. So some progress, but not labor or anything.
The 26th was the day we had long planned on inducing me. This was the day my midwife and I talked about getting things going as Mark was due to arrive on Christmas and I was ready for this journey to be over. I finally wanted to have my rainbow baby. We got up the morning of the 26th prepared for a long day ahead of us. We knew with induction it could take time. The girls were already at my mom''s house, but we decided to get them to give her a break. I spoke to my midwife about our plans. The methods of induction included castor oil and herbs. We figured we''d start with the castor oil first since it''s known to work within 2-4 hours. This is what we were hoping for anyway. I took my first dose of castor oil at 1:30 p.m. It was a CO concoction I bought awhile back that had other stuff in it (blue cohosh and clove and lemon EO). Thinking it would kick in within 2-4 hours we filled up the birth pool. The girls were getting very excited. It still didn''t see real to me or Mark.
My midwife arrived a little after 2:00 p.m. After a few hours of waiting for the CO to take effect we decided to go for a walk around the apt. complex. The girls were getting restless and we were hoping walking would help with getting my bowels moving. I took two doses of CO total. We hoped the second would take effect. The first dose was utterly disgusting. I took it in V8 juice. Gross. The clove and other stuff didn''t help, either. The second dose was better because I mixed it with rocky road ice cream. Much better. My midwife was confident this time it would work. All this time had passed and we were beginning to think I was an anomaly. No bathroom trips at all 6 hours after the first dose and 2 hours after the second. Time for herbs. We alternated between black and blue cohosh. I believe I took 4 doses total inside of two hours. During this whole time I was getting contractions, but they weren''t active labor contractions. No change in cervix. They weren''t very strong or anything. Maybe just warm up contractions. We spent a good amount of time watching TV to kill time. The girls started getting restless so I had Mark take them to my mom''s. We had planned to call her as soon as we knew I was in labor.
The good stuff
We were beginning to think the CO would never take effect or if it did it would be after the birth. 8 hours after the first dose I found myself taking a trip to the bathroom. Finally! I think I took about four trips to the bathroom. I would get contractions during the BMs. I felt cleaned out. Contractions started coming here and there around 10:50p.m. Whenever I did get them they felt productive, but nothing to write home about. I''d get a few that were 3-4 minutes apart and then they''d go away. My midwife checked me around 11:00p.m. and said I was 6 cm. My guess is from me sitting and rocking on the loo during all those trips to the bathroom. For my FaceBook buddies you will know this was around the time I updated my status. I took my laptop to the bathroom with me so I could rock on the toilet. It seemed to help. I''m told it helps bring the baby down. I''m not sure at what point I came back into the living room, but I went to get a drink and my midwife and her intern looked at me wondering what was up. My midwife asked if I was having contractions and I told her I was. I was in the middle of one when I was in the kitchen. Apparently I''m one of the quiet ones. I go on about my business as usual during labor. From my end I wasn''t technically in ''labor'' so it was completely normal for me to act as if nothing was going on.
With the news that things were progressing I decided to call my mom to let her know. I was in the girls'' room when I was talking to her on the phone. I had about three contractions during our phone conversation. I would just keep swaying and circling my hips. At some point during our conversation I felt something leaking. I felt to see what it was. I thought it was fluid, but no, it was blood. I didn''t really think anything at that point. Just walked back into the living room and showed my midwife the blood on my fingers. They laid me on the bed to check his heart tones and all was good. Heartbeat in the 140''s. She checked my cervix and it was a stretchy 6 cm. It was swollen and puffy in the front, which was the cause of bleeding. A lot of pressure on the cervix can cause it to swell, which she thinks was from me sitting on the toilet. I was still talking to my mom on the phone when they were checking me.
As soon as I got off the phone they had me lay on my left side to relieve pressure on my cervix. The next contraction I had was intense. Lying down made contractions worse. The one after I felt some pressure. I was clinching my sheets with the next contraction. That pressure was intense. The thought of getting into the birth pool came to mind, but there was no way I was moving. The contractions seemed like they were coming back to back. I told my midwife I was feeling pressure and she said not to push yet because my cervix wasn''t ready. I felt like I had to hold him in. With the next contraction I propped myself up a little and said, "He''s coming!" She rushed over and could see his head was already out and my legs were still partially closed. I reached down to feel his head while trembling and shaking. I was in such shock that I didn''t know what to think. Holy hell! How could his head be out when 5 minutes before I was still 6 cm? I was *just* on the phone with my mom! She quickly moved my right leg back and he just shot out. I''m not sure if my membranes ruptured when his head came out or when his body shot out. My midwife caught him and put him on my chest. He was born at 11:51p.m after 15 minutes of real, no bullshit labor. Labor where I just knew things had started and wouldn''t let up or fizzle out.
