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Calling all the Pregnant PS''ers
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Sapphire Cutie! Totally remember you from the preggos, you were due about a month behind me. Was wondering how you were doing. CAN NOT BELIEVE you are preggo again, as Logan is even younger than O!!!!
Props to you brave mama! Logan is so adorable!!!! Congrats! Pop over to the newborn thread if you have time and update us on Logan.
ETA: I mean that I can't believe it b/c I can't imagine it for me, NOT because I think you shouldn't have another!!!! I'm just a scaredy cat.
ETAA: Lanie and Laila, thinking of you and sending you dust.
ETA: I mean that I can't believe it b/c I can't imagine it for me, NOT because I think you shouldn't have another!!!! I'm just a scaredy cat.
ETAA: Lanie and Laila, thinking of you and sending you dust.
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Noel, I''m afraid I''m more confused now than I was before.
I understand how everything will work IF I take the standard 12 week leave and how that all breaks down into short term disability, paid time off, and unpaid family leave. What confused me terribly is what happens if I need to leave before the birth of the baby. The scenarios are all so complicated! Let''s just hope this little guy bakes until his due date with no complications then I won''t have to worry about it!
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In my case, if I had to go out prior to the baby it would be considered medical leave (not sure if it''s under FMLA or if it''s the same as if you got seriously ill) and I would have to use sick time until STD kicked in. I would be eligible to receive STD after being out of work for 20 business days or one calendar month. Then, I would be eligible for additional STD (same amount, but for a longer extent) to cover the 6 weeks following a vag birth or 8 weeks following a c/s.
Again, not sure if this pre-birth time off comes out of the FMLA pool or is just considered sick time until the baby is born...
Again, not sure if this pre-birth time off comes out of the FMLA pool or is just considered sick time until the baby is born...
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HH, that''s exactly what is confusing me. IF I have to go out before the baby is born, FMLA starts right away and runs concurrently with STD (not sure if this is standard???). I have 12 weeks FMLA during which my job is guaranteed. SO...this means, if I go out before the baby is born, that reduces the amount of FMLA I can take post-partum.
My plan was 6 weeks paid STD, 4 weeks paid vacation, 2 weeks unpaid FMLA - for a total of 12 weeks. If I have to go out before delivery, it gets all complicated. There is a loophole apparently where I can take 6 weeks STD (post-partum), then use the rest of my unpaid FMLA or whatever portion I need, THEN take my vacation which could potentially get me the same amount of leave and paid time. Apparently, if vacation comes last, then it doesn''t count toward FMLA. If you take it in the middle of your leave, it counts toward FMLA. Okay, now I''m confusing myself!
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Welcome turtle and Noel. Glad to have you here!!
Good luck tomorrow, Lanie!
pupp~ Can you describe the yoga poses for lightening up the pelvis?? It''s nice to breathe easier, but the weight is killing my areas, IYKWIM. I had varicose veins in my vagina when I was preggo with JT because of the weight. I''d REALLY like to avoid that this time!!
I just have to say, sometimes women are just really nice. I went in for some highlights today and while I was there, the massage therapist came over to me and asked if I''d like a free chair massage. Um, YES! So she gave me a great 15 minute backrub. It felt so good and it was such a pleasant surprise.
JT has started calling me, "The Mominer." It cracks me up. I have no idea where it came from but it''s like his superhero name for me. lol
My little houseguests (who are still at my cousins...yay!) are coming back for a while tomorrow. Still not sure if they are sleeping at my house yet. I talked to their mom last night and she told me I shouldn''t have corrected their table manners.
The 13 yr old and 11 yr old both stabbed a hunk of meat with their forks and gnawed on it at the table. Um, I''m going to ask them to use a knife...whatev.
Well, I''m going to try to get a nap. JT was up with nightmares last night and I''m extra exhausted now.
Good luck tomorrow, Lanie!
pupp~ Can you describe the yoga poses for lightening up the pelvis?? It''s nice to breathe easier, but the weight is killing my areas, IYKWIM. I had varicose veins in my vagina when I was preggo with JT because of the weight. I''d REALLY like to avoid that this time!!
I just have to say, sometimes women are just really nice. I went in for some highlights today and while I was there, the massage therapist came over to me and asked if I''d like a free chair massage. Um, YES! So she gave me a great 15 minute backrub. It felt so good and it was such a pleasant surprise.
