Can you ignore people who offend you on forums?

[ksinger]

I really enjoy reading PS, and I post here a lot, but I can't say that anything that's ever gone on in these forums has affected me in any way once I was finished reading for the day. So, yes, I can ignore people who offend me on forums. (This is the only forum I read, so perhaps we are just exceedingly polite around here.)

In real life I have little to no tolerance for people who offend me, and I typically just walk away from them. I can't think of a time I've ever been bothered by such a person for more than the minute or so after the offending behavior. Life's filled with too many really interesting things to do and think about, I can't imagine letting something negative take up any of my time.

I've found the recent sensitivities here on PS to be a bit annoying, so I've been spending much less time around here. It isn't offensive, exactly, but it's something that has made my experience on PS to be less enjoyable. Rather than getting upset, I suppose you can say I've just ignored it by ignoring those who are overly sensitive (IMO) as well as topics that might provoke such posters.

This. The stuff people get their knickers in a twist over these days is so mild, I'm like REALLY?? That is something to take personally?? It's like a perpetual tea party with raised pinky required. (I'm sure I probably just offended someone by saying that).

I guess about a year on ATW in the wild west days prior to the political ban when there were genuinely offensive and outrageous sentiments expressed, gave me a thicker skin, and that was even back during the time when my mother was dying in my real life, and every emotion was on the edge. I admit that I probably actually enjoyed some of the thrash if for no other reason than it was engrossing enough to distract me momentarily from the grimness of my life at the time.

However, nowadays I'm not offended by much. Offense for me, implies a personal reaction, and I don't take much personally. I read plenty that I don't agree with, but little that "offends" me. Thus I would never ignore anyone, (and it seems my impulse to reply to those posts I find objectionable is much reduced of late - too much trouble and thrash). I didn't ignore anyone back then and I certainly wouldn't do so now. Now I just hang out with the other old broads. We seem to get on alright...

 

[perry]

I've found the recent sensitivities here on PS to be a bit annoying, so I've been spending much less time around here. It isn't offensive, exactly, but it's something that has made my experience on PS to be less enjoyable. Rather than getting upset, I suppose you can say I've just ignored it by ignoring those who are overly sensitive (IMO) as well as topics that might provoke such posters.

This. The stuff people get their knickers in a twist over these days is so mild, I'm like REALLY?? That is something to take personally?? It's like a perpetual tea party with raised pinky required. (I'm sure I probably just offended someone by saying that).

I guess about a year on ATW in the wild west days prior to the political ban when there were genuinely offensive and outrageous sentiments expressed, gave me a thicker skin, and that was even back during the time when my mother was dying in my real life, and every emotion was on the edge. I admit that I probably actually enjoyed some of the thrash if for no other reason than it was engrossing enough to distract me momentarily from the grimness of my life at the time.

However, nowadays I'm not offended by much. Offense for me, implies a personal reaction, and I don't take much personally. I read plenty that I don't agree with, but little that "offends" me. Thus I would never ignore anyone, (and it seems my impulse to reply to those posts I find objectionable is much reduced of late - too much trouble and thrash). I didn't ignore anyone back then and I certainly wouldn't do so now. Now I just hang out with the other old broads. We seem to get on alright...

I agree Haven and especially with Ksinger.... and I know that Ksinger and I were often on opposite sides of some of those debates in ATW - although I hope I stayed away from the offensive and outrageous... (and I hope you have as much respect for me as I do for you because of it).

I've got a simple rule.... If it doesn't interest me - or if I don't really like it.... I'll probably just skip over it these days. I'm sure others do the same with me when I post. I usually just don't have the energy or time to get into debates these days. I only read selected post (and no longer read them all).

Have a great day,

Perry

 

[HollyS]

I'm sort of computer challenged, I guess, so I'll try this again to get it right. I'll repost.

 

[klewis]

It's interesting, this is the second thread on ignoring people on PS recently.

Apart from the political discussions of yore, I have only seen opinions expressed on PS. Goodness, , people do disagree, but having to resort to adding a poster to a 'Foe" list because the possible sight of their post is offensive is the time to switch off the computer, go out into the real world and get a life!

 

[zhuzhu]

I find those who attempted to antagonize me on the rare occasion, quite amusing, actually.

 

[HollyS]

I think it is VERY rare that poster A "deliberately" antagonizes poster B.
Actually, I don't think I have ever seen it on PS.
Other fora yes, PS no.

IMHO 99.99% of the time such "deliberate antagonization" is actually the perception of poster B.
But let me say, perception IS a very powerful thing.

Well put.

