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Calling all the Pregnant PS''ers

somethingshiny, talk to your hospital about what their policies are. i also had read a lot of diff things re: policies and it just depends on your hospital. for example like my hospital doesn''t want to break your water at all, but one of my friends'' hospital totally advocated it. my hospital tries to do skin to skin immediately and sometimes other hospitals don''t. etc. So maybe ask your Dr if they have some sort of reference? when i filled out my birth plan also there were a lot of Q''s about what our preferences were.
 
jcrow~ I hope you can find some friends or your DH''s family to help! That would be so inconvenient to have to do it all and take care of an infant.

vesper~ DH''s parents live a block away but they work full-time. JT will be 4.5 when the baby comes and would love to spend at least one night with them, but I don''t know if it''ll work with their schedule. I will have a c-section so at least I''ll know the exact day though. DH wants to be at the hospital but is also unsure what time he''ll be able to get off of work.

mara~ My hospital is small and rural. They don''t "want" to do lots of things that I would think I COULD insist upon. For example, I think the baby should be able to get his/her check-up in my room as opposed to sending him/her to the nursery for an hour. I think I should be able to say IF the baby gets a bath and do it myself if I want. DH wasn''t "allowed" to hold JT until I was out of recovery but this time I''d like to insist that he be allowed to hold the baby (I mean why not? Isn''t it better for babe to at least have a loving parent instead of a nurse those first hours??). But, none of these things are "normal." I''m not concerned with "normal" I''m concerned with "legal." I have no problem going against hospital procedure as long as I know that legally I have that option.

My SIL hasn''t even changed her own baby''s diaper yet! While I was visiting today, the nurse was going to take the baby out of the room and change him. I know they like to keep track of output but come on! So, being the b!tch that I am, I just took him over the the cart and changed him myself and told her the nature and consistency of the contents. It cannot possibly be "procedural" to not allow the mother to change the baby.

I didn''t have a birth plan to fill out with JT, maybe that would help ahead of time to figure what can/can''t be done.

I can''t believe how irritated I''m getting with the hospital this time.
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Regarding astrology, I am an aquarius and FI is a Gemini - we are going to have a Taurus. I wouldn't say I am unemotional, but I am harder to crack so to speak. Meaning I think people can think I am stand offish or snobby but I just take time to open up to people. FI is for sure a Gemini, those twins I tell you! I once dated a Taurus, and it didn't last because I couldn't stand his personality - I hope it was just his, and not Taurus traits!
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Jcrow, I am in the exact same position as you. Lease for our one bedroom place is up May 1, so we are looking to buy a place and hopefully move in April. So I will be *very* pregnant at that point (due May 12) and not all that excited about it! But from what I have heard, it is even worse than trying to move with a little one, so that's what we are aiming for. It's possible that we won't move until July though, depending on what we find, dates, etc. I totally understand what you are feeling.

ETA: Thanks everyone for the advice on pelvic rest. I assumed it meant no exercise, but I was hoping that people had a different experience. I will take it easy, I do not want to do anything to cause preterm labour.
 
I''m pretty much a textbook Aries and DH is a Leo. Our son is a Leo as well, so we have a very fiery household!

I was sent this today on babycenter, appropriately enough- you put in yours and your child''s horoscopes, and it tells you about your parenting style and the child''s reaction. It''s all very positive and cute. Just for fun!

http://www.babycenter.com/horoscopes?scid=weekender_20100114_baby:4&pe=2UwpmG0
 
SomethingShiny
I think you''ll have to find out what''s "procedural" at your hospital, and then go from there. I would assume that you have total legal rights to hold, change and do whatever with/to your baby as the parent (unless it''s something that is harmful to the baby). I think sometimes the nurses will say something is procedural just so the parents won''t fight them about it. You might just need to be more vocal and insistent with your demands.

Our hospital let us stay in the L&D room with M for skin-to-skin for about an hour before taking M to wash up, and DH was allowed to follow and watch everything. Then after that, the baby basically stays in my room unless the mom asks for the nurse to take the baby to the nursery. I don''t know if they let c-section moms have skin-to-skin, but they were definitely allowed to have the baby in their recovery room to hold and care for the baby.

DH will stay with me in the hospital for the most part. He''ll probably go home to shower and put M to bed every night that I am in the hospital. MIL lives with us, so she had always been there when we need her to babysit and we don''t have to call her to come over like you''ll with your inlaws.
 
ss, maybe try googling hospital maternity legal rights for your state or something like that and see what comes up..but i am not sure if a state would have a legal rights kinda thing posted, now i am curious.

i would think by law your hospital has to publish something that you could demand regarding their procedures? i also kind of think like QT says you just have to be more demanding...which might be hard when you are exhausted from delivery! i wonder if you could submit your own birth plan and get someone to agree or sign off to it if they don''t have their own template for that. my hospital made me fill one out, which was preferences like the skin to skin, bathing in the room, 1st hour after delivery, do you want visitors, birthing in diff position than laying down, etc.

by law i guess they can claim ''safety'' whatever to get around what you''d WANT to do though because though i did submit the birth plan it also says that there is no guarantee they will adhere to all of them because if it''s an emergency situation etc, they do what they need to do.
 