Mark said he called my mom as soon as I said "pressure." He was born right after he hung up the phone. During this short period of time Mark was just standing there looking completely shocked and stunned. I think we all were. We all know I have fast labors and births, but hell, that was crazy. I was in such shock after he was born I didn''t know what to think. I felt him move and heard him cry and breathed a sigh of relief knowing he was alive, but my mind was racing with thoughts of "What the hell just happened?!" After I was able to take it all in I looked him over. I thought he looked more like 7 pounds than 9, but my midwife said he looked 9 lbs. His head was 14 inches. With the very precipitous birth I was left with a skid mark, labial split and small tear. No sutures were needed.
It was a crazy experience, but a good one. There was a huge mess. Blood and fluid everywhere. All over my sheets and mattress and floor next to the bed. My poor down comforter. Fluid went flying when my membranes ruptured. Good thing we had hydrogen peroxide to get the blood out. Hopefully next time I''ll get to have a waterbirth. No mess! I was just never sure when to get in the pool because my contractions did not start until an hour before his birth and didn''t get noticeably stronger until maybe 15 minutes before his birth. No video or pictures of his birth. They were charged and ready, but there was no time to do really anything. Things progressed too quickly.
I''m so happy he''s with us now. Feels like I''ve waited so long for this. My arms are no longer empty. He''s real. He''s here. Finally! I love looking at him and smelling him. Oh how I missed that smell. He''s so lovely and sweet.
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Ah, "right" like ours is the only correct way/ Exactly what we''re speaking to, huh RPS?Date: 1/10/2010 3:19:32 PM
Author: rockpaperscissors67
Kim, you hit on something that''s important but really hard to do. New moms sometimes hover over Dad when he has the baby, saying, ''Do this...no, do it this way...'' OMG it''s really, really hard to NOT do it!Sometimes you have to bite your tongue, walk away and leave them to their own devices. The baby will be ok if Dad doesn''t do everything 100% right.
I would have loved to see the look on his face when you gave him your nephew! I still get kind of scared holding newborns until I get used to it.
The look on his face was priceless. My mom rescued him after a few minutes. Poor guy. He already thinks our baby is breakable, so I''m sure he''ll be handling her much like glass in the beginning.
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Waxing, THANK YOU for posting your story! I really love how much detail you were able to capture -- it sounds like an amazing birth experience. Your taking your laptop to the bathroom with you cracked me up because it sounds like something I would do. I find it kind of ironic to be making use of technology while having a very low-tech birth.
My mw has some sort of castor oil concoction that she uses if you go too far over due. It includes almond paste and champagne, and supposedly the trips to the bathroom aren''t as bad as castor oil by itself. I didn''t need to use it the last time -- I think the threat of it was enough to put me into labor.
Congrats again on Henry''s birth! I hope as he gets older, you''ll share the story of his birth with him because it''s a heck of a tale!
Kim, really, our way is the only right way!
No, I''m just kidding. I wish there were only one way to raise babies and that info was in a book somewhere. It would make everything so much easier! I think part of the reason why SO and our son are so close is that I gave SO lots of chances to do things his way. The two of them are soooo cute together now. In our case, this was especially important because SO''s ex insisted that everything be done her way so SO was very unsure of himself, even after 3 kids. Sad.
Aw, your poor DH! I''m sure it won''t take him long to figure out how tough your little one will be.
My mw has some sort of castor oil concoction that she uses if you go too far over due. It includes almond paste and champagne, and supposedly the trips to the bathroom aren''t as bad as castor oil by itself. I didn''t need to use it the last time -- I think the threat of it was enough to put me into labor.
Congrats again on Henry''s birth! I hope as he gets older, you''ll share the story of his birth with him because it''s a heck of a tale!
Kim, really, our way is the only right way!
Aw, your poor DH! I''m sure it won''t take him long to figure out how tough your little one will be.