JT has started calling me, "The Mominer." It cracks me up. I have no idea where it came from but it''s like his superhero name for me. lol
My little houseguests (who are still at my cousins...yay!) are coming back for a while tomorrow. Still not sure if they are sleeping at my house yet. I talked to their mom last night and she told me I shouldn''t have corrected their table manners.
Well, I''m going to try to get a nap. JT was up with nightmares last night and I''m extra exhausted now.
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SS, downward dog works but not so good if you have indigestion.
I prefer Bridge Pose. Some of the gals in my class can get into child's pose still. I feel like I might squish Nolan in half if I do! I think it's probably because my belly sits kind of low.
ETA - I forgot Legs up the wall pose. Just make sure you have a pillow under your bum like the gal in the picture.
ETA - I forgot Legs up the wall pose. Just make sure you have a pillow under your bum like the gal in the picture.
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puppmom- This maternity leave stuff is complicated! I really haven''t looked into mine in detail. Most likely, no matter what happens it will be 12 weeks off total. And for that lovely gift, I''ll be sticking around in residency slavery for a couple extra months. Oh well, it will be worth it for time with tiny Jumper!
Lanie- I will be thinking of you tomorrow and Jumper and I will be sending your little one tons of dust!! I''m glad you do not have to wait long for the procedure.
Charger- Congrats on baby Nicolas!!!!! I totally forgot to put my vote in, but I was absolutely thinking boy for you
(thanks Kaleigh for sharing the happy news!)
Lanie- I will be thinking of you tomorrow and Jumper and I will be sending your little one tons of dust!! I''m glad you do not have to wait long for the procedure.
Charger- Congrats on baby Nicolas!!!!! I totally forgot to put my vote in, but I was absolutely thinking boy for you
(thanks Kaleigh for sharing the happy news!)
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Congrats Charger!!!
I am in the FOULEST of moods right now. Seriously everything, person and animal in my house is pissing me off. I can''t even stand the smell of the air freshener in the room at the moment. There was no trigger, it just came over me like a wave of red rage. I''m ready to throw the computer at the TV it''s so bad...stupid effing hormones.
I am in the FOULEST of moods right now. Seriously everything, person and animal in my house is pissing me off. I can''t even stand the smell of the air freshener in the room at the moment. There was no trigger, it just came over me like a wave of red rage. I''m ready to throw the computer at the TV it''s so bad...stupid effing hormones.
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Charger~ CONGRATS, Mama!! Can''t wait for pics of Baby Nicolas!!
Kaleigh~ Thanks so much for posting!!
HH~ I totally feel ya. I still have the rage that washes over me. It''s like a cloud that settles over my whole house and everyone/thing in it.
pupp~ Thanks for the info. I do downward dog, cat stretching, and attempt bridge pose, but I think the legs up the wall might work.
Kaleigh~ Thanks so much for posting!!
HH~ I totally feel ya. I still have the rage that washes over me. It''s like a cloud that settles over my whole house and everyone/thing in it.
pupp~ Thanks for the info. I do downward dog, cat stretching, and attempt bridge pose, but I think the legs up the wall might work.
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Congrats to LuLu and Charger!
HH - I know how you feel! One minute I''m fine and the next I''m in a horrible mood and ready to barf. Then I go back to being starving/tired/bloated/needing to pee NOW.
I am 7 weeks tomorrow and see the high risk doc on Monday morning. A little nervous but I know that it''s for my health and the baby''s health. I''m feeling okay, my m/s is under control if I take a Zofran about 20 minutes before waking up and eat small amounts all day. I have horrible post-nasal drip (did with James too) so I find that I have to suck on a mint, chew gum or drink a lot of water to avoid gagging when speaking.
HH - I know how you feel! One minute I''m fine and the next I''m in a horrible mood and ready to barf. Then I go back to being starving/tired/bloated/needing to pee NOW.
I am 7 weeks tomorrow and see the high risk doc on Monday morning. A little nervous but I know that it''s for my health and the baby''s health. I''m feeling okay, my m/s is under control if I take a Zofran about 20 minutes before waking up and eat small amounts all day. I have horrible post-nasal drip (did with James too) so I find that I have to suck on a mint, chew gum or drink a lot of water to avoid gagging when speaking.
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swimmer - the "naked" shot is adorable. I would hang that one on the wall.
if I can join the complaining game...
it''s one thing to have nausea, be continuously tired and have sore boobs...
but then I have to have hay fever on top of all of that??? seriously?