Date: 1/14/2010 2:14:47 PM
Author: Mara
Fiery I think Greg and I could prob benefit from having a more warm-hearted kid ... haha. We are both pretty unemotional, but he is far more ''outwardly loving'' than I am. I kind of had to learn to show love. I read that Aq''s are pretty unemotional and you have to show them a LOT of love to get them to understand reciprocation so I would def try to be aware of that. But they also say they are super confident and mellow. Great traits in a man I think.

I don''t know too much about Cap''s but if they are practical and cold-hearted we might have to do extra lovin'' there too hahaha.
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Mara, I''m a Capricorn and I could never be described as cold-hearted! I do fit the mold of being very pragmatic, hard working, loyal, stability-craving, ambitious, independent and responsible but also very sympathetic, caring and warm. I''m hoping you have a Cap!!
 
Date: 1/14/2010 5:14:23 PM
Author: PrettyBlues
Regarding astrology, I am an aquarius and FI is a Gemini - we are going to have a Taurus. I wouldn''t say I am unemotional, but I am harder to crack so to speak. Meaning I think people can think I am stand offish or snobby but I just take time to open up to people. FI is for sure a Gemini, those twins I tell you! I once dated a Taurus, and it didn''t last because I couldn''t stand his personality - I hope it was just his, and not Taurus traits!
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Jcrow, I am in the exact same position as you. Lease for our one bedroom place is up May 1, so we are looking to buy a place and hopefully move in April. So I will be *very* pregnant at that point (due May 12) and not all that excited about it! But from what I have heard, it is even worse than trying to move with a little one, so that''s what we are aiming for. It''s possible that we won''t move until July though, depending on what we find, dates, etc. I totally understand what you are feeling.


ETA: Thanks everyone for the advice on pelvic rest. I assumed it meant no exercise, but I was hoping that people had a different experience. I will take it easy, I do not want to do anything to cause preterm labour.
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re: moving - yeh, it''s not a fun situation and i''m totally freaking out about it.
 
Thanks, QT and Mara. I''ve been googling a ton but can''t seem to figure out the right word combo. I''ll ask about a procedural literature at the dr/hospital.

I have a lot of time to work this all out. I was just so unhappy with how so many things went with JT, this time I''m smarter.
 
Jumping on this astrology train...
I was pumped when I was pregnant and my baby was due on the cusp of Taurus and Gemini. I was convinced that he was going to come ''early'' and be a Taurus like me. Well, that day came and went, and I was DEEPLY upset that my baby wouldn''t be a Taurus like me. Deeply, irrationally bummed. Anyways, he ended up being a Gemini....and I haven''t seen the ''duality'' of his personality yet, but I''m so in love with him that I really don''t even care what sign he is! lol.
 
Jcrow, I''m in your boat, but not feeling stressed about it. We''ll be moving somewhere around 4 weeks before my due date (putting an offer on a house tomorrow). We have the advantage that we won''t be selling our current home first, so we can move things over time, but we still need to get the basics done prior to the baby being born. Should be an interesting time. Deep breaths, it will all work out!

So far managing my diabetes hasn''t been too awful. I want to eat things I normally wouldn''t (snowballs?!), simply because I''m not allowed. So typical me, I don''t want something until I''m told I can''t have it, then I can''t live without it. We got some sugar free jello at the store today, strawberry, same color almost.
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My fingers are bruised from being pricked 4 times a day. This is definitely an interesting thing to contend with.

I am scheduling an ultrasound mid-February at which point they''ll determine the best way for going about delivering the baby. It''s strange to have it be out of my hands to some degree. We need to do whatever is best for the baby, but it sounds like they won''t let me go past my due date, so I''ll at least be in labor by March 15. Having a date will be strange.
 
My husband is a sagittarius and is a fantastic fellow. I'm an aries/taurus cusp and while I'm normally very mellow and easy going, my aries side can *sometimes* flare up
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. our little one will likely be a cusp as well - either a gemini or a cancer. I'm not too familiar with those signs, but if our kid is like me, they'll just read the best of what both horoscopes have to offer
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finally broke out the camera - and bought some longer shirts. too bad my rear seems to be outpacing my belly
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ETA - good god that is huge. sorry
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So cute Lulu!
 
Ooo, I love reading all the comparisons of personalities to signs! It''s really interesting to see how people match up!