Mara
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pupp....you should hear HB at 10 weeks i would think. most things i read said you should hear it by week 8-9...i also don't know how long the Dr's try to find it before they say 'oh next time' though...i remember Monkey Pie's mw couldn't find it easily til around 12-13 weeks?
mere...sorry to hear you pulled something... i think i mentioned that happened to me when i was rolling pie dough for thanksgiving. it took a few days to stop hurting quite so badly but i just took it really easy. i remember reading that our bodies secrete a hormone while pregnant called relaxin that makes your muscles relax to stretch more easily, aka for uterus and ligaments, but the downer is that you can pull other muscles more easily. kind of like gumby i guess. heating pad might help?
re: PAIN...the other thing i wanted to mention is that what you are talking about almost sounds like sciatic pain. have you read about that?? my friend had it really badly around 13-15 weeks for about 5-6 weeks. i didn't get mine til 3rd trimester but sometimes just moving my leg causes excruciating pain. it is in my right leg and goes up my thigh and into my butt and under my hip almost. it is like stabbing sharp pains and i do get it sometimes when i walk.
so here is a bit of a bitch and moan session, today has been really hard for me. i slept horribly last nite because snake child would not stop moving around. he kicked me in the ribs a few times at night and woke me up. squirming, and managing to get some velocity going on the rib. my rib was really sore this morning and i was crabby. really crabby. some days it just seems like i can go for another week, two weeks, three weeks, ok. other days it's like are you serious??? i need to be sedated. when i was showering this morning i almost felt like crying from the irritation of it all. i'm tired of feeling like a combo of a 80 year old woman and a beached whale. tired of not being able to bend over. tired of this growth resting right under my esophagus. tired of persistent heartburn. tired of him kicking my rib, squirming under my boobs, bouncing on my cervix. UGH!!!!!! i really was not loving him at all this morning. greg reminds me that it's not really HIM and he's not doing it on PURPOSE but it doesn't make it easier mentally when you are just tired of it all. i hate hate hate my short torso.
anyway i went to my friend's baby shower today who is due the same day as me, and she was also not feeling super great. but i was glad i went and had a good time and i felt a lot better getting out. i also went to this friend's bday dinner that i thought i wouldn't want to go to. so overall i am glad i went out today instead of just laying at home and moping like i wanted to. but i really hope that i sleep well tonite and he gives me a slower day tomorrow. my rib is really sore.
hope everyone else is doing well...this is my last week of work and i am so excited to get it over with so i dont have to shower and drive into work every day...honestly driving is even a chore now with having to sit up and drive the manual.
oh and rps i was reading about labor inducements and castor oil sounded horrible hahaha...!! i was like do i want to even attempt that? hehee. i think i will try pineapple, walking, sex, accupressure and lets see.
mere...sorry to hear you pulled something... i think i mentioned that happened to me when i was rolling pie dough for thanksgiving. it took a few days to stop hurting quite so badly but i just took it really easy. i remember reading that our bodies secrete a hormone while pregnant called relaxin that makes your muscles relax to stretch more easily, aka for uterus and ligaments, but the downer is that you can pull other muscles more easily. kind of like gumby i guess. heating pad might help?
re: PAIN...the other thing i wanted to mention is that what you are talking about almost sounds like sciatic pain. have you read about that?? my friend had it really badly around 13-15 weeks for about 5-6 weeks. i didn't get mine til 3rd trimester but sometimes just moving my leg causes excruciating pain. it is in my right leg and goes up my thigh and into my butt and under my hip almost. it is like stabbing sharp pains and i do get it sometimes when i walk.
so here is a bit of a bitch and moan session, today has been really hard for me. i slept horribly last nite because snake child would not stop moving around. he kicked me in the ribs a few times at night and woke me up. squirming, and managing to get some velocity going on the rib. my rib was really sore this morning and i was crabby. really crabby. some days it just seems like i can go for another week, two weeks, three weeks, ok. other days it's like are you serious??? i need to be sedated. when i was showering this morning i almost felt like crying from the irritation of it all. i'm tired of feeling like a combo of a 80 year old woman and a beached whale. tired of not being able to bend over. tired of this growth resting right under my esophagus. tired of persistent heartburn. tired of him kicking my rib, squirming under my boobs, bouncing on my cervix. UGH!!!!!! i really was not loving him at all this morning. greg reminds me that it's not really HIM and he's not doing it on PURPOSE but it doesn't make it easier mentally when you are just tired of it all. i hate hate hate my short torso.
anyway i went to my friend's baby shower today who is due the same day as me, and she was also not feeling super great. but i was glad i went and had a good time and i felt a lot better getting out. i also went to this friend's bday dinner that i thought i wouldn't want to go to. so overall i am glad i went out today instead of just laying at home and moping like i wanted to. but i really hope that i sleep well tonite and he gives me a slower day tomorrow. my rib is really sore.
hope everyone else is doing well...this is my last week of work and i am so excited to get it over with so i dont have to shower and drive into work every day...honestly driving is even a chore now with having to sit up and drive the manual.
oh and rps i was reading about labor inducements and castor oil sounded horrible hahaha...!! i was like do i want to even attempt that? hehee. i think i will try pineapple, walking, sex, accupressure and lets see.
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