I''m surprised I haven''t sneezed this baby out.
if I can join the complaining game...
it''s one thing to have nausea, be continuously tired and have sore boobs...
but then I have to have hay fever on top of all of that??? seriously?
I''m surprised I haven''t sneezed this baby out.
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I just have to brag for a minute, but I snuggled with this LO. He's even more adorable IRL than these pictures...and he likes boobs.....a lot....
Back to the hormones, do your swings ever scare you? I was doing a little self-reflection last night because I wanted to try to pin point a trigger (I couldn't) and after thinking about it for awhile I got really scared. Over the past week or two I've been in a great mood. Very productive, cleaning, organizing, decorating, all with a smile on my face and truly happy about the progress I was making and my life, and then last night's episode just made me crash and burn. I didn't want to do anything other than sit in bed and feel sorry for myself. I wasn't satisfied with the computer, a book, the TV, or even just going to sleep. I felt like I lost my ability to self sooth and I just wanted to cry and throw things...basically throw a temper tantrum. While I realize this is one instance of a positive and negative swing, the fact that it happened so fast concerns me. it's not like I was great and then leveled out to baseline and then went to the dark side, it was like good one day s*itty the next. I'm concerned and scared that there could be a pattern and it could become a regular thing.
I know it's normal to have mood swings throughout all stages of pregnancy, but what if they don't stop? While the good times are great and I think I could be SuperMom when I'm "up", I could easily picture the bad times meaning I can hardly get myself out of bed. What do I do with LO then?
Do I wait and see if there's really a pattern emerging or do I bring up these concerns with my doc asap? Is there anything they could even do at this point? Like I said, I've been trying to do some honest self-reflection and self-therapy and I can't pinpoint any triggers or issues other than being pregnant. Is this just a function of being pregnant that I will get past? Obv I'm really concerned about developing PPD, as I've had some depression issues in the past (when I was in college, related to being on Depo-Ha! hormone shots!), so I want to be proactive but I don't want to be totally reactive in my efforts, ya know??
Thoughts??
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Well I am still pregnant......
My middie is coming over tomorrow to check me. If i am dilated or effaced i am going to have her do the stretch and sweep. I''ll be about 41 weeks.
My cousin just had her baby and she is due JULY 22nd! And i am getting passed by all the other moms due in June here--ha. This happened last pregnancy too. PSers Tgal, MrsS, Lili were all due after me but had their babes first..hmph,
HH--while i think it''s great that you are being proactive/reflective, i wouldn''t worry too much right now. Think of PMS. THose hormones can make you feel terrible just b/c your period is coming. Same goes for pregnancy and PP. I''ve had a few days this pregnancy where i felt SO so low. On mother''s day here there was a snow storm and i was so hormonal that day it triggered the most foul mood and i was bawling my eyes out about...snow???. But like you i am generally very happy and i''ve never had depression. It was a one-day thing. Yucky, but fleeting.
Now PP is an interesting time for sure. Be prepared for some of those same intense swings. They are *normal* but really harsh for some women. Day 4 was that day for me. Knowing it most likely will happen makes it easier to accept and move on from .It''s when the bad feeling just goes on and on for weeks that you need to start being concerned. Hope you feel better today.
Swimmer--what a doll!! Seriously gorgeous pictures!
My middie is coming over tomorrow to check me. If i am dilated or effaced i am going to have her do the stretch and sweep. I''ll be about 41 weeks.
My cousin just had her baby and she is due JULY 22nd! And i am getting passed by all the other moms due in June here--ha. This happened last pregnancy too. PSers Tgal, MrsS, Lili were all due after me but had their babes first..hmph,
HH--while i think it''s great that you are being proactive/reflective, i wouldn''t worry too much right now. Think of PMS. THose hormones can make you feel terrible just b/c your period is coming. Same goes for pregnancy and PP. I''ve had a few days this pregnancy where i felt SO so low. On mother''s day here there was a snow storm and i was so hormonal that day it triggered the most foul mood and i was bawling my eyes out about...snow???. But like you i am generally very happy and i''ve never had depression. It was a one-day thing. Yucky, but fleeting.
Now PP is an interesting time for sure. Be prepared for some of those same intense swings. They are *normal* but really harsh for some women. Day 4 was that day for me. Knowing it most likely will happen makes it easier to accept and move on from .It''s when the bad feeling just goes on and on for weeks that you need to start being concerned. Hope you feel better today.
Swimmer--what a doll!! Seriously gorgeous pictures!
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