JCrow, Kim and Pretty Blues, I hope you guys don''t stress too much about moving. I''ve moved several times when pregnant and it was only as bad as every other move (gah, I hate moving!). Just take care of yourself and make sure not to overdo it! It''s kind of exciting IMHO having both a new house and a new baby at the same time!

SS, I think if you put the things you want in your birth plan and get your doc to sign it, you have a good chance of getting those things. Be warned, though -- if you want something that isn''t typical procedure, you may have to be pretty aggressive in order to get your way. I can''t believe that your SIL hasn''t been allowed to change a diaper! OMG, not that I love changing diapers, but if I got slapped with that attitude from the hospital, I''d be yelling that I''d be filing assault charges on behalf of my child, lol. Or kidnapping if they refused to turn the baby over to DH.

Then again, I''m a pain in the ass and I think hospitals are glad that I do it at home.
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China, thank you so much for that website! It''s really, really cool! There are a lot of things I read that make perfect sense in our family.

Kim, do you have regular diabetes or GD? Sorry, I have to be nosey!
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If it''s GD, I have a link to a midwives'' list archive in which they discuss various research on GD and I think it''s really interesting because the various ladies on there tear apart the studies that have been done. If you''re interested, I''ll post it.

So, yay, it''s Friday.
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Tonight is our company''s holiday party and I''m looking forward to that. Everyone in our company is really into food, so we always have excellent stuff at this party. Last year, we had ahi tuna and SO ate a ton of it because it was sooo good. The funniest thing is that he doesn''t like fish and refuses to eat it any other time, but he wasn''t sure what it was so he just kept eating. We''re having it again this year, so I wonder if he''ll be as enthusiastic this time around?
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Can I brag about SO for a moment? I hate doing it, but I am SO EXCITED! It''s been a pretty tough year for him because he got laid off from his job of 24 years last March. His ex-boss is a jackass, and I''d been telling him for a long time that he needs to go out on his own, but he was really afraid to do it.

After he got laid off, he looked at the job market and there was nothing for him. Around here, the construction business is tight because banks aren''t loaning money, so the only people building are people that are financing the stuff themselves. Therefore, while firms might be looking for entry-level architects, they sure don''t want one with 24 years experience and who was a VP. No way.

SO decided to bite the bullet and open his own shop and he''s been doing great, plus he''s soooo much happier. This week, he''s had a bunch of new jobs come in, including 45 small chain stores! His billing for January already equals what we projected for almost THREE months. Now, we know that things can slow down, but it''s so exciting that by April, he may have hit his target for the year and anything after that is icing on the cake. I''m thrilled for him because his confidence was really down due to his ex-boss'' attitude and getting laid off. It''s great to see him back to enjoying his work, even if he does put in 12-14 hours a day. Plus, I get the pleasure of saying, "I told you so!" every time another job comes in. LOL!

I think this kid is going to hang out for a while longer. Last night, I was having BHs a LOT, but they didn''t go anywhere. It''s sort of annoying to deal with them for hours on end and know that labor is still eluding me.
 
Lulu, so cute! Here is my 2nd to last BPF! Almost 38 weeks
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RPS, that is great news about your SO. My dad got laid off this year from a company he was at for 20 years as well and decided to take the risk and open his own store and is doing really well. I think this is actually a great time for entrepreneurs!
 
RPS, yay for your SO! How wonderful! That''s really lucky in this market.

lulu, gah, you are so little and cute!

Steph, I can''t believe you are so close and still so little - I love your belly.

Here is my contribution. 29 weeks today and I look enormous in this shirt, but it''s one of my faves - it comes down to mid-thigh almost like a dress.

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nice belly pics guys!

Steph, I can''t believe you''re hiding your 38 week baby in there! Even if he''s measuring a week or so behind, you hide him so well!

Here''s me in my pre-shower glory this morning. 33 weeks today. I was having lots of tightenings last night, but they seem to have settled again today. The cervix is still feeling softer and wider and the external os is feeling a little more open when I''m up there popping in the progesterone. Hopefully this baby will wait it out a few more weeks before arriving - we''ve got lots of moving and renos to deal with before then. I think my kid is joining Mara''s in becoming snake-child. I''ve taken to calling her squirmy and wiggle worm in my head because she''s just wild at times. At least she''s not pounding me in the ribs too much, so I''m enjoying all the movements for now.

We signed all the papers on Wed for closing on our house today. Bought a little furniture from the current owner, and found out this morning via a panicked call from our lawyer that they won''t close on the house until he has a certified cheque in his hands for the furniture. It''s only $1100, so not a big deal, and you''d think that the current owner would realize that after all we''ve paid for this place, we can be sure that that cheque won''t bounce. Why they couldn''t mention that earlier in the week (his agent phoned ours late last night to tell her that) before we met with the laywer, I don''t understand. And am so irritated that all we have to go on is faith that all is in good shape, while he gets all our cash in hand, no problems. Grr. Frustrating, this house-buying thing. Hope we won''t move for another 20 years!