 

[ksinger]

I've found the recent sensitivities here on PS to be a bit annoying, so I've been spending much less time around here. It isn't offensive, exactly, but it's something that has made my experience on PS to be less enjoyable. Rather than getting upset, I suppose you can say I've just ignored it by ignoring those who are overly sensitive (IMO) as well as topics that might provoke such posters.

This. The stuff people get their knickers in a twist over these days is so mild, I'm like REALLY?? That is something to take personally?? It's like a perpetual tea party with raised pinky required. (I'm sure I probably just offended someone by saying that).

I guess about a year on ATW in the wild west days prior to the political ban when there were genuinely offensive and outrageous sentiments expressed, gave me a thicker skin, and that was even back during the time when my mother was dying in my real life, and every emotion was on the edge. I admit that I probably actually enjoyed some of the thrash if for no other reason than it was engrossing enough to distract me momentarily from the grimness of my life at the time.

However, nowadays I'm not offended by much. Offense for me, implies a personal reaction, and I don't take much personally. I read plenty that I don't agree with, but little that "offends" me. Thus I would never ignore anyone, (and it seems my impulse to reply to those posts I find objectionable is much reduced of late - too much trouble and thrash). I didn't ignore anyone back then and I certainly wouldn't do so now. Now I just hang out with the other old broads. We seem to get on alright...

I agree Haven and especially with Ksinger.... and I know that Ksinger and I were often on opposite sides of some of those debates in ATW - although I hope I stayed away from the offensive and outrageous... (and I hope you have as much respect for me as I do for you because of it).

I've got a simple rule.... If it doesn't interest me - or if I don't really like it.... I'll probably just skip over it these days. I'm sure others do the same with me when I post. I usually just don't have the energy or time to get into debates these days. I only read selected post (and no longer read them all).

Have a great day,

Perry

I always have enjoyed debating with you Perry. And yes, I do respect you. Always have.
You're always coolly rational and well reasoned, even when you're.....WRONG!!!!!!!! (sorry, couldn't resist)
I remember quite well that huge (fun actually) thrash we got into over gun safety being taught in the schools. I'm sure spasms would be spaz-ing all over if we got into something like that today... ah well.

 

[Amber St. Clare]

Well, right now I am sitting on my hands about a few Sept. 11 posts--it would just be an exercise in futility to answer a couple of posters..........so I will just sip my cosmopolitan, think bad thoughts and refrain from posting......................

 

[dragonfly411]

I try not to react in a personal manner. I do think though that it's important for all of us to try to get our opinions/thoughts across, even if others don't necessarily agree.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Well, I had a super bad, emotionally tolling summer and after that experience and seeing how physically and mentally draining it is, I refuse anymore to even bother with people who offend me. I just ignore them. I think people who spend a lot of time bullying or picking on people online, usually have other negative things going on in real life and take it out on those online.

That said, the holidays are going to be hell for me. It's too bad there is no "ignore" button for family members.

 

[Fly Girl]

To answer the original question: Yep. Consider the source.

 

[arjunajane]

I think it is VERY rare that poster A "deliberately" antagonizes poster B.
Actually, I don't think I have ever seen it on PS.
Other fora yes, PS no.

IMHO 99.99% of the time such "deliberate antagonization" is actually the perception of poster B.
But let me say, perception IS a very powerful thing.

It's interesting, this is the second thread on ignoring people on PS recently.

Apart from the political discussions of yore, I have only seen opinions expressed on PS. Goodness, , people do disagree, but having to resort to adding a poster to a 'Foe" list because the possible sight of their post is offensive is the time to switch off the computer, go out into the real world and get a life!

What Kenny and Klewis have said sums it up for me.

There have been a couple times of late where I've been truly surprised my comments have been taken so far out
of context (and so personally), where you have to work pretty hard to read that kind of spin into them..*shrugs*

I didn't realize the 'foes' feature was active..hrmm, I can't actually think of a scenario - including the ATW good ol days! - where I would like to use this. More often than not I feel, even if I don't end up agreeing, differing opinions and experiences help me to expand my knowledge and understanding of people / subjects.

 

[Dancing Fire]

can somebody please offend me!! ? ...good luck!!

 

[kenny]

can somebody please offend me!! ? ...good luck!!

Why do you wear such cheesy watches.

 

[ForteKitty]

can somebody please offend me!! ? ...good luck!!

your kois are ugly...

 

[Dancing Fire]

can somebody please offend me!! ? ...good luck!!

your kois are ugly...

been told many times on the koi forums.

 

[dragonfly411]

DF - I would actually be truly and genuinely interested in you starting a thread about them. I find the idea of being deeply involved with them fascinating. I'd love to see pictures and hear what it is like day to day handling them and what all you do with them. I raised guppies and Beta for some time, purely as a hobby, but I was quite proud of my spotted guppies. I had a school of orange with black spots, and I had one male who basically was the basis for my entire program who was blue with hints of pure yellow and green with black spots. I just loved it.