Let''s hope all goes smoothly later on today! Scary to suddenly have a massive debt load like this.

Is anyone else''s linea negra kind of wavy? Mine starts at a mole about 2" above my belly button, curves a little, passes through the belly button, and then wiggles on down south. It looks kind of funny, and didn''t show up until about 3 weeks ago. I thought I was going to get away without it since I''m so fair, and all my melanin seemed to be concentrated in freckles and moles.
 
Oops: forgot my 33wk pic.

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Congrats drk!!! Glad the house is working out and that the bebe is doing so well!
 
Monkey~You look good!

Steph~I agree with drk, where the heck you hiding that baby? I swear my belly was that tiny a good 10 weeks ago! Can''t believe how close you are! Yay!!

drk~You look great! Yay for closing on the house. So exciting. As for the linea nigra, I don''t have one this time (weird
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) but with T mine was crooked and it looked super funny after I delivered because the skin was so loose.
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RPS... I was thinking maybe you'd gone into labor since you were so quiet, hehehe. Great news on your SO's success, love it!

Steph, echo'ing everyone else saying where the heck is that baby hiding in there??? Your belly is sooo small! I am like a gigantic hippo belly at 38 weeks. You look great girl...your uterus must go really far back!!

Congrats DRK on the new house! Talk about debt load, we have 2 properties right now and I swear I just want to offload one because it is mentally so stressful. I am not a 'gambler' and esp with having a baby, I want to feel more like our money is safer. LOL re: the snake child...yes mine is crazy. Honestly he feels so giant, if it feels like he even just shrugs or moves a little the whole belly is all crazy and twitchy.

MP you look great!

I am still at home on conf calls but when I get ready I'll take an iPhone photo. Today is my last day, YAY. QT you must be so excited too. hehee. I only have 3 meetings today, which is a nice break from the rest of the week when I had something like 6 hours a DAY.

Newborn class was last nite and it was all really basic, but glad we went. Esp for Greg...my sister was born when I was 16 so I had a huge hand in taking care of her and a lot of that baby care stuff 'comes back to you' when you are around babies, but Greg has never been around babies before, so he did the diapering and burping and all the 'example' positions, haha.

But wow it really drove home that in a few weeks we will have a BABY in the house with us. That is just crazy.
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And a little scary. Sometimes I am like what are we going to DO with this baby? hahaa. I emailed my friend who has a newborn and was like 'what do you do with the baby all day???' Maybe that is silly but I'm like other than burping, feeding, diapering, sleeping, do you have to do anything really at first?

My linea is not that dark but I am olive tone so it just looks like a bit more hair hehe.
 
Date: 1/15/2010 10:07:20 AM
Author: steph72276
Lulu, so cute! Here is my 2nd to last BPF! Almost 38 weeks
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OMgoodness Steph you''re still itty bitty!!!
 
Yesterday at my appt. the nurse was like "you're 35wk 5 days" and was like "I am? I thought I was 36w5d???" Yep, that's right I was off by an entire week and NOT in the right direction! I blame them because they've changed my due date a thousand times anywhere from Feb 7 to the 17 so how can a girl even know anymore?!?!
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Sooooo here's my almost 36 week picture so last weeks was 35. WOW.

Oh, and please excuse my facial expression, apparently I have to concentrate really hard to take these pics?

ETA~It's HUGE!!! So sorry. I sized it the same way I always do.....

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Here''s my 4-5 wk picture of the bloat (it''s not a bump yet), sorry if I''m too early in posting these here.

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Cute belly Burk! Sorry you''ve got longer to wait than you thought... :)

HH - bloat? What bloat? If that''s bloat (and all I see makes me think you''ve got some kind of six-pack there?), you''ve got to be practically nothing without it!
 
LOL gotta love the side pictures! Head-on pics are a different story all together. And yes, bloat. I''m sitting at my desk with my pants undone as I type this! That pic was taken first thing in the am after going to the bathroom and before breakfast. The 4:00 view is very different! But thank you, you''re sweet! I can''t wait for a bump :)
 
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Lol HH, you are so tiny - I can''t wait until you get a real bump, you''re going to be so cute!

Mara, omg, I ask myself that same thing every day. "What the heck will we DO with this baby?!" I know once we get past the first week or two I will feel better, but right now it just seems like this huge task that I am totally afraid of.

I am off early from work today - nothing to do! - so I am watching baby shows. Watching them shove that suction thing into the baby''s mouth after a c-section looks SO painful! They put like 4 or 5 inches of it in there, and hard! Poor baby.
 
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