 

[Dancing Fire]

can somebody please offend me!! ? ...good luck!!

Why do you wear such cheesy watches.

cuz my eyes are getting bad.i need a watch with a BIG date.

 

[ForteKitty]

can somebody please offend me!! ? ...good luck!!

your kois are ugly...

been told many times on the koi forums.

I'm going to eat them. fried koi??

 

[Dancing Fire]

DF - I would actually be truly and genuinely interested in you starting a thread about them. I find the idea of being deeply involved with them fascinating. I'd love to see pictures and hear what it is like day to day handling them and what all you do with them. I raised guppies and Beta for some time, purely as a hobby, but I was quite proud of my spotted guppies. I had a school of orange with black spots, and I had one male who basically was the basis for my entire program who was blue with hints of pure yellow and green with black spots. I just loved it.

i only have 8 koi in my pond.i feed em 3x per day during the summer and change 10% of the water once a week. i don't ever want my koi to spawn. i told them "NO SEX" in my pond!!

 

[dragonfly411]

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!! I assume it is probably much harder than guppies in terms of getting those babies raised too. Beta were hard for me, I had two batches, but man oh man did I have some pretty boys hanging out. The guppies were easy enough if I was there for the birth (90% of the time). I'd just scoop the little bitties and get them moved to the baby tanks.

 

[Dancing Fire]

can somebody please offend me!! ? ...good luck!!

your kois are ugly...

been told many times on the koi forums.

I'm going to eat them. fried koi??

i never ate koi. i don't think they taste good...

 

[Dancing Fire]

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!! I assume it is probably much harder than guppies in terms of getting those babies raised too. Beta were hard for me, I had two batches, but man oh man did I have some pretty boys hanging out. The guppies were easy enough if I was there for the birth (90% of the time). I'd just scoop the little bitties and get them moved to the baby tanks.

you should start a Guppy thread.

 

[dragonfly411]

It'd be fun to start if I still had the little buggers! I never got any pictures of them either as it was pre digital camera days lol.

 

[partgypsy]

There are times I can get really worked up about an issue, but it more has to do with how I am feeling personally (bad mood, it's a week before my period) than the issue itself. Not that I say anything I disagree with, but later feel silly. I have alot of conversations like this with my sister, so obviously still need some kind of practice learning how to "refrain."

so I guess this is my round about way of apologizing for anything I may have said in the past!

 

[perry]

I always have enjoyed debating with you Perry. And yes, I do respect you. Always have.
You're always coolly rational and well reasoned, even when you're.....WRONG!!!!!!!! (sorry, couldn't resist)

Of course. Since I'm a member of the male species... is it not true that I am WRONG when we disagree... (I won't ask for a vote on that)

Have a great day,

Perry

 

[ksinger]

I always have enjoyed debating with you Perry. And yes, I do respect you. Always have.
You're always coolly rational and well reasoned, even when you're.....WRONG!!!!!!!! (sorry, couldn't resist)

Of course. Since I'm a member of the male species... is it not true that I am WRONG when we disagree... (I won't ask for a vote on that)

Have a great day,

Perry

Perry, Perry...tsk. I'll tell you exactly what I would tell my own dear husband had he asked that question: You could have just stopped after "WRONG". (However, the DH just interjected that I should add, having survived me this long, he's learned to just not ASK the question, or any question he isn't willing to get the honest/snarky answer to.)

 

[ForteKitty]

can somebody please offend me!! ? ...good luck!!

your kois are ugly...

been told many times on the koi forums.

I'm going to eat them. fried koi??

i never ate koi. i don't think they taste good...

you've never had koi?! but DF, we eat everything!! just batter it up and deep fry it...

 

[LaurenThePartier]

Yes. I prefer to just manually ignore, but quite honestly, these days, I'm not seeing too much to bother ignoring.

I had more than a couple of run-ins in my early posting days of PS, mostly because I spent the majority of my time before PS on unmoderated forums and I just typed what I thought without worrying about being diplomatic.

Looking back, so much of those situations were due to my perception of what was said. So, now if I read something that might have incited anger 6 years ago, I really re-read the post to dissect what was actually said, not what I think they said.

 

[Imdanny]

Yes. I prefer to just manually ignore, but quite honestly, these days, I'm not seeing too much to bother ignoring.

That's nice.

I've been in my 'ignore' offensive or unpleasant people AND events mode for a few days.

It's a change for me. I won't lie.

But I know my energy has to be better spent, so... this is what I'm doing.

I appreciate all the comments in this thread. Thanks.